When the going gets tough!…

[-Soul-]

Hello, Hi, Friendly neighbourhood Soul here!!

 

Life lately has felt like an emotional rollercoaster, full throttle, no seatbelt, and definitely no “pause” button.

Coming off a high dosage of Sertraline (Zoloft, for my American friends) cold turkey wasn’t exactly the brightest idea, but it was something I felt I had to do to confront the tidal wave of emotions surrounding my mum’s illness. Her passing ( can you believe it’s been 3 months) hit me like a truck!!! grief is no joke. It can chew you up and spit you out without warning.

I won’t sugarcoat it: I became irritable, miserable, and felt completely lost. But in the middle of that storm, I remembered the one thing I was asked, don’t push people away.

So I didn’t.

Instead, I leaned on my people, those close friends, whether online or offline, who didn’t flinch at my ugly days and didn’t back off when I had nothing left to give. Piece by piece, they helped put me back together. Not fixed, but functioning. Not over it, but getting through it.

Does it still hurt? Absolutely. Grief doesn’t just pack up and leave quietly. But having friends, real friends, has made all the difference.

So here’s to you.
To the ones who stood by me when I was at my worst! You're the tough ones. The strong ones. The real champs.

If you’re reading this and ever find yourself in the dark, please don’t hesitate to reach out. If I can help in any way, I will!! because that’s what friends do. We stick together.
Thick and thin. Highs and lows. Always.

Much love,
💛 Soul

[Cranius]

3 minutes ago, -Soul- said:

Hello, Hi, Friendly neighbourhood Soul here!!

 

Life lately has felt like an emotional rollercoaster, full throttle, no seatbelt, and definitely no “pause” button.

Coming off a high dosage of Sertraline (Zoloft, for my American friends) cold turkey wasn’t exactly the brightest idea, but it was something I felt I had to do to confront the tidal wave of emotions surrounding my mum’s illness. Her passing ( can you believe it’s been 3 months) hit me like a truck!!! grief is no joke. It can chew you up and spit you out without warning.

I won’t sugarcoat it: I became irritable, miserable, and felt completely lost. But in the middle of that storm, I remembered the one thing I was asked, don’t push people away.

So I didn’t.

Instead, I leaned on my people, those close friends, whether online or offline, who didn’t flinch at my ugly days and didn’t back off when I had nothing left to give. Piece by piece, they helped put me back together. Not fixed, but functioning. Not over it, but getting through it.

Does it still hurt? Absolutely. Grief doesn’t just pack up and leave quietly. But having friends, real friends, has made all the difference.

So here’s to you.
To the ones who stood by me when I was at my worst! You're the tough ones. The strong ones. The real champs.

If you’re reading this and ever find yourself in the dark, please don’t hesitate to reach out. If I can help in any way, I will!! because that’s what friends do. We stick together.
Thick and thin. Highs and lows. Always.

Much love,
💛 Soul

We love you, man. I am glad to be able to be a part of helping you heal. I commend you for being open, and honest, and going against the inclination to undertake this journey in solitude. You can lean on me. You can lean on all of us. We are here to help and we welcome the opportunity to help you. My grandmother always says: "When you fail to ask for help, you rob others of the chance to be blessed."

You have blessed us by allowing us to help you. Thanks for inviting us in to a vulnerable, sacred, broken place and allowing us to help you make it better.

Best,

Joey  

[SweetLittleDreamer]

Mr. Soul, don’t underestimate or forget your own strength, I know you say those that stayed were the strong ones, but Mr. Soul one of the strongest things people can do is make the choice to lean on their support system and not push them away. 

And as someone who so often chooses to shut down & shut out, I can say that with 100% confidence and knowledge in the truth of it. 

[MissAnna]

16 minutes ago, -Soul- said:

Hello, Hi, Friendly neighbourhood Soul here!!

 

Life lately has felt like an emotional rollercoaster, full throttle, no seatbelt, and definitely no “pause” button.

Coming off a high dosage of Sertraline (Zoloft, for my American friends) cold turkey wasn’t exactly the brightest idea, but it was something I felt I had to do to confront the tidal wave of emotions surrounding my mum’s illness. Her passing ( can you believe it’s been 3 months) hit me like a truck!!! grief is no joke. It can chew you up and spit you out without warning.

I won’t sugarcoat it: I became irritable, miserable, and felt completely lost. But in the middle of that storm, I remembered the one thing I was asked, don’t push people away.

So I didn’t.

Instead, I leaned on my people, those close friends, whether online or offline, who didn’t flinch at my ugly days and didn’t back off when I had nothing left to give. Piece by piece, they helped put me back together. Not fixed, but functioning. Not over it, but getting through it.

Does it still hurt? Absolutely. Grief doesn’t just pack up and leave quietly. But having friends, real friends, has made all the difference.

So here’s to you.
To the ones who stood by me when I was at my worst! You're the tough ones. The strong ones. The real champs.

If you’re reading this and ever find yourself in the dark, please don’t hesitate to reach out. If I can help in any way, I will!! because that’s what friends do. We stick together.
Thick and thin. Highs and lows. Always.

Much love,
💛 Soul

You are deeply loved and needed on here, you will not nor will you ever be alone 💕 

You help more people than you realize or know

My philosophy that I will always say: you don't leave those around you when life gets hard, even if they push you away or walk away, you stay. Because that's when they need you the most, they need that reminder that someone actually cares about them. 

 

[Lil_K47]

Mr Soul,

 

so very sorry for your recent loss. glad you are starting to feel more yourself again.

 

this November will mark year 25 without my mom. 

 

I wish i could say the hurting and grief get easier with time.  for me, i don't feel they have become easier, just less raw, and easier to push to the back of my mind. and easier to focus on the good memories (even if there are days they do still make me cry, probably more of a girl thing )  

 

Seams you have a wonderful support family here! always cherish that! 

 

wishing you all the best,

 

~K

P.S-happy anniversary! 

[MissNMTX]

I wish I had some optimistic and encouraging words. Sadly, grief is permanent as it's continued love. Flip sides of the very same coin. Loss and grief stay, but so does the love and the memories.

In some strange way, they might be even more alive now. I've lost a lot of loved ones over the years, but they are alive to me in music, food, so many things.

[Josey Wales]

3 years today I lost my daughter so I can absolutely relate to what you’re feeling and saying ! 

[NR_Daddy]

I lost my Dad several years ago. He was only 63. Taken too soon.

The only thing I can say about that kind of thing is that you never get over it. You only learn to cope with it, because there is no alternative. It is part of the circle of life and it will come to us all one day.

I still lament on the time I could have had with him, as we were growing closer the older he got.

[Andriel_Isilien]

I'm glad you didn't push people away. So many want to help and it can be amazing how they show up for you. I agree so much with what you said ♥️ I admire you from afar. Take care of yourself and be safe.