I need advice about my daddy

[JJBee]

He hardly talks to me anymore and I’m trying to make him happy when he is around. I don’t know why he goes days without talking to me. Is there any reasons for this? He hasn’t said anything that I’ve done is bothering him. I don’t want to keep constantly messaging him but.. if he doesn’t feel the same way anymore I just want to know. Any help?

[PapaF]

Hi,

 

Being a daddy myself I believe that there is no reason to not talk to my little one, especially if she gives attention to me.

I don't think it's fair that he disappears on you.

I think you need to press him to tell you what's going on. If he says nothing his going on but his behaviour does not match his words, then you will need to take action yourself instead of waiting an action from him.

 

I believe that being a daddy we have to be honest and caring for our little one's isn't it?

 

I hope this helps you. Feel free to PM me if you want to.

Good luck!

[Guest 37stitches]

It is hard to say why exactly he is being distant and far be it from me to start making assumptions about someone I don't know but if the way he is acting is making you feel unsure or anxious then it needs to be talked about. There is nothing wrong with sitting down with your daddy and telling him how you feel and why you feel it and there is definitely nothing wrong with finding out how he feels about the relationship now! If he doesn't feel the same way anymore then he shouldn't be stringing you along and should just tell you. Sure, it's never nice to deliver bad news but it is better than stringing you along!

 

My advice is to talk to him, tell him how you feel and what's on your mind and straight up ask him if he feels the same way. The only way you're ever gonna find out for sure is from him! 

 

I hope it works out well for you both and you get through this, I'm always around if you ever need to chat to someone  

[MasterPhotog]

Hi JJBee,

 

I'm sorry to hear that your Daddy seems not be paying as much attention to you as you would like.

Assuming this is a LD relationship and unless this has been a normal routine, there can be many reasons for his lack of attention:

 

1. He may genuinely be busy with work and doesn't find time to stay in touch with you even though he wants to

2. He may not be feeling well or is tied up in some family matters

3. He may be upset at you about something

4. There could be a totally different reason that’s serious enough to keep him away from you

 

However, if you definitely think there’s no other reason and this has never happened before, you may want to ask him the reason for his absence from you and let him know that you will understand if he is no longer interested in you. Good luck.

[JJBee]

Thank you for all the reply’s. It helps to see reasons wrote down instead of them all in my head.

[-SoftBunny-]

I agree with what being said but I would add that in my opinion: this is not normal to not hear from your Daddy for days.

He might be busy, tired, upset & many more possibilities but it's not difficult to leave you a little text that say "he's going to be away or good morning\good night" to you!

There is something going on and you must talk to him even if it ends not like you want. It's better to make things clear now than just waiting & being hurt by it.

 

You can do it! If you need to talk about it you can always add me: I'll be happy to talk! ^^

 

[TampaDaddy]

I have it on good authority, from a little I know, that a daddy who doesn't stay in touch with his little at LEAST every couple days is suffering from a condition called "Being A Poopyhead."

 

Whether that condition is curable or not, I do not know.  Some cases aren't.  But please do not EVER think that, in a MILLION years, it's your fault.  That condition can not EVER be transmitted from littles to daddies.  It's a medical impossibility.

 

All silliness aside, please don't ever feel as if someone else's poor behavior is your fault.  I've seen your posts and read your profile.  If any of that is ANY indication (and it usually is) when you meet the right daddy for you, whether it's your current daddy or not, he will be a very lucky daddy indeed.

 

If you ever need someone to talk (type?) to, or if there is anything an old daddy can do to answer questions for you or whatever, send me a friend request and I'll accept, so you can send me PMs.

Edited March 8, 2019 by TampaDaddy

[BigDaddy72]

As a DD myself...the thought of not talking to my little for days is heart wrenching...who else is going to look after her? Who else is going to make sure she stays on tasks and behaves...something deeper is going on...

[junebug0325]

Hiya!

 

So I first want to say that I'm sorry your Daddy hasn't been in contact with you as much as you would like.

 

I can speak on behalf of myself and my Daddy and the thought of us going a day without talking makes us both really sad, so I can't imagine going a few days to a week without talking to your Daddy, so that must make you feel super sad, and I'm sorry.

 

I will say, that I think something deeper is going on with him. Does he have depression that you are aware of? Is he suicidal? These can be reasons why he has not been contacting you as much as he should. 

 

My best advice would be to talk to him about the situation at hand. For me, this type of behavior is unacceptable because it is a Daddy's sole job to take care of his little. If he doesn't, can he really be titled a "Daddy?" Approach the situation as calmly as you can, because it can be a tough subject to talk about especially if there is a deeper issue going on. 

 

I hope this post was able to help you at least a little bit. I wish you the best of luck!
 

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

[Little kaiya]

it is a Daddy's sole job to take care of his little. If he doesn't, can he really be titled a "Daddy?"

 

 

I read this and wanted to offer a perspective that can people can take or leave as they wish. DDlg is a relationship between two adults. Yes, there is a caregiver and little dynamic but it is still between two adults that have their own needs, wants, desires, strengths, weaknesses, issues and lives.

 

Although Caregivers invest time and energy into caring for their littles and in return receive a lot from it that doesnt, or at least in my mind shouldn't, mean their only job or reason for being is to care for their little.

 

I feel caregivers who make it their sole job risk setting themself and their little up for failure if things go sideways and the relationship ends. Caregivers have family, friends, jobs, hobbies and passions outside of their little and that to me is a healthy adult. In the same way, if a Caregiver does everything for their little they arent helping set the little up for success in life. What happens in the case the Caregiver falls ill or the relationship ends? Is the little able to support their Caregiver during emergencies? Are they able to be self sufficient if their Caregiver needs to deal with an emergency?

 

Even real life Daddy's arent there to care for their biological children's every single need and being a Daddy isn't their sole job. To me a good Caregiver/Daddy is one who nurtures, guides, protects and supports their little while also helping their little develop skills to be confident and independent as necessary.

 

So, yes, I would say a Daddy that doesn't treat his little as his sole job is not only still worthy of the title Daddy but they are also encouraging a relationship that is healthy for both the Caregiver and little.

 

Would I want to have a Daddy who didnt contact me or disappeared without warning or explanation, no. On the other hand would I want a Daddy who treated taking care of me as his sole job, also no. That seems potentially unhealthy long term for the Caregiver and little alike. Just my thoughts on the subject.

 

Little kaiya

[VentralStriatum]

I agree with Little Kaiya entirely yet again. The biggest thing that initially scared me off of DDLG is that I felt like I was *expected* to put everything aside, no matter what, whenever someone else randomly decided they needed attention. That doesn't feel like a relationship, that's a hostage situation. I'd gladly do my best to be there for my partner as much as possible when they need me, and I feel I'm naturally inclined to do so most of the time. But I would also want them to trust me that when I'm not immediately responding, I need some space to focus on my own priorities, and I don't want to have to feel guilty they're completely helpless when I'm unavailable at the wrong time.

 

On top of that, I think we may be projecting too much of our own experiences in which we felt (slightly) abandoned by someone. OP provides so little context that it's hard to say what her DD is thinking from just what's said. I would read into this situation entirely differently if they've been dating 2 years and this started a few weeks ago, compared to this DD being like this ever since they met, so it's hard to give any real advice beyond "just talk to him about it". 37stitches covered that really nicely in his post.

 

Good luck!

[JJBee]

Thank you to everyone who replied and gave my advice. It’s been over a week and still no word. He’s been online throughout that time and even though he doesn’t respond I still messaged him and told him that I’m not going to wait around any longer. Thank you all again. There are some nice people out there.

[VentralStriatum]

Thank you to everyone who replied and gave my advice. It’s been over a week and still no word. He’s been online throughout that time and even though he doesn’t respond I still messaged him and told him that I’m not going to wait around any longer. Thank you all again. There are some nice people out there.

 

I'm sorry it went that way, but it sounds like you made the right choice. I hope you find someone that makes you a lot happier soon