Embracing middlespace~

[kuuchan]

Hiya everyone, been a while since i've posted anything on here! ^^' How is everyone?? >A< ❤️ 

Idk if i have any particular aim with this post either, i just kinda wanted to share some of my current little feelings~

It's been a year and a half since i discovered little space, and over 6 months since joining this forum! I feel like i've learned so much about not only the DDLG community but being little since joining and it's been such a valuable experience! I've met awesome people through here, and i think getting to know people through a forum like this helped my confidence in reaching out to people more ^w^

Admittedly i haven't really been on here as much, and there's a reason~ I discovered being ABDL during the tail end of last year (is this a taboo subject to bring up here? idk i get that feeling), and i shifted my priority to meeting more people in that space/community. I love the ddlg dynamic, but ngl as an AroAce little that has no interest in dating, i feel like a community tailored specifically to a relationship dynamic isn't for me ahah~ (I'm not planning to leave or anything tho!). I think that's why ABDL has been much more "me" you know! I don't feel pressured to be in any kind of relationship, i can just be my lil self however i want to! 

Also as the title suggests, i've also become more aware and firm on my "little" status! I find that "full time middle, occasional little" is the description that fits me the most! At a certain point, i kinda felt like i was forcing myself to be in a baby mindspace. tho i certainly some times feel very much baby/little, but that really isn't the case always. That's why i've really learned to embrace the middle in me! And it's been the perfect fit honestly! And who says middles can't like diapers and baby things??<3 hehe~ Besides, i've always felt like i stopped maturing after i turned 12 so it just fits you know xD I feel liek middle space as made me much more confident in myself, tho self confidence is still a big struggle for me, but i'm getting there! 

So yeah just a lil updatey thingy i guess ahaha there really was no point to this~ >w< 
Maybe i'll say that if you're a little struggling with your little identity, don't worry! You'll find it! For me it was finding the right people that matched my interests, little things and little feelings ! it was be hard, and i felt discouraged a lot along the way, but just persevere! loneliness is tough but you'll make it<3 And if you feel like you struggle being little just do what feels right to you! I know it's easy getting caught up in the "aesthetic" and the "image" of what being little is about, but to me it's not about looks or aesthetics. It's a feeling! And a strong feeling too. Do what makes you feel like your best little self and don't feel pressured to follow exactly what someone else is doing. because what works for some might not work for you! 

embrace being little just the way you want to ^w^
See you guys around and have a wonderful day! 🥰☀️🌻

[Ashleyoop]

This so much this, this is exactly how I live my life and it's great. 'Full time middle occasional little' hits the nail on the head so much and yeah even as a middle I like paci's and there's nothing wrong with that

Oddly you're right in that somehow embracing being a middle all the time makes me even more confident, even when I have to do 'adult' things I like to pretend I'm sneaking in like the meme of like "they don't know I'm actually 12" xd

Also I'm fairly new here still but I don't really see why abdl would be taboo? Maybe I'm wrong but I don't think you have to worry

You write wonderfully and your positivity is so great ;-;

[PigtailPrincess]

Just wanted to say ABDL is 100% accepted here!!! Just like any delicate part of a kink we ask that you don't go too detailed unless you are in the secret club for all our diaper loving friends.

[kuuchan]

13 minutes ago, Ashleyoop said:

Oddly you're right in that somehow embracing being a middle all the time makes me even more confident, even when I have to do 'adult' things I like to pretend I'm sneaking in like the meme of like "they don't know I'm actually 12" xd

This!! I get that feeling a lot as well haha! And yeah i feel like embracing my middle self has allowed me to reach out to new people more confidently! (and trust me, i'm the shyest, most sociall anxious person evar xD) I do get self-conscious about that tho, but now that i've reached a point where i am sometimes able to jsut be a silly girly who likes to make friends than i am going to hold onto that!! >w<

18 minutes ago, Ashleyoop said:

You write wonderfully and your positivity is so great ;-;

Thank you! I felt like i was rambling, but i'm glad you liked and related to my post! ;w; and littlespace is a positivity space for me personally, it's easiest for me to be in little/middlespace when i'm happy! (tho ngl, i've been struggling with mental health for a few months now, this feels like a breath of fresh air to have a proper middle day lol)

[kuuchan]

13 minutes ago, PigtailPrincess said:

Just wanted to say ABDL is 100% accepted here!!! Just like any delicate part of a kink we ask that you don't go too detailed unless you are in the secret club for all our diaper loving friends.

i guess it's just my autistic brain not understanding why the abdl has to be hidden away? for privacy i totally get it, but like, sex/sexual aspects can be discussed freely on this site right? Not that this site has to cater to abdl, i get that, there are forums for that. It's not an issue for me tho, i have people to talk about abdl related things outside the forum.

[Sicarie]

That was a wonderful share and completely relatable.

When I first learned about this life style, I struggled with it because I couldn't figure out what age I was when little. I felt I needed to know that, but I struggled to get in to little space as I had heard and read it to be. I questioned whether I was even little for a while. It wasn't until I started talking with people and reading here in the community that I got a better grasp of who and how I was. That is why I just say now that my little age varies and that my little space is fluid. I tend to go in and out of little space through out the day. I tend to be more middle, but will be little and can even go non speaking depending on my stress level.

I think that since being little is unique to each person, it's a wonderful thing when you can find and learn where it fits with you.

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

I'm so glad you're doing well at finding yourself! You make an interesting point about always being a middle with occasional smaller needs. I can absolutely relate to that, but differently.

For me, it feels like a constant tug-of-war, but in the opposite direction. And my middlespace is a bit different too. It feels like a 150+yo who's seen some things and is absolutely done adulting for this particular century.

Edit;

And of course, there's no wrong way to be Little. Never give into pressure, if feel forced to use any aesthetics that you don't like or want. Gatekeeping in our community is so ridiculous.

Edited Monday at 01:39 PM by .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ

[kuuchan]

8 minutes ago, Sicarie said:

I struggled with it because I couldn't figure out what age I was when little. I felt I needed to know that, but I struggled to get in to little space as I had heard and read it to be. I questioned whether I was even little for a while. It wasn't until I started talking with people and reading here in the community that I got a better grasp of who and how I was.

Awwe! My little age definitely shifted a lot in the beginning, it was a lot of self discovery and figuring out what kind of little i was. But yes yes yeees to the community part!!<3 it's so important to have spaces like these to better figure ourselves out! And i'm so glad to hear you've found your way of being little! ❤️ A fluid littlespace is awesome and so much fun! >w< 

[kuuchan]

10 minutes ago, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

I'm so glad you're doing well at finding yourself! You make an interesting point about always being a middle with occasional smaller needs. I can absolutely relate to that, but differently.

For me, it feels like a constant tug-of-war, but in the opposite direction. And my middlespace is a bit different too. It feels like a 150+yo who's seen some things and is absolutely done adulting for this particular century.

haha for me it was definitely that "i feel like i stopped maturing after 12" part that made me realize that earlier ignored middlespace was the better fit for me! Idk it just feels more authentically me. I love the baby stuff a lot and it too still brings me comfort, but it felt like i was more "playing pretend" whenever i go into littlespace. In middlespace i sorta just.. exist as i am you know? xD and i get that that is probably how most littles are with being in littlespace but you know! this was something i had to learn! xD

(darn i accidentally replied when i was still in the middle of writing dunno how that happend! now that i think about it guess i have nothing else to add lel xP)

Edited Monday at 01:44 PM by kuuchan

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

My Littlespace is exactly like that. Like I just didn't grow anymore after I turned 6. And my middlespace is definitely playing pretend. It's why I've not really considered myself an actual middle, but I technically probably am to some degree.

[PigtailPrincess]

40 minutes ago, kuuchan said:

i guess it's just my autistic brain not understanding why the abdl has to be hidden away? for privacy i totally get it, but like, sex/sexual aspects can be discussed freely on this site right? Not that this site has to cater to abdl, i get that, there are forums for that. It's not an issue for me tho, i have people to talk about abdl related things outside the forum.

Just to clarify are you asking if we allow sex discussion in general or?

[kuuchan]

1 minute ago, PigtailPrincess said:

Just to clarify are you asking if we allow sex discussion in general or?

lol sorry i'm in such a babble/ramble mood, my posts are making no sense i'm sorry ahah!

What i meant was that sex and the sexual aspects of ddlg is allowed to be freely discussed on the site, so i don't understand why abdl  has to be hidden away in the group. And that's why i feel that abdl is "a taboo subject here". 

[PigtailPrincess]

6 minutes ago, kuuchan said:

lol sorry i'm in such a babble/ramble mood, my posts are making no sense i'm sorry ahah!

What i meant was that sex and the sexual aspects of ddlg is allowed to be freely discussed on the site, so i don't understand why abdl  has to be hidden away in the group. And that's why i feel that abdl is "a taboo subject here". 

I am in no way saying you need to hide it. By all means post in the main areas, but as ABDL inherently involved bathroom habits many ABDLs wanted privacy and to post amongst like minded folks, to which they also tend to get more answers. But if public posting is more your style please feel free. I was just directing you to what most members wanted and what I thought would get you the most answers/veiws.

[kuuchan]

1 minute ago, PigtailPrincess said:

I am in no way saying you need to hide it. By all means post in the main areas, but as ABDL inherently involved bathroom habits many ABDLs wanted privacy and to post amongst like minded folks, to which they also tend to get more answers. But if public posting is more your style please feel free. I was just directing you to what most members wanted and what I thought would get you the most answers/veiws.

Ohh i see i see! thank you for clarifying this!<3

[Little kaiya]

I can second Pigtail's response. Although I am a member of Cushies Castle I will also post openly about ABDL subjects and haven't ever gotten any negative feedback. Sometimes though it's also just nice to have a place to post whete you don't have to take extra time to explain things the way you might in a more open area of the forums.