Is it being a Little wrong? People's judgment about the lifestyle

[Guest BabyZafira]

I have recently stumble upon Age play and I realized that I have Little tendencies. I love cute things and to feel small and praised and babied by my loved ones. 

I have read romance novels about littles being loved and nurtured and disciplined by their daddies and I have yearned to have that for myself one day. However, 

when I spoke about age play to people on other areas of the BDSM community they seemed....not okay with it. I have found people that see it as wrong and have 

made me feel kind of judged, as if I am doing something wrong. Is sexual and non sexual age play a bad thing? I have found myself attracted and curious about both

sides of the dynamic. However, I do not want to be looked by others with that weird look of judgment and disgust. 

I have though of opening up about this with my therapists but I am scared of explaining to her what Age play is and that she might judge me too or tell me something is wrong with me.

 

Any advice? Have you faced this before?

[NR_Daddy]

Firstly, in answer to your question, no. Being a little and wanting a caregiver, or a caregiver that likes littles is not wrong at all.

As long as the relationship is between adults, not abusive, is consensual, and both or all parties involved are happy with their situation. Nobody should be judging anyone for their preferences, no matter what they are.

Yes it's true that some from other kink communities frown upon CG/L, but then that makes them hypocrites in my opinion, because they expect people not to judge them for their differences/kinks. I think they completely misunderstand what CG/L is.

It's probably best to be cautious as to who to open up to about CG/L, and communities like this one are probably the best place to do it.

As for opening up to your therapist, I was reading a discussion about that very subject only yesterday, but for the life of me I can't find it to link here now. Other littles were saying their therapists were generally very understanding, and their over-riding concerns were more that they and their partners, and their own wellbeing was most important, and that they were happy and felt safe in their situation. 

Do not fear it. It's perfectly ok to be who you are and like the things you like.

EDIT .... I found the discussion ...

 

Edited Friday at 04:46 AM by NR_Daddy

[Little kaiya]

There will always be people that judge others. Those BDSM folks that are judging you are in turn being judged by others. You can tie yourself up in knots or you can accept yourself and your interests in DDlg. 

The most important thing is DDlg is between two or more consenting ADULTS. It isn't illegal. It isn't harming anyone. And well, once those three things are covered I'm not sure the rest matters.

Have people judged my Daddy and I for being in a DDlg relationship, yep. Judged us for the gap in our ages, yep. Judged us for our gender identities and sexual orientations, yep. Judged us for bringing diapers into our intimate moments together, yep. Heck, that last one we've even been judged by people into DDlg. 

At the end of the day those that judge us can do so all they want because all it says to us is their opinion isn't worth our time. Just as they're entitled to their view, so are we entitled to just honestly not care.

The people closest to us, friends, family, coworkers, they know we're into DDlg, they know my boyfriend is my Daddy and it doesn't bother them a bit. We don't do things in front of others, not for a fear of being judged, but more because this is special, emotionally intimate and thing for us, nobody else.

You can't control how others see it, only how you see it. So ultimately, you listen to the people who say it's wrong and miss out on something you want that is harmless or you follow your heart and I pretty much guarantee that you live much happier than if you follow the first option.

Edited Friday at 04:50 AM by Little kaiya

[Lil_K47]

I think people who judge other people often just don’t understand nor do they care to try,or perhaps they feel something lacking in themselves, and don't have the courage to openly explore their own curiosities. 
 

I’ve always said misery loves company! there are always going to be those folks who will never be happy and who try to bring down everyone else down with them! 

what consenting adults do with each other is between them and no body else’s business!

 

Do your research and surround yourself with like minded individuals who will lift you up, not bring you down.  (Like here 😉)

 

as for therapy, you can always look for a kink friendly therapist. If you don’t feel like you can open up to your current provider, maybe it’s time to make a change. 
 

I know it’s easier to say not care what other people think than it is to actually do, but  honestly, I think this is something that becomes easier with age and wisdom as you learn and grow. 
 

hang in there! Sending you hugs! 🤗🥰

 

 

 

[boopsuperjuice]

I felt this way a couple years ago, to the point where I tried forcing myself to not want it. It was a constant kinda eating away, that I was a freak. I still have those feelings now some times but more or less now I've come to terms with this part of myself. What made it harder was I didn't need to just come to terms with being a little but also being gay. But honestly I feel blessed that I'm like this. I really do think it's a gift to be a little. Welcome to the forum ❤️

[Cebakes]

It is unfortunate and I have experienced this, primarily on Fet  life.  Over the years I have had personal ads removed that were almost identical to many other ads on the specific forums. Generally,  these were non-DDLG sites, but moderators looked at my profile and removed the posts.  Anyone who knows me here, knows that I am a gentleman and never post rude or graphic messages.   I’ve also received replies and messages about “liking little girls”.  I’ve never shared with anyone outside of here and women that I chat with,  that I am a daddy.  
 

I know my old middle had real issues with her friends about our age gap relationship. They just couldn’t understand it.  She never told anyone about her middle side. It is also something she has hidden from her 35-year-old boyfriend. 

[LittleAmbi]

I feel the same way! No one close to me knows.

My therapist knows but she's very open about those kinda things. So if you think your therapist is open about things you should talk to them if you think it would help. 

This site helps me with making friends. So i have others i can talk to about things. 

im also available if you ever need to talk to someone!