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  2. Andriel_Isilien


    A fellow I have been watching as he shares his journey of recovery, specifically from substance abuse, and talks about healthy relationships. This video he talks about the extreme ends where we can be co-dependent (I need this other person's love to survive) and counter-dependent (I don't need anyone ever).
  3. Curious82


    This is a great reminder to have lying around or up on the wall or mirror so when those bad days hit, its right there to make it a little easier to get through.
  4. Sloth Fairy


    That last part is so true. One bad moment doesn't make the whole day bad
  5. Andriel_Isilien


    Another article about the imbalance of giving and taking in relationships that was shared with me. The 80/20 Relationship Dynamic by Laura M. Brotherson. I will type up the text in here with a bit of editing of the gender stereotypes and roles these characteristics fall into. Because in my humble opinion, narcissism and co-dependency respects NO gender. Plus, taking the time to write this up is my own homework to have this sink in my head. Source: https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/80-20-relationship-dynamic-Brotherson.pdf (SFW link) ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The following is an important relationship dynamic to understand and keep in mind so that you are able to identify which side you fall on and what efforts are needed to move toward better balance in your relationship. BASIC CONCEPTS Most all relationships exhibit this complementary dynamic to some degree. It is a built-in power differential in every relationship until couples become aware of and work to shift the dynamic to a more balanced and co-equal, interdependent relationship. Couples need to know which side of the dynamic they individually lean towards tin order to understand which direction they need to go in order to move toward becoming a team that operates closer to a 50-50 dynamic of "self" and "other". Like a see-saw as the 80%er works to become a 60%er, for instance, the 20%er will become a 40%er and vice versa. Opposites Attract -- We tend to naturally attract someone whose strengths and weaknesses compliment ours. Those with codependent (other-oriented) personalities and those with emotionally manipulating (self-oriented) personalities are natural human magnets. If someone is a 80%er they attract a 20%er. If someone is a 40%er they will attract a 60%er. If you decided to leave an 80%er partner but don't do the work that a 20%er needs to do get into a better balance/healthier range of relating then you will likely just attract another 80%er due to the complementary, magnetic nature of this relationship dynamic. This 80/20 concept can apply to the entire relationship or it may just show up in one specific area of the relationship, i.e. the sexual relationship. One couple realized that in the sexual dimension one was the 80%er and the other was the 20%er, but in the parenting dimension it was reversed. It all depends on what dimension the couples are trying to improve, in order to know what efforts are needed. WHY? -- as many couples presented in counseling with a relationship dynamic where 80%ers had "taken" and 20%ers had "given" for so long (especially in the sexual dimension) that the 20%er couldn't do it anymore. The core of the relationship had become too unbalanced/damaged and something had to change in order to heal and strengthen the relationship. When the 80%er accepts the reality of this dynamic and begins to "take less" and "give more", and the 20%er learns to "take more" and "give less" then we begin to heal the relationship. The detrimental effects of "duty sex/charity sex/ obligatory sex" became readily apparent. This concept operates on a continuum between both extremes that are unhealthy and dysfunctional with the healthy and functional range being in the middle. CO-DEPENDCY is on a continuum - the gist is a well-intentioned but unhealth orientation towards helping, rescuing, sacrificing for, caretaking, taking responsibility for, enabling or trying to orchestrate change in others who behave in unhealthy, self-absorbed ways. This is the 20% range. NARCISSISM (emotional manipulation) is on a continuum - the gist is an orientation toward self-centeredness. It's a sense of specialness or entitlement, seeks admiration, doesn't take advice or criticism well, often deflects blame onto others, struggles with empathy, and can be emotionally manipulative. This is the 80% range. CASUAL FACTORS Personality - Type A personalities - outgoing, competitive, driven, ambitious, aggressive, impatient, confident the person leans toward the 80%er side; with Type B personalities - reflective, more laid back, tolerant, cooperative, accommodating the person leans toward the 20%er side. Upbringing - The "self-orientation" of 80%er was likely developed through developmental experiences that taught the 80%er to lean on themselves to get their needs met (counter-dependency); with the "other-orientation" of 20%er likely developed through developmental experiences that taught the 20%er to lean on caring for others to get their needs met (dependency). Self-orientation (80%er) often comes from an avoidant attachment to one's parents, while other-orientation (20%er) often comes from an anxious attachment to one's parents. CHARACTERISTICS of 80%er oriented towards "self" -- they view things through a "self" lens, i.e. how will this affect me? tends toward counter-dependence puts self ahead of others resistant, aggressive a taker - tends to take more than they give takes to get their needs met compulsive care- "taking" at the expense of others' needs ("addiction to self") controls, manipulates others / walks over others takes control / leads accesses their agency easily cares for self at the expense of others disregards or discounts others' wants, needs, opinions to avoid negative feelings they get/demand love and respect without giving it in return relies on self; avoids relying on others due to mistrust over values self tends to naturally take up more of the "air" in the relationship often without even realizing it focuses on own needs tends toward overt aggressiveness - "my way or the highway" may be so self-absorbed that they can't even recognize or accept themselves as the 80%er in the relationship self-dependent or selfish often blames others easy for them to stand up or speak up for themselves both orientations can be unhealthy on the far ends CHARACTERISTICS OF 20%er oriented toward "others" - they view things through an "others" lens, i.e. how will this affect others? tends toward co-dependent puts others ahead of self compliant, accommodating a giver - tends to give more than they take gives to get their needs met compulsive care - "giving" / compliance at the expense of their own needs ("addiction to others") - leads to accumulating resentment let's themselves get walked on allows others to take control / follows relinquishes their agency to avoid confrontation, etc. cares for others at the expense of self overlooks their own wants, needs, opinions to keep the peace and avoid negative reactions, feelings, confrontations they give love and respect without requiring it in return relies on others under values self tends to willingly take the leftover "air" in the relationship often without even realizing it denies, discounts, minimizes own needs tends toward passive aggressiveness - makes them pa other ways may be so concerned about the other's feelings that they don't want to acknowledge the reality that they have been going with less for a long time co-dependent of other-dependent often feels guilty hard for them to stand up or speak up for themselves both orientations can be unhealthy on the far ends can be so other oriented that even the spouse rarely gets priority attention What the 80%ers Need to Do to Change This Dynamic (move toward a "50%er" balance between take and give / between self and others) focus on others/other-care; stay out of "What about me?" thinking be more respecting of others' wants, needs, opinions do more following - take more of a back seat listen more for other's wants, needs, opinions, perspectives and speak less; ask her/his/their opinion practice doing one thing a day that's important to your partner that meets their needs acknowledge when you "take" and apologize be willing to confront yourself and identify your weaknesses take down your walls/barriers to being vulnerable/connecting say "yes" to the other's requests more often attend to the other's needs, opinions more -- do it their way more often don't argue or pushback when they do speak up/give an opinion or express a want/need or they may just continue to shut down and/or shut you out willing take/get/demand less (as you move from an 80%er to a 60%er); resist the urge to pushback or manipulate to keep things as they are don't put guilt or blame on the other person; recognize your "taking" default and your need to change it to attain better balance develop more compassion for others be more willing to identify and express your feelings not just facts to try to be right or to prove a point) do a written daily check-in each night where you write out 2-3 ways you were selfish, demanding, manipulative, controlling, prideful, or angry/frustrated that day What 20%ers Need to Do to Change This Dynamic (move towards a "50%er" balance between give and take / between others and self) give yourself permission to focus on self / self-care require respect from others - take/get/demand more (to be more balanced) show more leadership - take more of the lead stand up, speak up for yourself more - your wants, needs, opinions, perspectives be open and honest with self and others about your needs, etc. make the other attend to your wants, needs, opinions, perspectives as much as you do theirs say things like, "That was a 'Take'" to help the 80%er realize when they are "taking" "carefront" (confront) - care enough about the relationship to speak up and confront others when necessary build healthy boundaries and hold them firm say "no" more often (especially when you don't really want to do something and/or know you'll feel resentment if you do say yes) don't give in to the other's preferences - instead insist on yours equally develop ability to handle/cope with strong negative reactions (i.e. be okay with them being mad at you or being disappointed or inconvenienced by you) be able to handle the discomfort of the push back the 80%er will give when you try to change these dynamics push away thoughts of guilt, or that you're being selfish, or that problems are your fault; strive for balance develop more compassion for self do things out of love not fear do a written daily check-in each night where you didn't speak up or stand up for your truth RELATIONSHIP GOAL For the 80%er to be more "other-oriented", and take less and give more; while 20%er need to be more "self-oriented" and take more and give less in order to move closer to a 50/50 dynamic where there's a more balanced and equitable distribution of needs met, opinions given, credibility/weight/validity, and the perspective respected. WHAT HEALTHY LOOKS LIKE Differentiated - the active, ongoing process of defining self, revealing self, clarifying boundaries, and managing the anxiety that comes from risking either greater intimacy or separateness; the ability to advocate for oneself and respectfully treat each other as separate but connected individuals each having their own equally valid perspectives, interests, priorities, etc.' interdependent Self-aware/Self-reflective/Self-correcting - can recognize when "giving" and "taking" are in balance on both sides of the relationship; more 50/50; correcting as needed Healthy Boundaries - both maintain and respect each other's boundaries; as you each move closer to the 50% range, boundaries won't be consciously needed because they will be automatically built into the mutual respect healthy individuals show toward each other in their relationship
  6. Andriel_Isilien

    The Reality of Being Human

    It's so dangerous to suppress emotions. They are feedback to what needs our attention inside of us. To be feeling something doesn't make you a better or worse person. That depends on how you act accordingly in response. There is a bit I wrote about this that I'll copy here... Feel Your Truth It's ok to not be ok. It's also ok to feel good even if others do not. Don't feel pressure to smile when you can't feel it in your heart. Don't feel guilty if you are are happy while suffering still exists. Your emotions don't need to conform to your surroundings. No amount of making yourself feel bad is going to make someone else feel good. Humans are meant to feel and process every emotion we come across rather than suppressing. To say, "I can't be sad because someone else has it worse than I do." Is just about as ridiculous as saying, "I can't be happy because someone else has it better than I do."
  7. Let’s talk about the reality of what is being human. Much like you all, I'm not fully healed. I have been through my own share of things. Tragedies, betrayals, heartbreaks. I have lots of work I’ve done and I still have to do. I can only share from my own experiences, and from what I'm practicing and learning, and what I'm working through in my own personal life. We experience the world around us through our nervous system. A nervous system that works every waking moment to sense real or perceived danger. That danger can look like a mean comment, an insult from a co-worker, a sarcastic comment from a friend, or a reaction from our partner. And when our nervous system is activated, our thoughts shift. We can be flooded with thoughts of "I'm not good enough", "I need to stop sharing", "No one cares what I have to say." Do you experience this, often? I'm a a big believer in spiritual healing. And, I believe the spiritual world often tries to bypass our humanity. This idea that one day we will never experience 'negative' emotions. And that being healed means we become robots devoid of emotions isn't true. We need 'negative' emotions. When someone hurts us, we don't need to give "love and light." What we need to do is feel the anger. This anger motivates us to set boundaries, remove ourselves from abusive situations, and to keep ourselves safe. My feelings get hurt. My ego gets involved. I second guess myself. I feel less than, often. Any "success" I've had doesn't take those feelings away. If anything, it's amplified them. I just continue to show up. That's all I can do. The truth is we're all fragile, sensitive beings wondering if we're doing this thing called life right. We're all looking for evidence that we don't belong. We all feel alone, unworthy, and fear we'll be abandoned, at times. This is what unites us. This is what, if we're vulnerable enough to speak about, will bring us to better understand each other. To better support each other. And to free us from the belief that we need to judge ourselves for feeling natural emotions. We don't. Our emotions are simply guides. A 90 second experience in a temporary body we call home. The work is to accept them. To watch them come and go. And to understand we are not the chatter in our own minds. Learning to love yourself as a process that can only happen when you start to actually know yourself. You cannot love someone you don't know. Resources for this go include: Traumageek.com Frontiers in Psychiatry - www.frontiersin.org Articles found in Scientific Research an Academic Publisher - scrip.org Big credit to Dr. Nicole LaPera and her books “How to do the Work!” And “How to Meet Yourself!” Follow her on Twitter @Theholisticpsyc and definitely check her books out.
  8. Vampiress


    This resonates so deeply with me, wow. Gives me a lot to think about and reflect on. Thank you so much for sharing!
  9. Andriel_Isilien


    I came across this article here: Why We Abandon Ourselves and How to Stop (psychcentral.com) SFW link. It blew my mind how prone I am to this behavior and can sink into codependency. I'll copy and paste the text. Why We Abandon Ourselves and How to Stop Do you have a hard time trusting yourself? Do you hide parts of yourself your feelings, beliefs, and ideas in order to fit in or please others? Do you diminish or discount your feelings because you think they dont really matter? This is self-abandonment. We abandon ourselves when we dont value ourselves, when we dont act in our own best interest, and when we dont encourage and comfort ourselves. Notice how many of these examples of self-abandonment ring true for you. Examples of self-abandonment: Not trusting your instincts – second-guessing yourself, overthinking and ruminating, letting others make decisions for you and assuming they know more than you do. People-pleasing seeking validation from others, suppressing your needs and interests in order to please others. Hiding parts of yourself – giving up your interests and goals, not sharing your feelings. Perfectionism – having unrealistically high expectations for yourself, never feeling worthy regardless of how much you do and what you accomplish. Self-criticism and judgment – saying hurtful and mean things to yourself when you dont meet your own painfully high standards. Not honoring your needs not recognizing that your needs are valid, failing to practice self-care, feeling unworthy of self-care. Suppressing your feelings – pushing away uncomfortable feelings through denial, mood-altering substances, and avoidance. Not acting according to your values – doing things to please others even if they go against your beliefs and values. Codependent relationships – focusing on someone elses needs, wants, and problems and neglecting yourself. Not speaking up for yourself not asking for what you need, not setting and enforcing boundaries, letting people take advantage of you. Why we abandon ourselves Self-abandonment begins in childhood. Its likely that your parents or other influential adults didnt meet your emotional and/or physical needs in childhood they abandoned you emotionally or physically — causing you to feel unworthy and unlovable. As adults, we tend to repeat these types of patterns from childhood because theyre familiar; we repeatedly choose partners and friends who mistreat, take advantage of, or dont support us. And we do the same to ourselves. We dont know how to be there for ourselves because no one was truly there for us as children. Self-abandonment is a learned behavior, a way you tried to cope with unhealthy or dysfunctional family dynamics. Children depend on adults to meet their emotional and physical needs. But when you live in an unpredictable, chaotic, or abusive family, you learn to hide your true self. You act like a chameleon, morphing into whatever role will keep the peace and help you avoid ridicule, put-downs, physical and emotional pain. You learn to suppress your feelings and needs, that your worth depends on what you accomplish or do (and whatever you do, its never enough), that your needs, interests, goals dont matter, and that you dont deserve love and compassion. Self-abandonment is a self-destructive pattern that can contribute to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and unfulfilling relationships. Abandoning yourself may have been a necessity during childhood, but it isnt helpful anymore. So, lets look at how you can begin to trust and value yourself. How to stop abandoning yourself In her autobiography, fashion designer Diane Von Furstenberg wrote, The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. You need to be able to rely on yourself. And your relationship with yourself becomes the template for all the other relationships you form. As such, we need to cultivate a loving relationship with ourselves even if it feels uncomfortable and even if were not entirely sure how to do it. We need to start showing up for ourselves, allowing ourselves to freely express ourselves, and recognizing that were flawed but completely worthy. You stop abandoning yourself and start creating a loving relationship with yourself when you: Allow yourself to have feelings and needs. Everyone has feelings and needs. You may not have been allowed to express them as a child (or even in some of your adult relationships), but you can now be a safe haven for your own feelings and needs. If you listen, your feelings will tell you what you need and when you meet your needs, youll be happier and healthier. To begin, practice identifying your feelings throughout the day. If this is new to you, it can help to use a list of feeling words (such as this one). Then ask yourself, Im feeling ___________. What do I need right now? The objective is to stay present with your difficult feelings, rather than to abandon yourself when you feel overwhelmed. Meditation is another tool that can help you cultivate acceptance of and tolerance for your feelings. Many people enjoy meditation apps such as Calm, Headspace, and Insight Timer. Allow yourself to be creative, quirky, and uniquely you. Try not to hide parts of yourself out of fear of disapproval or judgment. Not everyone is going to like you and thats okay. Dont shrink or change to please others. Express who you are through your work, creative pursuits, your hairstyle and clothes, your hobbies, interests, and passion projects. If you feel out of touch with your true self, commit some time to rediscover what you like and what matters to you. Treat yourself with compassion Everyone deserves care and comfort when they are suffering. Often, were great a doing this for others, but we minimize our own struggles and fail to love ourselves when we need it the most. On her website, self-compassion researcher Kristen Neff, Ph.D. suggests, Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings after all, whoever said you were supposed to be perfect? Most of us werent taught about the importance of self-compassion as children, so we need to teach ourselves these skills as adults. And if your parents didnt show you compassion, this may feel quite foreign. It will get easier and more comfortable with practice. The basic tenants of self-compassion are: Notice when youre struggling. Noticing your feelings and your body sensations (muscle tension, aches and pains, rapid heart rate, and so on) will help you notice when youre experiencing a disappointment, loss, or hard time. Recognize that everyone suffers, has difficulties, and makes mistakes. When you do this, you feel connected to others through your struggles rather than isolated and inadequate because of them. Mindful awareness of your negative feelings. The goal is to be aware of your feelings, but not to judge them. You want to give them space, but not let them define us. You might also think about what concrete actions you can take to comfort yourself. Ive written several articles with ideas for practicing self-compassion that you can find here and here. Stand up for yourself Another important aspect of self-love and trust is advocating for yourself. I know it can be scary to assert yourself and set boundaries. Most of us are afraid of offending or angering people and afraid that well be abandoned if we do. But the alternative — letting others walk all over you — is self-abandonment. Its saying, Other peoples needs and wants matter more than mine. And I will accept disrespect, invalidation, and blame because I dont think Im worthy of anything better. Clearly, this isnt the foundation of a healthy relationship with anyone. To learn more about setting boundaries, you can read this blog post. How will you start to show up for yourself? Will you listen to what your body and feelings are telling you? Will you prioritize self-care? Will you do what feels right for you even if others disapprove? Will you comfort yourself when youre having a hard time? Will you set boundaries without feeling guilty? It doesnt matter where you begin, just take one small step today to value yourself. 2018 Sharon Martin, LCSW. All rights reserved.
  10. Teether toys sound cool... Never heard of it.
  11. You are most certainly welcome! 😁 I have always been a chewer since I can remember. As an adult I grind my teeth without realizing it and that has caused several issues. Chewing gum is an easy outlet but I want to try teether toys for kids that I can collect for littlespace.
  12. In the video she speak about "age regression" and I searched for it and found this article: https://www.verywellhealth.com/age-repression-therapy-5212676 Some of the stuff about self soothing sounds eerily like me, with the pencil chewing and temper tantrums, which actually made me change my medication, because they were so severe, now I just cry a lot. I don't know if there is a question in there, i just didn't really know about it, being a thing.
  13. Thank you for the advice and the visually stunning lists. I find colouring soothes me and biting on stuff, don't think it is smart, but it is something I've always done.
  14. I think one of the most important tools to health communication in a relationship is learning how to "Fight Fair" with your partner. There is a lot of information out there from psychologists and relationship experts on how to do so. If you take your relationship seriously and want to build a foundation of being able to handle issues more productively, this is a subject I HIGHLY recommend you do your research on and share with your partner. If you are able to accomplish this together as a relationship tool, then your issues will generally be much easier to tackle together as a team and you will usually find more fulfilling resolution. Some articles (all sfw): https://www.heysigmund.com/fighting-fair/ https://www.glamour.com/story/how-much-fighting-is-too-much-in-a-relationship https://cmhc.utexas.edu/fightingfair.html
  15. *When should you walk away from a friend who expects to much but you can’t stop enabling or coddling them ? I think a good indication is if you start notice you feel drained or unhappy, or if you start to feel a sense of dread when you know you're about to interact with them. There's always tell-tale signs like that when a certain friendship or relationship is doing you more harm than good. You can also tell from their behavior they are only looking out for themselves, and lack a sense of consideration or care for you. *How much support and help is too much ? When you are hurting yourself in the process, but also clearly not making any progress with your friend. People who truly want help will prove it, because once it's offered they will start acting on it. People who ask for help and do nothing just want attention and pity. *How do you confront a friend that you feel isn’t being honest about their situation and it’s draining your friendship ? Have a very honest and frank discussion. Be fair and opening to listening and understanding their side of things. Tell them how you perceive what is going on and what you are noticing, and how it makes you feel. Try not to be mean or overly accusatory, because you will have zero chance of progress, they will immediately get defensive. If you are fair and they get defensive or manipulative anyways, it's just another sign that you need to end this interaction. If your friend cares about you they'll realize there should be more balanced give and take, and that they should care about you too and not solely focus on what they think they need. *How do you self reflect and change some behaviors if someone tells you that your behavior is draining them or you’re asking too much from them ? I think it's important to be an active listener and really take into consideration what another person is saying, even if the first instinct is to defend. If there is a miscommunication that is the cause it's important to clarify and ammend that. However, it's best to take someone else's feelings seriously, and try to figure out what you can do better to show your friend that you care about them, too. If someone needs space or something else, that should be respected. We cannot forcibly demand someone just give and give, and if you ask too much then you need to take a step back and be fair. Depending on what it is, either you need to resolve this issue in yourself and not lean on another too much, or spread that need out to other friendships (like asking someone to spend too much time with you, perhaps make time for multiple friends so you get the social interaction you need without demanding too much of one person). *How do you bring up concern for a friends health without being hurtful ? I think I would first find out what is causing this issue before bringing it up, because I don't want to start talking about it with only assumptions in mind. If we're talking about a weight issue, I especially would need to find out if it's just a dietary concern or if it's something more to do with medical issues. If it's a medical issue caused by medication or something, I don't know what I could really say because it's very much not their fault and might be a struggle to get it under control. If it's something they're doing to themselves I think I would try to get to the root of the issue and work on that with them. If they are depressed, what is making them depressed? What can we do to get them to a better headspace so that they are more open to taking the steps to their own personal wellness? I think it's important to be understanding, and not shame them or be accusatory. We all know something like depression can affect peoples' weight in either direction and change a lot of personal habits. Most of the time it is not just a conscious decision where someone decides to just do that to themselves, usually there is a deeper issue that needs resolution before tackling the side effects of it. *What can you do if your friend completely disagrees that their health is at risk but you still have major concerns ? I think once you've put it out there that you are concerned and offered them your help, just let them know the door is open. That's really all you can do. You can't force someone to be helped or help themselves if they don't want to. You can't drag a person to wellness, they have to have the inner drive to get there themselves. *Need support if you feel a friendship can’t go on because of these issues ? If a friendship is dragging you down, I think it's okay to seek support from others or a therapist as long as you don't become the friend that is dragging others down. Most importantly, the first step should be lessening or cutting off interaction with the person dragging you down, and then focusing on your needs to get back to your own sense of personal contentment. Engaging in whatever forms of self-care you need is going to be important. *Telling someone their behavior is why they’re being ghosted ? You might not be wrong. This is a multi-faceted issue because it's usually hard to have all the facts. I know some people really just have very bad luck with people they end up interacting with (this might be due to being naive, inexperienced, people pleasing, etc), but certain personality types do tend to attract those who may use them or take advantage of them. In that case I guess you could argue that it's their fault, but I don't think that's what you mean. I do think when someone admits to being ghosted constantly it's fair to talk to them about it with several different points acknowledging that it may very well not be their fault, but also reminding them that self-reflection is still a good thing in case they were doing something making someone else uncomfortable. Sometimes people are socially inepty or really just don't understand that they're bothering someone, and because they don't understand it they may heavily disagree with someone telling them that they don't like what they're doing. However, in this day and age ghosting is very common because it is very easy to do and it doesn't surprise me that some people have experienced this more than once.
  16. Andriel_Isilien


    The worst is when I can't remember if I took my meds or not. So, then I get stuck with the choice, "Will I double dose or skip a dose?" 🥴 Once the days of the week labels rub off, I'll be back to square one LOL
  17. I’m not good at taking care of myself , and Big Brother reminded me to take and re fill my vitamin tray. With my health issues it’s extremely important I remember to take my vitamins (as should everyone in general !)
  18. You’d be surprised what apologizing to someone can do for them when you mess up.
  19. DaddysMonkey


    I need to hear this too.

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