When Daddy is angry

[Zacdak]

Hi there. I'm new to all of this. I have a Daddy Dom and I'm just wondering how other baby girls or Littles handle it when they get mad or upset with you.

[Guest You're adorable.]

Well, I can't speak for all Daddies out there. But usually when I get mad or upset, it's mostly because my little doesn't tell me the truth or refuses to communicate.

 

The best thing you can do is to communicate. It may sound like an obvious thing, but I see that in many relationships, communication just doesn't work the way it really should. So try to be as open as you can. Ask him why is he mad or upset at you and tell him that you want to know this so you can make sure it will not happen again.

If you know why is he mad or upset, tell him why you said what you said, or did what you did and again, try to be as clear and truthful as possible. You should also ask him for his imput. What could you do better or differently so that he won't get upset.

 

Also note that this goes both ways. If you ever get mad or upset at your daddy, never keep it to yourself. Because these things are like volcano. They are slowly growing under the surface until just a small stimuli is needed for it to explode and ruin everything.

 

Just remember that communication is the cornerstone of any relationship not just DDlg one. I hope that helps and I also hope that your daddy will not stay mad at you for too long

[Guest BabyPeach]

When my Daddy gets made at little me, I act extra precious and cute for him. I might color him a picture to show him I'm a good girl and to make him smile. If he tells me silence then I am silent until he says okay, I can talk/text/etc. (it's part of our dynamic). 

 

Basically, it all depends on how your DDlg relationship is set up.  If you don't have any guidelines for your relationship, then talk adult to adult to make some.

[Zacdak]

Thank you both! Yes my daddy gets very angry when I don't communicate and that was part of the problem last night. Sometimes all he needs is to distance himself from me so he can think clearly. We tried talking last night but he was way too angry so hopefully today will be better! I think I will color him a picture too, that's a great idea!

[LittleKitten13]

I get really scared whenever anyone is upset or mad, including Papa.  Thankfully Papa does't usually get upset with me.

[neko]

I would literally cry my eyes out if daddy were to ever yell at me lmao. I cry every time it sounds like he's even slightly mad.

[Zacdak]

I hate it when he is angry or upset with me! Today is a much better day and I'm a good girl again and he bought me a coloring book and markers after I told him what Baby Peach suggested. ☺

[Guest SUeB]

If he's getting angry regularly, that's a big problem. It's certainly not a positive thing if it's at the point where you are afraid of making him angry.

Master gets upset on occasion of course. He's a human being. When that happens, i apologise for whatever my part in upsetting Him was, and learn to not repeat it. Making Him happy is massively important to me. In nine months of being together, He has never once shown anger. He understands how much effort i put into pleasing Him, and appreciates that.

But yes, if you need to ask how to stop making someone angry, that sounds like a very worrying issue to me.

[Bluebells]

My daddy has got mad at me a few times before.

 

If you can communicate and talk through things, that's great, and if you can I think you should.

 

When he's mad my daddy can be quite immature (nobody's perfect I guess) he'll either ignore me or get more mad at me if I try and talk about it.

 

It used to make me so anxious and worried. But I've got to the point where I simply thought, I can't cope with this feeling. If he's choosing to be mad at me, so be it - I'm going to carry on with my life regardless. If he wants to talk, great - we'll try and figure it out. But I'm not going to be consumed by anxiety.

 

I know it's hard when it seems like our daddy is our world, but you can't judge yourself based on how he feels about you. He might be angry at you sometimes, but when he is it doesn't make you bad.

Edited April 25, 2018 by Bluebells

[Guest AllDayInPink]

My ex daddy wouldn't get mad at me really but when something else bothered him (job, school, whatever) he would tell me that he needed some time alone until he felt better. I was a little sad because I wanted to do anything I could to make him feel better but I had to respect him so I just waited until he wanted to talk about what was annoying him.

[bratty_kitten]

I'm very new to the daddy dynamic, I'm definitely more of a kitten ? Not sure. But I guess I said something that really upset him, and I could feel his anger in his message when he told me I upset him. I don't know what to do now, I never wanted to upset him. I feel so terrible, and cried all day yesterday and all night. I've barely messaged him since he told me bc I'm scared I'll say the wrong thing. In my brain I feel so sure he hates me now and will never love me again, even though he says he does. I can't stop spiraling, and I dnt know what to do 

[Cebakes]

3 hours ago, bratty_kitten said:

I'm very new to the daddy dynamic, I'm definitely more of a kitten ? Not sure. But I guess I said something that really upset him, and I could feel his anger in his message when he told me I upset him. I don't know what to do now, I never wanted to upset him. I feel so terrible, and cried all day yesterday and all night. I've barely messaged him since he told me bc I'm scared I'll say the wrong thing. In my brain I feel so sure he hates me now and will never love me again, even though he says he does. I can't stop spiraling, and I dnt know what to do 

Things like this can happen and it’s always best to have very open communication about this as soon as possible.  We all make mistakes, and sometimes say things that we regret.  I can’t imagine you said something so upsetting that your daddy and you cant talk it out and move on.   It sounds like your relationship is relatively new but something like this can also be a red flag about your partner and his ability to deal with issues and work through things. 

[bratty_kitten]

4 hours ago, Cebakes said:

Things like this can happen and it’s always best to have very open communication about this as soon as possible.  We all make mistakes, and sometimes say things that we regret.  I can’t imagine you said something so upsetting that your daddy and you cant talk it out and move on.   It sounds like your relationship is relatively new but something like this can also be a red flag about your partner and his ability to deal with issues and work through things. 

We talked this morning about how I was feeling and about how I didn't realize how the things I said made hime feel and how bad I felt about it. He told me he knows I wasn't meaning it in the way that it effected him. It was just something that triggered him due to issues from his past. That sometimes we get upset, but he's not mad at me and he's not going anywhere. We've been together 4 months, 4 amazing months. I'm  a very emotional person, and get hurt by the slightest change in someone's tone. So upsetting him hurt way more than I thing I had upset him. I feel a lot better now, still hard on myself for doing something that hurt/upset him and having trouble processing that. But I dnt feel scared that he's mad at me anymore. I appreciate having this space to come talk in if I need to about things and to find other people with insight. Thank you

[beanbean]

Yeah it's different with everyone just be sure to communicate in everything and maybe that will keep the angry spells down for sure