Question

[Lil_angel_1]

I know this is a highly subjective and opinionated question, but I would really love opinions and advice. I know that love and relationships come in all different forms and ages but what age gap is too big? Big enough that it would cause a lot of problems and may not last because of it? Again I know for subjective but I would love to hear what people think. 

[Little kaiya]

Honestly, so long as all parties are over 18 the age gap isn't really important. I've seen folks 2 years apart fail and couples 30 years apart work. I think what is far more important is maturity and common goals. My Wife and I are 2 years apart and have been married 19 years and my Boyfriend and I are 21 years apart and have been together almost 7 years.

Does a larger age gap present different challenges than a smaller age gap, sure. Are those challenges harder, I'd say no, just different.

[MasterPhotog]

@Lil_angel_1 Thank you for opening up such an honest and thoughtful question—it’s something so many people quietly wonder about, so you're definitely not alone. 💬

Age gaps in relationships can absolutely present unique challenges, but they can also bring unexpected strengths and depth. It really depends on the individuals involved—their communication, values, life goals, and mutual respect.

Every relationship has its own rhythm, and what matters most is how you support each other through the ups and downs. If both people are entering the relationship with open eyes and open hearts, sometimes even big age differences can be navigated with maturity, love, and understanding.

As @Little kaiya has suggested, I wouldn't care maturity and common goals are way more important than the age gap or lack of it, for that matter. Personally, I couldn't care less what people thought, say or do about what I think or do is right for me. 

It’s smart of you to be thinking ahead about potential obstacles—that shows care and intention. I’d love to hear more about your thoughts or what’s been on your mind specifically.

[MissAnna]

1 hour ago, Lil_angel_1 said:

I know this is a highly subjective and opinionated question, but I would really love opinions and advice. I know that love and relationships come in all different forms and ages but what age gap is too big? Big enough that it would cause a lot of problems and may not last because of it? Again I know for subjective but I would love to hear what people think. 

That's a really good question, and honestly I believe the age gap would be based on what the person's preference is. There are a lot of doms that prefer littles younger than them, there are some that don't mind the age differences. There are some littles who want a Dom around their age or maybe older. 

It just depends on what makes you happy and what you are comfortable with. Me personally I'm happy with my partners age, but yes I've had littles who were a lot younger than me.

Its all about balance and honestly it's all about what you again are comfortable with. Remember you can be happy with someone who is the same age as you, older than you or younger than you are. 

So many Dom's and Littles get caught up on ages that they miss out on meeting some wonderful people. 

 

 

[MissNMTX]

I feel like I've been on this forum long enough that I can say age really is just a number. It has nothing to do with maturity or embodiment of the dynamic. If course, we all have preferences, but honestly those really are just preferences that don't have much to do with anything. It's really just about who click with. Conversation, laughter, care...none of that has anything to do with age.

[Lil_angel_1]

2 hours ago, MasterPhotog said:

@Lil_angel_1 Thank you for opening up such an honest and thoughtful question—it’s something so many people quietly wonder about, so you're definitely not alone. 💬

Age gaps in relationships can absolutely present unique challenges, but they can also bring unexpected strengths and depth. It really depends on the individuals involved—their communication, values, life goals, and mutual respect.

Every relationship has its own rhythm, and what matters most is how you support each other through the ups and downs. If both people are entering the relationship with open eyes and open hearts, sometimes even big age differences can be navigated with maturity, love, and understanding.

As @Little kaiya has suggested, I wouldn't care maturity and common goals are way more important than the age gap or lack of it, for that matter. Personally, I couldn't care less what people thought, say or do about what I think or do is right for me. 

It’s smart of you to be thinking ahead about potential obstacles—that shows care and intention. I’d love to hear more about your thoughts or what’s been on your mind specifically.

Specifically, relating to the same things when we come from different generations. Also like growing old together and everything that goes with that. 

[Little kaiya]

Coming from the same generation may mean you like the same things or have had similar experiences but it doesn't guarantee it. For example, my Wife and I are only a year and half apart but the TV and music we watched and listened to was very different. My Daddy who is younger by 21 years actually listened to more similar music because that's what His dad listened to while He was young. 

My Wife and Daddy although years apart share more in common in terms of their socializing experiences growing up as both were more introverted while I was out at raves and parties. Neither of them are or ever were interested in politics so they didn't pay attention to it growing up whereas I was always deep into politics. My Daddy grew up in the 2000's and is a transman while I grew up in the 80's and 90's as a genderfluid person so those experiences were dramatically different. Honestly, like any two people we have things in common and things that aren't.

As for growing older together, well, being with someone of a similar age doesn't guarantee you'll grow old together. Relationships can fall apart at any age and accidents or health issues also aren't restricted to just people with an age gap. My Wife and I though lless than 2 years apart may grow old together or one of us could get hit by a car tomorrow or be diagnosed with cancer. For the three of us we choose to live our lives versus worry about "what ifs" that we can't control. My Daddy may end up burying my Wife and I or He may not. We may bury Him first, we have no way of knowing what will happen.

What the three of us do know is this, we've celebrated together, mourned my father's death together, laughed, fought, cried, held each other, joked, cleaned and just in generally loved and lived together. What ever time we have together is made better by being with one another than focusing on a number that doesn't control our present and doesn't predict our future. Age gap relationships are not for everyone and they do have unique challenges but as much as that's true, my Wife, my Daddy and I have spent the past 7 years loving each other and not focusing on a number and we wouldn't have it any other way.

Edited Saturday at 02:34 PM by Little kaiya

[MasterPhotog]

4 hours ago, Lil_angel_1 said:

Specifically, relating to the same things when we come from different generations. Also like growing old together and everything that goes with that. 

I completely agree with everything @Little kaiya has said above—wholeheartedly and without a doubt and couldn’t have said it better myself!

[Josey Wales]

To some age may be an issue but I believe connection rules the day in whatever form it transpires into. Maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age as far as a Daddy is concerned. And old age doesn’t mean one is mature. Maturity comes with an open and empathetic mind 

[beanbean]

15 hours ago, Lil_angel_1 said:

I know this is a highly subjective and opinionated question, but I would really love opinions and advice. I know that love and relationships come in all different forms and ages but what age gap is too big? Big enough that it would cause a lot of problems and may not last because of it? Again I know for subjective but I would love to hear what people think. 

Yeah I think it comes down what you’re comfortable with I think many people have different opinions on this and that okay at the end of the day it what your comfortable with as an individual because it’s your decision