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@CupcakeSparklies This is so difficult. I'm so sorry you are going through this. 🫂 I usually struggle for days after littlespace with a daddy. A few things that help me are regular check-ins with daddy and safe friends, keeping my routine, coloring and cartoons, being in the sunshine, exercise, healthy foods, and lotsa water. I know it sounds simple, but things that keep me calm and kinda happy are the best. I tend to isolate and avoid people and activities I enjoy, so I try to build those things into my daily life and keep myself going.

Best problem everrrr.... No for reals. I get it. I've been long distance with my Daddy for.... 54 days....who's counting tho. And it's a lot to manage. For me, I do a little bit similar to Daddy Bear. I take care of myself cuz it's what I need/want to do to be proud of myself. Also I know Daddy is proud and happy that I'm doing well (not that he would be mad if I struggle but making him happy makes me happy). And ALSO I take all my problems and feelings to Daddy. All the time. If I can and within reason (like I make sure I journal or pray or whatever to put myself in the responsible seat but I also let daddy know if I'm just sad or need a hug. And then another hug and another). I fully expect you to feel sad and kinda listless.....I would say you must allow yourself that. But slowly start to do the things that you know might make u feel better. You gotta enjoy your life for you ya know? Maybe one thing u need is a shirt, blankie or stuffy that smells like him? But only so thoughts of him make you smile. If u notice getting super sad then u must try it best to distract yourself. The thing that works for me is watching old movies and things that I know Daddy wouldnt like but I do (like British period romance dramas 😂) And one more thing: adulting sucks!!! And it sucks a lot especially when juxtaposed with Daddy times..... You're just straight up dealing with transition. So be gentle with yourself. Wear comfy soft things and pine your heart out if needed. Just don't eat too much bad candy and food about it 😆. And go take a walk and breathe fresh air and fill your lungs. All that energy is for you and your life. You get to live and decide how you handle what happens to you. So, how would you like it to look when you face this aspect of life?

It helped me to remember when I met my sweet little squirrel for the first time that it wasn't going from wonderful to bad but good to wonderful to very good. We connected very well and it showed how solid of a future we have together. It also helped to just accept I was sad we parted, and to let myself just feel the sadness and let my body finish experiencing the emotion. I also started preparing for our next meeting by finding ways to save up for the flight and continue improving myself to be the best partner and Daddy I can be for her. I'm sorry you are feeling sad it's incredibly understandable and I hope you two can do some cool virtual things and see each other soon.

So I am experiencing sub drop or as I like to call it little drop after visiting my Daddy for a week ish. I am having problems adjusting back into "regular life". I am sad and depressed. I know this is just something to kinda just get through, but what kinda things help other people who have experienced this? Right now I am just trying to distract myself with things to do. Is there anything else I should be doing?

So sorry Man. 😢

@AgentCodyDanks This is a lot to process. I just want to say I'm sorry for your loss. Take some time to feel your feelings and let go of the pain you are experiencing. Rest, take care of yourself, and know that you are not alone. We are here to support you as you go through this time.

If you need a friend to lend an ear let me know! Losing your first love can be really hard.

Pain. Nothing but pain right now. Questions. Pain. Fear, and more pain. My stomach hurts. I have a pit there that I haven't felt since my most depressed days years ago. I hate this feeling. I feel disgusting. 8 months straight of going to sleep over facetime, 8 months of waking her up on time for class or work or whatever activities she set for the day. 8 months of taking care of her in every way possible, seeing her extreme highs and lows that come with Bipolar Depression. 8 months of seeing her every day, knowing that I was going to hear her voice say I love you Daddy as we put our heads down. I put something on Discord for you. It's usually our favorite Papa Meat, or its one of your favorite cartoons or animated movies. But i know, we couldn't see eye to eye on this. No matter what. You were perfect except for one thing, you wanted to be open. I couldn't deal with that. I don't want to share you. And that is what a majority of our issues would stem from. And I know that isn't everything, we had a few other little issues. But so many would have been avoided if we just had those talks early on. I said that in a DDLG or BDSM style relationship, communication is everything. And I tried to have conversations about boundaries and what is okay and what isn't. But you kept insisting it was better to learn along the way. But now look. You blew up on me 3 times these last few weeks because we were doing things you didn't like. But I had no idea because you never expressed anything. If I asked if you were okay with certain things, even just watching what I wanna watch, you would differ to me. Im venting. Im hurt. She is gorgeous, she is insanely easy to talk to, bubbly, flirty... The amount of guys that are going to want to talk to you... The amount of guys that were already trying to talk to you.... My mind is stuck. Its been 12 hours and I still cant stop crying. You were my first true little. You were my first Girlfriend. You were my first a lot of things. I just wish we could have met in person first. Just so I could know what my littles hair smells like. Or what her face feels like against my hand as I caress her. Or what your voice sounds like not on Snap.... I miss you babygirl. I don't know how I am going to get over this at the moment. 8 months of knowing you were there day and night. And now no one. You have former Daddies and Sugar Daddies in your phone. You have a reddit account where you used to search for Daddies like me. And you have an OF account soon to open. My biggest fear is how much "Fun" you want to have. You can slip into little space quite often when doing fun time. I fear that you are going to do that with someone who has no idea how to handle my little girl. And they're gonna hurt you. Just be safe baby. For Daddy. You're still my little girl. You always will be. I told you that and I meant it months and months ago. I miss you. I love you. Thank you for being there when you were. I just wish you were here now.

Thank you @babypichu5❤️ your words mean a lot to me! I appreciate you sharing your affirmations, too!

@innerchildtml and @Tendillo I really did have a great day, thank you! 🩷 I'm greatful that Mother (bio) is my one of my best friends. 🩷 I'm greatful that I was brave enough to work through my GAD work book and aware enough to know when I need to stop for today. 🩷 I'm greatful that I accomplished so much yard work.

I'm glad you found some sunshine in your day @babypichu5

It sounds like you had a great day.

@InspireDaddy, thank you for your informative reply. I was really stressed the other day and I thought of your post and took a cold shower. It was hard at first but it moved my mind from manic-panic/meltdown mode to just breath mode. I think a cold bath would have been even better. I plan experimenting more and seeing if integrating this habit as a regular thing will help me access that parasympathetic state mkre easily. Thank you for your help! ~💛 Pichu

🩷 I'm greatful that I chose to go to work today and it was a good day. 🩷 I'm greatful that my co-worker is so kind and accepting or me. 🩷 I'm great full that my tummy is feeling better and now I can eat. 💛 I'm greatful that my Dr. moved my appointment date to sooner so that I can get the support I need.

Thanks @BabyPoppy, for you honest and heart felt post. What we tell ourselves is so important. Often times it's out own voice that is loudes and it's so easy to let that voice be critical or negative. Being Autistic and expirencing bipolar 2, I tend to have big emotions over seemingly small things or over nothing. Affirming to myself that I am capable of going through hard emotions is helpful as well as choosing to have a positive out look on the day a head. Here they are: ✨️Today is a good day to have a good day. ✨️ 🩷I can see the good in every situation. ✨️These are not my thoughts (for when i have dark scary thoughts).✨️ 🩷I don't have to feel good to do good. ✨️I am strong, courageous, and resilient!✨️ 🩷It's hard moment not a bad day. ✨️I've done this before and I can do it again! ✨️ Thank you again Poppy for you post. I'm so glad you and your mother were able to have such an honest and vulnerable conversation. Sounds like there has been alot of growth and healing to get you there. I am so happy for you. ~💛Pichu

I had a few affirmations tonight I wanted to share, but I need to share a little bit first. About a year ago, I was talking with my mother and she asked about what happened when I was young. She was finally able to hear some of it. She apologized and said someone had shared with her recently about him and she was so shocked! She was so busy raising us, she never thought anything could happen to me. She wanted to fix it. I listened, too. I told her I forgave her and she asked how she could forgive herself. I told her I wanted her in my life and that I loved her. I am thankful for the sacrifices she made to raise us. It's not easy single parenting 3 kids. We've talked several times over the past year and this issue always comes up in our conversation. So tonight one of my affirmations is about this issue. As I look at them, maybe all of my affirmations are about this issue. 1. Rest is healing. 2. It is healthy to work on me before I look for a partner. 3. Forgiveness is about my heart and moving on. It is not about letting bad people back into my life. My mother asked me what I would do if he would message me. I said, "he's blocked. I block a lot of people who are unsafe in my life. I need to do that to stay safe. I am unable to say no yet, so blocking them is the best choice I can make." There's no guilt or shame in that statement, only strength. Another affirmation... I will not talk to unsafe people. Affirmations are so powerful. They help change thoughts and feelings, which mold behavior and actions. Always remember how powerful your mind is and it can take you any where you want to go! Poppy 💕

Hi @andy332 We met on the other forum. Hope you're feeling better about things recently. You can message me any time, here or there

@PocketDove I'm very glad you find this thread helpful.

Thank you for your kind words I really wanted make a space for people to take a moment and enjoy the good around them no matter what they are battling.

Happy to hear your knee is feeling better. Also I love your diorama. I'm glad you and your kid were able to bond.

I'm happy to hear you were able to do some problem solving that got you into a more manageable situation. 😁

I'm greatful that, I'm feeling better this evening than I did yesterday. I'm having fun with daddy watching cartoons and he got me ice cream. I'm greatful that we gotta hangout with family. They made me happy.

I am just chiming in to say I really enjoy this topic and appreciate it being covered. I have a few overlapping diagnosis that are relevant here and I always need reminding to attend to them fully. This type of thread helps a lot. Thank you!

I found out something I was taking to help me was actually making me sick. I still have some struggle but it's *more manageable now 😺

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