Nicknames

[littlegala]

Are you okay with a guy that isn’t your DD calls you Princess, babygirl and any other nickname  you like to be called intimately when they’re neither? I just want to know because I know it bothers me.

[DaddysMonkey]

It also bothers me , and I will always correct it. 
 

There are some minor exceptions for me - like when the seniors at work call me kiddo or sweetie. They’re just old 🤷🏻‍♀️ 

[Sicarie]

That is something I would not be ok with. Those are nicknames that I reserve for someone special in my life to call me. With my caregiver or DD that is strictly for him and I would feel uncomfortable if someone else called me baby girl or princess. 

[beanbean]

2 hours ago, littlegala said:

Are you okay with a guy that isn’t your DD calls you Princess, babygirl and any other nickname  you like to be called intimately when they’re neither? I just want to know because I know it bothers me.

I mean I think it should bother you I feel like trust needs to be earned in 

[BabyPoppy]

I guess for me it depends on who it is... older people do it naturally and it feels safe, so yes I'm ok with it... when I’m sharing g something emotional or personal and I'm upset, often people close to me use terms like "it's ok sweetheart, things will get better" or "oh no, hun! I'm so sorry that's happening in your life!"...It's kinda the way people have always talked to me, but it's also the way I speak to others. I automatically call friends, buddy, sweetie, hun, girl, dude, sweetheart...(I am not gender specific either...it depends on their behavior, not their gender...) I do get called out on it regularly but it is rarely intentional and happens out of love and close relationship with others.

The same is true with terms like Sir and Ma'am... if I feel i am being corrected or praised for positive behavior,  I automatically use terms of respect. Again it's not intentional,  just something I grew up with and struggle to break. It was a deep sense of respect for authority through use of titles in place of names and relationship building with others  through use of terms of endearment who were not in authority positions. 

Idk... I was raised differently so I'm kinda odd... if I ever offend someone,  please tell me right away! I am more that happy to correct my mistakes. I really do want to be respectful of other people's beliefs and I enjoy conversations like this that help me learn about others thoughts. 

[SilliestGoose]

Personally I don't like it when it's a sweet name like princess, babygirl, etc. If it's hun or something like that I'm okay with it because it's something I use with others out of habit. In my mind, unless you've earned my trust and earned the right to do so, you don't get to call me names that make me flutter. 

[Little kaiya]

Both my Daddy and I have shut that kind of thing down HARD. Whether it's a Cg talking to me or a little talking to my Daddy we consider both HIGHLY inappropriate. Pet names are something we share with each other and people outside of us are not authorized or okayed to use a pet name for either of us, period, point finale.

Edited June 4 by Little kaiya

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

Absolutely fucking not, even if it's someone who does it to everybody naturally. Otherwise, if it's a creep who won't stop after being politely asked, they're sniffing around the wrong tree about to deal with my anger management problems.

The only time I let this shit slide outside of my partner? Is if I'm in a public setting dealing with a southern worker who's using specific generic names like hun and have seen them do so with every customer before me. It's charming, but only when used in the proper time/place.

[littlegala]

14 hours ago, BabyPoppy said:

I guess for me it depends on who it is... older people do it naturally and it feels safe, so yes I'm ok with it... when I’m sharing g something emotional or personal and I'm upset, often people close to me use terms like "it's ok sweetheart, things will get better" or "oh no, hun! I'm so sorry that's happening in your life!"...It's kinda the way people have always talked to me, but it's also the way I speak to others. I automatically call friends, buddy, sweetie, hun, girl, dude, sweetheart...(I am not gender specific either...it depends on their behavior, not their gender...) I do get called out on it regularly but it is rarely intentional and happens out of love and close relationship with others.

The same is true with terms like Sir and Ma'am... if I feel i am being corrected or praised for positive behavior,  I automatically use terms of respect. Again it's not intentional,  just something I grew up with and struggle to break. It was a deep sense of respect for authority through use of titles in place of names and relationship building with others  through use of terms of endearment who were not in authority positions. 

Idk... I was raised differently so I'm kinda odd... if I ever offend someone,  please tell me right away! I am more that happy to correct my mistakes. I really do want to be respectful of other people's beliefs and I enjoy conversations like this that help me learn about others thoughts. 

I guess this is where I’m a hypocrite. Because in the Spanish culture nicknames are used regularly so it doesn’t bother me. But what I mean more is if that person is not your Daddy and calls you Princess right off the bat. You know? I think it should only be reserved for your Daddy/Mommy. 

[beanbean]

4 hours ago, littlegala said:

I guess this is where I’m a hypocrite. Because in the Spanish culture nicknames are used regularly so it doesn’t bother me. But what I mean more is if that person is not your Daddy and calls you Princess right off the bat. You know? I think it should only be reserved for your Daddy/Mommy. 

Well I live in the south so lots of sweety and honeys get thrown around but it’s different when a dom does it to a little that’s not his little is all

[Little kaiya]

It really boils to to intent in my mind. If it's a cultural thing or based on someone's age I honestly still wouldn't be exactly comfortable but I wouldn't be jumping on someone. When it's a Cg to a little or a little to a Cg (both are equally bad in my mind) and it isn't done with consent that's an entirely different matter. The first is most likely out of habit while the second is a deliberate and intentional act to try and establish an emotional connection without discussion or consent. It's just incredibly presumptive and it's also disrespectful.

Edited June 5 by Little kaiya

[SweetLittleDreamer]

For me I don’t like it until I’ve gotten to know you & say I’m ok with pet names. I will always be polite when telling someone the first time I don’t feel comfortable with pet names, but after that each reminder will come with a little more bite! 
 

For me it also depends on the pet name, like I HATE being called princess, growing up it was used in a negative way, so now for me it has negative connections.