Carlos87 Posted July 12, 2018 Report Posted July 12, 2018 (edited) Ok, so im gonna try to sum this up as best i can. My wife and i have been married for a while. We recently discovered she enjoys the thought of being a little, so naturally i took on the daddy role. As recently as yesterday she told me she no longer wants me to be her daddy, but she still wants to be a little. I guess im trying to get some feedback as to what to do about this because she wont even resppnd to me calling her pet names that ive always used even before this like baby. And she no longer refers to me as babe which shes always done even before we started exploring this dynamic noq every time she talks to me its by my name. Am i just relegated to be a vanilla guy and try to go through this thay way or is there something i can do to hopefully salvage this? I loved the dynamic and most of all i really enjoyed being her caregiver. Im going on my second night of no sleep because i feel like im failing not just at this but at our marriage. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Edited July 12, 2018 by Newdaddy87 1
CaresAlot Posted July 12, 2018 Report Posted July 12, 2018 You can be a Little without a Daddy, but you cannot be a Daddy without a Little. She may want to just be a Little and be able to go into Little space on her own. Its going to depend on how much or how often she needs this time. It varies all over the board from short time to long time. Couples do have time for themselves to pursue things they like to do. The two of you need to sit down and discuss what happened and where do you want to go from here. Expectations and communication make or break a relationship. First off you need to find out what she wants and why the changed in the status quo. Being a Daddy is a title she gives you and she can also take it away if that is not what she needs. If she spends all her time being Little then that is going to be a problem. Same as if you decided to spend all your time at something you wanted to do by yourself. Lot of communication needs to happen for both you to figure out the expectations for each of you. 4
Carlos87 Posted July 12, 2018 Author Report Posted July 12, 2018 (edited) It just seems like everything that we do as soon as i start really getting into it its time for her to move on from it and push me out. Idk, maybe im just a constant fuckup. Edited July 12, 2018 by Newdaddy87 1
PrincessKittyBunny♡♡♡ Posted July 12, 2018 Report Posted July 12, 2018 *slowly smiles softly*.. silly Willy. Wu no failing, wu both are grwoing ^M^ ~°• Oopsies excuse tyolplll (k maybe dis be best when I no reglgrestingb. Brb) Ugh.. Kay. I'm good. No moooore regressing and I am fully capable of typing on my own now >w< ughhh my struggles. And.... sowwy! I'm too lazy to take away parts of where I was stuck in my Little headspace (shown above) blame that one on my S.O. and my incapability to un-..regress? Lol so... ur stuck with regressed PKB lmfao ~°•☆ mkkkayyyy time for ACTUAL answer. Or.. my answer that is based on my opinion and thinking process. Lol~°•☆ RESTART!: Silly Willy! (Lol) You're not failing, you both are growing! (Happy unicorn! Dance it's a parade!)~°○ If she doesn't want you to be her Daddy Dominant anymore, there might be an explanation as to "How" "When" "Who" "What" "Where" and "Why". 》》 or if not... then she just doesn't wish for you to be, specifically, her Daddy Dominant. [Which, I am so sorry for; that has gotta suck and I should know since I've had friends who done the same and some who also were like you: getting told "no more"s.] But! I say you're a silly willyvhead because there can also be other new discoveries in relationship dynamics that have the same or close to power-exchange and roleplayers (Little and Big/Dominant) You can try Cg/L! Yes.. I know.. in your case Cg/L won't be a relationship where you are addressed as "Daddy" due to her previously stating and making it a point to call you "daddy" or "babe". In my perspective, she is being very cute and you both have a cute relationship. ~ call me crazy (you're crazy) but I see it that way. Because if you were to turn this whole situation upside down and shake it up a bit, she may be [subconsciously] giving you a wide open window-door hybrid to say: "Hey! I know you don't wish for me to be you Daddy Dominant but how would you feel if I suggest Cg/L and we do a trial session of me being your Caregiver?" It's a win-win! But keep in mind that she may just wish to be a regressor only, where she resorts and indulges in a child like mindset on her own; without having any higher ups or more specifically a dominant to take care of her. But I highly doubt that since she is your WIFEY! (U guys r still so cute) Either way, There are many many many other relationship dynamics that you guys can participate in along side your normal day-to-day vanilla relationship (or as a full lifestyle xD) There's: ☆Cg/L ☆her becoming an adult Baby (sort of fits.. but.. it's called adult baby for a reason so it may be harder to have a bit of freedom on so certain things) ☆Ageplay (.. eh.. my opinion is... probably don't do this one if you're aiming for a more relationship/lifestyle dynamic) Thats as far as my own knowledge will take me since I'm still learning >.< so my list is short lol NOTE: that, my upmost advice to you before considering exposing her to a different alternative to a normal vanilla relationship again is, you should talk to her more closely and understand where her thought process on this is taking her. Have a serious- sit down & look eachother in the same eye level- talk. Because it sounds to me that apart from knowing you are her husband, you don't know where you stand with her. She may not even know, as well as know where she is at too. You never know and I believe it is important to find out before wondering or contemplating on being her vanilla partner lover (cute as ever) She is your spouse. She should be able to answer you as well as understand where you are getting these excessive worry-wart thoughts. Ask her anything that you want, that will inevitably give you the answer you need in order to understand where you guys are at IN HER mind. Find her ground footing. Then! You Can most likely either consider another alternative to DDLG with her or she may decide "no". But all in all, I think you have nothing to worry about. If you (both) are new to this then she is most likely trying to find herself. Give her timmmeee She may even come back and do a 180°, saying she wants a DDLG relationship WITH the Daddy Dominant label. Not without. But also.. ^^^ doesn't that sound a lot like a caregiver/Little relationship? If you say no: look up Cg/L caregiver/Little Girl. If you already know.. look it up again bc.... . I truly think that if she wishes it to be so, then you both can make it work. BUUUTTTT I am not here to dictate yours and anybody else's relationships. Never wanted to be. I just can be very demanding in my opinions and I just... my advice isn't hard-proof reliable material bc everyone is different. So please be aware of my understanding of this as you consider my advice... I hope all is well for you guys- silly Willy goose. ^w^ Ps: if u couldn't tell......... I am rooting for you both♡ lmfao P.P.S. ~ silly goose... I see ur reply to dat guy^^ I nunno his username but I see it and I didn't read it till I was nearly bout to post. I see it >.> And I mentioned before.. there may be a deeper reason as to why she is doing such things. You're gonna have to sit down and talk to her. You're saying this as if you haven't asked her or gone into a full in depth conversation. Bc you wouldn't be here rn if you had. There's always more you can do as one partner in a 2 person relationship. More you can do to help better the situation. And.. :c I mentioned before as well that she may just want to be left to her own devices as she Reggresses and you stand on the side lines. If she repeatedly had pushed you out after BOTH of you practicing different things .. Then it also seems as if she isn't being compromising not fair to you. Having any sort of monogamis relationship involves 2 people. Not just 1. And that applies to you as well. My 2 cents is if neither can't make ends meet for a long time of not making them meet, then ya best be getting on the fender right now. With all thatvuouve said it isnt healthy for neither of in tour both individual situations. Please just resort to your spouse. Or your S.O. Cause only she can give you the correct answers that YOU need and that SHE needs. I truly hope you both are okays and please keep being head strong~☆ I believe in you guysss 3
PrincessKittyBunny♡♡♡ Posted July 12, 2018 Report Posted July 12, 2018 .. *reads through what I've said.. gets to bottom part*... uh oh .. Jus so you know.... I'm sorry if I had caused hard feelings with my reply- I jus.. geezeeee. My mind wasn't really open for discussion was it? ~(._.)~ But seriously... I'm very sorry. Please feel free to reply with whatever or however you wish, constructive critiscm (and maybe a few lashings》》 JUST KIDDING lol cheeses!) Negative or positive. It don't matter to me. Bc right now I'm feeling really bad with possibility that bind upset you. Please note I was trying to... well... give advice but.... it doesn't really.... seem that way? ... *hides face* Anyways! I hope you and your wife are Gucci and dulce el cabana Good! Lol (Apparently i'm a jokster tonight.. don't take my jokes seriously pls. •_• ) 1
PrincessKittyBunny♡♡♡ Posted July 12, 2018 Report Posted July 12, 2018 >>> you are NOT a fudge-up! The only thing that is fudge is my Sympthony chocolate bar that is going up (or down?.. through?) My esophagus an to my tummy. So.... Anyways.. Why am I doing thus? I need sleep not reply creepily in someone topic thread. >.> Imma go go now! Byeee... for last timee 1
TampaDaddy Posted July 12, 2018 Report Posted July 12, 2018 My first reaction is based on the fact she is no longer referring to you by anything other than your name, even in your vanilla relationship/marriage. I've seen this happen before. It's what I call the "grass is always greener" syndrome, from the old saying, "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence." She may have been exploring online or talking to a friend and gotten the idea she needs a "real" daddy. She may have met someone who offered to be that for her, so she feels she no longer needs you as her daddy. BUT, the bad thing is that she no longer feels close enough to you to call you by pet names and nicknames that used to be the norm. When you go back to being on ONLY a first name basis, she is building a wall between you. I have seen this end marriages and I have never seen it end well. Unfortunately, it usually ends up with neither party happy, as the wife usually finds out what she ended up with was less than what she had originally. But, by then it was too late to go back. Sit down with her IMMEDIATELY. Don't let her get away with putting you off. Tell her you want complete honesty. Either she faces up to the fact she has responsibilites to you, in your marriage, or she may just walk away entirely, chasing that fantasy perfect daddy. The only other alternative is to let her find another daddy and just continue to be her husband, IF she doesn't ask for a divorce. However, most women have ONE special place in their hearts and you would most likely come in second place to her daddy. I VERY much hope I'm wrong. Best of luck, either way. Just know one thing. This is NOT because of you, nor is it any reflection ON you. This is something SHE is doing. She is the one changing, so don't blame yourself for any of this. 2
Carlos87 Posted July 12, 2018 Author Report Posted July 12, 2018 (edited) It's really hard not to, we HAVE been in other "alternative lifestyles" before and i know where this seed was planted. Im just hoping that i can correct it before its too late. Edited July 12, 2018 by Newdaddy87 1
AliciaCrunk Posted July 12, 2018 Report Posted July 12, 2018 im sorry to say this, but... maybe shes cheating 2
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