Question about being Little

[lovely_poppy]

Hiii. 🌼

I am a bit new to the ddlg community and I have question, I hope you can help me out? (I hope I am not offending anyone by asking this, it is not my intention)

So... I've been reading about this dynamic for a while now and it came to my attention that many of the Littles have a kind of trauma or have experienced parental neglect and that this is there way of coping with it. Is this information right? Or maybe I have misunderstood some things? 

Is it normal to not have any kind of trauma and still be a Little? I am a bit confused... 

 

 

 

[Faelin]

There are many types of Littles, some can age regress due to trauma, others do it for fun or even more kinky reasons. All are valid. 

If you are not hurting yourself or others, just have fun, learn about yourself.  

[Little kaiya]

I had good parents, a generally positive childhood, no childhood trauma and am a little. So no, trauma or parental issues are not required to be a little.

[MissAnna]

3 hours ago, lovely_poppy said:

Hiii. 🌼

I am a bit new to the ddlg community and I have question, I hope you can help me out? (I hope I am not offending anyone by asking this, it is not my intention)

So... I've been reading about this dynamic for a while now and it came to my attention that many of the Littles have a kind of trauma or have experienced parental neglect and that this is there way of coping with it. Is this information right? Or maybe I have misunderstood some things? 

Is it normal to not have any kind of trauma and still be a Little? I am a bit confused... 

 

 

 

A lot of littles, middles and some Dom's enter this lifestyle to heal the inner child in them (like me for example, I entered this lifestyle because I never had anyone to take care of me so I always want to take care of others around me and show them love)

That doesn't mean you have to have a traumatic past to be apart of this lifestyle, many have had a beautiful upbringing and just have fallen in love with BDSM community.

You haven't offended anyone, because if you don't ask then you won't know the answer.

Edited Tuesday at 07:43 PM by MissAnna

[Lil_K47]

im a little. this dynamic appeals to me for a lot of different reasons. But no major past trauma for me, and my parents were mostly pretty great. 

I think each of us have our own individual reasons for liking what we like. I think this lifestyle pretty subjective, there are no wrong questions and no wrong answers! 

[sheepie uwu]

Hi hi 🤗

I have childhood trauma and involuntarily age regress, as well as voluntarily SFW Age Dream.

Childhood trauma is absolutely not a requirement in order to be a Little, but some people might consider it necessary in order to "properly" claim being a "true" AgeRe. 

Medically speaking, Age Regression is caused by mental disorders which are occasionally caused by childhood trauma. People sometimes use the medical definition in order to incite drama and gatekeep on places like Reddit/Tumblr. *eye roll*

As someone who deals with daily involuntary regression, I wouldn't wish having a shitty childhood on anybody. Or any of the aftermath that I'm still dealing with. I want other people to have what I can't, couldn't, or won't because I refuse to continue the cycle of trauma I was taught.

I'm grateful to those who choose the Littlespace lifestyle that had happy, safe homes growing up. It makes me feel less socially awkward, despite being a traumatically-induced neurodivergent individual. It's nice to see other adults my physical age or older accepting the kinds of things I enjoy, without so much as blinking at it. 

At the end of the day, Littlespace is a good way to have fun and relax for everybody. And yes, being a non-trauma based Little is a normal, valid way to experience being a Little. Our lifestyle is subjective by nature. Like what you like and come as you are.

Oops, I feel like I rambled a bit off topic. I hope I've cleared some of your confusion on our community. If you're wanting to consider yourself a Little or are just exploring the concept, welcome aboard!

🐑 🌈

Edited Wednesday at 07:33 AM by sheepie uwu

[Poutyprincess]

I had a rough childhood, for sure. But, I don't necessarily think going into littlespace for me is something related to this. I have always felt very kid-like, even as I grew older. It's only been since around 2020 that I have allowed myself to lean into it and explore further. 💗