Does anybody feel like they need to "Grow Up"

[yourghostbaby]

anybody else just never grew up?

Edited September 8 by yourghostbaby

[Little kaiya]

I grew up but never forgot the earlier path I walked. I like to think I have a healthy balance of both adult and little.

[sheepie uwu]

I grew up. I'm just reclaiming my stolen childhood.  

[kuuchan]

2 hours ago, ghostbaby04 said:

anybody else just never grew up?

yes, and i hope i never do.

i think restricting yourself into what society thinks is "being grown up/adult" is so narrow and depressing, i want no part in that.

I can still go to work, pay taxes and do all those other adult responsibities without being "grown up" so to speak 😄

[Faelin]

Don't "grow up" It's a trap!! Gonna stay little forever and ever!!!

[MissNMTX]

I am a grown up and it's exhausting. So, I cherish the few moments that I don't have to be.

[HisLittlePotato]

I like being "grown up".  I gained so much freedom that I never had as a child, teen or young adult.  Growing up and becoming an adult was scary at times but I'm happier now.  And getting to be little or middle is really percious to me!

[yourghostbaby]

Like did anybody else just never mature from being a child? Like I legit still do and still feel like I did as a child. Balancing on curbs and "tightrope" walking across them, or buying 25-cent gumballs and writing swear words on the ice in the freezer department. Trying so hard not to peek at toys as you walk by and making faces at yourself in the mirror. It's moments like these where I feel truly as myself, I feel like I can see the little girl inside of me just dying to wreak havoc and spread chaos.I thought that everyone still did these things but apparently not. My younger sister is constantly reminding me that I need to "grow up" when in actuality,I never did just grow up I just got bigger. I certainly don't want to be perceived as a child so I try to "act"  and look mature but it just feels like dress up to me. Does anybody else feel like they're from Neverland and never grew up?

(If so what behaviours or traits do you still have that never left you?)

 

Edited Thursday at 05:14 PM by ghostbaby

[Journey]

I would say that neither my wife (the middle) or I (the caregiver) have grown up. 

Edit: I clicked on this topic when looking at the activity feed and did not realize this was in the little space forum. I started a new topic in the DDgl discussion forum and moved my reply there, since it is more of a caregiver's perspective than a little's perspective.

Grown Up But Not Grown Up

Edited Thursday at 11:42 PM by Journey
Did not realize I was in the little forum area.

[tressygirl1119]

6 hours ago, ghostbaby said:

Like did anybody else just never mature from being a child? Like I legit still do and still feel like I did as a child. Balancing on curbs and "tightrope" walking across them, or buying 25-cent gumballs and writing swear words on the ice in the freezer department. Trying so hard not to peek at toys as you walk by and making faces at yourself in the mirror. It's moments like these where I feel truly as myself, I feel like I can see the little girl inside of me just dying to wreak havoc and spread chaos.I thought that everyone still did these things but apparently not. My younger sister is constantly reminding me that I need to "grow up" when in actuality,I never did just grow up I just got bigger. I certainly don't want to be perceived as a child so I try to "act"  and look mature but it just feels like dress up to me. Does anybody else feel like they're from Neverland and never grew up?

(If so what behaviours or traits do you still have that never left you?)

 

omggg i feel like i could've written this! i have alllllwayyyyssss felt like a kid that somehow ended up in a grown-up's body and my goodness it can be... a lot sometimes. I was always getting told while growing up that I was immature and needed to "grow up" by family and so-called friends. That's why, these days, I just straight up don't talk to any of those people anymore, even family, because I don't need that kinda negativity in my life, dang it! 😂

I'd say my behaviors/traits are a lot like the ones you mentioned--looking at toys as I walk by, making faces at myself in mirrors, balancing on curbs and walking across them precariously, always having a quarter in case I come across one of those gumball or lil item dispensers, always using fake tattoos when I get them (even tho i'm already covered in real ones looool), making weird noises, walking around on tippy toes, sometimes my voice even goes up an octave or two without me trying, giggling a lot, loving animated stuff (Pete the Cat on Amazon Prime Video is CHOICE btw if you like cartoons!), using straws for any and all cold drinks (and using my special "big girl cup" that's basically a cup designed for 4-6yr olds that has a cute frog lid when I'm at home), having tea parties with my stuffies and Daddy 💖, reading kid's storybooks, coloring, gosh i could just go on and on and onnnnn hahaha i'm sometimes a bit of a chatterbox 🙈. im sure u get the point by now hehehehe. 

but yeah basically whenever i have to "be an adult", i.e. my job, doctor's appointments, etc, it always feels like i'm playing make believe! such a mind melt teehee 🙈

[yourghostbaby]

5 hours ago, tressygirl1119 said:

omggg i feel like i could've written this! i have alllllwayyyyssss felt like a kid that somehow ended up in a grown-up's body and my goodness it can be... a lot sometimes. I was always getting told while growing up that I was immature and needed to "grow up" by family and so-called friends. That's why, these days, I just straight up don't talk to any of those people anymore, even family, because I don't need that kinda negativity in my life, dang it! 😂

I'd say my behaviors/traits are a lot like the ones you mentioned--looking at toys as I walk by, making faces at myself in mirrors, balancing on curbs and walking across them precariously, always having a quarter in case I come across one of those gumball or lil item dispensers, always using fake tattoos when I get them (even tho i'm already covered in real ones looool), making weird noises, walking around on tippy toes, sometimes my voice even goes up an octave or two without me trying, giggling a lot, loving animated stuff (Pete the Cat on Amazon Prime Video is CHOICE btw if you like cartoons!), using straws for any and all cold drinks (and using my special "big girl cup" that's basically a cup designed for 4-6yr olds that has a cute frog lid when I'm at home), having tea parties with my stuffies and Daddy 💖, reading kid's storybooks, coloring, gosh i could just go on and on and onnnnn hahaha i'm sometimes a bit of a chatterbox 🙈. im sure u get the point by now hehehehe. 

but yeah basically whenever i have to "be an adult", i.e. my job, doctor's appointments, etc, it always feels like i'm playing make believe! such a mind melt teehee 🙈

Oh my goodness, that is WONDERFUL. I feel the same way💗🦄🎀🍭🧸🫖

also HIIIIII TWINNNN! 

!

[Faelin]

I was a 'Gifted Child' and was forced to 'grow up' fast. I hit burn out fast and saw that it wasn't worth it. Have embraced my little self since. I'm going to forever and ever. Being a grown up is BS. 

[MyMy]

25 minutes ago, Faelin said:

I was a 'Gifted Child' and was forced to 'grow up' fast. I hit burn out fast and saw that it wasn't worth it. Have embraced my little self since. I'm going to forever and ever. Being a grown up is BS. 

Uggh this is so felt! I just finished reading this book called Mother Hunger and it was the best thing ever because it touched on this exact topic. 

[yourghostbaby]

1 hour ago, Faelin said:

I was a 'Gifted Child' and was forced to 'grow up' fast. I hit burn out fast and saw that it wasn't worth it. Have embraced my little self since. I'm going to forever and ever. Being a grown up is BS. 

I'm sorry for your lost childhood and/or innocence, I hope you can neverland this lifetime

[Faelin]

I've been healing and making lots of awesome friends. Would love to have some more local, but I'll still take all the online little friends I can make.

Also I might be a little, but I have grown up moneys to buy all the toys and outfits I want! *giggles* and since I'm on medical leave, I can be as little as I want right now. 

[tressygirl1119]

On 9/12/2025 at 12:25 AM, yourghostbaby said:

Oh my goodness, that is WONDERFUL. I feel the same way💗🦄🎀🍭🧸🫖

also HIIIIII TWINNNN! 

!

HIIII TWINNNNN <333

[BabyPoppy]

On 9/11/2025 at 6:38 PM, tressygirl1119 said:

omggg i feel like i could've written this! i have alllllwayyyyssss felt like a kid that somehow ended up in a grown-up's body and my goodness it can be... a lot sometimes. I was always getting told while growing up that I was immature and needed to "grow up" by family and so-called friends. That's why, these days, I just straight up don't talk to any of those people anymore, even family, because I don't need that kinda negativity in my life, dang it! 😂

I'd say my behaviors/traits are a lot like the ones you mentioned--looking at toys as I walk by, making faces at myself in mirrors, balancing on curbs and walking across them precariously, always having a quarter in case I come across one of those gumball or lil item dispensers, always using fake tattoos when I get them (even tho i'm already covered in real ones looool), making weird noises, walking around on tippy toes, sometimes my voice even goes up an octave or two without me trying, giggling a lot, loving animated stuff (Pete the Cat on Amazon Prime Video is CHOICE btw if you like cartoons!), using straws for any and all cold drinks (and using my special "big girl cup" that's basically a cup designed for 4-6yr olds that has a cute frog lid when I'm at home), having tea parties with my stuffies and Daddy 💖, reading kid's storybooks, coloring, gosh i could just go on and on and onnnnn hahaha i'm sometimes a bit of a chatterbox 🙈. im sure u get the point by now hehehehe. 

but yeah basically whenever i have to "be an adult", i.e. my job, doctor's appointments, etc, it always feels like i'm playing make believe! such a mind melt teehee 🙈

I 100% agree with this! It makes me the fun grown-up,  but also I feel very alone most of the time. 

[BabyPoppy]

I grew up, but I chose to have a child like innocence in all I do, which drives most grown-ups totally crazy! They don't know how I can be responsible and child-like at the same time. 

[yourghostbaby]

4 hours ago, BabyPoppy said:

I grew up, but I chose to have a child like innocence in all I do, which drives most grown-ups totally crazy! They don't know how I can be responsible and child-like at the same time. 

Hi Baby Poppy! It does doesn't it ! haha ! I can actively see them trying to read me and it's just like sorrrry dude : p  It's truly a gift and the balancing act of being childish and responsible, it's like rollerskating with your eyes closed sometimes. It's so nice to finally chat! You have so many wonderful posts <3333

[yourghostbaby]

😿 i feel it too

[Journey]

On 9/12/2025 at 11:55 AM, Faelin said:

I was a 'Gifted Child' and was forced to 'grow up' fast. I hit burn out fast and saw that it wasn't worth it. Have embraced my little self since. I'm going to forever and ever. Being a grown up is BS. 

I completely understand. I too was a gifted child. Instead of my parents guiding me, they figured I was smart enough to figure it out on my own. And I practically wound up raising my younger sister until my mom remarried since my mom was never around and we were latchkey kids. I never really got to be a child.

As far as being a little or middle, I never found a mommy so I could explore little space. Being a man, I was sort of forced to be an adult and was punished if I was not dominant enough. 

Instead, even though I was not looking for it, I married a middle. I now live vicariously through her. I often wish I could be her. 

Edited 3 hours ago by Journey

[BabyPoppy]

1 hour ago, yourghostbaby said:

Hi Baby Poppy! It does doesn't it ! haha ! I can actively see them trying to read me and it's just like sorrrry dude : p  It's truly a gift and the balancing act of being childish and responsible, it's like rollerskating with your eyes closed sometimes. It's so nice to finally chat! You have so many wonderful posts <3333

Hi Ghostbaby! Thank you for the kind words! I do feel like I'm floating through life hoping I don't crash into the wrong people and get "busted" for being myself! 🤭💕 I am still learning that it's not me that offends others, but it's the fact that I am comfortable being me, or being little that offends them. I believe most "grown-ups " really wish they could be more child-like, have more innocence in their everyday lives, but they believe the lie... that they need to be stoic, reserve and formal to be seen as mature. But do you wanna know a really big secret??? One I share very openly here with my friends? 

🤫🤫🤫🤫 I am a successful grown-up! 😱   It's true! 😆 I'm a single mom with 2 daughters one who is on her own already and one in middle school (and I raised them both alone). I am a preschool teacher, and I co-teach special education,  and I have the biggest group of children. I run the all day, daycare classroom too, and I lead the preschool program (5 classrooms in our building), I coordinate with 3 programs (Headstart,  Early childhood special education, daycare) and 3 separate school districts, plus the daycare agency, and navigate multiple languages for the families we serve. I also am a member of the Family Resource Council fir our parent agency and we're starting more programs to serve families in our community....

Then comes the outreach in my community through multiple volunteer agencies and advocacy groups I am part of, plus school grouos for my youngest... oh! And grad school, coz I really want the education to back my skills...

I am an adult, a successful one, and I'm little, a baby girl... my child-like innocence allows me a super power! The ability to relate to people, all kinds of people! To notice when someone needs love, support, or an extra minute to just be... 

So many times in this life we look at the goal being to accomplish some random objective in a race, but I see the goal being relationship with those around me.  The opportunity to say hi to the person checking out my groceries and the kid bagging them. To get to know them and hear their stories. To be present with those around me and let others feel safe like I do when I'm in littlespace.  We can't all be little all the time, but I believe everyone needs to be loved for who they are and to find peace where they are at in life. 

Thanks for saying hi, Ghostbaby! Stop by my page anytime! 

Poppy💕