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[Guest lilspacebunnyyy]

hii everyone!! 🥺💕 i have a lil question for all the other littles out there… how do u open up to ur daddy about ur feelings?? 🥺💭 like when ur sad, angry, jealous, or even just anxious… it’s really hard for me sometimes.

i feel scared of being too vulnerable, like maybe i’ll be a burden if i share too much… or what if he thinks i’m overreacting?? 😞💔 sometimes i cry or feel overwhelmed, but instead of telling him, i just keep it to myself… and it makes me feel lonely even though i know he wants to be there for me. 😕

does anyone else feel like this? or am i just being silly?? 🙈💔 how do i start being more open about my emotions?? i really want to grow closer to him and let him take care of me, but it’s so scary to take that first step. cause sometimes i wonder…what if knowing me more mean he will love me less? 🥺💔

any advice would mean sooo much!! 💌✨ pls help this shy little girl figure it out 🩷 thank uuuu!! 🌸🐻

 

 

[NR_Daddy]

I hope you don't mind me responding to this as a daddy, to offer a littlle reassurance to you.

As a loving, caring person, I would want my little to feel like she can tell me anything, no matter how small and insignificant it might seem, and be the rock she comes running to when upset or hurt, so I can show her the care and love a daddy should do. No daddy should think you are over-reacting, and he should be able to offer that reassurance to make you feel better about things and that everything will be ok.

I understand that might seem daunting at first, but daddy's like me thrive off being there for their littles. You have to start to open up little by little, and when your daddy's reactions make you feel good, it will give you the confidence to do it more until it becomes natural.

[MissAnna]

3 hours ago, lilspacebunnyyy said:

hii everyone!! 🥺💕 i have a lil question for all the other littles out there… how do u open up to ur daddy about ur feelings?? 🥺💭 like when ur sad, angry, jealous, or even just anxious… it’s really hard for me sometimes.

i feel scared of being too vulnerable, like maybe i’ll be a burden if i share too much… or what if he thinks i’m overreacting?? 😞💔 sometimes i cry or feel overwhelmed, but instead of telling him, i just keep it to myself… and it makes me feel lonely even though i know he wants to be there for me. 😕

does anyone else feel like this? or am i just being silly?? 🙈💔 how do i start being more open about my emotions?? i really want to grow closer to him and let him take care of me, but it’s so scary to take that first step. cause sometimes i wonder…what if knowing me more mean he will love me less? 🥺💔

any advice would mean sooo much!! 💌✨ pls help this shy little girl figure it out 🩷 thank uuuu!! 🌸🐻

 

 

I honestly can relate, it's a fear of mine to overwhelm him. So when something bothers me I keep it to myself until it spills over.

He tells me if it's bothering me, then it's important to him. I'm trying to get better at sharing but there are still times I say nothing about how I feel. 

The advice I can give you that I give myself, is just be yourself. I know it's hard to open up, and frightening. Talk to him and let him know your scared to open up more. 

And I promise you, the more he knows about you the more he's going to fall in love with you. 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

what if knowing me more mean he will love me less? 

Any romantic partner who does this, never loved you from the beginning.

Any real romantic partner will want to know how you feel in every situation- the good and the bad. They will also want to know little details about your inner self, including stuff that other people wouldn't normally be told. Keeping secrets is universally dislike in romantic relationships.

So if you're feeling to anxious to even share your feelings with him, maybe consider trusting your instincts. Your either not ready to be in a relationship, or your partner is a red flag giving you strange vibes. But I do think what you're feeling is a common feeling among Littles.

In ddlg terms (not necessarily vanilla bdsm ones), good Daddies will thrive off of helping you through everything to the best of their ability. Including breakdowns.

i really want to grow closer to him and let him take care of me

Even with a good Daddy, never be afraid of giving yourself good self care.

Anyways;

It sounds to me like you need to sit down with your partner and have a bigspace talk about your feelings.

[GrampyP]

It's very normal to hesitate to trust a person, especially if there has been someone who has let you down in the past.

Trust is like a muscle, the more it's used, (exercised), the bigger, (stronger) it gets.

And CG types should want and need their caring abilities used and strengthened too.

Baby steps and communication from both will get you both where you want to be.

I wish you both well.

[Insanity_Stars_Birdie]

Any romantic partner who is worth anything would want to know what's bothering you and wouldn't take it as a burden.

That being said I know it's way easier said than done. I struggle with the same feelings a lot. I've been with my daddy for over 2 and a half years at this point. He's seen the good the bad and the downright ugly. And I come from a pretty shattered and broken home. So there's a lot there.

But he's still here. Right by my side. And says he loves me even more now that he knows. And even now when I'm sad I'm scared of burdening him. When I feel like that I stop and remember one thing. 

"Love is an active choice to care for and support the person you want to be with more than anything. Love is a verb. Not a noun." Remind yourself of that. He chooses to love you. Even when it's rough. Because those hard times aren't worth giving up all of the good.

[PrettyChibi]

I have had this same fear and worry, you are not alone, and you are not silly for worrying about it. It is very scary to be vulnerable to the people we care about, but it is also extremely freeing once you have that conversation and are able to be yourself with them. Your partner may also be anxious or nervous about overstepping, or making you uncomfortable. One thing that helped me a lot was to ask my partner what they enjoy about being a CG, what they like about being in that position in the dynamic. It helped me a lot to know that it was something my partner enjoyed personally, and not just something they do for me. 

You can also tell them that you want/are interested in bringing more CGL aspects into your play/life, but are worried about overwhelming them or making them uncomfortable, and reassure them that you care about them very much and want the dynamic to be something that you both enjoy and find fulfilling. Communication is hard, and sometimes scary, even in the best and healthiest relationships; you are never silly for being worried or nervous.