Abdl/ddlg shame

[TeaPartyBaby]

Im pretty new to the ddlg/abdl community and im finding im having some serious issues with shame...

I love what i do in little space but i find myself dragged out of it every time i do it recently because i feel like im doing something really wrong even though i know deep down its not... it makes me feel like such a rubbish person and i hate it.. i just want to enjoy little space without being like this all the time..

[Guest Little Otter]

Fight it! Be your wholesome wonderful self all the times you want!

 

I deal with this all the time. As a LB/sub I feel shame cuz I'm not submitting (pun intended) to the traditional roles of a male. And being not-so-little physically, I get sucked out of little space when I become too self-aware, or look in a mirror.

 

It's getting easier though, and my wonderful Mommy ALWAYS reassures me <3

 

Keep being you, and we're here and can make sure you're comfortable with yourself, with who YOU want to be.

[Guest littlegirl707]

Well i have been little for a long time and still deal with shame how can we not. They make fun of it on tv and anywhere. But we are what we are. Im super glad I have this site. It makes it a little more ok

[SINISTERsystem]

I'm new too! I dabbled in DDLG a couple years back but due to personal stuff (and having such a supporting partner) I've been roped back into the interest! In fact, I just bought my first paci last night! I'm looking for new friends so feel free to reach out to me. <3

 

I wouldn't feel too bad about wanting to be little, I feel similarly when I try to get into my space as well (although I have a harder time since it's also emotionally overwhelming) and by the time I finally feel a little more small... I end up coming back because I feel awkward and too openly raw, if that makes sense. Being little is hard work at times, but I hope my paci will soothe that once it's here. What makes me feel better is dressing up as cute as I can and taking the time to do my makeup! Even if I still feel big, I can look and feel little. It helps. <3

[Angel24]

Life is too short to not do what you love because it's something that's considered wrong by the general public:) Just be you and think about how happy being in little space makes you and don't worry about what others would think

[TeaPartyBaby]

I'm new too! I dabbled in DDLG a couple years back but due to personal stuff (and having such a supporting partner) I've been roped back into the interest! In fact, I just bought my first paci last night! I'm looking for new friends so feel free to reach out to me. <3

 

I wouldn't feel too bad about wanting to be little, I feel similarly when I try to get into my space as well (although I have a harder time since it's also emotionally overwhelming) and by the time I finally feel a little more small... I end up coming back because I feel awkward and too openly raw, if that makes sense. Being little is hard work at times, but I hope my paci will soothe that once it's here. What makes me feel better is dressing up as cute as I can and taking the time to do my makeup! Even if I still feel big, I can look and feel little. It helps. <3

Oh i love makeup but i never considered adding it to little space cos my little age is actually a baby haha... maybe i should get somecute kiddie looking makeup and make like a little space beauty box! :3

[Guest BabyPeach]

Yes, age regression is misunderstood by the general public.  DDlg, however, is abhorred by much of the general public (because of the sexual aspect). Even age regressors dislike DDlg because of the sexual aspect.  I have a hard time with that aspect of it too, BUT it's part of who I am.

 

Age regression, and DDlg, is done behind closed doors. I'm not going to go Disney World and act like an overgrown toddler in public for an entire day (though little me is a toddler).  It's very personal.  There's nothing wrong with it because it makes us happy.  We know that privacy, and being discreet, is key.

 

If you are in a safe place to be little, please just be little.  Allow yourself those moments of carefree happiness. We all have to be grown-up us waaaay too much.  There is NO SHAME in age regression.  Truly.   Outside of DDlg, people use age regression as a form of therapy. 

[Guest Daffodil]

Follow your heart, and do what that says. Don't be ashamed to be yourself. 

It can be difficult when you feel like its weird, or you're not sure about something new. But you can never go wrong doing what makes you happy (Obviously if you're not hurting anyone... you know in the bad way )

 

You won't find any shunning or judgement here  

 

I hope you feel a bit more confident soon 

 

 

[Guest curiousmiddle]

I believe the more you do it, the more comfortable you will be with it. You're still new, it's natural to feel those things. Especially with the stigma surrounding ddlg. Just don't force it. If you lose littlespace, that's okay. Maybe next time will be better. You have to learn to embrace who you are. Whether you like it or not, this is a part of you now. It's best to just accept it and learn to love it. Yes, most people think it's weird, but that's because they don't understand. Just keep doing what you're doing. Don't get upset if you lose littlespace. Don't be so hard on yourself. You'll get more comfortable with time. Good luck.  

[XmochiX]

Yes, age regression is misunderstood by the general public.  DDlg, however, is abhorred by much of the general public (because of the sexual aspect). Even age regressors dislike DDlg because of the sexual aspect.  I have a hard time with that aspect of it too, BUT it's part of who I am.

 

Age regression, and DDlg, is done behind closed doors. I'm not going to go Disney World and act like an overgrown toddler in public for an entire day (though little me is a toddler).  It's very personal.  There's nothing wrong with it because it makes us happy.  We know that privacy, and being discreet, is key.

 

If you are in a safe place to be little, please just be little.  Allow yourself those moments of carefree happiness. We all have to be grown-up us waaaay too much.  There is NO SHAME in age regression.  Truly.   Outside of DDlg, people use age regression as a form of therapy.

 

I would think Disney World is the one of few places we can go to and act like overgrown toddlers without remorse. Not necessarily with sippy cups and all that, but the last time I was there, I totally glomped Tigger. Lol.

 

Anyway, op, shame is something we all deal with, but as long as you aren't hurting anyone, then there's nothing to be ashamed of.

[LittleKitten13]

Yes, age regression is misunderstood by the general public.  DDlg, however, is abhorred by much of the general public (because of the sexual aspect). Even age regressors dislike DDlg because of the sexual aspect.  I have a hard time with that aspect of it too, BUT it's part of who I am.

 

Age regression, and DDlg, is done behind closed doors. I'm not going to go Disney World and act like an overgrown toddler in public for an entire day (though little me is a toddler).  It's very personal.  There's nothing wrong with it because it makes us happy.  We know that privacy, and being discreet, is key.

 

If you are in a safe place to be little, please just be little.  Allow yourself those moments of carefree happiness. We all have to be grown-up us waaaay too much.  There is NO SHAME in age regression.  Truly.   Outside of DDlg, people use age regression as a form of therapy. 

I am an age regressor.  Honestly, I think I'm more age regressor than ddlg, simply because there is nothing sexual in my little space and I'm not ageplaying at an age younger than I am, my mind seriously thinks and reacts as I would if I were still 4-7ish.

The sexual aspect of DDlg bothers me at times as well, but I'm not going to say it's evil or wrong, as long as it's between two consenting adults who aren't doing anything wrong or illegal that would harm others.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

You say you love what you do but then feel ashamed.  I hope the support here on the forum will help you to feel there's no need at all to be ashamed. But it's not unusual that you do, so don't be too hard on yourself.  

Maybe start off with small things that DON'T make you feel ashamed, and build up from there.

If you can let yourself experience a positive feeling from being little, even for just a few minutes, that's better than being little for an hour and feeling terrible after. 

I don't feel shame at being little, including sexually active as a little. I hope you can feel that way too, because you're not doing anything wrong, and it's totally ok to be true to yourself and how you really want to be.

Edited April 8, 2018 by Looby-Lou

[TheDaddyest]

I think it's a growing/learning process to accept yourself and ignore the guilt and shame it can bring. I hope we can become friends! You seem really nice!

[pinkenergy]

Life is too short to not do what you love because it's something that's considered wrong by the general public:) Just be you and think about how happy being in little space makes you and don't worry about what others would think

This. We only get one life. Doesn't it feel somewhat wasteful to neglect doing the thing you love? As long as it doesn't impose on anyone else's life this is my view.

[Daddysbabybunny]

My family shames me for being in this dynamic and have even thrown away all of my sippies that i bought with my own money without telling me about it. My Daddy and i were even ridiculed on his birthday by my brothers girlfriend calling us both perverted and incestual for being in the dynamic and calling me a freak for wanting to live my life as a baby but as a strong couple my Daddy and I will never let other peoples words affect our relationship even if it is from my relatives. We fight for our love and we become stronger because of it. Never be ashamed for being yourself