Mother's Day & Father's Day?

[Vampiress]

Considering it's Mother's Day today, at least it is here in the USA, it got me wondering how the DD/lg community feels about these holidays.

 

I'm on the fence because traditionally this is a holiday specific to parents with children, and DD/lg is not a family thing between parent and child. However, I can see the appeal of celebrating with one's Caregiver.

 

Do you celebrate it as a Caregiver or little? I wonder if it'd be better for the DD/lg community to choose our own Caregiver appreciation day/holiday since Caregivers aren't all strictly Mommy/Daddy/male/female?

[LittleTeacup]

I don't have any caregiver, but if I did these holidays would still be for my actual parents, since they gave birth to me and raised me. But at the same time, there will come a day when I don't live with them and maybe won't be close enough to reasonably spend the whole day with them. Perhaps I would send my parents a card, call on the phone, or send a gift, and then also do something cute with my caregiver. Or maybe I won't. It's hard to know what kind of a cg/l relationship I'd have and if it'd make sense.

 

I have good relations with both my mom and dad, but also some littles don't. Some are missing a parent entirely or were abused and don't want to acknowledge that parent. Their caregiver might be their primary parental figure and it makes sense to celebrate the holiday with them, especially for those that regress. Some people already have more than one person they celebrate the holidays with, for example a birth mother and adoptive mother.

 

And people can celebrate whichever way feels right to them. The common way of celebrating Mother's Day is already so different from how it originated - as a call for women to protest having their sons engaged in war. (The woman, Julia Ward Howe, was a suffragette and abolitionist.) The history's actually pretty interesting. It later got turned into a commercial holiday.

[Alaskan Daddy]

Those are some very good thoughts. For me as a daddy I always celebrate the date I became a daddy to my little. I will do weekly. monthly, and yearly anniversaries. That is my way to celebrate the day I became her daddy.

[Vampiress]

That's some good thoughts on it, Teacup. I'm not sure if I could because in my head it's so tied to being a holiday with one's parents, and even though my relationship with my parents is non-existent I'd rather just not celebrate it I guess.

 

Aw, that's really sweet Alaskan. That definitely feels a lot more personal and meaningful to celebrate the day you became their Daddy instead of a public holiday.

 

Thanks for your input guys!