Searching is making it hard to be little

[Loveybunnygrl]

I was curious if any other babies feel this way I had this horrible experience a little bit ago where I was very seriously talking with this dom/daddy and over a very small communication error he misunderstood he absolutely blew up on me telling me I wasn’t really a sub and that I was garbage, I know im totally not and im definitely a submissive but after this experience (especially with him doing this over him misunderstanding a text) I have been so frustrated with looking on here and was curious if maybe any other forums or spaces are pretty active ofc I’ll remain on here I love the community but I seem to get no where with personals responses

Edited Monday at 08:00 AM by Loveybunnygrl

[NR_Daddy]

If someone is just going to blow up on you and then belittle you, then the issue is with that person and not you. 

I've said this before to people who have had similar experiences, and it's the absolute truth......

You dodged a bullet with someone like that.

Don't let someone get to you like that. If they really cared about you and were serious, they would be more understanding and give you opportunity to show it was a misunderstanding.

When looking for someone in personals, maybe you need to be more choosy so you don't come across the bad eggs. Have a look at their profile, do they actively take part in the community? Their "reputation" shows how much they are involved in the community. Their feed shows the discussions they take part in (or not). Chances are if their profile is blank then they have little to offer the community and by default, little to offer you.

Also, take a look at the Safety First and Flag Detection section so you learn to recognise the traits of those you should keep away from.

Looking for someone that suits you can take time. You shouldn't be rushing to find someone.

[Cranius]

Hi there! I'm sorry this happened to you. At the same time, I agree with @NR_Daddy -- that person's actions were belittling and intended to demean you. At best, this is severe social incompetence, or lack of emotional control. At worst, this is calculated manipulation to precipitate a premeditated outcome. Neither scenario is worth investing even one more second into.

This may sound harsh, and I don't intend for it to: he did you a favor by allowing you to see his repugnance immediately. Those are the easiest type to discard, and it's much more difficult to detect malice in people who appear nice, but aren't. 

As far as the community at large, I can vouch for its wonder as a whole. I will stake a claim that there does not exist a more supportive and caring community online in kink circles-- likely due to the vulnerability of CG/L dynamics. There are always bad apples, and I'm sorry you hit one! Keep trying! There are many daddies out there!

Edited Monday at 12:27 PM by Cranius

[Faelin]

I offer all the hugs in the world for you. Don't be discouraged, you'll find your one eventually.   

[LeftyGuitar]

I unfortunately find that this happens more often then it should. Communicating online isn't the same as communicating real life. Misunderstandings happen. It is better to ask if there has been a misunderstanding then simply blow up on someone because of a miscommunication. 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

One cannot claim dom/daddy status. One has to earn dom/daddy status.

Clearly you were talking to a beta manchild. It's best to block him, count your blessings that you didn't get involved further or irl, and move on. It's not always easy, but don't allow others to gaslight you into nothingness. And maybe let @shadowrider be made aware of the situation.

Keep in mind that this isn't a dating site. It's a kink forum that allows irl hookups. But unfortunately, there are a large portion of people who use our personal ads forum that have no intention or interest in forming any real connections. Use with caution.

[shadowrider]

@Loveybunnygrl Please send me a message with his username. That behavior sounds like someone that was removed a while back and isn't allowed to return. 

[Lil_K47]

i'm truly sorry you had a bad experience! But just know you aren't the only one who's ever had one, we've all been there! And honestly they're bad eggs on every site you'll ever be on! This really is a wonderful supportive community and if you take the time to get to know people here you'll come to find awesome friends who will back you up whenever you need them and give you encouragement and support to boot! Hang in there! Definitely sounds like you dodged a bullet! 

😉

 

[Loveybunnygrl]

On 8/18/2025 at 7:37 PM, shadowrider said:

@Loveybunnygrl Please send me a message with his username. That behavior sounds like someone that was removed a while back and isn't allowed to return. 

He unfortunately had grabbed my discord from my bio which has since been removed so I don’t run into this again but I never got his username, if I happen to run into it I will let you know

Edited 3 hours ago by Loveybunnygrl