Talking to ex daddy

[BabyMochaBear]

My ex and I broke up little over a month ago. He was my daddy. For a week or so I would text him while in little/middle space. Now it’s hard for me to truly feel little without talking to him while in little space. What should I do? I feel trapped

[Babyydoll1433]

I am experiencing something similar! It’s been very hard for me to get into middle space and stay there without having the intense urge to talk with him. 

[Guest CharlieFPG]

 I will strongly suggest you to burn all bridges and ships, and a couple of fields just to be sure.

 

But seriously, it works for me to cut all communications to be able to work my way out of the breakup. If the relationship ended and there is no healthy way to make it work it is best to cut all means of communication and start healing, with a friend, family or professional help if any, yourself during the post breakup phase.

 

It's not easy and I have the theory that human beings were not emotionally designed to weather breakups, yet here we are.

 

With time and work, you will be able to recover your little space and share those moments with a new partner.

 

But first step, recognize the issue, cut means of communication and start working, with help, towards recovery.

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

Charliefpg... That will work for you but not women....

 

Women instinctually require security regardless if it is emotional or physical. This behavior that is exhibited is called monkey branching. It's where the hang onto the past for security while they are already in the process of moving on and finding something new, if they haven't already.

 

So while for you as a man it is in your best interest to cut off all ties since you're only getting used for the benefit of the female, it is logically benefital for the same female to told on until they complete their new aquisition.

 

It is important for men to understand this behavior and to protect themselves.

 

Again, it's just nature and nothing to be offended or upset about.

[Guest CharlieFPG]

Charliefpg... That will work for you but not women....

 

Women instinctually require security regardless if it is emotional or physical. This behavior that is exhibited is called monkey branching. It's where the hang onto the past for security while they are already in the process of moving on and finding something new, if they haven't already.

 

So while for you as a man it is in your best interest to cut off all ties since you're only getting used for the benefit of the female, it is logically benefital for the same female to told on until they complete their new aquisition.

 

It is important for men to understand this behavior and to protect themselves.

 

Again, it's just nature and nothing to be offended or upset about.

 

Interesting, I will compare with my own notes and experiences and meditate.

 

Honestly, thanks. I do still believe the healthiest way to deal with a breakup but, you might be right.

Edited February 11, 2019 by CharlieFPG

[BabyMochaBear]

Thanks you guys for your replies so far. I’ll try branching out to a friend.

[Guest CharlieFPG]

Thanks you guys for your replies so far. I’ll try branching out to a friend.

 

I will still like to suggest you to learn to hold on your 'big' self (or yourself) for security; and of course, to reach friends and family for help every time.

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

Thanks you guys for your replies so far. I’ll try branching out to a friend.

I would suggest working on yourself and not relying on others.

 

Not sure if you said branching out to a friend on purpose but I found it funny :-)

Edited February 11, 2019 by Closer

[Daddy'sBabyGirl1]

Charliefpg... That will work for you but not women....

 

Women instinctually require security regardless if it is emotional or physical. This behavior that is exhibited is called monkey branching. It's where the hang onto the past for security while they are already in the process of moving on and finding something new, if they haven't already.

 

So while for you as a man it is in your best interest to cut off all ties since you're only getting used for the benefit of the female, it is logically benefital for the same female to told on until they complete their new aquisition.

 

It is important for men to understand this behavior and to protect themselves.

 

Again, it's just nature and nothing to be offended or upset about.

That's 100% RIDICULOUS. I know VERY FEW women who want hold on to the past until they have someone new.  It's disrespectful of women in general to make such a broad statement that is very offensive as well.  Even if a woman wants to continue to hold on to an ex, it is often a way to slowly disconnect to help her heal.  She doesn't hang on to the ex until she has a new significant other.  As a woman I agree with Charliefpg, cut all ties, and find yourself again. Spend time with friends, find hobbies, and just LIVE.  The longer you hang on to the past, the more it will hurt.  This "monkey branching" concept is utterly ridiculous and very untrue.  

Naturalselection, every single comment of yours I've read is very disrespectful and degrading to women.  Maybe you should spend some time away from this forum looking at yourself and why you view women so negatively.

[jaredstone363]

Lots of good advice has been given already. I agree that cutting all ties is the best way to handle it. You can't heal and move on if you continue to have ties to him. It will take some time, but keep going to your Little space and I think with time you will find it gets easier and easier. Hang in there!

[PrincessKittenCupcake]

Charliefpg... That will work for you but not women....

 

Women instinctually require security regardless if it is emotional or physical. This behavior that is exhibited is called monkey branching. It's where the hang onto the past for security while they are already in the process of moving on and finding something new, if they haven't already.

 

So while for you as a man it is in your best interest to cut off all ties since you're only getting used for the benefit of the female, it is logically benefital for the same female to told on until they complete their new aquisition.

 

It is important for men to understand this behavior and to protect themselves.

 

Again, it's just nature and nothing to be offended or upset about.

All my male exes have exhibited the same behavior. Just saying.

[BabyMochaBear]

Thanks everyone, I’m trying to find things that spark joy in my life without him. I know he wants us back together right now.

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

All my male exes have exhibited the same behavior. Just saying.

 

This doesn't necessarily surprise me, you should incorporate questions that would indicate such behavior while in the selection process. It might be a good indicator of what you have coming in the future.  

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

That's 100% RIDICULOUS. I know VERY FEW women who want hold on to the past until they have someone new.  It's disrespectful of women in general to make such a broad statement that is very offensive as well.  Even if a woman wants to continue to hold on to an ex, it is often a way to slowly disconnect to help her heal.  She doesn't hang on to the ex until she has a new significant other.  As a woman I agree with Charliefpg, cut all ties, and find yourself again. Spend time with friends, find hobbies, and just LIVE.  The longer you hang on to the past, the more it will hurt.  This "monkey branching" concept is utterly ridiculous and very untrue.  

Naturalselection, every single comment of yours I've read is very disrespectful and degrading to women.  Maybe you should spend some time away from this forum looking at yourself and why you view women so negatively.

 

Yes, I know women are perfect and never do anything wrong. I need to recognize my male privilege and toxic masculinity and participate in a timeout now to relearn my place. Maybe prison might be a good place for someone like me that has views that differ from yours?

 

Thanks for the shaming attempt but it won't work on me :-)  

 

Instead of believing the perpetual lie that females are incapable of being infallible, try to be more realistic. Just because I speak up and am willing to point out the unpopular opinions because it goes against societal norms, doesn't make it degrading or disrespectful to women. I actually have great relationships with the females in my life and they would disagree with you on your accusation.   

[SamL]

That's 100% RIDICULOUS. 

 

I completely agree.

 

 

 

It's disrespectful of women in general to make such a broad statement...

 

I completely disagree.  Saying that dogs do not make good pets, while ridiculous as a general statement, is certainly not disrespectful of dogs.  In fact, such a statement tells us nothing about dogs but quite a bit about the person who made that statement.

Edited February 14, 2019 by SamL