Do Caregivers and Daddy Doms ever dislike their littles playing with boy toys?

[little1grl]

When I was a kid I really liked boy toys and now, I still find myself gravitating towards some of them. I like some girl toys too but some boy toys look really cool. I wonder if caregivers don't like that so much...for a little girl to being playing with boy toys?

[Guest Acenya]

I think gendering toys to begin with is a bit odd. Play with whatever makes you happy and don't worry about it!

I highly doubt any proper caregiver would frown at you for playing with something that brings you joy.

[Guest Geektastic Lulu]

I agree with Acenya, gendering toys (and colors, clothes, etc) is a bit odd. I also gravitate towards "boy" things. Daddy was looking at Easter baskets when we went grocery shopping and I noticed him looking at all the pink and he totally missed the basket with stars and spaceships!   We've had this dynamic for many years and a vanilla relationship for nearly twice as long, so he knows my interests very well. But, he still sought after the pink, girly baskets first. 

 

I say all of that to get to the point. Some Daddies may be bothered by it, but most of them will just be so used to society's gender dividing pressures that they reach for the girly stuff on instinct. But, after they learn more about you as an individual little, they will be more than happy to buy you the "boy" toys. For awhile now, my Daddy has this ritual of asking me what toy I want for my Happy Meal, bc he noticed I wouldn't play with a lot of the "girl" toys. 

 

Hope I helped!

Edited April 9, 2020 by Geektastic Lulu

[Vampiress]

Acenya and Lulu are so right. Toys don't need to be gendered, and maybe your Daddy will assume to reach for the girly toys but don't be afraid to go for what you want. Toys are meant to be fun, no one should have to worry about feeling bad for wanting a certain toy or feeling pressured into something else. Also, your Daddy should accept you as you are and liking the "boy" toys isn't harmful to anyone -- not you, and not them. If they have an issue with it should be one of those negotiated things in your relationship, not anything forced.

 

And on another note, I see a lot of topics asking about if Daddies like this or that thing... Daddies/Mommies/Caregivers are too diverse to generalize them.

[Little kaiya]

Well, seeing as I'm genderfluid, male/female, my Daddy is used to buying me whatever I'm interested in. I also do a lit of educational work with my employer and colleagues about gender diversity so my Daddy knows I don't buy into the concept of gendering toys, clothing, interests, etc.

 

Honestly, a Daddy should be more interested in supporting their little than getting bogged down with antiquated social stereotypes like "girl toys" and "boy toys".

[SmolAetherr]

some daddies might be bothered about it, honestly some people have a certain fantasy or ideal little they want to pursue and that is fine, everyone is allowed to have a preferance

 

this isnt really an easy question to even attempt to answer because of what Batgirl said

caregivers are just as diverse as little's and shouldnt be generalised there is no rulebook for this stuff, only what the individual wants and needs

 

if you like boy toys then look for a daddy who doesent mind, just remember if they dont want a little that plays with boy toys its not a problem with them or with you its all about compatibility

Edited April 10, 2020 by Aetherr

[LittleTeacup]

What even is "girl toys" and "boy toys"? Girls play with dolls, and boys play with action figures. Pink is for girls and blue is for boys (except that before the 1930s it was accepted that pink was for boys and blue was for girls - no kidding it was actually the opposite).

 

As a kid I liked animal stuffies, plastic dinosaurs, and books. I had jump ropes but preferred to tie them to things or pretend they were lassoes. I used my brother's big plastic dump truck as a "terrarium" I'd fill with dirt and bugs. Heck, me and my younger brother often played together with both of our toys. Sometimes he'd ask me to get my Barbies out because he wanted to play with Ken driving a toy car. (Also our favorite game was the gender neutral throwing our underwear on the ceiling fan and then turning it on and watching our underwear fly around )

 

I'd imagine most caregivers wouldn't have a problem with which toys you like most. Some might have a fantasy of playing with girly toys with their little or have a strict gender roles ideal, but it's not odd or rare for little girls to like toys marketed mostly towards boys. There's a caregiver out there for you!

[LittlePupRune]

Well I’m a little boy so I hope my Sir wouldn’t care. But I agree with the previous, toys aren’t really gendered (at least shouldn’t be). If there’s pressure to be a certain way it’s not good or healthy.

[MysticSand]

As a female CG to a male Little, I often encourage and introduce traditionally female things to him. For him, it's been a long process to accept his Little side (and is still working on it at times) because being male and Little don't follow gender norms and he has people in his life who are very against his Little side. So, in trying to nurture his Little self and dispel broader societal gender norms, I encourage him to try on my skirts and dresses, to cry when he's upset or frustrated, and to wear or do what's comfortable for him.

 

I think it might be a personality fit or match as well. I imagine some may be looking for female Littles that are in to princesses and the like, and that may just be a preference thing (similar to how one might prefer someone with brown hair) but I would hope such preferences would be sorted out in the beginning and wouldn't lead to CG/L titles or if it did, that it wouldn't be a big deal if the female Little liked both princesses AND transformers. Or just transformers. Especially if the CG themselves like transformers.... that'd just be a silly expectation to have for someone else. 

[Guest Minister Judas]

I was kind of always opposed to the idea of gender assigning what toys little ones play with. As far as I'm concerned, I only care that my little is happy with what they are playing with.

[Drillbit46]

As a caregiver, I have never cared what toys, colors, or things my little enjoys. A little I had years ago was a major 'tomboy' you could say. She did a lot of things most would label as 'boy stuff' but I never thought twice about it. Seeing that big smile on her face when she was playing or doing it made it all the more worth it. In big space she is a hunter and a lot of people label that as a boy thing too. But I loved the fact she was so independent and was never afraid to get down and dirty (in the SFW way) by doing things like hunting, fishing, work on vehicles, or remodeling around her home. In little space she would flow between 'boyish' things and games and 'girlish' things and games. Same with her color choices.

 

Sorry, I tend to rant on and type short novels! Basically, I can't see why any CG would have an issue with what kind of toys, games, colors, etc. you enjoy. If it makes you happy, please, never give it up or change for someone else. Be you, always be you!

[Guest ♥️ Hayden Babygirl♥️]

Daddy here, as long as my little one is safe and happy that's all that matters.