An interesting punishment

[Guest abc123baby]

I have been with my Daddy for 3 years now (LDR) and he has kinda been laid back on the rules mostly because I am pretty bratty and like to break them. I love my rules and I do follow them but sometimes it is just fun to break them I like watching Daddy take control and it's all fun and games until the actual punishment comes I absolutely hate lines and that is go to punishment. So I rebel against my punishment resulting in one grumpy Daddy and a pouting baby for the rest of the night. Well things took an odd turn last night my Daddy told me that since I can't follow my rules they will be on pause until I can prove I really want them and can follow them. So now until he thinks I have done a good job I follow them on my own and for my rules where I need permission I am supposed to log them in a journal (ex. Wednesday 4/26/18 11:00am needs permission for sweets) and then I write next to it what I think is the appropriate thing to do so yes or no if I did it and why I said yes or no. At first I thought this was ridiculous if I am the boss of my rules I would just always get my way, right? Wrong. Somehow this is actually working I have followed all 19 of my rules without hesitation for the first time ever. He didn't take little space away he just paused his part of rules meaning he doesn't get on me about them and if I ask a question about them he simply says "What do you think Princess?" This whole experience is forcing me to take responsibility and even though it isn't really fun I am amazed with how well it is working! It is more fun to get praise for doing a good thing all on my own than getting scolded for breaking my rules. 

 

Has any little ever had this punish before? If not, what are your opinions on the punish? I am very curious as to what others might think! 

[Peachiekeen]

I am much like you in your brattiness and have had this done once or twice before (In moderation however). Its a smart and effective way to punish a bratty little! 

[Guest Appacheian]

Sounds like lazy daddy to me. You are monitoring yourself.

[Guest abc123baby]

Sounds like lazy daddy to me. You are monitoring yourself.

You see lazy, I see smart. We are LDR and being long distance means punishments are harder to enforce. Sure he can give me lines or tell to sit in the corner but that doesn't mean I will. Of course he could take away my little space or ignore me that he does have full control over but to me that doesn't seem like a very good Daddy. This way he is still here for me and also is forcing me to take responsibility and prove myself to not just him but myself as well. This punishment has worked better than any other punishment has in 3 years this is the only one to truly work I think it was very smart and I couldn't disagree more with your comment on him being lazy. 

[Guest BabyPeach]

I don't think it would work for me.  Without rules, I would eat all the candy and jump on the bed whenever I wanted to! For me, it would have the opposite effect, but I am not generally bratty.  Pleasing Daddy is my thing and that means following the rules!

 

I agree that it doesn't have anything to do with being a "lazy" Daddy.  He knows you.  He's known you for 3 years and that's 3 years of daddying you and that's not lazy.  I'm glad it's helping you.  A good Daddy helps us grow in whatever way we need to.

Edited April 27, 2018 by BabyPeach

[Little Illy]

Sounds like lazy daddy to me. You are monitoring yourself.

 

Sounds like someone never had an LDR to me.

 

That is absolutely amazing that you two have found something that works for you. Even more so, that you have started to fulfill your dynamic need at the hand of your Daddy. Maybe you aren't so much of a brat, but rather your LDR allows for it more. I know this as I was in LDR for a long time then moved with Daddy. It is so different and much easier to be a brat when Daddy isn't there. But now, its not as fulfilling as I can see how happy my obedience makes both of us.

 

When it comes to an LDR, people don't realize that.... it literally comes down to each person playing both roles. If Daddy wanted to punish me, I had to carrying it out. If Daddy wanted to reward me,  I had to get the reward (Australia to Ohio is too expensive to send too many gifts) and if I wanted rules, I had to enforce them most of the time. Why? Because Daddy was asleep! And vice versa. 

 

When Daddy and I were in the LDR we did something similar. My log was a photographic one. Show Daddy the choices of clothes, then show him what I chose. Show him I ate a healthy breakfast (and all meals) and took care of myself in the morning. Let Daddy know whenever I was driving or going somewhere (in lieu of asking permission to do so), show him any treats I ate, any clothes I wore, any item I bought, etc. This was a way for me to be a little more real with Daddy. And when Daddy woke up (and I came home from work) we would go through them together. And if Daddy didn't think I did something correctly, we discussed. I have written lines, been put in timeout, spanked and denied myslef (sweets and treats) all at the behest of Daddy. AND most of the times without him. When I got into this rhythm, I found it was SO MUCH easier to follow the rules because it became second nature to punish myself when I broke them. Even when Daddy was inaccessible due to distance.

 

At the end of the day what works for you wont work for everyone. And what works for me wont work for you! However, it is simply amazing that you and your Daddy found a way for things to click. It may seem as if your Daddy became lazy and blah blah blah. But I read it as he recognized you acting out and approaced it differently. And look! He was right to do so! I am happy for you and I hope it just keeps gettin better!

Edited April 26, 2018 by Little Illy

[Guest Bookish-daddys-girl]

Out of the entire post, the one thing that sticks out is "taking away little space." I know that not every little uses it as a coping mechanism, but that just seems cruel to me. To each their own, I suppose. My Daddy's punishments are all constructive and I also have tasks and assignments to do, but we aren't long distance, so everything is easier for him to monitor and such.

[Guest abc123baby]

Out of the entire post, the one thing that sticks out is "taking away little space." I know that not every little uses it as a coping mechanism, but that just seems cruel to me. To each their own, I suppose. My Daddy's punishments are all constructive and I also have tasks and assignments to do, but we aren't long distance, so everything is easier for him to monitor and such.

I totally agree! I think taking away little space punishments or ignoring punishments are awful! No disrespect to those who use that punishment, but I could never. I see it get suggested a lot though. I think the punishment I explained works so well because it is the middle ground I still have little space and my Daddy is still giving me attention, however it makes me take responsibility and own up to my actions.  

[Bluebells]

I totally agree! I think taking away little space punishments or ignoring punishments are awful! No disrespect to those who use that punishment, but I could never. I see it get suggested a lot though. I think the punishment I explained works so well because it is the middle ground I still have little space and my Daddy is still giving me attention, however it makes me take responsibility and own up to my actions.  

 

I don't have rules or punishments myself (I don't think they'd work for me, I have issues with people trying to control what I do so I wouldn't like it...) But if it's something that's working for you and helps you, surely it's a good thing? By doing it the way you are, it gives you a chance to think about things and hopefully learn and grow.

 

But I think it's completely unfair for someone to take away your little space! That's just wrong, nobody should be controlling how you think. And the silent treatment is awful, and disrespectful in my opinion. 

[LittleKitten13]

Out of the entire post, the one thing that sticks out is "taking away little space." I know that not every little uses it as a coping mechanism, but that just seems cruel to me. To each their own, I suppose. My Daddy's punishments are all constructive and I also have tasks and assignments to do, but we aren't long distance, so everything is easier for him to monitor and such.

I am with you completely!  My little space is a coping mechanism and I really struggle to even control it...so for someone to try to jerk me out of and keep me out of little space would devastate me.