Exploring the possibility that I likely fit into a big brother role, simultaneously being a caregiver and a little

[Guppy]

Hey there! I'm new to the DDlg community at large, but I have been somewhat aware of some parts of my identity for at least a couple years. It's a growing and evolving understanding.

I have been doing a lot of research this week on here, as well as FetLife (where I discovered this forum) and a web archive of LittlespaceOnline. I've been attempting to understand what this all means to me, and where I fit in. I feel like I want to be a big for a little, being a source of comfort, cuddles, a shoulder to lean on, and there to lend an ear. I also want to provide my undivided attention when I can, engage in and share hobbies and interests. These feelings are a mix of platonic and romantic in nature. But, the more research and introspection that I do, the more I also feel like I fit characteristics of being a little. I already gravitate heavily towards a big brother role in my mind, so this makes a lot of sense to me.

This article was validating to read, particularly the "Using Better Self-Identifying Terms" section: https://web.archive.org/web/20240223202201/https://www.littlespaceonline.com/app.php/pretend

I'm looking to talk about this and navigate these feelings over time, as well as make some friends around here and be a part of this community. I guess what it comes down to is this: I'm acknowledging and putting a lot of effort into understanding these feelings, but I don't really know what to do with them yet. I'm open to discussion and resources, I appreciate you reading this and thanks for having me here!

[Lil_K47]

Its ok to not fit into any one particular box here.  We're all learning and exploring and growing! The more you're on here, you'll see a great variety of different kinds of friendships and dynamics. there are no definitely no rules saying you have to take on just one role. 

I suggest check out the clubs that we have, and maybe play some of the games, it's a great way to start getting to know people in a casual setting. 

Good luck and welcome! 😊

[sheepie uwu]

Littlespaceonline!! It's nice to see it's been archived. Playing house is always fun! It sounds like you might be interested in siblingplay or be a switch on some level. It's good to be self aware of individual terms for socialization, but don't let it stress you out as you explore your playspace.

 

[Journey]

That is a very interesting read. Thank you for sharing.

You are on your own journey, and it may be good to look at a couple different aspects that are in play as you discover more about yourself.

Some of the aspects are:

• Natural personality.
• Role play.
• Age regression.
• Submissive & Dominant.
• Preferred lifestyle.

For example, I have the unusual case of being a natural submissive caregiver, who is married to a submissive middle who age regresses. She prefers a dominant daddy, so I role play as a dominant daddy, especially in certain situations. When I am sick, she will role play a dominant mommy or big sister, even though she is naturally a submissive middle. 

So, even though we play different roles at times, that does not necessarily change who we are at our core.

Also, being a caregiver is something anyone can do at any level (other than baby and perhaps toddler). That is where big brother or big sister some into play. Still a little or middle, but still taking on the caregiver role at times. 

Also, submissive/dominant comes into play. You can be a submissive caregiver or a dominant caregiver, or switch between them. You can also be a submissive or dominant little too. 

As you learn more about yourself, don't worry too much about labels. Instead, take a look at the different aspects of your personality, preferences, and possible lifestyles and see what resonates with you. You are unique, so don't think you have to conform to someone else's idea of who you are. 

Good luck on your journey.

Edited October 13 by Journey