Woes

[Shinigami]

So I'm not normally one to talk about my feelings but I'm having a rough time currently

 My 30th was on the 18 and I had a week long trip planned out to celebrate. It was gonna be the first time I did anything for my birthday, being on my own since 13 I can't really remember a time I didn't get my own gifts, celebrate by myself or coping with someone's house party. Now I'm a dad of three, and it's great and all. But with all of the responsibility in my life, I've never had a break. I was really banking on the trip to do something for my mental health as after moving to a new state, I've been pretty depressed.

 How do you all cope when things go the complete wrong way?

[Shinigami]

Sorry for the spacing, something seems to be broken on mobile

[Guest NaturalFlowerBaby]

why on trip?

If it makes you feel any better, I don't really have birthdays either. especially since my mom left for a new family so many years ago. 

Getting away and changing the scenery and having something to look forward to is good for mental health tho. Did the trip get cancelled? You don't need a birthday to make a trip   can you reschedule?

[Shinigami]

As the person who was supposed to watch my kids backed out it wasn't really an option to reschedule, time off of work was already taken. Tickets paid for. With just no way to make the trip. I don't do much but work and take care of my kids. I'm a remote worker and a stay at home father. My oldest is 12 so I've had no time to be me... not to mention my little has been feeling neglected due to her work schedule as well as my lack motivation 

[MissNMTX]

I noticed on your profile that you live in Wasn't state. Could some of this be SAD? If so, easily improved with some vitamins and light therapy.

I'll agree with the others that a trip doesn't have to be connected to your birthday. I'm the oddball on the forum for loving my birthday. I am sorry as it seems your trip just fell apart.

Self care is so important. Something as simple as a drive with the radio cranked up could help. Exercise is another healthy options. Try to think of something that can become a healthy habit. This doesn't sound super masculine, but maybe journaling? It sounds as though you don't have a lot of space to just vent in your life.

[Guest Cebakes]

That’s terrible about your vacation.  I am a single parent of four kids. They are now 30+, but there was a time when it was overwhelming and women would not date me because I was raising four young kids on my own.    It was exhausting.  Things will get better, but you do need to make sure you take time for self care and make sure you do have time to do things for yourself.  Are you able to get out and date? 

Edited February 24, 2023 by Cebakes

[beanbean]

Yeah mean I get it sometimes everything seem hard .but at least you have the three kids so your never truly alone and you are loved by them .I struggle with my birthday too .I guess keep doing what your doing and hopefully you can do a trip down the road sometime