Frustration

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I were reflecting today on something that has us incredibly frustrated. I personally have no real interest in little friends while my Daddy on tge other hand is interested in having some Daddy friends to chat with about things. We're very clear that neither of us are interested in any form of play time outside of our relationship, e.g. My Daddy won't be a Caregiver for anyone else and I have zero interest in anyone but my Daddy doing anything that resembles caregiving for me or in being little with someone else.

With this in mind, my Daddy is clear with these boundaries, especially switches. For whatever reason we seem to get switches who reach out saying they want to connect on a Caregiver to Caregiver level and then BOOM, suddenly they are little and want a Caregiver or they are trying to baby talk to me.

We aren't saying it's all switches but it just seems people are using being a switch as a false and disingenuous cover for reaching out saying they want one thing when really what they wanted was something very different. It has sadly soured us on the whole thing and led us to turning down friendship or connection requests from switches.

Please folks, if couples are clear they don't do play time with others or provide caregiving to others then respect that boundary.

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

A lot of people focus solely on their own needs, but certain behavioral patterns run rampant in ddlg/bdsm. It's very frustrating to watch as various shenanigans happen from the sidelines, but this was one thing I hadn't expected to hear about. I suppose I'm not shocked though, but it's still a shame that only a few can ruin it for everyone else.

Sorry to hear that you're dealing with this. Hopefully, you'll find what you're looking for at some point. But good for you to stick your boundaries and inform others that this sorta thing is happening.

Edited April 21 by .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ

[redruffle41]

Good feedback!!! Folks needs to respect boundaries!!

[Carleigh]

It sounds like you're going through a tough situation, and it's understandable that you're frustrated. Setting clear boundaries is important, and it's crucial for others to respect them. It might help to be as clear as possible in your profiles or initial conversations about your boundaries and expectations. Perhaps try connecting with others in forums or groups specifically geared towards caregivers with similar values, where members agree to those boundaries upfront. Remember, it’s perfectly okay to be selective about whom you engage with to protect your dynamic. Hang in there, and I hope you find like-minded connections!