Transgender/Enby Littles and Gender Dys- and Euphoria

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

Hey guys!

 

I'm a transman and I was wondering how many of my fellow trans and enby littles shared similar experiences.

 

When I'm in "big space" I like things that one might consider more feminine - pastels, makeup, etc. But little me likes much more traditionally masculine things, camouflage, primary colors (mostly when I'm on the younger side), livestock animals, and roughhousing.

 

Does anyone else experience gender in a different way when they're little? If you're a cis little, does something similar happen to you as well?

 

<3 Dani

[CodeName: Trouble]

Hiya Dani! I was kind of shy to respond to this post, but Imma put on a brave face and do it! I identify as Genderfluid or agender, thou thats not something I have really openly said much other than to close friends    I'm just beginning to reach out about it and be a little more confident in these terms - and boy is it scary! Outside of little space, or in my normal adultish mindset, I am, and have always been, violently apposed to feminine clothing of almost any kind. I can't stand dresses and makeup because it feels like I'm wearing someone elses skin if that makes sence and makes me absolutely miserable   being called a princess is completely devastating on a bad day.  Thou I do still enjoy cute things - sometimes I want to wear cute cloths, but I can't bring myself to. as long as I'm not wearing them they can't be used to label me... if that makes sence? I hope over time this is something I can learn to cope with better because....

 

Little me LOVES cute things. Not necessarily 'girly' things, but cute things definetly. Little me doesnt care whats for girls or whats for boys, I like what I like and I'm okay with wearing my skirt because I like that its blue and has cats NOT because its a skirt, Spiderman sunglasses and boyish shirts or prints not because i want to look masculine but because who doesnt love dinos and dumptrucks?! - as long as no one tries to put me in a box I'm happy. In my little space, gender doesnt matter and I'm not overthinking my presentation. I'm focused on being me.

 

Big me has allot to learn when it comes to accepting myself, but I'm happy to have my little side there to help me build some confidence. cloths dont define me and as long as I'm happy, everything's okay.   My little space has done more for me in this regard than 6 years of counseling and LGBTQ support groups that I mostly just stayed silent at.. 

[Little kaiya]

I'm genderfluid, man/woman or boy/girl, and my gender can fluctuate quite wildly within the same day, multiple times or it can stay the same for a few days on end (rarely).

 

As my gender fluctuates frequently as an adult it also does the same as a little. I don't tend to focus on it much and neither does my Wife or my Daddy. We just take it one instance at a time.

Edited September 12, 2020 by Little kaiya

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

Hiya Dani! I was kind of shy to respond to this post, but Imma put on a brave face and do it! I identify as Genderfluid or agender, thou thats not something I have really openly said much other than to close friends    I'm just beginning to reach out about it and be a little more confident in these terms - and boy is it scary! Outside of little space, or in my normal adultish mindset, I am, and have always been, violently apposed to feminine clothing of almost any kind. I can't stand dresses and makeup because it feels like I'm wearing someone elses skin if that makes sence and makes me absolutely miserable   being called a princess is completely devastating on a bad day.  Thou I do still enjoy cute things - sometimes I want to wear cute cloths, but I can't bring myself to. as long as I'm not wearing them they can't be used to label me... if that makes sence? I hope over time this is something I can learn to cope with better because....

 

Little me LOVES cute things. Not necessarily 'girly' things, but cute things definetly. Little me doesnt care whats for girls or whats for boys, I like what I like and I'm okay with wearing my skirt because I like that its blue and has cats NOT because its a skirt, Spiderman sunglasses and boyish shirts or prints not because i want to look masculine but because who doesnt love dinos and dumptrucks?! - as long as no one tries to put me in a box I'm happy. In my little space, gender doesnt matter and I'm not overthinking my presentation. I'm focused on being me.

 

Big me has allot to learn when it comes to accepting myself, but I'm happy to have my little side there to help me build some confidence. cloths dont define me and as long as I'm happy, everything's okay.   My little space has done more for me in this regard than 6 years of counseling and LGBTQ support groups that I mostly just stayed silent at.. 

 

Thanks for sharing this, Trouble! I'm proud of you. Agender and nonbinary people don't get a lot of exposure, and I bet seeing your post will make others feel more comfortable to share as well! What are your pronouns, if I can ask?

 

I think that's great that those gender roles don't weigh you down in little space. I feel much of the same way, that I just like the things that I like and that they don't have to fit into norms or aesthetics. Little space can be really therapeutic and a way to explore yourself.

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

I'm genderfluid, man/woman or boy/girl, and my gender can fluctuate quite wildly within the same day, multiple times or it can stay the same for a few days on end (rarely).

 

As my gender fluctuates frequently as an adult it also does the same as a little. I don't tend to focus on it much and neither dies my Wife or my Daddy. We just take it one instance at a time.

 

Heya Kaiya,

 

That's really interesting! I'm glad you have people in your life that are supportive. I know it can be hard without them. Thank you for sharing!

[Little kaiya]

I admit I'm actually quite lucky in that respect. My boss and colleagues are very supportive and respectful and I'm also one of the co-cairs of our Pride network at work so do a lot of policy, program and learning reviews about gender diversity.

[Bearly]

I am nonbinary and have tried to avoid feminine things in general since I was a kid, despite liking some girly toys like MLP. But I've been experimenting being little recently and was given a pink shortall so that's become a staple for my little attire, and I've felt myself feel cute in it. When I'm big, as a caretaker I'm a boy plushie.

[LittlePupRune]

I'm a transmasc genderqueer boy. I don't really experience gender all that differently when I'm a little, honestly at most it makes me more masc. Currently I'm on the masc/androgynous side of presentation, while little me is def a little more focused on the masc (because so many kids things are super gender divided) but not to the hyper masculine end of things. Its a lot of cute dinos and animals and being small and comfy.

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

I'm a transmasc genderqueer boy. I don't really experience gender all that differently when I'm a little, honestly at most it makes me more masc. Currently I'm on the masc/androgynous side of presentation, while little me is def a little more focused on the masc (because so many kids things are super gender divided) but not to the hyper masculine end of things. Its a lot of cute dinos and animals and being small and comfy.

 

I'm the same way! I'm not hyper masculine, but I prefer more masculine gendered things like camouflage, farm animals, etc. It doesn't match up very much with my "normal" presentation.

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

I am nonbinary and have tried to avoid feminine things in general since I was a kid, despite liking some girly toys like MLP. But I've been experimenting being little recently and was given a pink shortall so that's become a staple for my little attire, and I've felt myself feel cute in it. When I'm big, as a caretaker I'm a boy plushie.

 

 I've always wanted a pair of shortalls, I bet they're adorable! I'm so glad to see so many nonbinary littles respond to this! <3

[CodeName: Trouble]

Thanks for sharing this, Trouble! I'm proud of you. Agender and nonbinary people don't get a lot of exposure, and I bet seeing your post will make others feel more comfortable to share as well! What are your pronouns, if I can ask?

 

I think that's great that those gender roles don't weigh you down in little space. I feel much of the same way, that I just like the things that I like and that they don't have to fit into norms or aesthetics. Little space can be really therapeutic and a way to explore yourself.

Pronouns.... If only I knew.   But thank you so much for asking, that really made my day. I do go by he/she pretty interchangeably. I dont really correct people one way or another unless its necessary for some reason that they know I have periods - but I do prefer male titles. Actor over actress, king over queen etc. Some Agender peeps like to go by they/them but I have not formally decided on anything because for now labels are scary, especially when you dont really fit in with them. Anything works as long as its respectful..  But your question made me feel valid and respected, so thank you. Thank you a thousand billion times. 

 

I admit I'm actually quite lucky in that respect. My boss and colleagues are very supportive and respectful and I'm also one of the co-cairs of our Pride network at work so do a lot of policy, program and learning reviews about gender diversity.

Thats really cool Kaiya!! I'm so happy that you have such a good support network from relationships and at work   its awesome that your work has something like that in place. 

 

I'm happy to see so many  nonbinary people here   allot of the time, I feel very alone  I've only spoken in depth about this with a few friends and my therapist... and I guess some with you peeps now to! Yay self confidence! and yay for little space! 

[Kitten&Spice]

I myself am a trans little boy! I have found that I tend to enjoy bright vibrant pastel colors when I am in little space! Which is opposite from my darker and more androgynous style on a daily basis! I also find that in my little space I tend to be drawn to cutesy type girly things! So thigh high socks, cute little skirts, big fluffy clothing! You could say I am more feminine in my little space!

 

It’s cool to know that I am not the only one!

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

I myself am a trans little boy! I have found that I tend to enjoy bright vibrant pastel colors when I am in little space! Which is opposite from my darker and more androgynous style on a daily basis! I also find that in my little space I tend to be drawn to cutesy type girly things! So thigh high socks, cute little skirts, big fluffy clothing! You could say I am more feminine in my little space!

 

It’s cool to know that I am not the only one!

 

That's super interesting! 

 

Littlespace seems to be a good outlet for us trans and nonbinary folks to relax and wiggle loose from societal standards. I love seeing people who are alt or dark styled who go full pastel in littlespace!! It's so fun.

 

I wonder if any Bigs experience something similar in Dom space?

[pretty.little.catboy]

Hey! I’m a trans guy as well ^^ I’m fairly fem as it is, though I like masc stuff as well in big mode, and primarily try to present as masc while I’m big with the occasional dress if my dysphoria will allow it. But when I’m in little space, I go full fem, and just want my cg to dress me up however they want. I tend to dislike “boy” toys and concepts when I’m in little space as well. Another thing that I’ve noticed is that the level of effort/time that it takes to get into little space depends on how bad my dysphoria is at that moment, when I’m more dysphoric it’s easier for me to get into little space because I feel like I pass more as a “boy” than as a “man”, probably because I’m pre-everything and not even out to family yet, and most likely will never be able to come out to my family. Ooookay I’m probably rambling lol sorry but I hope this helped )

[Guest fhihfidhfd38478]

Hey! I’m a trans guy as well ^^ I’m fairly fem as it is, though I like masc stuff as well in big mode, and primarily try to present as masc while I’m big with the occasional dress if my dysphoria will allow it. But when I’m in little space, I go full fem, and just want my cg to dress me up however they want. I tend to dislike “boy” toys and concepts when I’m in little space as well. Another thing that I’ve noticed is that the level of effort/time that it takes to get into little space depends on how bad my dysphoria is at that moment, when I’m more dysphoric it’s easier for me to get into little space because I feel like I pass more as a “boy” than as a “man”, probably because I’m pre-everything and not even out to family yet, and most likely will never be able to come out to my family. Ooookay I’m probably rambling lol sorry but I hope this helped )

Hey! Thanks for your post. We have pretty similar experiences. I present as fairly fem, honestly, but more from the makeup and accessories than dresses. I haven't owned a skirt in yeaaarrsss.

 

I'm also pre-everything, and while I'm out to my family, the support is really meh. My dysphoria is really alleviated by my littlespace, too! Though I don't know that I've ever actively tried to get into that space while experiencing a lot of dysphoria... I still have a lot of little performance anxiety, honestly.

 

I actually realized I was little waaaay before I realized I was trans, and that "boy" space that I went (and still do) go into was one of the first "duh" moments I had regarding my gender.

 

Thanks so much for your response -- and welcome to the forums!

Edited September 25, 2020 by yesdanithemani

[LittleRopeBunBun21]

Hi im nonbinary! I go by they\them pronouns and find myself to be either masculine or kind of an in between gender vibe. i dont even like pink lol, but in little pet space im OBSESSED with pastel pink. Im obsessed with cute girly things and even clothes. a real 180 of my usual personality lol but i love it and so does my daddy 😁🥰