Help! New and need guidance

[Freyalex]

I'm new to this. I think Im a little. Maybe. I dont know. I'm nervous. 

Is there a way to find a daddy/caregiver/dom where the relationship isnt sexual? Im in a relationship and dont want to cross that boundary. My spouse isnt into the lifestyle and is unable to provide that for me since hes very much a sub.

I feel like its far fetched so i need to know if it exists.. or if im being entirely unreasonable.

[Little kaiya]

Certainly there are DDlg relationships that aren't sexual. There is still always the potential that it may develop into an emotionally intimate relationship so it's critical to talk with your partner and set very clear boundaries about what is acceptable and what isn't.

[sheepie uwu]

You should talk with your spouse before looking for anyone else. Submissive caregivers definitely exist and maybe your partner is just unaware of the lifestyle. 

[SleepyLynn]

4 hours ago, Freyalex said:

I'm new to this. I think Im a little. Maybe. I dont know. I'm nervous. 

Is there a way to find a daddy/caregiver/dom where the relationship isnt sexual? Im in a relationship and dont want to cross that boundary. My spouse isnt into the lifestyle and is unable to provide that for me since hes very much a sub.

I feel like its far fetched so i need to know if it exists.. or if im being entirely unreasonable.

Talk to your partner- I am in a relationship and my partner is also very submissive and wasn't able to give me what I need emotionally and sexually - but we had a long conversation about it before we agreed that I could look for a Dom/Daddy/GC - my partner specifically didn't want to be put in a position of said role - so first and foremost talk to your partner- see what they are comfortable/uncomfortable with.

I am new to the lifestyle as well and discovering my little side and submissive side - and I've learned that for the first bit, take your time before jumping into to finding a CG/Dom or daddy- you need to be comfortable with yourself and your little space and exploring it before diving into a dynamic. It took me a few months before even discovering this site/ and trying to find out what I needed/wanted.

Since you're also new, explore the resources on the site, like how to spot fake dom/daddies/cg's,  look at the red flags - talk to other littles / middles and just explore the forum and do research.

Start slow- try exploring those feelings of being a little/middle.  Try engaging a bit in the little space first without a dom/daddy/cg - it's hard, especially as someone new, but it's better to slowly start out and learning yourself before exploring with another person. 

There are platonic Dynamic's - if that's what you decide to get into in the long run, after talking with your partner and doing some digging.  Its not unreasonable.

Edited October 1 by SleepyLynn