Just looking for some validation

[RainDoeSprinkles]

Here's the good news: I found a beautiful baby mobile online that is exactly like the one I had when I was a baby! Oooh! I am so delighted! It brings back such sweet memories and I can't wait to put it up in my room!

Here is the disappointing news: I told my best friend, (who has a lot of little like qualities), and she reacted as if I had just told her I was going to smear my walls with rotten eggs. "What are you going to do with it?!" She asked. "Look at it!" I said. "It's so pretty and it makes me happy!"

I just don't get it! Why does this seem so weird to others? Why such a strong reaction? It seems lovely to me! Anyway, I love my friend and her lack of understanding just left me feeling sad and confused.

[Lollipox]

Nvm. Edited November 14, 2020 by Pøx

[Alaskan Daddy]

your friend pronounced judgement on you without knowing who you are inside your heart. The strong feelings she gave to you was her judgement she pronounced on you without trying to understand what the feelings the mobile gave you. The world is full of people like her.  You don't need to be a little to have something from your childhood to give you comfort and happiness. I know you are disappointed how your friend reacted and she hurt your feelings. Try to stand up for yourself in a kind gentle manner and try to see if you can let her understand the feelings of comfort and joy the mobile gives you. Even as a 63yo man there are still things I have from my childhood that gives me comfort and joy. I hope my words can help you get pass this

[LittleTeacup]

Sprinkles, everything is all right with you. Your friend seemed to be a bit harsh, but perhaps she didn't mean to be that way. Maybe she was having a bad day or maybe she just thought it was strange and reacted impulsively. Remember that how people react is more about them than it is about you.

 

Also if your friend has little like qualities, maybe she's self conscious about being that way and that's why she reacted harshly. If she hasn't accepted that part of her personality as normal she may lash out when confronted with her friend (or anyone) freely expressing what she feels she cannot.

 

Obviously you know your friend more than I do, but it most likely wasn't personal. We all accept you here and there's nothing wrong with wanting something that reminds you of comforting childhood times. Perhaps either let this incident go and forgive and forget, or bring it up with your friend calmly in a few days and explain that what she said made you feel bad and you just want her to know so she understands you a bit better.

[maddycakes]

I'm so sorry to hear that I think she was probably just reacting because it's a very different thing than she is used to. Anytime people are confronted with something super new/different from what they know and expect they tend to have a negative reaction, but I suspect that once the idea settles into her mind that you just like the way it looks she will come around and apologize to you/understand where you are coming from. <3 

[RainDoeSprinkles]

Aww! Thanks so much, everybody!  Each of you has said something that really resonates and helps me.  Teacup, I think you are right!  Thank you for telling me that everything is alright with me.  That is very comforting.  I am so glad we have this communtiy so we don't feel alone!  I am really thankful to have a place I can go to feel understood and affirmed!  Big hugs to everybody!!

[MellyCat]

Sometimes people act this way about my AG doll collection (irregardless of the amount of adult collectors) they make me happy and are aiding my mental health and anxiety. You do whatever it is you need to do to make you happy if your friend doesnt care about your feelings then she really isnt in your corner.

[Diary of Rosie]

Social conventions are often strange and not based on much thought. I wouldn't take it to heart if I were you, but I understand feeling hurt.