Misconceptions

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

Hi hi 👋

I feel like there's misconceptions floating around Littlespace and wanted to bring awareness to some things. Now obviously, I'm just sharing my pov here, but the great thing to remember about cgl/bdsm is how customizable it is. So, if somebody is trying to gatekeep your Littlespace preferences, here's a friendly reminder for you. Feel free to discuss these or add other things you think are common misconceptions!

Misconceptions: 

1. Rules/rewards/punishments are required.
2. You can't be a Little past a certain age.
3. You can't be single.
4. Can't be independent once in a relationship.
5. You need to know your littleage.
6. Do what caregiver says without hesitation.
7. Have to look the part with accessories.
8. Only for small body types.
9. It's just kink. 
10. Can't have kids.
11. Only girls can be Littles.
12. Can't be disabled. 
13. Have to have childhood trauma. 

Reality:

1. Nope, not mandatory.
2. Littlespace is a safespace for adults. 
3. *eyeroll*
4. Only if your caregiver's ego is small.
5. *eyeroll*
6. *waves red flag* 🚩
7. *eyeroll*
8. *eyeroll*
9. For some of us, it's a d/s lifestyle.
10. Yes you can.
11. *eyeroll*
12. *eyeroll*
13. Lot of Littles do, but it's not mandatory. 

Edited June 6 by .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ

[Sicarie]

Thank you for this. Some of the misconceptions you posted are still things I'm trying to get out of my head. 

 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@Sicarie

You tell those meanie butt misconceptions to go kick some rocks!

[beanbean]

Yeah like with everything ddlg is what you make of it no right way or one way to do it . Just do it how you want it

[LeftyGuitar]

I would also add in MDLB to the DDLG/BDSM categories. That should help others know that boys can be littles too. Although I'd assume those that think only girls can be littles are probably toxic and/or a red flag. Girls can be mommies and CG's too. Heck I've even heard of female daddies. 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@LeftyGuitar

I changed ddlg to cgl to be written more linguistically inclusive. I normally just swap it mentally when appropriate, so thanks for pointing that out. Of course girls can be mommies, boys can be littles, daddies can be with little boys, mommies can be with little girls. I imagine female daddies would be butch lesbians or individuals who are nonbinary. Whatever the role is, play preferences are, or gender, doesn't make someone any less valid.

@beanbean

Yuppers. 

[kuuchan]

Ohh what a great post! Thank you!<3

 

10 hours ago, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

•  You can't be single.

Ngl, being on here as someone who doesn't date, makes me feel sorta out of place sometimes~ i know it's silly but having this validated for me feels nice<3 

 

11 hours ago, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

• Have to look the part with accessories.
• Only for small body types.

THIS!!!! i feel like too many DD types think that littles are these dainty, petite women who all like to look and act girly. I had somebody make assumptions about how i look, just based on me liking cute stuff and being short (like they weirdly correlated with me being short to being a certain clothing size, which felt kind of gross and also unrelated lmao) ((also, it wasn't anyone from this forum btw!)) i know i'm generalizing a bit, but still. I'm sure some littles have certain assumptions about what a CG/DD "should" look like, which is equally unfair.

It's disheartening reading about littles who feel like they aren't "doing it correctly" or can't get into the space if they don't look a certin way or have certain things. (i'm slightly guilty of this too tho) we need reminders that anyone who wants to be a little, should be able to be just as theyr are! No matter how the look, dress up, items they posess and their age too! 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@kuuchan

I'm so glad that my post has helped you!

Being Little is a mindset foremost and revolves around how adults react to life while in said mindset. Whether someone needs or wants accessories or anything else, is purely dependent on each individual. And as with a lot of things in life, accessories are subjective in nature.

Also, adults come in all shapes and sizes, so gatekeeping this subculture's physical size would drastically narrow us down, if not eliminate the majority. So, unless you're looking to participate in "dating" in a toxic egocentric way, I don't understand the point of trying to tell someone else that they're too [censored body shaming]. Now, if you're (audience plaural) goal is to change your body in anyway, that's your decision. But please do it safely and because you want to- Not because you feel peer pressured.

And of course everything I'm saying is equal of caregivers. They shouldn't feel pressured to do, have, be, look certain things or ways just to fit in. It's about boundaries and what you're willing/able to provide rather than forced care.

I hate that humans are so quick to be judgemental, ugh, and then use that info to hurt others with exclusivity.

Edited June 6 by .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ

[beanbean]

I always felt it was better to enter in to. What a potential partner wanted and needed. Sometimes we get  caught up in proper rules and such because that’s what other people do and we should just be us 

[littlegala]

Little space is a safe place for adults. Which I could see more Daddies think that way also. 

[Little Skittles]

On 6/5/2025 at 7:36 PM, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

Hi hi 👋

I feel like there's misconceptions floating around Littlespace and wanted to bring awareness to some things. Now obviously, I'm just sharing my pov here, but the great thing to remember about cgl/bdsm is how customizable it is. So, if somebody is trying to gatekeep your Littlespace preferences, here's a friendly reminder for you. Feel free to discuss these or add other things you think are common misconceptions!

Misconceptions: 

1. Rules/rewards/punishments are required.
2. You can't be a Little past a certain age.
3. You can't be single.
4. Can't be independent once in a relationship.
5. You need to know your littleage.
6. Do what caregiver says without hesitation.
7. Have to look the part with accessories.
8. Only for small body types.
9. It's just kink. 
10. Can't have kids.
11. Only girls can be Littles.
12. Can't be disabled. 
13. Have to have childhood trauma. 

Reality:

1. Nope, not mandatory.
2. Littlespace is a safespace for adults. 
3. *eyeroll*
4. Only if your caregiver's ego is small.
5. *eyeroll*
6. *waves red flag* 🚩
7. *eyeroll*
8. *eyeroll*
9. For some of us, it's a d/s lifestyle.
10. Yes you can.
11. *eyeroll*
12. *eyeroll*
13. Lot of Littles do, but it's not mandatory. 

This is the best. Legit LOLed. But also, thaaaaaaank you!

I think I might love you 🫣🤭🤫