A Place For Littles Who Are New To Being A Little

[Lil_LilybelleWolf5585]

I've Been A Little For 3 Years Now So If Anyone Wants To Talk Or Are Feeling Judged I'm Here And This Forum Is For Littles To Talk And Get Advice From People Who Have Been Littles For Years

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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Hi, Midnight! I've been little for about six years now, I have some friends who are little as well and a lot of my friends are aware too. It's a pretty casual thing, I think? Most people just assume you're a type of sub and don't look too deeply into the dynamics.

 

 

Hey good thread I am new and so far the only person in RL who knows about me being little is my Daddy. Do you have little friends in RL? What's your top advice for someone starting out? I have been in denial about being little for years and only just trying to embrace that side.

Hey, Bun! I think the best thing you can do is try to determine what makes you feel little, and do those things more to get into the headspace. Does your Daddy play/interact with you much? How did you come to the conclusion that you're little, and does it make you happy? I hope you're not dealing with any feelings of shame about it, but if you ever do, I'm here for you to talk to!

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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Hello! (I'm sorry I can't read what your name would be in english. Jeez that's embarassing.)

Interesting what you say about your friends just assuming you are a sub of some kind. I guess my friends are very vanilla! I only have one friend who I know is a Dom that knows I am a sub because he sometimes accidentally on purpose puts me in that mindset *blush*

 

I have been doing much better recently at being in littlespace as a happy/sexy space (I used to just slip in when I was anxious or scared)

My partner is long term but new at being a Daddy so he's also finding his way. We love it though.

Some of my favourite things are having him brush my hair, making art with him, playing in my muddy garden, cozying up for movies and bedtime. We are also planning littlespace playdates to thýe zoo etc. I am lucky because he spoils me and looks after me and teaches me things and keeps me safe.

 

I have always had a little side (there's a middle too but he doesn't come out so much since therapy, and he doesn't say much on the forum) but when I decided to embrace it instead of fight it felt better. I feel less dissociative,more like myself. It does make me happy, incredibly so.

 

I suppose I sometimes have shame because what if someone found out? And they don't understand and judge me. When I am home or with me and Daddy it feels so natural, I don't want it to be wrong. I know he has shame too, because we did a lot of talking it out so that he understood I want this as much as he does, and get a lot out of it and I don't think he has anything to be ashamed about - it's no one else's business about our private life. Easier to say that to him than feel it truly myself haha!

 

Sorry for the rambling. Any tips?

Hello again, Bun! It's okay, you can call me Usagi! Looks like we're both rabbits~

 

Firstly, never be ashamed!

 

I get that being little is kind of weird... to people who aren't little. I can't tell you how many times I've had friends over and they've seen my stuffed animals or collars or kids' toys; it's a part of me that I don't really bother to hide, and the people closest to you will come to understand that it's just a part of your life. If someone WAS to find out you were little, what would really be so bad about it? They'd find out that you have a man who's really special to you and takes care of you? That you get a safe space in your life to forget your traumas and fears for a while and just be free? That you're happy?

 

The people that would judge you probably have their own closets full of weird kinky garbage; ours is just a lot more visual than theirs, so it takes less effort to mock. Don't worry about those people, and keep doing what you're doing! I'm really glad to hear your daddy is so sweet and doting on you, that's exactly what I like to see! ♡

 

My advice to you is to think less about all of it, honestly. If the rhythm of your life is good and being little helps and support you in living it, you have nothing to worry about. If you're interested, try seeing if there are any munches near you (they're like meetups!) for littles! It might help your daddy to also know that there are other men out there who share a knack for caregiving, and he'll probably feel less unsure about it as he gets to learning more.

 

DDLG relationships are also really varied, so don't go thinking there's one certain way to have a "real" or "better" DDLG dynamic.

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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[Lil_LilybelleWolf5585]

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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[Lil_LilybelleWolf5585]

Yea Bun It Is Interesting I Take Care Of My Daddy's Little When I'm a Dom He's 8 In Little Age Whilst My Little Is 2 I Sometimes Regress When Around Other Littles Also I'll Accept The Friend Request

[Lil_LilybelleWolf5585]

I will send you a f/r LilWolf! I always like new friends. No one except my Daddy knows in RL that I am little, except one friend who knows I am a sub hut not the little part. I am clingy too, don't worry. I'm sorry you have had past abuse (me too) With work and time littlespace because less of a coping mechanism and more of a choice so that's good.

I do tend to slip into littlespace unintentionally if someone around me is being "Masterish" (the friend I mentioned earlier does this sometimes for fun) or sometimes if I am anxious and frightened. Which isn't helpful at all because it makes me MORE small and scared.

Ny littlespace at home or with Daddy is totally different though, 100% safe.

I didn't realise you were a switch lilWolf - that must be interesting?

. Can I Call You Lizzie Since Your Name Is Elizabeth Also You Can Call Me Lily That's My Littles Name And You Haven't Sent The Friend Request Back Yet

[Kittykat83]

Hi everyone (huge waves). I've only really been on here since the beginning of the year. I'm more little I think in stuff I do and the way I act or slip into little. I don't do as much 'little' stuff. I don't seem to get chance. I like crafting and sometimes draw, but that just a normal occurance. That's just me. I do like to dress up in my romper and paci though with my blankie and Jemima, if I feel I want to slip myself intentionally into a little mindset. So I guess there is that, but I don't seem to do many 'little' activities. I must admit when I see daddy I tend to get preoccupied as well, but when we watch a movie, I'm laying on his lap, he's is stroking my hair and Im sucking on my pacifier he can soon have me dozing. What I'm trying to say is I think my little slips seemlessly in and out of my every day. Does that happen to anyone else or is it more regimented, more separate. I don't know if I'm explaining this right.

[Lil_LilybelleWolf5585]

Hi everyone (huge waves). I've only really been on here since the beginning of the year. I'm more little I think in stuff I do and the way I act or slip into little. I don't do as much 'little' stuff. I don't seem to get chance. I like crafting and sometimes draw, but that just a normal occurance. That's just me. I do like to dress up in my romper and paci though with my blankie and Jemima, if I feel I want to slip myself intentionally into a little mindset. So I guess there is that, but I don't seem to do many 'little' activities. I must admit when I see daddy I tend to get preoccupied as well, but when we watch a movie, I'm laying on his lap, he's is stroking my hair and Im sucking on my pacifier he can soon have me dozing. What I'm trying to say is I think my little slips seemlessly in and out of my every day. Does that happen to anyone else or is it more regimented, more separate. I don't know if I'm explaining this right.

you're not the only one I do this too my little comes out mostly though when I'm upset or scared or sometimes even just when I'm tired I sometimes slip into little space just for no reason if you want to be friends just send me a friend request

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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[Kittykat83]

you're not the only one I do this too my little comes out mostly though when I'm upset or scared or sometimes even just when I'm tired I sometimes slip into little space just for no reason if you want to be friends just send me a friend request

Oh, thank you! That's really kind.

I'll send you a friend request. Glad to hear you too can slip in and slip out. For me I have more little chare acter traits that are just part of me, but can slip in and out of little mindset too. It's quite frustrating at times. Hope you have a good Friday, I'm porrly sick so am currently nursing a hot milk with honey while dipping in and out of watching winnie the pooh.

[Babeey_Girl3]

Hey,

 

Reading the messages on this thread/page has really helped me feel less alone. I am really struggling to accept my little side. Most times it’s a coping mechanism I feel like. At times I can go into it when watching my fav old shows or movies. My ages vary, with the age I regress to when Distressed being very young/ infant to young toddler like.

 

I work with kids, so at times I’m worried someone would find out and I wouldn’t be able to work with kids ever again.

 

I think it’s amazing that those with more experience are willing to welcome and help others.

[Lyt]

[Mischa]

Hi everyone. I am so happy I found this site and this topic! I am new to being a little. When I found it I realized I found the answer to who and how I have always been. I just haven’t understood it and have always felt like I am odd. I don’t know anyone else like me. My Daddy told me I should try and find someone to talk to who is a little to so that I know I’m not alone. I feel some shame and fear in it. When I am sad or in need of attention and I feel alone I definitely go into little space. I have kind of been stuck in it for days now and I just don’t know how to pull myself out of it. I see how this is a complete coping mechanism. Reading everyone’s posts and comments has helped me so much. Thank you all!

[Guest LittleElizabethBun]

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[SmallSpookyBaby]

I hope I can get in my little side n I wish to know my little age also.

Eeeeeeelpppp

You don't need a little age to participate, no need to put yourself in a box. Just find what makes you happy. I suggest just trying to bring out your inner child, coloring, watching cartoons, dressing up, cuddling a stuffed animal, putting your food on a cute plate, etc. There's so many things you can do to channel your inner little, just do what feels fun. 

[Lovcly]

Helloooo to everyone! Reading here has brought some comfort as so much of what I've seen are from experienced littles! It's nice to read things from people who are/were new to this too.

I started to find out about this side of me only about a year ago, but always pushed it aside and denied it's existence that's made it more difficult to understand it :(( 

Of course I love the advice and experiences I've read from littles who know more about it, but I am still not completely sure about myself :(( I haven't had experiences with a caregiver really, although I'd love to have one someday.. 

Because I'm new to wanting to explore this side of me, I am a bit self conscious of what I'd love someday from my caregiver, it feels a bit selfish, though I'm sure that's just in my mind, at least mostly 😅 

I'm not little most of the time, big girl stuff occupies so much of my day though the idea of someone giving some guidence and company when it feels overwhelming sounds like a dream come true. 

Anyway, I'm rambling a lot!! I'm sorry ^-^' I just wanted to ask, how can someone know that this is something right for them? Everything I've heard and read about is so wonderful and something I've craved, but because I don't think I'm little very often, how can I be more sure that a caregiver is something I'd want if I think I'd want a mix of friendship/companionship and a caregiver? 🥺 Ig a more vanilla type of caregiver? I don't know.. 

It's difficult to explain, but if you have any questions of what I'm trying to say, I'll be happy to answer! And thank you to any responses!