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@SaddestDaughter Please, never think that you don't deserve to find happiness or friends. Of course you do, but I know that it can feel that way when you're stuck in a toxic relationship, or a difficult situation with no easy anwers. Whatever you're going through, however bad it must feel right now, there's always hope, and a chance to find a better way. As others have said, don't be afraid to reach out. You've already made a start with this post, and you can see that people care about you and want to help you if possible. You're not alone, there is emotional support here for you, and people you can trust to talk to. Please don't let this current situation make you feel unworthy or unlovable, just because someone may be telling you that. You don't have to suffer in silence, even if it's just talking to somebody on here to begin with, just to know they are there to hear you and listen to what you need to say. Please stay safe and don't lose hope.

Awwww. Someone needs a hug from Daddy.

First, I want you to know that you are not alone. I know that right now, in the middle of everything you're going through, you may feel like you're not worthy of anyone's support, love, or attention. But please believe me when I say that simply isn't true. I know we don't know each other personally. We've never spoken before, and I don't know everything you've been through. But I want you to know that my door is always open. If you need a friend, if you need someone to listen, or if you simply need somewhere to put the words you can't say out loud, I'm here. Toxic situations can be incredibly difficult to escape from. They can slowly convince you that you're never good enough, that you're somehow the problem, and that you're not worthy of anyone's time or care. Please don't let those thoughts become your truth. You have value. You matter. And you have so much more to offer than you may realize right now. When it comes to coping, one of the hardest but most important things you can do is reach out to the people around you, even when you feel like you have nothing to say. You don't have to have the right words. You don't have to explain everything. Sometimes simply saying, "I'm not okay, and I need someone" is enough. And if you are in a situation where you are being harmed, threatened, or you believe you may be in danger, please reach out for help. Talk to someone you trust, contact a local support organization, or seek professional assistance. You don't have to face it alone. I work in an urgent care and I see firsthand what abuse can do to someone. And as a survivor of abuse and of SA I can understand the effects it has on the mind and the body.. That's why I'm asking you, from the bottom of my heart, please don't suffer in silence. Reach out, let someone stand beside you. You deserve safety, support, and a chance to breathe again. And if you don't know where to start, you can start here. Everyone on here will listen and will help you anyway they can.

I really don't know anything about you or your circumstances, but I do know trauma, sadness, loneliness very well. Just a suggestion, but try to find one thing you are grateful for... like the forum, being able to go for a walk, sitting outside for a few minutes or even for learning a new coping skill. When I am hurting the most, I shut out the world, even though I need people the most. Even asking one person for support, like maybe a friend to send you a silly joke everyday, could really change that stuck feeling of "I can't " to a feeling of "I can because I did" Hoping you are having a better day! Poppy 💕

As someone who has been stuck in toxic relationships I urge u to find a way out and get help. There are help and resources out there to help you. You can even call them and they will help you. if u ever want to chat feel free to add me as a friend and message

Don't give up hope, don't learn to be comfortable somewhere that is bad for you. You feeling bad is your body telling you something is wrong and trying to motivate you to change it.

Is it possible to cope when stuck in a daily, toxic environment, without transportation? It makes me feel like I don't deserve to be happy or make friends. Even finding comfort is a struggle, so I would especially like to hear from Caregivers. 😞 I have absolutely no emotional support.

I'm really proud of you too, it's so hard even with the meds, it was really only a couple recent things that made me think that this must be more like what neurotypicals feel like.

@MissAnnaYou are so welcome. I didn't get diagnosed until about six years ago so I fully understand. That and then later moral scrupulosity OCD and both when I saw videos of how meds helped people I cried because I'd never believed it was possible. I cried the first time I was able let go of an obsessive though too. Have you had a genetic test, I found out a bunch of the meds don't work for me but a few were ok plus they have some meds for ADHD that aren't stimulate based but the stims were the most helpful. My doctor tried to take me off of them because at the time my BP was high and I was like what if I do this and reduce that and do more of this. She was like this might kill you and I was like what if I would rather die than go back to the way things were.

I'm not even going to lie that leash to remind her do dishes mind blowing from that tick tock video. Because honestly that's exactly what I do when I'm at home and I have to work on my farm. I literally carry rope with me that way I can tie it to the stalls to remind me to keep working in that one section because if I don't I'll leave. Honestly thank you for these amazing ideas and tips because living with severe ADHD not being able to be medicated is so hard. My brain constantly has over a thousand million ideas at once and then I just get stuck in a vicious cycle because all I can think about is squirrels basically lol. I am so proud of myself to be able to accomplish everything I do at work because I work in such a high critical area where I must always be on my feet and being active. That being said my ADHD helps me in my line of work because I constantly have to be moving. Again thank you for these tips!

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8WBmasS/ I get the squirrel thing so much. I was struggling with avoiding tasks and staying in bed for hours every morning because I didn't know what to do and even trying to make a list meant I had to think of all the things I needed to do which felt too big. When I saw these ADHD tethers, which were supposed to be silly, and was like no I need exactly that I realized eventually I'm just doing it wrong for me. At work we have to keep up with all these specimens and sometimes I would get distracted because someone would come talk to me or something and I would ask myself Did I already do this case and it would be hard for me to not talk myself into believing I had and not knowing which thing came before and getting really anxious. So I started turning all the bottles upside down and leaving them in the box in the order. I did them. Now I didn't have to hold that in my head anymore and things got much easier. For dishes I stopped using the dishwasher because I didn't feel like I could start the dishwasher till it was full but by then things would be hard and it would feel like too much to put up and I wouldn't even want to look that way. So I just started washing dishes as I used them. Cleaning up immediately after before. Even eating sometimes having it chat CPT give me permission to stop and decide out of my list. What's important? Makes doing it so much easier because I just need it to not be in my brain. And I don't have to make a list cuz it automatically makes the list and I don't have to remember where the list is and if I do something different but it's good. I just tell it and it changes the list for me and says you've already done this. Now do two more things and you're done. There's a lot of apps that I've tried and a lot of devices I've used and this is the best one and it's the only one that's stuck because I wake up with a notification each morning of what of my list I need to do. The other thing it's still using recently is Fieldy AI necklace and that helps with like conversations that I need to remember because it does a transcript of it and will summarize it. If I had to pick either it would be chadgbt because it's way better and it's free

I actually have to plan every day in 30 minute increments.... then schedule worry time before supper... it's a pain, but keeps me focused

Extreme ADHD person here I'm always up for pointers because I cannot take the medication because of my seizures. That being said I would absolutely love some key tips to help me from going from one extreme to another. Imagine me like a squirrel on fire that's addicted to crack. That's basically me lol

I have struggled my entire life to complete goals consistently. I deal with a lot of ADHD paralysis and have carried a lot of shame about being unable to complete even basic tasks, including things that would make me happy. I've literally had significant amounts of money owed to me where all I had to do was reach out and get it, and I've let it sit for months or years because I couldn't make myself start. A lot of the problem is that I have trouble remembering everything, making and keeping up with lists, prioritizing what matters, and knowing when I've done enough. Trying to decide what I need to do today can feel like I have to lift the weight of everything I need to do all at once just to pick up one thing. Recently, some changes at work took a lot of that process out of my head and put it into a system in front of me. I noticed almost immediately that my brain felt like it was running fewer background processes. It was easier to focus and think. That made me wonder: Could I offload my everyday life the same way? So I started talking to ChatGPT about it, and eventually we created something I call my Daily Lighthouse. I basically dumped my entire brain into it through pages of voice texting: long-term goals, things that needed to happen today, things that needed to happen next week, everyday chores, exercise, upcoming trips, a tire losing air, money a doctor owed me, projects I'd been avoiding, everything. The idea was that the Lighthouse holds the whole list so I don't have to. Once we'd finally set everything up, I remember thinking, "Okay Now just I have to actually remember to come back tomorrow and use this." 😂 But the next day when I opened the chat, it had already narrowed everything down into my Daily Lighthouse: just a few things to focus on that day, plus one optional thing if I had extra energy, That was it. I didn't need to figure out which of 40 things mattered most. I didn't need to hold everything else in my head. And, maybe most importantly, I didn't have to wonder when I was allowed to stop. Do these things. Then you've done enough. Go enjoy your life. I know it's just a machine giving me permission to have done enough, but apparently my brain does not give a shit. It works. 😂 I've been doing this for about a month and a half now, and the change has been kind of incredible. My house is staying cleaner. My laundry gets done. My dishes are getting done every fucking day for once. Last night I made a massive meal and, for possibly the first time in my life, the dishes didn't sit there afterward for a day or three waiting for Future Me to deal with them. Today I worked on something specific in my martial arts practice, did my laundry, got my food ready for the work week, took care of what the Lighthouse said mattered, and then I was free to play games without that constant background feeling that I was failing because surely there was something else I should be doing. It hasn't magically cured my ADHD or made me perfectly productive. It has just taken a huge amount of remembering, prioritizing, planning, and deciding out of my head. The Lighthouse holds the whole list. I only have to look at what the light is pointing at today. If anyone else struggles with ADHD paralysis like this and wants to try something similar, I'm more than happy to help you figure out how to set up your own version. It's genuinely helped me start getting a handle back on my life.

🩷 I'm greatful that I had a productive day at work. 🩷 I'm greatful that my covers are soft and cozy. 🩷 I'm greatful that my Daddy loves me.

Awa Poppy that sounds so pleasant. I am greatful you are having these positive experiences. 🫶

Hope you're feeling a bit better soon.

I'm so glad you're once more able to enjoy these things that many of us take for granted.

I'm recovering from a rollercoaster of... Well everything. Lots of stress ended up with me not eating for about 4 days, having really bad IBS flare and my bulemia acting up.. with barely sipping water or keeping anything down. The headache, pain and just entire body shut down and general fatigue.. it's been exhausting. I'm tired and I don't want to deal with life but I'm working, still pushing.. I believe that it will get easier. This is the right path.

Today, I went for a walk to clear my head and lighten my heart. I am so thankful I can walk again! It feels amazing to use my body for exercise again! I'm also thankful to be outside again. It's been way too many years since I could be outside! It's amazing how much leaves your life without your notice, but when you bring it back, it brings so much joy!

@BabyPoppy I'm glad you got the rest you needed. Keep up the good work! 🩷

I'm thankful for the day of rest I got today.

Hey everyone, its been a minute since I've checked in and added to this thread. 🩷I am grateful that I got to car pool with Daddy this morning. I had fun watch the sunrise as we drove to work! 🩷I am greaful I was able to cook so much food today and that it was yummers. 🩷I am greatful that my garden is doing well. 🥕 I would love to hear about you all and what you have found yourselves greatful for as of late. ~💛Pichu

First, I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to respond to me. I won’t lie, your words touched me more than you probably realize. Sometimes a few kind words from the right person can reach places in us that we didn’t even know were hurting. You’re right, I think I do need to find my Dom side again. I think a part of me has been quiet for a while, and with everything I’ve been through, I’ve lost sight of the strong woman she is. Right now, I feel a little lost, and I think I need that part of myself to remind me who I am. She’s still there, I know she is. She’s been gently tapping on my shoulder, reminding me that I can still be strong, that I can still lead, and that it’s okay to trust myself again and let her take the reins. I truly think it’s beautiful that you are a little/middle. One of the things I love most about this community is that we all have different parts of ourselves, and there is room for every single one of them. Whether someone finds comfort in their Dom side, their little/middle side, or simply in being themselves, I think there is something really special about finding that place where your heart feels at home. As for what I’ve been through, well, it has been one heck of a journey. Life has thrown some storms my way that I never expected, but I’ve always believed that the hardest seasons of our lives can teach us the greatest lessons. They may bend us, they may leave us searching for pieces of ourselves, but they can also show us just how strong we truly are. Each day I’m getting a little stronger. I’m learning how to find my footing again and how to stand on my own two feet. My memories still haven’t completely come back, and that has been a difficult road because there are pieces of myself I’m still trying to rediscover. But I’m learning to be patient with myself. I’m learning that healing doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s okay to take things one day at a time. I’m still finding my way. I’m still learning who I am in this new chapter of my life. But I’m grateful to have a community where I can be honest, vulnerable, and accepted. Thank you for reminding me that I’m not alone on this journey. Sometimes we all need a little help finding our way back home to ourselves.

@MissAnna First of all hugs. You have been through so much recently. As some one who is assertive in their big life, most people I know have seen "silly" me, but would be shocked to find out Im a middle/little. I think two things can be true at the same time and on most days and good days, I can be all things in quick succession. I think our inner selves come out when we need them. At this time, maybe you need dom you and not little you. Its okay to be a switch and have two sides to the coin. If you were happy and co tent exploring the space, and currently feel no need for it. That is okay. It doesnt mean you were never submissive, but that you have either grown or do not need that. No matter which side or sides you choose, you will always be part of the community and we love you.