Bigs/CGs -- What do you expect from your littles?

[Cranius]

Everyone is different, and I know this will depend on each pairing/dynamic, but I'm looking to just crowdsource some answers and pick out commonalities. Do you expect your littles to follow a ruleset or schedule? If you're more relaxed, how do you make sure that your littles know what you would like from them? Feel free to post your own set of expectations for what works for you! I am just doing a little research to see things from the caregiver's perspective, since I am a little. 

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I operate from a simple starting point, we are both adults and need to communicate as such. As adults we talk and create rules together because for us DDlg is an equal partnership within a bigger adult relationship. We have rules that we both agreed upon and if a rule isn't working for one of us we sit down, discuss and renegotiate.

Certainly there are rules that He or I prefer more than the other person but rules NEVER push past hard limits. We may set rules that push soft limits but like in all things they are informed by both of us having an open, honest, adult discussion first.

Just as it's important I know what He expects from me it is equally important He knows what I expect from Him. Without thst two way communication, for us, ot stops being a dynamic within a relationship and becomes a dynamic outside a relationship which so often ends very, very poorly and is not at all something we want as a couple.