How can I get serious about DDLG?

[Ddlgnewb05]

My boyfriend told me he's into DDLG, and I can't picture myself getting into the acting of it. Any suggestions? I'm willing to try this out, but I don't know how to take it seriously. I don't know how deep he wants to go with it, he only told me I should call him Daddy and obey him in bed.

[dollybabycakes]

If you're uncomfortable with this, perhaps tell him? However, if you are interested, I'd recommend doing some research. There are plenty of forum posts on this site which could help you understand what ddlg is. From my experience, there is no set way to have a ddlg relationship. There's not some criteria or standards that you have to meet. As long as you're both consenting adults, it can be whatever you want it to be. Every ddlg relationship is different with a dynamic that suits them. And perhaps before progressing to a ddlg relationship, discuss it with your partner. Figure out what you both want from this relationship so you can both benefit from it! I hope that's helped, and good luck!  

[matchatealatte]

Agree on the aspects you both would be comfortable doing together. come up with activities and games and names for one another as a start. 

it'll take some warming up. but if you don't like it, tell him. he should respect you. 

[pacikiss]

you define ddlg on what you want. just calling him daddy in bed and obeying him could be ddlg, could not be ddlg.

that's the special thing about littlespace. it's unique to you, and you only.

[Maeve]

To be clear, you don't have to have rules to be a little. This makes me wonder if maybe he's wanting to do more power-play stuff with you, since you mentioned him wanting you to obey him in bed. So maybe look into some domination/submission type of stuff and ask if that's what he's interested in? I'm into power-play stuff, but it's separate from the DD/lg stuff for me personally. My little side is really just part of my personality - the softer, sweeter, more vulnerable and playful side. Maybe the two of you can talk about what being a Daddy and little looks like to both of you and see if you both come up with similar ideas. Hopefully just by talking about it you'll both have a better understanding of what you both want out of the DD/lg relationship dynamic. Good luck!