Do you want a relationship, or do you want attention?

[camden_cross]

Perhaps I've just become cynical over time, but I'm wondering if anyone else has noticed this particular trend in the community. It seems that almost everyone I've met over the years is after attention, and doesn't truly want a dynamic or a relationship. I'm in a place where I can offer a bit of financial support as well as the emotional kind, but the people I've met seem to get cold feet the instant anything IRL is discussed, even if that's just a brief meeting or even just  a phone call.

These dynamics take a lot of trust to be done correctly, and that requires getting to know someone fairly well. I don't think it's an unreasonable ask that people looking for this kind of relationship have enough independence and maturity to actually maintain a relationship, but it seems like most people are after the fantasy and not the reality. Mental health issues aren't a problem for me, but it's impossible to build rapport with someone who either leaves you on read or only wants to communicate on their terms when it's convenient. I don't think I'm being unreasonable, I don't expect 24/7 availability from anyone, but I don't think basic communication is too much to ask for.

Has anyone else struggled with this?

Edited June 8 by camden_cross

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

A lot of people do want irl connections, I just think some people go too fast for others.

Edit;

You've only had a personal ad here since May and expect to have found the right irl partner already? Oh boy...

Edited June 8 by .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ

[camden_cross]

I didn't post this as a reaction to anything that happened on this site. I've been in the community for 14 years, and it's more a pattern I've noticed than a reaction to anything here. Please don't assume my meaning.

[beanbean]

Well I think more then wanting attention people just go to fast be it for loneliness or other things . Though I am sure some people do only look for attention but what you going to do

[SweetLittleDreamer]

I’ve found there are two types of people, those that are looking to have a strong, committed relationship &/or Dynamic, & then those that are just looking for a CG or Little to give them attention when they’re in the mood, but with no strings attached or a relationship.

In my opinion both are just as valid as the other, there’s no right or wrong way to have a connection with a Daddy or Little, so long as both are on the same page with what type of connection they are wanting. Which is why no matter the connection it is so important that in the beginning time is taken to have a conversation around expectations & what each want out of it, that way nobody is finding out a few weeks or months in there’s actually a pretty decent mismatch of wants happening. Nobody should be jumping in no matter what type of connection they are looking for.