My therapist and ddlg

[littlegala]

Well I went to my therapist yesterday that I've been seeing for 16 years and told her how I was little and into Ddlg. I was so nervous telling her this because I was afraid that she would be disappointed in me. But happily she was not and was genuinely curious and happy that I was happy. She had lots of questions and I tried answering them to the best of my ability. I'm pretty positive I did okay lol. I was honest and told her about my Daddy. She found it fine and healthy. It was a really good session and I even shared it with my Daddy.
Have any of you told a therapist about ddlg or any of your kinks? 

[LilJeanie]

I told a therapist about my poly relationships.  She was aware of the lifestyle and mostly wanted to confirm that we had good communication and that everyone was getting their needs met.  But that is as far as I have admitted to in therapy.

[HisLittlePotato]

Anytime I've discussed relational things like this with a therapist their main concern is that it's been healthy and safe for me.  I don't think I've ever had a therapist judge what kind of relationship I'm in or who I choose to be with.

I'm really glad your therapist was positive about it!  And that you're happy too! 

[MissAnna]

My therapist and doctors all know my lifestyle, before I was a submissive I was a Dom for over 20 years. I was very forward with all my doctors who took care of me, some thought it was strange while others found it intriguing.

They all had the same question, was I able to handle my home life along with my MDLB/G life. And at those times, yes I was able to find  solace in being a Dom and having control. So yes I have told my therapist about my kinks so to speak.

Now that I am a submissive my therapist asked me if anything changed in my lifestyle? I said yes I was able to let go of having control 24/7 so it's a beautiful change 😊

[DeadStarsStillBurn]

So I'm a Daddy and I've talked with my therapist about DDLG and he is similarly supportive and positive about it. As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, there's no problems, honestly. Good job for opening up to your therapist! Sorry it took you 16+ years to get to a place where you could, but I'm sure you made a ton of progress in all that time : )

[BabyPoppy]

Sooo unfortunately I have not had the best experience telling my therapist.... I have had many therapists over the years and currently my therapist aligns closely with my Christian faith. I have been seeing her for a couple of years now, I  think... recently I shared about being little and she was curious... I have shared about my Daddies and Caregivers (I called them friends) and my relationships with her, but did not share everything with my therapist... I struggle with a lot of trust issues and very deep trauma, so it takes a long time to get there with a therapist... When I shared specifically about a Daddy I had communicated with... well, let's just say we're doing a very specific book on treatment now... I took a break from everything for a bit to reset my thinking, too... 

My cousin is actually a sex therapist and specifically works with gender dysphoria and sexual orientation concerns and gender transitioning individuals and their loved ones. She's also qualified as a Kink Aware Professional and trains other therapist... she teaches at a few colleges out west... she has been helpful recently too... she is also little and her partner is very supportive of her work. She's been great at giving me resources and supports to help me understand things like consent,  understanding kink, friends, and safety in relationships.  

My Therapist would prefer i stay away from everything ddlg until my therapy is further along, replacing my online friends with in-person, face-to-face friends. This is to build people skills with people I see regularly who I cannot avoid or run away from easily. 

I am rebeling my bei.g on thr forum so much,  but it is ok... for now. She has my best interest at heart, but no idea what this lifestyle means to me, how much support I have here on the forum,  or how who I am is so deeply rooted in my identity being little really is! 

[Little Nyx]

11 hours ago, BabyPoppy said:

Sooo unfortunately I have not had the best experience telling my therapist.... I have had many therapists over the years and currently my therapist aligns closely with my Christian faith. I have been seeing her for a couple of years now, I  think... recently I shared about being little and she was curious... I have shared about my Daddies and Caregivers (I called them friends) and my relationships with her, but did not share everything with my therapist... I struggle with a lot of trust issues and very deep trauma, so it takes a long time to get there with a therapist... When I shared specifically about a Daddy I had communicated with... well, let's just say we're doing a very specific book on treatment now... I took a break from everything for a bit to reset my thinking, too... 

My cousin is actually a sex therapist and specifically works with gender dysphoria and sexual orientation concerns and gender transitioning individuals and their loved ones. She's also qualified as a Kink Aware Professional and trains other therapist... she teaches at a few colleges out west... she has been helpful recently too... she is also little and her partner is very supportive of her work. She's been great at giving me resources and supports to help me understand things like consent,  understanding kink, friends, and safety in relationships.  

My Therapist would prefer i stay away from everything ddlg until my therapy is further along, replacing my online friends with in-person, face-to-face friends. This is to build people skills with people I see regularly who I cannot avoid or run away from easily. 

I am rebeling my bei.g on thr forum so much,  but it is ok... for now. She has my best interest at heart, but no idea what this lifestyle means to me, how much support I have here on the forum,  or how who I am is so deeply rooted in my identity being little really is! 

I'll preface my next statement with saying I know absolutely nothing of the dynamics of your situation and your therapy beyond what was stated here. That said, I question your therapist attempting to discourage you from accessing support and friendships you have here on this forum. Seems rather short sided of her, regardless of the desire to foster in-person relationships. In-person relationships are important, but the relationships you have formed here are no less important. Unless your safety is in question I don't think it's right of her to try to discourage any relationships you may have be they online or in-person. 

[Little Nyx]

17 hours ago, littlegala said:

Well I went to my therapist yesterday that I've been seeing for 16 years and told her how I was little and into Ddlg. I was so nervous telling her this because I was afraid that she would be disappointed in me. But happily she was not and was genuinely curious and happy that I was happy. She had lots of questions and I tried answering them to the best of my ability. I'm pretty positive I did okay lol. I was honest and told her about my Daddy. She found it fine and healthy. It was a really good session and I even shared it with my Daddy.
Have any of you told a therapist about ddlg or any of your kinks? 

I think this was very brave of you. This is a very intimate part of you and I'm glad you felt safe enough with your therapist to discuss it, and that she was accepting and supportive of it. 

[BabyPoppy]

1 hour ago, Little Nyx said:

I'll preface my next statement with saying I know absolutely nothing of the dynamics of your situation and your therapy beyond what was stated here. That said, I question your therapist attempting to discourage you from accessing support and friendships you have here on this forum. Seems rather short sided of her, regardless of the desire to foster in-person relationships. In-person relationships are important, but the relationships you have formed here are no less important. Unless your safety is in question I don't think it's right of her to try to discourage any relationships you may have be they online or in-person. 

I was having safety issues because I struggle with boundaries and consent. I need to learn how to communicate my needs better and more appropriately... I really did have zero experience with DDLG or BDSM until 2 years ago and my first Daddy was just a guy who wanted to try some kink stuff, refused to date me or even see me as more than just a toy... DDLG is so much more for me, but is mixed up with decades of abusive exes, and a horrible childhood. My head is a big mess and it isn't ok to expect a partner to fix that.  A trained professional or team of professionals needs to chip away at that mountain of confusion and emotion. Friends are ok, and fun, but I was loosing myself in littlespace and not taking care of my grown-up responsibilities.  Regression is fun, but needs to have clear boundaries... I didn't know how to communicate what I needed... so I need people to observe my needs and help me verbalize what I'm struggling with. 

I can be very strong and stable for others, but for myself, I am lost. 

I've decided on limited time online so I can still find support with my friends, here,  where I feel most accepted, but also try to build some friendships with people in my home community so others can notice when I need extra support and I can reach out. 

[littlegala]

13 hours ago, BabyPoppy said:

Sooo unfortunately I have not had the best experience telling my therapist.... I have had many therapists over the years and currently my therapist aligns closely with my Christian faith. I have been seeing her for a couple of years now, I  think... recently I shared about being little and she was curious... I have shared about my Daddies and Caregivers (I called them friends) and my relationships with her, but did not share everything with my therapist... I struggle with a lot of trust issues and very deep trauma, so it takes a long time to get there with a therapist... When I shared specifically about a Daddy I had communicated with... well, let's just say we're doing a very specific book on treatment now... I took a break from everything for a bit to reset my thinking, too... 

My cousin is actually a sex therapist and specifically works with gender dysphoria and sexual orientation concerns and gender transitioning individuals and their loved ones. She's also qualified as a Kink Aware Professional and trains other therapist... she teaches at a few colleges out west... she has been helpful recently too... she is also little and her partner is very supportive of her work. She's been great at giving me resources and supports to help me understand things like consent,  understanding kink, friends, and safety in relationships.  

My Therapist would prefer i stay away from everything ddlg until my therapy is further along, replacing my online friends with in-person, face-to-face friends. This is to build people skills with people I see regularly who I cannot avoid or run away from easily. 

I am rebeling my bei.g on thr forum so much,  but it is ok... for now. She has my best interest at heart, but no idea what this lifestyle means to me, how much support I have here on the forum,  or how who I am is so deeply rooted in my identity being little really is! 

Being little is a big part of you. So why deny yourself? Making friends unless they are not toxic on or offline should be fine.

My sister is also a sex therapist 😊That is so awesome. She teaches at a college and speaks at different seminars around the world. She also knows I’m a little. But isn't a little herself.

[Little Nyx]

22 hours ago, BabyPoppy said:

I was having safety issues because I struggle with boundaries and consent. I need to learn how to communicate my needs better and more appropriately... I really did have zero experience with DDLG or BDSM until 2 years ago and my first Daddy was just a guy who wanted to try some kink stuff, refused to date me or even see me as more than just a toy... DDLG is so much more for me, but is mixed up with decades of abusive exes, and a horrible childhood. My head is a big mess and it isn't ok to expect a partner to fix that.  A trained professional or team of professionals needs to chip away at that mountain of confusion and emotion. Friends are ok, and fun, but I was loosing myself in littlespace and not taking care of my grown-up responsibilities.  Regression is fun, but needs to have clear boundaries... I didn't know how to communicate what I needed... so I need people to observe my needs and help me verbalize what I'm struggling with. 

I can be very strong and stable for others, but for myself, I am lost. 

I've decided on limited time online so I can still find support with my friends, here,  where I feel most accepted, but also try to build some friendships with people in my home community so others can notice when I need extra support and I can reach out. 

That makes a lot of sense and is a great compromise. I hope you are able to find balance and form safe in-person relationships. I have struggled with unsafe and toxic relationships a lot in the past, so I know just how hard it can be to trust people enough to form good/safe relationships with others.