Words are funny that way. The very word "rush" has a negative leaning. To "rush" into something... anything... implies an element of recklessness.
I'm not saying that it is reckless, I'm saying that the word has that kind of connotation.
As with all things, there is no hard and fast judgment on how one decides to handle their relationships. I have found however that escalating a relationship quickly is riskier than being slow and methodical.
Riskier meaning - what's more likely:
- A relationship could have thrived and been very successful if it was not rushed
- A relationship could have thrived and been very successful if it was rushed
Both scenarios are possible. But which is more likely? Of course its possible for love at first sight, soulmate, explosion of perfect union type stuff. But the vast, overwhelming majority of us will not experience that and, I feel, would be burning great opportunities by looking for that.
My thoughts are that the flames that burn brightest, burn shortest. I feel a relationship could be very quickly burnt out if the throttle is fully opened and its given enough gas to explode. If the goal is a bright firework of an experience that flares and then ends soon after, then there is no problem with that. Those experiences are great. However for longevity, if that is one's goal, I feel a more slow approach is less risky.