Need help creating rules!

[Kyuu_chan_san]

So my CG and I are still new to the dynamic, him more than me. We live together and are exploring the dynamic, I've been interested/into it for much longer but never had the chance to explore and act in the open. He can be a mega softie when it comes to stuff, and in adult space I'm typically the more outgoing one who does stuff around the house and what not. We've had a really hard time coming up with rules and punishments for me to follow. So, I decided to use my resources like a smartie pants and ask on here! We'd love tips and ideas from both sides of the dynamic. Thanksies in advance!

[Laurelyn]

I haven't been in this kind of relationship before so I don't really have experience to share, but I'd look at where you struggle and make rules around that.  If you are able to manage the household chores, and meals aren't an issue, is it possible that you have a hard time with self care (maybe taking time for a hobby you enjoy, or finding time to spend doing activities for your little)?  Do you need to take better care of your physical, emotional, or mental health?  Maybe a growth activity, like spending a certain amount of time learning a new skill?  

I'm exploring this myself, but from a single submissive perspective so consequences aren't really playing into my research at the moment, but for me, rules I'm looking into embellishing are:

✨I will take exceptional care of myself physically, emotionally and mentally.

✨ I will be mindful of how I am presenting myself to the world in my appearance and behavior.

✨I am committed to continuous learning.

I took these from a D/s site as I was exploring unique rules, trying to get past the "bedtime by 10" etc., type rules.

[CupcakeSparklies]

My rules revolve around self care type things. Daddy puts them in place to help me out like remembering to take my medicines. I struggle drinking enough water so there is a rule about that. I have to ask him before I do certain things. They are there to help me and provide some guidance for me to create better habits and such. I do not get punished for forgetting or whatever. 

I would just kinda observe the type of things you struggle with or behaviors you would like to change. You can make up rules to help form better habits or decrease certain behaviors, etc. I would start small with a few rules that you know you can succeed at like brushing your teeth everyday. Make up a chart or however you wanna track your rules. And start building from there. See what works and what doesn't for you and adjust as need be. 

[Prince]

seconding the self-care ones! you could also have rules that have the purpose of reestablishing the dynamic. as in, rules that help you feel more little, that remind you that you're little and he's your daddy, that help you get into littlespace and help you stay there (or rules that make you feel more submissive! it can apply perfectly to that as well, but i will focus on little space)

i swear like a sailor normally but i avoid it when i'm little because it snaps me out of it and makes me feel big, so a rule like "no cussing" would work well. they can be more restrictive but even simple ones like "hold daddy's hand when crossing the street" or silly ones like "be kind to bugs" can do the trick.

rules that have you ask for permission are popular too, there's also ones that focus on your appearance. and because you're normally so proactive, you can try ones that focus on letting yourself be taken care of like "i will let daddy brush my hair without protesting". everybody's different, you should think about what helps you get in that headspace, and what makes you feel safe and cared for in it

[beanbean]

10 hours ago, Kyuu_chan_san said:

So my CG and I are still new to the dynamic, him more than me. We live together and are exploring the dynamic, I've been interested/into it for much longer but never had the chance to explore and act in the open. He can be a mega softie when it comes to stuff, and in adult space I'm typically the more outgoing one who does stuff around the house and what not. We've had a really hard time coming up with rules and punishments for me to follow. So, I decided to use my resources like a smartie pants and ask on here! We'd love tips and ideas from both sides of the dynamic. Thanksies in advance!

Well more then anything sit down and figure out what you need to do in the realm of self care and such be honest with him and let him know what you need and go from there

[LuckyLilac]

Also while some like the structure of punishments for rule breaking, don't sleep on the power of rewards! I especially love having a sticker chart, I get both the smaller reward of imdividual stickers (It's really surprising how much I glow with pride sticking one down) and the bigger reward of a treat for myself when I fill it up all the way.

[Kyuu_chan_san]

Aw man, thank you everyone that's responded so far for your comments. I'll have to sit down and think on things I wanna improve or that would help me. You've all left such helpful and amazingly thoughtoit answers!