Confused about this

[tealulu]

Hi I'm new here. You can call me Lulu. I've always known I was a middle.  Teenage years, I fluctuate. 

This isn't the same as being a little and often not as interesting for many which I understand. I just don't know if I belong anywhere with this, if it might be of interest to a daddy or a caregiver, especially since it's mainly non sexual for me, like 80% of the time. 

Edited August 6 by tealulu

[edens_honey]

Hi, Lulu!  I'm also new to the forum. 

And I just want to say that there is someone out there who is interested. The CG/L (and BDSM) world is so diverse, and everyone's interests are packaged in a way that is unique to them. Being a mostly non-sexual middle is completely valid. And there is very likely someone who wants exactly what you are offering. I'm sorry if anyone has made you feel that you don't belong. Because you do. You belong just as much as anyone else.

 

 

[tealulu]

Thank you so much for the kind response. 

2 hours ago, edens_honey said:

Hi, Lulu!  I'm also new to the forum. 

And I just want to say that there is someone out there who is interested. The CG/L (and BDSM) world is so diverse, and everyone's interests are packaged in a way that is unique to them. Being a mostly non-sexual middle is completely valid. And there is very likely someone who wants exactly what you are offering. I'm sorry if anyone has made you feel that you don't belong. Because you do. You belong just as much as anyone else.

 

 

 

[Princess snuggles]

Hi Lulu,

Firstly, welcome!

Now onto what I really wanted to say: yes, littles and middles are different, but that doesn’t mean you’re any less wanted, needed, or valid. DDLG is just one variation of a CG/l dynamic, and middles still very much fall under the “little” umbrella. So do babygirls/babyboys who don’t regress or connect with a younger headspace. All valid. All worthy. All needed.

There are littles, middles, babygirls/babyboys, CGs, mummies, and daddies who want sexual relationships, and others who don’t. Both are beautiful. Neither is more valid than the other.

In my opinion, it would be incredibly boring if we all presented the same. Our differences are what make this space so rich and important.

I’m truly sorry you were ever made to feel like you had to ask if you belonged - but I’m really glad you did, because the answer is yes. 100% yes.

love, snuggles 

[LuckyLilac]

Hiya, I'm sometime little, sometimes middle. I think I get some of what you mean, not least that outwardly it seems closer to acting like an adult. And I guess it's very underrepresented basically everywhere. It is valid though, and we do exist. 

Slightly different, but I do relate to feeling like lack of wanting sex narrows down partner options, even though I'm just asexual, in every headspace.

[Loveybunnygrl]

Im a little/younger middle (2-10) and I have seen a couple posts with cgs that are curious about this same thing there is absolutely cgs that look for teen middles on here it’s a bunch of trial and error though but most carers are pretty open to middle age ranges

[Mogwai]

Hi Lulu!    I'm the same as you - a middle, not a little.  Yes, there absolutely are people out there looking for exactly this.  And if you're looking for friends that are similar to you then... Hello!  I'm looking for middle friends! 

[MissAnna]

On 8/6/2025 at 9:47 AM, tealulu said:

Hi I'm new here. You can call me Lulu. I've always known I was a middle.  Teenage years, I fluctuate. 

This isn't the same as being a little and often not as interesting for many which I understand. I just don't know if I belong anywhere with this, if it might be of interest to a daddy or a caregiver, especially since it's mainly non sexual for me, like 80% of the time. 

Hi LuLu I'm a middle/sub and I was a Mommy Dom for over 20years. Trust me when I say you do belong here.

This community is built on diversity, there are so many caregivers on here who have the same views as you do, as well as so many other beautiful individuals on this amazing forum.

Please don't think you don't belong because I promise you that you do 

Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 

Edited August 19 by MissAnna

[sheepie uwu]

For anybody struggling to find their place:

You are valid and welcomed in bdsm regardless of where you sit on the spectrum. Bdsm is not a safe community for bigotry of any kind and neither is our subcatagory ageplay.

If you've (plaural) ever been given shit for being an older middle/teen Little by a toddler/younger Little: as a toddler/younger Little, I do not approve of their actions and do not claim them as part of my herd nor flock. They are chronically online gatekeeping assholes who desperately need to go touch grass and stop posting cringe tiktoks/etc. 

If you've (plaural) ever gotten shit from people claiming they are caregivers or Daddies, claiming you're not x,y,z thing enough, these people clearly are not caregivers or Daddies. These are degenerates looking to take advantage of smaller/vulnerable Littles/individuals.

Caregivers care about other people's feelings/needs and Daddies earn their titles by being respectful/mindful of others while leading the way. Both care about the well-being of society as a whole. 

Kink isn't just about sex. And anybody who says otherwise is confusing (accidentally or deliberately) kink as/for fetish.

So while this absolutely is 100% a kink forum site, we are not a fetish dating site. Therefore, those of us who are not sexual are just fine being here, even if other places don't want/claim us.

Edited August 19 by .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ

[MissNMTX]

Once again, I can vouch that Middles are welcome and of course they have a place! It is harder that's true, no use pretending otherwise. But just be yourself. Everything else will come.