Little/Pet: Same thing? Help?

[LgJess1988]

My DD has decided that he would like to bring in a pet once a month for more pleasure for both of us. I am not very sure if I want that or if I want to share my DD with another woman. What is the difference between a pet and a little girl? Can anyone help me to understand this please?

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

You’d probably get a lil more advice and assistance if you edited the Title of your topic to be more relevant to your question. Like “Little/Pet: Same thing? Help?” Or something else. Because “new to being a little” is probably the most posted topic in the entire forum, people don’t always respond.

 

No, a pet and a Little are 100% not the same thing. A little can dabble in pet play, or a pet can be ‘little’ inclined. But they’re not the same thing.

 

Have you asked HIM why he wants to add a pet to your relationship?

If you’re not interested in polyamory and expanding your relationship, then tell him.

Relationships are give and take, sometimes there needs to be a compromise.

But I generally go by a rule of “Who is going to be more compromised or hurt by the outcome?”

For example- let’s say you’re not interested in polyamory and your DD is.

It would cause you more harm to have to adapt and let someone new into your relationship, and feeling upset seeing their intimacy and divided attention.

Compared to him understanding that you don’t want a third party involved and being content with the relationship between the two of you.

 

But that’s all based off of the assumption that you’re not wanting this additional Pet in your relationship. ‘Cause it’s not much to go on.

 

Anyways, welcome to the forum and good luck with everything. Hopefully some Pets or others who relate can give you better advice (M sure they can).

[LgJess1988]

Thank you I will change the title and I don't know if I want to include a third and don't understand how they are different he wants to because he wants us to be able to do that with a pet once a month

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

Thank you I will change the title and I don't know if I want to include a third and don't understand how they are different he wants to because he wants us to be able to do that with a pet once a month

No problemo.

 

I know we have some members who are much more knowledgable on pets and having additional elements or roles to their relationships.

 

I suppose it depends on whether it’s a sexual or platonic pet/Master relationship.

But again, there will be others who can give better advice. Hopefully they will comment and give you some advice. ^-^

[TwitchySwitchy]

Pet play is essentially where one or more participants take on the role of a "pet" in the form of an animal. In my dynamics since I'm usually Dom I take the role of an alpha wolf. I have been with kittens, wolf pups, and a fox. This is also known as "primal play." My partner, and since adding CG/L, their stuffies, become my "pack." I assert dominance in the same way an alpha wolf would assert dominance over thier pack. It is completely different from what being little is. Even though "Kitten" is often used as a nickname for a little girl, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are into pet play. 

 

You need to determine two things. The first is, "Do you want to be involved in pet play at all?" It's a completely different dynamic from what you currently do as a little, and may not be right for you. The second is, "Can you be comfortable with sharing your daddy?" Not everyone is into poly and before ANYTHING happens you need a good understanding of what is going to happen. As with all kinks and alternative relationships, communication is key. This can't be done for the sake of one member, all must agree.

[LgJess1988]

When we have spoken about I feel like the pet and I will be on the same level and the last thing I want is for her to walk into the picture and then I am out. I am not sure if it's because she younger than me or has no limits compared to a few that i have as to why I feel this way or if its the fact that I just don't want to share. As a little how would I go about talking to my DD on how to seperate the levels between me and this pet?