been there/done that, semi wise words of wisdom

[Lil_K47]

 

welcome to my life experience! semi wise words from an older gal. i've probably been there, done that, own the T-shirt and could probably write the book! 😉

 

hey Ya'll!!

So, its not very often you'll see me make a serious post.

I tend to keep my posts light hearted, often poking fun at myself or randomly posting funnies to other folks pages. 

I'm a big believer in laughter is the best medicine! and if I can make one person a day smile and or laugh at something I've said or done, then I feel I'm contributing to a greater whole of good karma! 

 

I tend to be a constant jokester, I'm very quirky , and often awkward ! So I don't claim to be eloquent writer or have a lot of  great advice to impart, but you'll often see me offering some kind words of encouragement to anyone I think I needs them. 

What I can offer are a few observations, and some insights from someone who has a lot of life experience in general. 

 

in just the short month that I've been a part of this community, I've already seen a lot of young ladies and gentlemen fly through here.

a number of people have made some insightful posts recently about about slowing things down and truly taking your time in getting to know someone.

 

So this is more of a supplement to those posts, and me throwing my two cents in. 

 

To give you a little backstory of where I'm trying to go with this: before I joined this community, years ago I was very active in the swinging community. and no, this is not an invitation nor a ploy to get you to invite me into your relationship! 

 

As people grow and mature, their needs, wants and desires change and grow with them. And for me, that is very much what happened. Although I made some wonderful friends, I got to a point where I no longer wanted to be a back up singer in somebody else's love song. I wanted to find someone of my own to write a duet with. so I began to read more and explore different things.

 

From the age of 24 to about 37, I was in and out of the swinging scene. 

 

I moved to where I live now probably around 12 years ago and although I am no longer actively participating in swinging events, I have still managed to maintain the friendships with the couples that I met that very first year that I lived here!

 

I have learned a lot during my time in the Kink community simply by trial and error and by learning from my own mistakes and the mistakes that I see others making.

 

The group that I spent the most time with, we were a large group of friends who got together every weekend and at the end of the night if clothes started coming off, well then, more fun for everyone! 😉 over the years people came in and out of our group, and you could always tell who the couples were that were not going to make it. likewise you could point out the single folks who were there constantly stirring the pot counterclockwise and causing all the drama! Fortunately those folks never seemed to stay around long.

 

 here Ive noticed a lot of young ladies and gentlemen making posts saying you know,  they're lonely , depressed, overwhelmed , whatever..., and then they disappear never to be seen or heard from again. 

 

So I guess really what I'm trying to say is, if you are just flying through here checking your personal and not stopping to explore the site and to stopping to making friends, you are truly doing yourself a disservice!  your missing out on building some great lifelong  friendships /relationships!

 

This truly is a community full of people who care and who have been where you have been at some point in their life.

 

And if you stop and take the time to smell the roses, so to say, you'll find that the people here will offer you great advice, they will offer you comfort, they will share in your joy and  triumphs and be a shoulder for you to lean and cry on during your trials. We will be here for all of your ups and downs should you take the time to get to know us!

 

if you have to take a step back for a little while to reevaluate what you're doing, I totally get that, but please find your way back!

 

Important things I think every little and daddy should remember: 

#1 you are nobody's play thing! 

#2 you are nobody's ATM!

#3 you are a person worth knowing! if anyone is not treating you as such they are not worth your time or effort!

# 4 be truthful with yourself and with others

 

You're gonna talk to a lot of people here and you're not gonna click with everyone at least not romantically. 

 

for me, even if I don't click with someone romantically as long as they haven't been pushy or a jerk or tried to take advantage of my giving nature , then I can be adult enough to simply remain friends. 

#5 make lemonade!- I say it often and I truly mean it! I said it just today actually . when life throws lemons at you , make lemonade! And pass it out! You can always find something positive in your day whether it's something tiny,  just that one thing is still enough to keep the momentum going, you just have to do some searching sometimes to find the light! (and ya know, if anything, you can always use those lemons to beam anybody in the head that annoys you!!  😉🤣🤣) 

 

If you took the time to actually read through this whole post then I hope you found something useful in here, something thought provoking to make you take another look at what you're truly doing here!

 

peace, love, and happy thoughts,

 

~K

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[-Soul-]

Hello! Hi! Friendly neighbourhood Soul here..

I just wanted to say, thank you for taking the time to share this. It’s not always easy putting something real and reflective out into the world, especially when your usual vibe leans more toward lighthearted mischief (many people here can relate!).

Your post is the kind of grounded wisdom that reminds folks there's a lot more to this lifestyle (and this community) than just flashy profiles and fleeting conversations. The insight you shared about growth, connection, and slowing down is something I think a lot of people need to hear, especially those who are new here or feeling lost in the shuffle.

I really respect the way you framed your experience, not as a “let me teach you” moment, but as “here’s what I’ve seen, and maybe it’ll help you too.” That’s how real connection starts.

Also… “no longer wanting to be a backup singer in someone else’s love song”? That line is perfection and one I will use when advising people going forward.

Thanks again for showing up as one of the pillars of this community, with your quirky, wise, encouraging self. The community is stronger for it. 

Peace, laughter, and the occasional well-aimed lemon,
—Soul

[MissAnna]

Such beautiful words 💗 

Life is too short to always be in the shadows, write your own story and be the beautiful Sunshines I know all of you are