Potential relationship but long distance

[Shy_Babygirl]

I have liked a guy that I have had a on/off long distance online relationship with a guy for more thana year.

 

The main issues: He lives in Doncaster and I live in the Bedfordshire area, I don't have a job, drive and I have limited money due to unemployment. I don't have a phone, so I would have no way to contact him for directions to get to where he is, I don't use public transport so I have no idea how to get there or back home.

 

Is this relationship even worth pursuing?

He has said he loves me and wants to be my friend, boyfriend, daddy dom. I want the same, but it's difficult to make it work :/

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

Long distance is hard, but it is possible to have a good relationship. At least you're both based in the same country! How about for your first meet-up he comes to your area? Agree a time and place to meet, and it'll be somewhere easy for you to get to. Your first meet-up with someone you met online should always be in public anyway, and if he likes you as much as he says he does, he'll be willing to be the one to travel for the first meeting.

 

Love is a complicated emotion. If you are both truly in love with each other, then no amount of distance should be able to keep you apart. But if you're wavering at this point, and asking whether it's worth bothering with the relationship, are you sure you're actually in love with him specifically , and not just experiencing a very strong desire to be in a relationship or have a daddy/dom? Because CG/L is a fairly small community, it's possible to become very attached to someone who might not be right for us simply because we're worried that we might not find someone else within the community if we don't pursue a relationship with them. And it's possible to prioritise the idea of a relationship, and the concept of being "in love", far ahead of the specific person we're with at that moment. Some food for thought, but if I were you I'd take as much time as I needed to consider very carefully whether he's really Mr Right, especially considering the on-off nature of your relationship to date.

 

In more practical terms, it's possible to get a basic mobile phone for as little as £15 on somewhere like Amazon. Top it up with £10 credit and you can send him texts or have short phonecalls and you haven't spent a huge sum of money. If you do intend to travel, you'll find there are fewer and fewer payphones even at places like railway stations these days, so having a mobile could become very important and it'd be worth saving up for. Assuming that he's willing to travel to meet up with you in person, make sure he understands it's a date, and it's going to take place entirely in public. You don't want him coming over to your home the first time you meet because there could be any number of reasons why you don't get along in person as well as you do online. If he needs to stay overnight because of travelling, he'll have to get a hotel. There are plenty of inexpensive hotel rooms. As you don't drive, your only option is public transport if you wanted to go to see him, but I'd strongly encourage you to have him come to you in the first instance.

 

Put your safety first, no matter how much you might think you know someone it is possible for people to misrepresent themselves and their intentions online. If during your meet-up things don't go well, don't be afraid to cut it short, and don't be afraid to tell him subsequently that you don't want to continue the relationship or you don't want any further meetings. There are other caregivers out there if it turns out he's not the one.

 

But if you love him, and meeting up goes well, you will find a way to make it work. Relationships take time, effort, and compromise, and if you're both willing to try, things will go great. Best of luck!

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

Of course it can work. Try to make goals with him , can be easier if you two work hard to meet, instead of just being you stressing about it.

Me and my daddy are in the same situation, but he saved money to come here and I provided him with all the food (just an example).

[Guest Aetherr]

I'm Scottish and I'm with a little from Canada despite our differences we have been close and loving for 8 months now with no solid plans to meet but hopes and dreams for the future

[MysticSand]

I'm very confused right now.

 

I don't have a phone, so I would have no way to contact him for directions to get to where he is, I don't use public transport so I have no idea how to get there or back home.

This is all very confusing. You have used/heard of Google before, yes? There's a sick function on there called Google Maps.

It gives you directions that you can write using pen and paper. Or pencil and paper. Whichever you prefer.

I used to do it alllllllll the time before cell phones were a thing. Still reliable most times, promise!

 

I don't use public transport so I have no idea how to get there or back home.

What does this mean? You can't use public transportation? If so, why not?

Or you won't use public transport? If so, why not? Is this something that can be overcome?

 

I wouldn't suggest this necessarily, but it's possible: there are ways to hitch rides with people.

 

Is this relationship even worth pursuing?

If you're asking simply because the distance of 3 hours is too much.... I would say no, it's not worth pursuing. See below.

 

He has said he loves me and wants to be my friend, boyfriend, daddy dom. I want the same, but it's difficult to make it work 

Surely there must be more significant challenges than 3 hours distance, yes?

 

Maybe it's me... but... I used to commute 3 hours every day just for work/school so I likely have a jaded perception of what "long distance" means. >_o

[Girly1989]

My daddy and I are in a long distance relationship, he loves in America and I am in Australia, daddy catches a plane to see me every few weeks. And neither of us are externally well off we just save our moneys so daddy can be with me. The distance is very hard cuz I miss him lots n lots however we FaceTime every night so he can put me to bed and text ALL DAY! if you love each other you can find a way for it to work