Help with Ghosting

[littlegala]

This seems to be quite popular to do not only to littles but I assume Daddies as well. So I googled some things you can work from to say to the person instead of ghosting. Being ghosted is terribly hurtful. Do you guys have anything to add to this or do you feel that anything on this list is just not possible to say to someone.

 

Instead of ghosting, try being direct and respectful when ending a relationship or declining a romantic interest. Instead of disappearing without a word, you can say something like, "I enjoyed getting to know you, but I'm not feeling a strong connection and don't see this as something I want to pursue further." You can also express your feelings in a way that acknowledges the other person's feelings and helps them move on with their lives. 

Here are some alternative phrases you can use: 

"I really enjoyed our time together, but I'm not feeling a strong connection and don't see this progressing further." 

"I've been doing some thinking, and I don't feel like we're a good fit for a relationship." 

"I've really enjoyed our time together, but I'm realizing that I'm not in a place to get into a relationship right now." 

"I'm taking a break from dating, and I don't want to lead you on." 

"It was nice meeting you, but I didn't feel a strong connection, so I don't think it's right to go out again." 

[beanbean]

9 minutes ago, littlegala said:

This seems to be quite popular to do not only to littles but I assume Daddies as well. So I googled some things you can work from to say to the person instead of ghosting. Being ghosted is terribly hurtful. Do you guys have anything to add to this or do you feel that anything on this list is just not possible to say to someone.

 

Instead of ghosting, try being direct and respectful when ending a relationship or declining a romantic interest. Instead of disappearing without a word, you can say something like, "I enjoyed getting to know you, but I'm not feeling a strong connection and don't see this as something I want to pursue further." You can also express your feelings in a way that acknowledges the other person's feelings and helps them move on with their lives. 

Here are some alternative phrases you can use: 

"I really enjoyed our time together, but I'm not feeling a strong connection and don't see this progressing further." 

"I've been doing some thinking, and I don't feel like we're a good fit for a relationship." 

"I've really enjoyed our time together, but I'm realizing that I'm not in a place to get into a relationship right now." 

"I'm taking a break from dating, and I don't want to lead you on." 

"It was nice meeting you, but I didn't feel a strong connection, so I don't think it's right to go out again." 

Yeah I assume that most people try not to hurt someone or take the easy way out and end up just causing lot of harm

[littlegala]

10 minutes ago, beanbean said:

Yeah I assume that most people try not to hurt someone or take the easy way out and end up just causing lot of harm

I can understand that and see why a person would prefer to ghost. It does cause harm. I believe people that do this should acknowledge this and change the way they go about things. 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

The problem with Ghosters is that they don't fucking care that they're hurting someone. They saw the person they were talking to as little more than an emotional supply- nothing more than a fucking double A battery. Once they get their self-centered needs met, they become bored and drop you. They are, quite literally, emotional vampires.

There's not much you can do to counter this. But if you can spot the red flags before getting involved with someone like this, you're way better off doing that than trying to change their mindset. Or, don't look for long-term attachments online. The first option is better of the two, if you're looking to have an LDR with someone.

[Real Princess]

37 minutes ago, littlegala said:

This seems to be quite popular to do not only to littles but I assume Daddies as well. So I googled some things you can work from to say to the person instead of ghosting. Being ghosted is terribly hurtful. Do you guys have anything to add to this or do you feel that anything on this list is just not possible to say to someone.

 

Instead of ghosting, try being direct and respectful when ending a relationship or declining a romantic interest. Instead of disappearing without a word, you can say something like, "I enjoyed getting to know you, but I'm not feeling a strong connection and don't see this as something I want to pursue further." You can also express your feelings in a way that acknowledges the other person's feelings and helps them move on with their lives. 

Here are some alternative phrases you can use: 

"I really enjoyed our time together, but I'm not feeling a strong connection and don't see this progressing further." 

"I've been doing some thinking, and I don't feel like we're a good fit for a relationship." 

"I've really enjoyed our time together, but I'm realizing that I'm not in a place to get into a relationship right now." 

"I'm taking a break from dating, and I don't want to lead you on." 

"It was nice meeting you, but I didn't feel a strong connection, so I don't think it's right to go out again." 

I had been ghosted for many times. I can suggest you the thing I did. I accepted my fate. We have no choice. I gave up searching daddies as I do not belong to this world. Go for friendship, simple friendship, breaking of which will not hurt you and live in peace. 

[beanbean]

22 minutes ago, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

The problem with Ghosters is that they don't fucking care that they're hurting someone. They saw the person they were talking to as little more than an emotional supply- nothing more than a fucking double A battery. Once they get their self-centered needs met, they become bored and drop you. They are, quite literally, emotional vampires.

There's not much you can do to counter this. But if you can spot the red flags before getting involved with someone like this, you're way better off doing that than trying to change their mindset. Or, don't look for long-term attachments online. The first option is better of the two, if you're looking to have an LDR with someone.

I think this is true a lot of time too while they’re people that genuinely do not know how to end it . I agree there are plenty of selfish people that are only out for themselves and care nothing of the pain they cause

[littlegala]

59 minutes ago, Real Princess said:

I had been ghosted for many times. I can suggest you the thing I did. I accepted my fate. We have no choice. I gave up searching daddies as I do not belong to this world. Go for friendship, simple friendship, breaking of which will not hurt you and live in peace. 

I would personally never accept it as my fate. Plus people just need to learn their behavior hurts people and instead of disappearing just need to speak their feelings. I think that would hurt less.

[littlegala]

1 hour ago, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

The problem with Ghosters is that they don't fucking care that they're hurting someone. They saw the person they were talking to as little more than an emotional supply- nothing more than a fucking double A battery. Once they get their self-centered needs met, they become bored and drop you. They are, quite literally, emotional vampires.

There's not much you can do to counter this. But if you can spot the red flags before getting involved with someone like this, you're way better off doing that than trying to change their mindset. Or, don't look for long-term attachments online. The first option is better of the two, if you're looking to have an LDR with someone.

Its really sad to think of it that way but I also see it as you say it. We can only look out for the red flags. 

[Real Princess]

31 minutes ago, littlegala said:

I would personally never accept it as my fate. Plus people just need to learn their behavior hurts people and instead of disappearing just need to speak their feelings. I think that would hurt less.

Be brave as you are. I learnt new lesson from you. I highly appreciate. Thanks. 

[MissNMTX]

@littlegala You seem very optimistic & brave. I sincerely hope interactions here don't take that from you.

[littlegala]

@Real Princess @MissNMTX I’m not necessarily trying to be brave. Far from that. I do feel discouraged by these interactions with people. But it’s nice to be considered brave 😊 I just don’t want mean people to hurt nice people. Or if they’re nice people they should learn how to go about things so they don’t hurt others.

[beanbean]

22 minutes ago, littlegala said:

@Real Princess @MissNMTX I’m not necessarily trying to be brave. Far from that. I do feel discouraged by these interactions with people. But it’s nice to be considered brave 😊 I just don’t want mean people to hurt nice people. Or if they’re nice people they should learn how to go about things so they don’t hurt others.

Well at the end of the day can’t really help what others do we just got to be as kind an honest with others as we can be

[MissNMTX]

3 hours ago, littlegala said:

@Real Princess @MissNMTX I’m not necessarily trying to be brave. Far from that. I do feel discouraged by these interactions with people. But it’s nice to be considered brave 😊 I just don’t want mean people to hurt nice people. Or if they’re nice people they should learn how to go about things so they don’t hurt others.

Yep super optimistic!  Time for a yearbook quote "stay cool". Seriously, your post reads so sweet. Don't let the energy around here get to you.

[littlegala]

15 minutes ago, MissNMTX said:

Yep super optimistic!  Time for a yearbook quote "stay cool". Seriously, your post reads so sweet. Don't let the energy around here get 

Thank you I will try my best 😊

[Real Princess]

6 hours ago, beanbean said:

Well at the end of the day can’t really help what others do we just got to be as kind an honest with others as we can be

Thanks @beanbean

I understand