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@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Thanks for being patient friends! Sleep has been in short supply this week but the show must go on. Soooooo... feel free to read chapters 37-41. The book is for sure picking up momentum. Please remember to be checking in at least once a week so I dont have to guess if you are still participating. Have an amazing week! Pigtail

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker You know what time it is!!! Qithput further teasing feel free to read chapters 42-46! Also the pole for our midway meeting is up so please go vote! Have an amazing rest of the week friends.

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Please comment here friends to let me know you are still going forward with us!!! I know some of us have been a little busy but the once a week check in helps me keep it all organized.

@MissNMTX @SquirtleSquad @RoseyLittle @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Hello all!!!! Congratulations on making it halfway through our book! At this point I usually scedual a group chat where we log into the book live chat here and discuss. The dates you will be voting for will be February 11-17th. Please vote for ALL dates and times that work for you. I have it set up so you can click all that work and then submit. Along those lines please comment here if you cannot/will not be attending so I scedual it for those that are coming. The discussion will be through chapter 41 and will run for an hour ish. The times are all PST, please let me know if you need help with what time it is in your time zone. Also feel free to ask questions or clarify by commentong here.

For the week Feb 11th - 17th, yes that is correct.

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @Zina @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Hello all!!! As promised here are questions for chapters 37-41!! The book is getting very TENSE 🤣😉🤭 I have a feeling we may finally see some spice soon. Be sure to post answers with spoilers in the link below. I will also be posting for our midway discussion today so take a look at that and vote! Questions: Post answers here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/?do=getLastComment

I'm still here! A little behind, but I'll catch up quick. 😊

Here’s a fun little activity for grounding and self care! Creating your own little grounding kit. We always have fun running this in trauma group programming. The ‘why’ behind this activity is because when we are activated or triggered, it is hard for us to think and remember what things help us. So keeping a kit stocked by you in your room or a safe place means you just have to remember to open your box. And partners or loved ones can be told about it too. Plus it’s just fun and we can use glitter and sparkles! 💕 You can get creative and decorate a box, crate or chest of any kind. You could use a shoe box, or craft stores/dollar stores have all kinds of ones to choose from. You can decorate the outside and inside, with decoupage, paint, stickers, gems! Anything that speaks to you. Not feeling creative? That’s okay, there’s lots of pretty boxes out there to choose from that you can just pick up and fill. Then you put in things that are soothing to you like: - your favourite grounding tools (maybe a journal, a list of people you can reach out to, breathing visualization steps, grounding technique cards), - things for your senses (could be your favourite scent candle or essential oils, play doh or slime to squeeze or other sensory toys, a suckable candy or chocolate to put on your tongue, BUBBLES TO BLOW!) - comfort objects (could be grounding photos of loved ones or special memories/places, nostalgic items like shells from a trip, a soft stuffie, a letter you write yourself or someone else has written you) - things that focus your mind (could be a colouring or puzzle book, fidget toys, crochet or knitting, a favourite book to read) These are all just ideas, whatever works for you! This thread can be a space people can post their own kits if they already have them, or want to try making one!

Trying to break patterns is not easy! I think you're showing great bravery. Sending you warms thoughts 🌟

oh sweetie I'm so sorry you're feeling the stress!! Like you said just remember deep breath! And remember I think you are way stronger than you think you are!! You're incredibly brave to come here and reach out! But even better, your self-aware of what you're doing! Which means you are in control!! And I will sit here with you and metaphorically hold your hand anytime you need me to! 🫂❤️❤️ Big hugs my friend big hugs!!

Still here. On track.

Following along and lovin it!

Im caught up and still reading with yall 🙂

Hello Squirtle!!! No worries friend we all get busy and over whelmed! I myself have had a week. I am just happy to still have you with us as I love having you reading with the group. Reply to #3 Reply to #33

Thank you for the answers friend! Answer to #37

Another good point NR.Cheerio for now.I’m shattered.

Andy Carrol was banging them in for fun at Newcastle, but only because he had the supply from the balls getting banged into him in the box by the wingers from wide positions. Liverpool doesn't play like that. They play more through the middle with quick one-twos and always have done

Part 1 : I’m sorry Pigtail I’ve been playing catch up on a lot of things, and I only just got a chance to sit down with my thoughts on this read. I have finally had a chance to catch up my questions with my reading though! Hooray 🥳 I’ll post Part 2 later today, and I’ll mark on my calendar to ensure I check in weekly from now on.

We'll be starting movie night in about 5 hours from now!

Movie Night begins in one hour! https://hyperbeam.com/i/Ng1w8EBd

Hello everyone! I'd like to bring up the topic of the time leading up to a birthday. I'm really curious if there's anyone here who completely loses their mood a week or two before their birthday? I've been feeling down and lacking energy for over a week now because my birthday is on February 3rd. This happens every single year. But on my actual birthday, my mood comes back. If there's anyone here in the same situation, maybe you have advice on how to deal with this? Because I need the energy to clean my home, but I just can't find it.😞 Socializing gives me a bit of a mood boost, so I'm always happy to meet new people. Usually, when I'm talking with others, I feel needed, and that makes me feel better.🥺👉🏻👈🏻

@NickyMoon It starts with one good person. Unfortunately if is a very reasonable and understandable response for anyone who has been through trauma. If you have been badly hurt by people in the past, why would your trauma ever want you to let someone close when you are feeling so weak and vulnerable. You trauma puts up walls as a defence, to limit the maximum possible damage, but it comes at the terrible cost of having to go through all your problems alone when you really don't need to. I think you need to reprogram your brain by showing it that some people can be trusted and can help. When you are feeling better, find someone who you know is reliable, kind, and trustworthy. This could be a friend, family member, or loved one. You can even tell them in advance what you are going through and that you might call on them from time to time. Start trusting them and talking to them about small things, not major emergencies - you wont want to do that yet. By talking to them about small things you are teaching your brain that its ok to seek help, and that this person can be trusted. Hopefully by the time a 'big thing' comes along you will already have established a bond and you will feel more ready to talk, because it is not just a huge bombshell out of nowhere, but just something slightly worse than things you've already successfully dealt with together. Starting with small things may seem silly, but remember its not really for 'you' it's for your brain. Give it the positive memories it needs to help fix and heal the broken trust from the past. I hope this helps. No one should go through all their pain and suffering alone. 🫂

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker Alright friends. For those of you that enjoy these here are questions for chapters 32-36 The mystery is really killing me at this point and stopping at the chapter marks is definitely hard. Per usual make sure to spoil your answers and post in the linked topic below. Post here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/64956-nocticadia-question-answers-spoilers/?do=getLastComment

@MissNMTX @Zina @RoseyLittle @SquirtleSquad @kimmybunny @DaddysCosmicBunny @CuriousBaker So sorry friends last night was a giant mess lol. But I know we all have days like that. I havnt heard from a few of you. If you are struggling please resch out and communitlcate as I 100% understand. Without further ado feel free to read chapters 37-41

Legally, absolutely not. The guy didn’t have too much involvement. But, personally? I 100% back Devryk. If it were my Daddy or loved one, I’d hunt down even the fly on the wall at the time of the kidnapping. 😤

Hello all! Pigtail book wurm extraordinaire again! So my sub club The NNC is bustling but the main club here has been a little dead. Soooo I am hoping to bring a little life to it. I am going to do some more posting and such but I would love any suggestions yall would like to see! Also please comment here if you are jyst in support or interested in general! Let's make this the year of reading because I know we all have reading goals we want to make!!! Pigtail

In support!!! Go reading goals!

This has really helped me today

Hi 👋 I made this bracelet I think its really cute and wanted to show someone its got a bunny bead, a tiara bead, a happy cloud bead, a flower bead, a m bead and a letter p bead which stands for princess! I made it with pink/white/red beads and I tried to make it little themed

WOW! This is such a beautiful, thoughtful activity, thank you for sharing it so warmly. I love how you highlight the why behind it, because it’s so true: when we’re activated or overwhelmed, even the simplest grounding tools can slip right out of our minds. Having a kit ready, created by our calmer selves, is such a compassionate gift to our future selves. And the way you describe it makes the whole process feel joyful and empowering, glitter, sparkles, soothing textures, comforting memories, all woven together into something that’s both practical and deeply personal. 💕 Your ideas are wonderfully accessible too. Whether someone wants to go all-out decorating a treasure box or just pick up something simple and fill it with care, there’s no wrong way to do it. I especially love the mix of sensory items, comfort objects, and mind-focusing tool, it’s such a gentle reminder that grounding can come from so many places. Thank you for sharing this in a way that feels safe, creative, and motivating. It’s the kind of post that makes people feel seen, supported, and inspired to try something nurturing for themselves. Keep up the good work!🌿✨ This is such a beautiful, thoughtful activity, thank you for sharing it so warmly. I love how you highlight the why behind it, because it’s so true: when we’re activated or overwhelmed, even the simplest grounding tools can slip right out of our minds. Having a kit ready, created by our calmer selves, is such a compassionate gift to our future selves. And the way you describe it makes the whole process feel joyful and empowering - glitter, sparkles, soothing textures, comforting memories, all woven together into something that’s both practical and deeply personal. 💕 Your ideas are wonderfully accessible too. Whether someone wants to go all-out decorating a treasure box or just pick up something simple and fill it with care, there’s no wrong way to do it. I especially love the mix of sensory items, comfort objects, and mind-focusing tool, it’s such a gentle reminder that grounding can come from so many places. Thank you for sharing this in a way that feels safe, creative, and motivating. It’s the kind of post that makes people feel seen, supported, and inspired to try something nurturing for themselves. Keep up the good work!🌿✨

Thank you for trusting us enough to share all of this. Truly. The amount of courage it takes to open up while you’re in the struggle, while everything feels heavy and dark, is enormous, even if it doesn’t feel that way to you right now. What you wrote is honest, brave, and incredibly human. I want you to know that you’re not alone in this pattern. So many people, far more than you’d ever guess, feel exactly what you’re describing: needing support the most right when it feels hardest to reach for it… worrying about being “too much”… fearing that showing the darker moments will push people away. That doesn’t make you broken; it makes you human and sensitive. And those qualities, even when they feel like burdens, are actually signs of how deeply you care. It also makes complete sense that past experiences have taught you to hide your pain. When you’ve been celebrated only for being the “happy, bubbly” version of yourself, it trains you to think that your darker moments are unwelcome. But the people who truly care about you, the ones who deserve a place in your support system, want all of you, not just the polished parts. You don’t have to present a guidebook or have the perfect words. Reaching out can be as simple as: “Hey, I’m having a rough day. Can you check in with me?” or “I don’t need solutions, I just don’t want to feel alone right now.” It’s okay if your voice shakes when you ask. It’s okay if you cry. It’s okay if you don’t know exactly what you need. Support doesn’t require perfection, it just requires connection. And you are not “too much.” You are someone who is trying their best while carrying something heavy. People who care about you don’t want the edited version of your life; they want the real one, even when it’s shadowed. Learning to stop pushing people away is a process, not a switch you flip. You can start very small: Send a single message to someone you trust. Practice saying one honest sentence about how you feel. Let yourself receive something without apologizing for it. Little steps count. They build the muscle. You deserve support. You deserve softness. You deserve people who stay, even in the dark. And the fact that you’re here, reaching out, tells me you’re already moving toward that. One day, you’ll look back at this version of you with so much compassion and pride for how hard you fought to show up for yourself. You’re not doing this alone, even right now. You’re doing better than you think. Keep going. 💛

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I don’t really know how this post is going to turn out but I’m struggling with my mental health right now and know this is a safe place. My depression has been really bad the past couple of days. Like almost as dark as it gets. I realized yesterday that when it gets this bad and I need people around me the most is when I push people away. I know part of it is because I have been shown in the past that most people don’t want to see the darkness; they only want the happy, bubbly Nicky. In the front of my brain, I know that I have people that would listen and support me even when I’m in this dark place but I just can’t bring myself to reach out and say “hey I’m struggling right now”. I feel like if I can’t tell you how to support me, that I should just keep it to myself. And the people pleasing side of me doesn’t want to bring others down with my darkness. I guess what I want to know is if other people have this problem too, and if so, how do you ask for support? I’m so bad at it that I’m crying just writing this because I feel like I’m being too much. I’m usually really good at self soothing and very independent but sometimes that’s not enough. I would appreciate any tips anyone has on how to stop pushing people away and learning how to actually have a support system.

Hello!! I want to start by saying it makes complete sense that you want to move forward without having to live again every detail. Pushing yourself to "talk it out" before you’re ready can feel like being retraumatized again and again, and you don’t have to do that to find your peace. That on edge feeling you said, is your nervous system trying to protect you, it’s that your body is still operating in survival mode. I can tell you what worked for me, and what my ex therapist tolf me when i was 12, when memories or disgust hit, they aren't just thoughts, they are physical sensations, instead of trying to think your way out, try to calm the body: If you're feeling overwhelmed, splash ice cold water on your face or hold an ice cube, this resets the nervous system instantly. This worked for me and take it with care, this mnay be work for me but not for you, if the memories force themselves on you, try a to visualize it or do it physically: have a safe jar, when a memory or feeling starts to overwhelm you, put that specific "image" or "feeling" into the container and lock that. The disgust you do feel is an extreme common reaction to bad experiences, but it belongs to the event, not to you. You are the person who survived it, not the gross thing that happened. YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE VALID AND WHAT YOU FEEL IS VALID, i'm sending you hugs and lot of positive vibes, if you need to talk about it or even if you need someone, reach me. Sending you best wishes and hugs❤️❤️.

Thank you Daddy Bear 77 and Sammyd1956 for the lovely and helpful advice. It really helps to have other perspectives. Yesterday, I took the day for a girl's day with my best friend, opened up my heart to her and had a good cry. This morning, him and I finally laid everything out on the table without arguments. We've decided to separate and remain friends. I have known him for almost half of my life, so our relationship is extremely close, unfortunately, just not working out in a romantic way. I feel grateful that we are aligned in so many other aspects of life, but there are essential things that he wants and I am unable to provide just as there are dynamics my heart desires.

I’m so glad it could help 💕