A question for all

[MissAnna]

Good morning, good afternoon or good evening to wherever you amazing beautiful people might be on this gorgeous planet we call home.

I wanted to come on here and ask you all how you came into the DDLG community.

If you all have read my post you will see one about my journey on becoming a Mommy Dom. I had been a Mommy Dom for over 20 years and had the opportunity to meet with some of the largest BDSM organizations in the world. I have traveled to conferences for BDSM and have also been to several BDSM clubs.

I entered this world when i had to take care of my ex husband who became extremely ill. It opened my eyes to the 1950s housewife and I loved waiting on him hand and foot. Now that is still something that has stuck with me. I absolutely love waiting on people and taking care of them. Even when I was a Mommy Dom I loved the idea of waiting on someone,  obeying them and doing as they asked. 

When I joined this site in March I was a Dom and now I sit here in front of you all as a Submissive with Dom tendencies. So I'm a mixture and I have absolutely loved meeting all of you amazing people on here.

I found this community by chance and it has been something that I absolutely have loved. I can honestly say this has been a wonderful decision to join and I'm so glad I found all of you. 

So my question to you all is how did you come to find who you are in this crazy place? And if you are still figuring out who you are that's okay too, I would still love to learn how you stumbled upon our beautiful community.

Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💕 

 

[Faelin]

The short version: Trauma, Injuries, disabilities, internet, and kinks.

More info on each of these have been posted all over in the forums *giggles*. (I'm gonna make it a scavenger hunt) 🤪 

[Little kaiya]

I started in the ABDL community but found it didn't quite fit so started to explore DDlg and it just fit closer to who I am and what I was seeking.

[sheepie uwu]

hihi hi hiii

ngl, I'm kinda jelly you've been to kinkcons! I've been to a few cons, but only kink-adjacent event so far was a Rocky Horror midnight showing, which was great, even if not technically BDSM-centered. Finding equal parts of time, funds, and good health makes it hard to attend stuff, but it's on my bucket list, lol

At some point, I realized I needed a forever human who was okay with my thumb and so here I am!   

TL;DR 

I found ddlg long after convincing myself (due to social stigma) that I was the only adult thumb sucker on the planet. Back in the early days of the internet, you couldn't just google "adult thumb suckers"  and actually get relevant topics. You'd get parental discussions on stopping it and that was it.

But then enter lifestyle documentaries for "strange and unusual" behavior. Girlie pop blew my mind being so chill as she openly sucked her thumb in public. I remember being so angry with the condescending stares. She had a piece of old blanket she'd wrap around the base of it, but didn't touch things with it while shopping.

And then another, less condescending lifestyle documentary showed a cgl dynamic (pre our terms used today) where she was abdl (or at least close to that age group) and he was her daddy. I don't remember if they were kink, agere, or both, but that was the first time I'd heard of the lifestyle as we're in today. It was around this time that I realized I could have a romantic partner who'd accept my thumb and stuffed animals, I just had to look around differently.

It was much much later that I joined another forum similar to this (forums/discussions were finally popping up for us on google and I have no idea why or what changed socially), but she's (site owner) sadly no longer with us and so her site went down. That was were I met my wife, but I like the community aspects and so I joined here a few months after that site collapsed. I was raised in a very white christian household, so it took me way longer to realize that I was dominant, than it should have. But that's a rant about putting up with fragile egos and should be saved for another day.

Anyways, I'm rambling, lol. 

[MissNMTX]

Firstly, I think it's all still a journey for all of us. Growth, evolution, self awareness, and knowledge should all be life long endeavors.

As for me, if you were to look at my life I'm sure you'd seen the most vanilla person of all time. EXCEPT, I've always been a reader. I stumbled across books that supposed were super controversial and shocking. Only, I wasn't shocked at all, I was intrigued, curious. I will always describe myself as a lifelong student....I love learning. 

At first, I did a ton of research to make sure there wasn't something "wrong" with me. That I didn't actually need therapy instead and that my interests could be done in a healthy way. Them I ventured into the world of BDSM forums. I will forever be grateful to two men who I never actually met. The one who made it okay to be interested in what I was and the one who told me what I actually needed was a Daddy Dom.

The journey isn't easy. I'm different than so many here, then again we all are. There's always a debate over who "belongs*and what is the "right " way to live the lifestyle. I haven't found my human as we say quite yet but I've "met" both wonderful and horrible people here. It's a good thing I really do like learning because it seems never ending.

I've been on and off the forum for years now, The forum celebrated 10 yrs so I'd say on and off for 8-9 yrs, this is my 4th time. I'm staying now, but sometimes it can actually be a bit much for me and I'll take a break..

[LeftyGuitar]

It started out as ABDL. More DL. I had seen ABDL before. As I explored ABDL more and started wonder is there like a little and mommy thing that can be mixed into or that is part of this? I had also been exploring BDSM since the late 2000s. I've always kinda been into ABDL before I knew what it was. Then while exploring BDSM and ABDL I became aware of MDLB. It finally all made sense, ABDL and MDLB were my things.