LDR Little Space

[Guest NonServiam]

Hey all, so my Little and I are doing the long distance thing for now, and I'm trying to figure out ways to help her get into Little space remotely, be it over chat or vocally.  I've found some tips here and there, but not much about long distance Little space.  I was hoping some of you out there might have some ideas.  Pretty new to this lifestyle, and I want to do the best I can for her over this distance until we can figure out her coming here.  Any help would be appreciated!

[D&Daddy]

What you say and how you say it I'd say is very important. You can come up with all the littles activities in the world but if you don't suggest and contribute to them in a way that makes them feel like they're your little it won't be as effective. On the other side you could have the most boring conversation about the weather but if you deliver it the right way it can help your little slip into little space.

 

So using words or objects that your little associates with little space such as asking about their favourite stuffie or you have 'little' words and names for things such as perhaps their colouring books. Then there's your pet names for each other. Such as saying 'Daddy's wondering how you are?' or 'Did my little girl enjoy her show?'. Also 'reminding' them that they're little such as 'You cooked all by yourself? Well done! Such a big girl thing to do for such a little girl.'.

 

Then of course there's the tone. I'd expect there's a few ways of talking that your little has associated with you being in your caregiver role. Such as how you sound when you're being affection, or stern, or playful. Using the right tone even when the words are just normal can have a big effect.

[Guest]

Maybe try to take some time each day for special things you like to do.

 

Reading helps, maybe some cartoons and your favorite cup, or try to set up a spot that's just for your little.

Edited April 1, 2020 by Toodles92

[MysticSand]

For my Little, who's had some bumps accepting his Little side, the main thing for him is that he's comfortable enough to show me that side of him. Through time we've discovered there are things that can be triggering for his Little space such as certain nicknames, speaking to him in a certain way/tone, and doing activities over video call that reinforce the CG/L positions like reading a story. (Just gonna go ahead and plug an earlier post my Little and I did on guided reading....)