Guest xx-Bear-xx Posted March 22 Report Posted March 22 Hi all, I'm Bear...38 F Essex UK here 😊 I have been in the BDSM community for several years learning and exploring my submissive side. Probably around 2 years ago I started to recognise "little" tendencies and tried to understand them.. It's been an evolving journey coming into my little side and trying to understand my behaviour and mostly accepting who I am or can be... Which i always thought was a submissive with a small little tendency... I'm still very much learning that side of myself because i never really focused on it... being a submissive was more important.... but i have tried to figure out what I like... how I behave in certain settings... what fuels me... what are my flaws... why I am like I am... I struggle to get into littlespace alone and have a hard time (sometimes) enjoying alot of activities unless i am with someone .... so regressing isn't an "easy thing" officially as I don't have that space to fully understand myself... I fluctuate in age ranging.. from a new born who finds comfort in warmed milk in a bottle and dummy... completely dependent on her Daddy to a slightly older little sucking Daddy's thumb.. colouring in and making bracelets and most importantly bed time stories..... a slightly older little who thinks she's independent and can do it all herself but in reality she gets very overwhelmed doing any "adulting" or anixous when trying to stabilise adult behaviour... I haven't had an opportunity to open up into any groups with littles or CG's which would probably would help me settle and understand myself alot more... I just don't know anyone with experience to ask the questions or learn from... Recently I have been struggling with my submissive self in a power exchange dynamic... my little behaviour.. constant need for reassurances... nurturing and inability to be an adult women seems to be causing me alot of inappropriate submissive behaviour... and issues inside my dynamic... Not sure whether anyone had experienced the same thing and has any advise but would really like to be involved in the community and make some friends..
BabyChaos Posted March 23 Report Posted March 23 Hi. I’m an older little/middle and it took me a long time to embrace myself again. It can be hard to find balance between your little self and the adult that you need to be at times. But you are doing great. Small steps and open communication are key to figuring things out. If you ever need a friend I’m always open to talk, as an adult or little to little.
Lunita Posted May 14 Report Posted May 14 On 3/22/2025 at 2:09 PM, Guest xx-Bear-xx said: Hi all, I'm Bear...38 F Essex UK here 😊 I have been in the BDSM community for several years learning and exploring my submissive side. Probably around 2 years ago I started to recognise "little" tendencies and tried to understand them.. It's been an evolving journey coming into my little side and trying to understand my behaviour and mostly accepting who I am or can be... Which i always thought was a submissive with a small little tendency... I'm still very much learning that side of myself because i never really focused on it... being a submissive was more important.... but i have tried to figure out what I like... how I behave in certain settings... what fuels me... what are my flaws... why I am like I am... I struggle to get into littlespace alone and have a hard time (sometimes) enjoying alot of activities unless i am with someone .... so regressing isn't an "easy thing" officially as I don't have that space to fully understand myself... I fluctuate in age ranging.. from a new born who finds comfort in warmed milk in a bottle and dummy... completely dependent on her Daddy to a slightly older little sucking Daddy's thumb.. colouring in and making bracelets and most importantly bed time stories..... a slightly older little who thinks she's independent and can do it all herself but in reality she gets very overwhelmed doing any "adulting" or anixous when trying to stabilise adult behaviour... I haven't had an opportunity to open up into any groups with littles or CG's which would probably would help me settle and understand myself alot more... I just don't know anyone with experience to ask the questions or learn from... Recently I have been struggling with my submissive self in a power exchange dynamic... my little behaviour.. constant need for reassurances... nurturing and inability to be an adult women seems to be causing me alot of inappropriate submissive behaviour... and issues inside my dynamic... Not sure whether anyone had experienced the same thing and has any advise but would really like to be involved in the community and make some friends.. Hi fren🖤 When I first discovered my little side it took some deep looks at myself, and who I truly am. My only advice as a seasoned little is this: Please just be who you need to be. Just be you.🖤I know that's super hard right now, but if you need to be bratty one night, and littlier the next, then do it. Don't hold back what you need. I find it extremely difficult to go completely into little space unless I have a CG. I just don't feel safe unless I know I have a Big person, and that's ok. Lots of us littles feel that way. It's not wrong, it's just how we are. My time as a little has been an evolution since I first entered the Lifestyle. Needs change, life happens. Is your Dominant a CG? Do they want a brat or are they interested in DDlg? It sounds like a big talk with your person might help you both understand how to move forward. I hope that you find what you need here, and feel safe in your journey. 🖤
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