Heartbroken

[Adalmina]

Hi, I'm new here, I don't know if this is something that any of you is interested to reply to but I just gotta vent somewhere. I used to have a daddy or even daddies when I was a teen (I'm referring to my real age), but as I got older I started to protect myself from disappointments and I basically shut down and stopped seeing men altogether. Well, for some reason after years of being single, I got the urge to date again. But it's even more clear to me now that I don't want a normal relationship, I'm only interested in being ddlg. I found a lovely man online, he reached out to me in my post where I was looking for a daddy, and we chatted for days and planned to meet since he lives close by. The conversations were really chill and I especially liked how he didn't seem too obsessed with me, like yes super interested but not pressuring. I was a bit hesitant about the meeting that would've already taken place soon, so I decided that I need more time. He comforted me and said he is never gonna force me do anything I'm not comfortable with, but that he'd definitely like to meet at some point if I'm able to because it seems like we have similar interests. I felt better and we kept talking, I was being myself, feeling safe and chatting about stuff I'd like to do with him and he was excited too. Then suddenly after a normal conversation he stopped talking to me, I didn't hear from him for a week so I asked if everything's ok and if he still wants to talk, and I let him know that it's ok if he changed his mind, just asked him to let me know. He went like no no, I still want this, but his kids (his real children) are visiting now and they're gonna stay for 2 weeks so he doesn't know when to meet me yet. I said ok. I waited for two weeks. Then I asked him about it again, like hey do you still want to meet, and he went like yes definitely, he's gonna be free now because he's taking the kids to their mother later that day (and he even put a heart emoji). He asked me if I'm free some day this week. I said yeah, I think the weekend would work but I'll let him know. He said ok, then we chatted a bit and I said I need a daddy rn and he asked me like baby is everything ok and I said yeah I just need attention, and I happily told him about what I'd like to do when we meet. He told me he's gonna give me all his attention then. He went on to ask me a couple of questions and then the conversation stopped again because he didn't reply anymore, not that there was any question or anything to reply to, but I kinda felt like he ghosted me. At this point I obviously felt sad but I know I have a tendency to overreact and be dramatic so I tried to stay calm, I don't wanna seem annoying or clingy (in a wrong way). So today I messaged him saying that Sunday would work for me so we could meet then. He saw the message 2 hours ago and hasn't replied yet, which can be normal because he is a busy person and sometimes takes some time to respond, but at this point I just think he's not interested enough. Either that, or then he's just disappointed that it has taken so long for me to meet him and even now I took the furthest option possible. But I don't think it's only about that? It breaks my heart if I need to let this go, the other 10 men who answered to my post were creepy, wanted stuff I didn't want or were angry at me if I didn't answer right away, so this was the only normal and kind man. I live in a small country in Europe and we don't have a lot of active forums for ageplay stuff so I don't know where to look for a daddy anymore 😥 and my mind just goes like yeah, shouldn't have trusted anyone, it's your own fault

Edited July 22 by Adalmina

[Lil_K47]

17 minutes ago, Adalmina said:

Hi, I'm new here, I don't know if this is something that any of you is interested to reply to but I just gotta vent somewhere. I used to have a daddy or even daddies when I was a teen (I'm referring to my real age), but as I got older I started to protect myself from disappointments and I basically shut down and stopped seeing men altogether. Well, for some reason after years of being single, I got the urge to date again. But it's even more clear to me now that I don't want a normal relationship, I'm only interested in being ddlg. I found a lovely man online, he reached out to me in my post where I was looking for a daddy, and we chatted for days and planned to meet since he lives close by. The conversations were really chill and I especially liked how he didn't seem too obsessed with me, like yes super interested but not pressuring. I was a bit hesitant about the meeting that would've already taken place soon, so I decided that I need more time. He comforted me and said he is never gonna force me do anything I'm not comfortable with, but that he'd definitely like to meet at some point if I'm able to because it seems like we have similar interests. I felt better and we kept talking, I was being myself, feeling safe and chatting about stuff I'd like to do with him and he was excited too. Then suddenly after a normal conversation he stopped talking to me, I didn't hear from him for a week so I asked if everything's ok and if he still wants to talk, and I let him know that it's ok if he changed his mind, just asked him to let me know. He went like no no, I still want this, but his kids (his real children) are visiting now and they're gonna stay for 2 weeks so he doesn't know when to meet me yet. I said ok. I waited for two weeks. Then I asked him about it again, like hey do you still want to meet, and he went like yes definitely, he's gonna be free now because he's taking the kids to their mother later that day (and he even put a heart emoji). He asked me if I'm free some day this week. I said yeah, I think the weekend would work but I'll let him know. He said ok, then we chatted a bit and I said I need a daddy rn and he asked me like baby is everything ok and I said yeah I just need attention, and I happily told him about what I'd like to do when we meet. He told me he's gonna give me all his attention then. He went on to ask me a couple of questions and then the conversation stopped again because he didn't reply anymore, not that there was any question or anything to reply to, but I kinda felt like he ghosted me. At this point I obviously felt sad but I know I have a tendency to overreact and be dramatic so I tried to stay calm, I don't wanna seem annoying or clingy (in a wrong way). So today I messaged him saying that Sunday would work for me so we could meet then. He saw the message 2 hours ago and hasn't replied yet, which can be normal because he is a busy person and sometimes takes some time to respond, but at this point I just think he's not interested enough. Either that, or then he's just disappointed that it has taken so long for me to meet him and even now I took the furthest option possible. But I don't think it's only about that? It breaks my heart if I need to let this go, the other 10 men who answered to my post were creepy, wanted stuff I didn't want or were angry at me if I didn't answer right away, so this was the only normal and kind man. I live in a small country in Europe and we don't have a lot of active forums for ageplay stuff so I don't know where to look for a daddy anymore 😥 and my mind just goes like yeah, shouldn't have trusted anyone, it's your own fault

hey sweetheart, take a big breath and calm yourself down! If it's meant to be it will be! If you need a good place to let your feelings out there's a group called the lighthouse Circle check it out! lovely people in there give great advice! Otherwise hang out here make some friends! check out the littles section, we got a lot of fun clubs and we play a lot of games! You are not alone! ! Big hugs!

 

[Adalmina]

2 hours ago, Lil_K47 said:

hey sweetheart, take a big breath and calm yourself down! If it's meant to be it will be! If you need a good place to let your feelings out there's a group called the lighthouse Circle check it out! lovely people in there give great advice! Otherwise hang out here make some friends! check out the littles section, we got a lot of fun clubs and we play a lot of games! You are not alone! ! Big hugs!

 

thank you so much, this made me cry hahah, it helped to let it out, thanks for the tip too!

[MissNMTX]

Sometimes, just writing it out really can help. I'm sorry you're hurting....I have most of been there and know how it feels. 2 hrs really isn't that long though, especially on a week/work day. Give him time. It sounds like real life situations interrupt the time you'd like to spend together, again this is just something you have to work with. You're doing your best. Just relax and give yourself time to think clearly on it for a bit.

[Adalmina]

thank you 🩷 you both really calmed me down, i was so upset writing the post because i was prepared for some comments like "he doesn't care about you" or something 😭

but update: it definitely was a case of miscommunication!! i told him how i feel and he went like OH and said he's sorry and he kind of didn't talk to me that much because he wasn't sure if i want this because i was hesitant before

i said that i really really want him to be my daddy and he immediately comforted me and has been super active talking to me today (he distracted me from thunder because i'm scared of it and i even got to tell him what i've learned in pre-school lately) and we agreed to meet on sunday 💖 i'm so excited!!