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[peanutpuppy]

Does anyone else think about how some caregivers talk to multiple Littles or how Littles talk to multiple caregivers instead of just one good one all because there looking fora dynamic (building relationships with diff people al at once) !😶

I feel like it sounds very pick me like but coming from someone who experienced it second hand it is very much reall..and not talked about at all or rarely!

 

Edited June 25 by p4intingpup
Came off weird

[Lil_K47]

I think I get what you’re saying. It would be nice if you could be getting to know someone and know that they’re not getting to know someone else as well before they’ve gotten to know you. It really does take time,effort and communication to get to know someone well. Especially  in a situation like ours where there are a lot of different moving parts Involved, personally I feel like when you start chatting with the intention of dating, you  should be committed to getting to know that person.. if you find if you don’t click with that person, then you move on to the next one, but that’s just me because I’m looking for a monogamous relationship. I mean, I can take a day to speak with you and get to know you and know whether or not I’m interested before I start talking to somebody else!You know I don’t wanna be with somebody that’s trying to get with five other ladies! 🤣🤣 or Littles as the case maybe.

 

no matter what dating sites you’re on that’s always going to be a frequent occurrence. Just be careful who you’re talking to, and don’t give out too much personal information too fast.
 

Good luck sweet girl! 

[MissNMTX]

I see you point, but perhaps this is the wrong format to be concerned with it

.Here, people have to take to other people and people are allowed to talk to you. So, it's not so much how many people you interact with but more who you "connect with". Now, if you're "connecting" with 2 or 3 people at a time that's a different matter. Perhaps desperate and trying to force a dynamic.

Yo me, talking to isn't the same as connecting with and you definitely shouldn't enter dynamic without connection, just talking shouldn't count.

[Lil_K47]

OK, really what I meant. It is most definitely fine to make friends and to talk to people, but if you are talking to someone with the intention of dating them, of being in an intimate relationship with them, I just feel like you ought to respect them and take at least day to get to know them before you decide you’re going to ask somebody else to get to know you with the intention of dating. If you’re just chatting with somebody to make friends, that’s totally different. You can never have too many friends and if you happen to click with one of those friends in the process well then of course that’s awesome.

[peanutpuppy]

1 hour ago, MissNMTX said:

I see you point, but perhaps this is the wrong format to be concerned with it

.Here, people have to take to other people and people are allowed to talk to you. So, it's not so much how many people you interact with but more who you "connect with". Now, if you're "connecting" with 2 or 3 people at a time that's a different matter. Perhaps desperate and trying to force a dynamic.

Yo me, talking to isn't the same as connecting with and you definitely shouldn't enter dynamic without connection, just talking shouldn't count.

Omg yes this is what I meant. I was recently in a dynamic with a daddy and I told him I didn't like it when he went out of his way to "connectt" with others in the same way we were!

[peanutpuppy]

1 hour ago, Lil_K47 said:

OK, really what I meant. It is most definitely fine to make friends and to talk to people, but if you are talking to someone with the intention of dating them, of being in an intimate relationship with them, I just feel like you ought to respect them and take at least day to get to know them before you decide you’re going to ask somebody else to get to know you with the intention of dating. If you’re just chatting with somebody to make friends, that’s totally different. You can never have too many friends and if you happen to click with one of those friends in the process well then of course that’s awesome.

Respect is such a big thing for me! If your having the intent to be in a relationship with that person you should be loyal to them atleast in my eyes. I'm Def never against the friend part! So right.

[MissNMTX]

I'm so sorry. I took want a monogamous relationship. Harems aren't my vibe...lol

Just keep participating.... something will come.

[Lil_K47]

So for me, I’m usually pretty good at reading people. When someone makes contact with me, I can pretty much tell if that’s  with  a romantic and/or sexual intent or if it’s just friendly conversation. 
 

I think it’s important to set boundaries and if you agree that you are in a committed relationship there should be some guidelines for Others you may be chatting with. 
 

For me, if I were in a committed relationship, and he also agreed that we were in a committed relationship with just each other then I would want to be able to see his texting And messages. On whatever site he’s chatting on. It’s not that I wouldn’t trust him, but I don’t trust other people and their intentions. But again that’s open communication. I think anybody that he’s chatting with you should know that he’s chatting with them and if they’re coming off like they’re flirting with him with the intention of trying to have a more intimate conversation with him then that needs to be put a stop to.

 

Now? If you’re in a polyamorous relationship where all parties are agreeable that you’re seeing other people then yes I expect everybody is gonna be chatting  to multiple different someone’s. but that would be because that’s what they’ve agreed upon in their relationship.

 

I’m an older lady and I’ve done quite a bit of experimenting in my time.  So I’m at the point in my life where I very much know what I want. But when I was younger, I was hanging with a swimming crowd. And when I first started doing that, I got myself into a sticky situation where the person’s husband was contacting me without her knowing it and that’s not who I am. So I had to quit being friends with both of them.
 

The next time I got on that same site wad several years later and I decided I was gonna go about things in a different way if I were chatting with a couple, it would be a group chat so that it was full disclosure on what everybody was saying to everybody else.
 

I think every situation is very different and the key is open communication and following the rules that you have both agreed to. But if you have not discussed things like this and it’s going on and it’s upsetting you, then you need to be open and honest and be able to tell that person how you’re feeling.And if you’re not comfortable enough with that person to tell them how you’re feeling then he’s probably not the one for you …just saying.