How to explain to my Caregiver HOW to be a caregiver?

[mushbunny]

I have a partner who is willing to be my caregiver secondary to also being my boyfriend. However, he is very confused about what exactly he needs to do when i'm in little space, although ive told him what would help and even sent him many guides made by me and others >.<

I can't imagine what else I could say to help him understand, and at this point the stress of explaining it to him and him pulling me out of little space accidentally is making me have an overall bad feeling when I feel myself regressing.

What should I do, I can't give up on him because he is the person I love, but I also don't want to give up on my regression. 

Please help!! If theres any advice, or any way to help him understand better, or anything I may be doing wrong plllllease helps.

[Little kaiya]

As sad as it is sometimes partners may want to be a caregiver but it just isn't a natural fit for them and no matter how many guides they may read it won't change that reality.

 

If regressing is really important to you and you find he is pulling you out of that headspace you may not to try regressing on your own without him ro meet that need.

 

I wouldn't suggest giving up on him but you may need to temper your expectations or your timeline for him to get to the space you want him to be at as your caregiver. DDlg relationships are the same as any other and takes a lot of two way communication. Telling him what you want and giving him guides is PART if that conversation but the other side is looking at how HE feels, what HE wants, HIS comfort level, etc. It's nice that he wants to be your caregiver but he may need more time to get there so patience on your part is also important. Trying to rush him or saying, "well, I've given you guides" probably isn't going to get him comfortable any faster.

 

Little kaiya

[Alaskan Daddy]

If he is truly willing to be your caregiver then I would do things in baby steps. Make a list of things you want him to do

and physically show him how to do each of them one at a time step by step. It is possible that by physically doing those

things with you he may understand what you are experiencing and it may come more natural to him. In my opinion the most

important thing you need to be is very gentle and patient if you are to teach him. I hope this helps and good luck

[Guest mjducky]

for me small steps would be the way to go !! introduce it to him slowly and see if he enjoys the role and is good at it.

it may be very new concept for him and even if he is willing, he might need some time to get used to it and learn how to do it !!

 

communication is key as well. maybe a long talk about what you both want in the cgl aspect will help a lot ❤

[mushbunny]

Thanks you guys <3 Last night we talked about it for a few hours, and he explained that he feels hesitant to try some things because it makes him feel kinda embarrassed if it doesn't go well. We both decided that we should take it slowly since we aren't running out of time together. Thanks for the help, I kept it in mind when talking to him and I think we were both able to express our feelings on it in a great way!