New to Daddying. Any tips/ advice

[DaddyHades]

Good morning everyone, hope you are all doing well. I am new to the community and wanted to reach out for some advice. I have a few years of experience as a dom but I hadn’t discovered my interest for the full ddlg lifestyle til more recent months and frankly it’s been occupying a lot of my mind. Through experiences I’ve had with a recent partner I discovered the role I feel applies to me is that of a daddy dom. My question being for those who are active in this lifestyle is, what advice would you give yourself when you were first starting out in this way of life? 
 

Also I just want to add that you are all loved and thank you for the advice. ☺️

[beanbean]

I think my main advice is do your research this is a wonderful place for that explore see what you’re likes and dislikes and if you have a partner communication is key , talk to them and see what they want and need . See what boundaries they have and go from there

[Lil_K47]

hiya!! under the caregiver café there is actually a really good thread with advice for new daddies! I was bored last night and actually just reading through it so you may wanna check that out it's got some great information! Good luck and welcome!

[MissNMTX]

Research research and then more... research. Welcome and good luck.

[Guest Cebakes]

You are going to want to provide her attention, guidance, affection, discipline to help her hit her goals,  you want to identify obstacles or hurdles in her life that she deals with and try to help her overcome them. Are there things that she might deal with such as panic, anxiety, trauma from the past, etc???   Can you help her become care or stress-free?  Everyone likes lots of praise. They like cute little messages and memes sent throughout the day.  

[DaddyDazzy]

Communication is the key. Talk about what you both want out of this. Talk about each others boundaries. Talk about how you will define the boundary between Little Space and the Adult World. If you are going to administer punishment, always do this from a position of caring, never punish out of anger. And never ever forget aftercare. Always make sure your Little feels loved and safe. I've been around long enough to see many so-called Daddies who don't seem to know the difference between caregiving and abuse. Don't ever be an abuser. Take your role seriously and your Little will love you for it! And, finally, good luck! 🤞

Edited July 23 by DaddyDazzy

[MissAnna]

On 7/21/2025 at 8:03 AM, DaddyHades said:

Good morning everyone, hope you are all doing well. I am new to the community and wanted to reach out for some advice. I have a few years of experience as a dom but I hadn’t discovered my interest for the full ddlg lifestyle til more recent months and frankly it’s been occupying a lot of my mind. Through experiences I’ve had with a recent partner I discovered the role I feel applies to me is that of a daddy dom. My question being for those who are active in this lifestyle is, what advice would you give yourself when you were first starting out in this way of life? 
 

Also I just want to add that you are all loved and thank you for the advice. ☺️

What advice would I give myself? As a Dom when I first started out I would tell myself its okay to be kind and it's definitely okay that I wasn't super strict or stern. I would tell myself that I should embrace my loving submissive nature and to stop trying to fit into the cookie cutter mold of what a Dom should be. I would also tell myself to breathe, that some dynamics won't last but that doesn't mean I'm not amazing just the way I am.

That's just some of the things I would tell myself. 

I hope you find your forever little 

Best wishes 

Anna 

Edited July 25 by MissAnna

[DaddyHades]

Just wanted to quickly say thanks everyone for the advice. 

[Cranius]

I'm new here, but seeing forum posts like this is awesome. Props to OP for asking and to all the respondents not only providing great advice, but helping OP with new resources. This community is wonderful!

[waguy762]

Work on setting good boundaries. It can be tough especially in the beginning on both party’s to get used to the dynamic, even more so if it goes from 0-100% quickly.