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Hihi all, its your resident hermit Pigtail here. So lately I have been struggling with alot of emotions and brain changes and confusion. It's a bit of a war zone in my head currently. But it isn't only heavy things sometimes it's also random happies or thoughts or whatever. The brain can be strange. Anyways alot going on up there right now, and a great majority of the time I feel I have very little folks to say any of it to. I know I am not alone in this. Ya know maybe therapy was hard, or my cucumbers are up, or my brain said a weird word that made me giggle. All the stuff that either doesn't fit into a conversation, is too random, or heavy, or the person has zero interest in the thought, those thoughts are why I made this. Let's say what we want!!! Please try to mark trigger warnings (also remember while heavy is allowed this is not The Lighthouse Club) or anything that might be controversial (let's keep politics low too friends as this isnt meant to upset). Mostly I want this to be a stream of consciousness where others can see the thoughts and comment too if they like. I do ask if you use this that you also try to respond to at least one! Let's put some effort into this and see if we can get the recognition alot of us want for pur thoughts by giving it to others too. You may post as many as you want i fully expect it could be empty or could get large. And in the spirit of the post let's only respond to when things interest ypu not to debate. I am trying to keep this nice! Which means nothing on fellow members. If you are upset with a person the is a conversation that should be had with them not us. Other than that the world is your oyster 😊 So feel free to share and interact. I am hoping that we can all get some good conversation going without heavy expectation or specific parameters. Thanks ahead to all who participate! Yours, Pigtail

For Brothers birthday I booked a special surprise - he had to wait till we got checked in for boarding on Saturday. It was a two hour cruise around Seattle and we landed right near Pikes Place so we could adventure around after. I know he likes photography and scenic views so I was really hoping this was something he would like. The only thing I would change was the group of drunks guys that were being loud and obnoxious , and kept trying to talk to us 😅 In no order - here is the cruise , going through the locks , birthday food and treats and nature we saw while out in Seattle !

Loving all the amazing pictures ❤️here’s my entry, good luck everybody 😄

redruffle41 Originally posted on my homepage but had to share: Hey Loved ones, here is a good one to consider. For the daddies who just can't find the right fit no matter what. This is a big one as far as how to have a LTR or at least positive relationship with a girl. (Caveat: humiliation, mindfuckery or degradation fits into this subject BUT I'm not talking about stuff that takes place in a scene /consented play, I'm talking about the relationship as a holistic entity that exists between two individuals). Don't treat your girl in a way that if she stayed with you despite your actions, you would lose respect for her. If you want a LTR your actions can't be in conflict with your respect for your girl. AND If you have a problem respecting women you're gonna have a hard time finding long term happiness with one. Most guys will test this at one point or another to make sure they're with a person with a strong character, to test the subs boundaries and/or just plain old human nature to slack off. It sounds a bit backwards BUT it's possible you may lose respect or interest for a girl based on YOUR unexamined actions and attitudes. Doms who do this especially put their sub in a position to choose between her ability to care for you (through virtues like patience, commitment, and emotional regulation) and her own self worth. Especially in the beginning of a new relationship a sub is generally unaware of your perspective on her or on women in general. 1. Most girls WILL chose to stay at least for a while through dismissive or slightly disrespectful behavior. Girls don't see it as a weakness to hold space for someone else's (your) bullshit behavior. It's a strength to give people a chance. She might be demonstrating some of her best character traits and the whole time you're losing respect and interest for her! Is she "letting you get away with sub par treatment", or she's "immature" or "crazy"? Double check your actions. If you have been a gentleman then you know for sure you can walk away. But if you have been unregulated emotionally AND sexually. If your leadership is sub par. If your words say one thing and your actions say another then you're jerking her around and she is most likely doing her best to keep up with you. So, if you find yourself losing girls left and right and unable to find the absolutely right fit .... Check your attitude towards women in general, your attitude towards submissives and your attitude towards virtues like forgiveness, commitment, emotional regulation and temperance. In short, check in on your leadership, your balanced masculinity, your relationship with yourself and maybe your mother 😂. Subs! Keep an eye out for the FIRST TIME a Dom will "get naughty" with you or cause you disappointment and bring it to his attention right away. Don't be afraid to lose him. He should respect you for it immediately and acknowledge. If he doesn't or if he slips up repeatedly then most likely he has big issues that you can't fix namely because he won't respect you enough to actually listen to you.

Good morning all you beautiful wonderful amazing sweet people on here! How is your day been? Has anyone had any adventures lately? I know there's a new game out, you will have to forgive me I don't have a gaming computer or an Xbox to be able to play the games that you all do. But I still love hearing about all the fun things you all do on your games. I'm old school I have a PS2, a PSP, Nintendo switch, and my favorite my super Nintendo. I'm more of a classical person, but what can I say I grew up in the '80s and '90s. Are you all doing anything fun today? I think I'm going to make homemade chocolate chip cookies. Anybody want any? There's so many people going through so much heartache, I wish I could honestly make all of you a batch of cookies give you a hug and tell you it's going to be okay. It's so hard when you see people you care about go through so much pain. I really wish I could be there for all of you, but I want you to know all of you to know that I'm proud of each and every one of you. I see each and every one of you, I hear each and every one of you and I support each and every one of you. It doesn't matter if you're going through something that you think isn't important, because I think it is and I still want to know about it. As I've said before and I will always say, I'm still me. I'm still the same girl that joined a few months back. I still care, I still worry, and I still adore each and everyone of you. I'm in your corner rooting for you, whether it's to find a friend, a daddy, a mommy, a little, sub, or if you just want someone to connect with, I'm going to be cheering for you the whole time. I'm so proud that you were able to get out of bed just for a few minutes, I'm so proud that you took that leap of faith, I'm so proud that you're getting help, I'm so proud that you joined the server, I'm so proud that you are reaching out to people to connect with, I'm so proud of you. So no matter where you are or who you are I'm proud of you and I know you can do whatever you set your mind to. I'm always here if you need a friend. I'll always listen in my door is always open. Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💕

Hi Lovlies! Just had to put this out there cuz we all may need a pep talk and a flashlight to shine on ourselves in life. I know we are all little/middle and in between. But that doesn't have to mean we are scared, broken or weak. I've noticed so many in this dynamic want to trade in their selves, their sex, and their lives just so a daddy will swoop in and save them from their messy room. We all want love; love can help inspire and lift up. But eventually baby you're gonna have to learn to clean your own room. That's what the good daddies want from us!!! The bad ones want you weak and unable. Good Daddy can help for sure. But that doesn't mean that you can't already do it. You can live your life from where it's at each day and make progress and improve. Daddy's love can help but not his car, his money, his house, his physical labor etc. Any daddy worth his mettel would just want to be so proud of the woman is little has worked to be. Get the daddy you deserve by being the person you deserve to be. Ask yourself "how can I get that" and then do it!!! Don't let yourself say anything negative. Say, I want to, I get to, I choose to!!! These are words that matter! I've been there. I'm 41 now but when I was in my 20s I was scared, depressed, shut down, lost and of course horny! In fact that had been the default setting of my soul for my entire life. It's all I knew myself to be. So of course I found a guy that wanted to hit this and married him. We gave each other 15years of our lives total and now we are divorcing.....I dont wallow in regret but gratitude for that time I grew so much and I have my baby daughter. But I know now even more about how to be careful with my life. To not throw it away cuz I'm just so scared to live. So scared to be alone and face all the scary things like bills, school, money, cars....adulting!! Gah! It IS hard. But the hard can make us great!!! There's nothing like knowing myself to be a warrior! I wish that for everyone I meet and talk to. That they recognize that they are the hero of their own lives. And heros choose. They are smart. They value themselves first in order to give and love and help others!

So I'm treading lightly with my current therapist, out of an abundance of caution... most therapist I've had want me to be transparent until I upset/shock them... then it's time for a change, and 2 years of trust building again! However, I recently reconnected with my cousin who is a therapist. She works specifically with people who are dealing with gender and identity questions in childhood through adulthood. She also is a Kink Aware Professional. She trains other professionals on how to appropriately use therapy tools to work within a dynamic. She's trained to deal with trauma, regression, dissociation, DID, PTSD, mental illness, and healthy people involved in kink relationships who need help navigating boundaries. She has written some amazing academic papers and teaches at a couple of colleges on the west coast. My immediate family kinda kept us apart the past few decades, but we reconnected in February. We've been talking a bit the past few months about identity, sexuality, kink and trauma and how it all goes together. Her dad is really sick, so she's not super available, but she has some great resources to get me thinking. She also has a great way of explaining why I respond in certain situations the way I do. Even though she's family, or maybe because she's family, secrets are out in the open and I feel safe with her. She knows what to say and isn't afraid of my littlespace, regression or dissociation. I know it's really difficult to find safe professionals to share who you really are, especially right now as the climate is changing, but they do exist. And there are resources out there to help, even for regular therapist. Grace, forgiveness, and acceptance of yourself are really important places to start.

I do not get seasick ! :3 I love the sea - I would be more afraid to fly I think… well sick feeling anyways. I only get anxiety about water if it’s like far out to sea where I can’t swim myself back to safety 😅 The geese in Seattle are super used to humans ! They kind of own the place actually hahaha - the pigeons too. As long as you don’t show aggression or move really quick they tend to be okay. The mamas definitely watched me the whole time though ! Brother and I got local Huckleberry lemonade and Dad had vodka in his ! It was super yummy and I’m glad there was no booze - it would’ve ruined it ! 😇

I am giving up on gathering my hay . I’m gonna bale

One more picture this month.... my stuffie friend helped with the picture this time!

If you have a history of trauma, how has D/lg affected your healing journey? It's given me a chance to have an actual childhood, as I've missed out on a lot due to neglect and intent. What precautions do you take to ensure your safety and well-being within the dynamic? I'm not fully submissive in the traditional ddlg stereotype. Yes I'm a Little, but I'm dominant while doing so. I've been burned one too many times due to narcissistic parenting, so I don't show my full vulnerability anymore. It only peaks out from the saftey of my pillow fort when I allow it. Are there specific aspects of D/lg that you find particularly helpful or triggering? My wife thinks my smolness is adorable. This is helpful as it gives my inner child enough room to be smol again. However, I'm currently working towards no longer involuntarily age regressing. I find it frustrating that my mindset changes without my permission, and would prefer if I did it voluntarily. What advice would you offer to someone with trauma who is considering exploring D/lg? Make sure you're getting all the professional help you need, because you deserve to heal properly. Don't allow Littlespace to become a crutch. Let yourself heal, but don't lose track of your safety.

@babygirlallie_79 Of course~ I understand money issues, particularly in our current economic climate. Living on two paychecks is hard. Living on just one can bring about a financial crisis. You are absolutely not responsible for his actions. If he's aware that he has mental health issues, but isn't doing anything about it then it's not your responsibility, should he do something stupid. If you've sat him down and attempted to get him to seek professional help, then that's all you can do. The old saying, "You can lead a horse to water, but..." Considering your situation (conservative mindset) I understand why you feel this way. However, you're letting someone else run your life at this point, even if indirectly. It sounds like you're essentially doing what you were taught- "behave" (suffer in silence) for the sake of domestic (your husband's ego) peace (or else). I know a lot of your potential decisions are hard to make, but that's just how life is sometimes.

I was recently rewashing S W.A.T and Jay Harrington in that show . . . . Mmmmmmmmmmm. Also Shemar Moore . . . . YUMMY!!

@-Soul- @littlecloud @Andriel_Isilien And many others. Not able to respond currently individually but thank you all. I am reading and appriciate all the answers and have posted a little more to clarify after ruffles question.

Please explain exactly why you can't leave this man. Because you don't want to? Because you're afraid of hurting him and your kids? Or because of conservative social pressure? If your kids are all grown adults, they'll understand that mom doesn't love dad romantically anymore. It will definitely be hard for them, but they'll get over it eventually. Just be clear that it isn't their fault. Your husband will definitely find the breakup hard. He's a grown man. His feelings are not worth more than your needs. He'll get over it if given enough time. As far as conservative society is concerned, personally, I'd give the finger and would move somewhere more open-minded. There's a strong chance that they're never going to fully accept me anyways. Now, this is not a "Leave him." post. Only you can determine if that's what's best for you. But while making up your mind, ask yourself the questions I did and work from the conclusions you've made. Even if your question lacked ddlg elements, I'd still say the same thing. It sounds like you're the only adult in the room. That alone is enough to instigate a conversation about responsibility with him. Please remember that your feelings, needs, wants, and goals are just as important as anybody else's. Let your heart, head, and gut guide you with your decision making. But whatever your decision, I hope that you get the desired outcome while not losing site of yourself. If anything, sit him down and have an honest conversation with him. Also, an irl ddlg relationship can definitely be fulfilling, but that doesn't mean that imaginary ddlg relationships are invalid. It all depends on what each individual's relationship goals and desires look like. Anyways, I hope my morning rambling helps.

I have brought it up a couple times with therapists. Not right away, of course but after several sessions and when I feel that it's relevant/safe to share. My current therapist is fine with the topic of DDlg. He is older (around 50) but quite open minded which I greatly appreciate. During the first appointment I dropped the F-bomb as a test to see how he would react. 😆 And he told me, "Thank you for doing that!" Later on, I brought up the communities I socialize with frequently both online and locally that are BDSM as well as LGBT. He was quite welcoming to that and is very supportive with LGBT 🙌 Because peoples' character on how they treat others is what matters. I have heard about there being kink friendly therapists, but I haven't felt the need to make that the main focus when I look for one. I guess I got lucky? I have been in and out of therapy for over 15 years and I've lost count how many therapists I talked around my issues without progress. I didn't discover DDlg until about 8 years ago and that was shortly after finally making some headway in what type of therapy I needed. In therapy I would touch on the topic of what I use for coping. Age regression and littlespace helps me to regulate my emotions and prioritize self-care. There is so much comfort I get from it all. A big topic therapy is communicating with my inner child. That could have CG/lg tones with it but it's more like a mentor guiding me in using tools specifically in DBT and CBT. There's no dynamic or role playing.

Hello! I did mention it but I didn't really delve into the specifics but I did talk about my issues surrounding it. It took a while for me to trust my therapist and see how supportive they were of similar issues before I dropped the ball. It went well though. If you have the capability, you can try to build more trust first before easing into it/opening up about it. Hope it works out for you!

Hi! I actually had a psychiatrist bring up something age regression adjacent in one of my appointments. I wouldn’t say it was necessarily random as i often expressed a few issues i had going on emotionally and mentally due to my childhood (i was pretty parentified) but him (an older professional) bringing it up was very shocking and i asked for clarification because i was in a sort of “does he know? how could he know?” state. I would definitely follow @.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ’s suggestion on being careful who you tell but the chance of a professional bringing it up to you isn’t necessarily out of the question (from my experience). it CAN be beneficial for them to know but always put yourself first and decide if they’re someone you’re comfortable with and trust.

Hi hi 👋 I've discussed DDLG/adjacent with medical professionals (both health and mental health, as I'm chronically utilizing in/out patient settings) and have received mixed reactions. And from my experiences, I've noticed that younger professionals handle the topic a little easier, or at least with less criticism towards it. I think it depends on how deep into the subject you go, and if the individual is open-minded. If you're just talking about fashion or binkies, lighter chat will always get better results than a full bdsm discussion. I've learned that it's always a good idea to ask the individual if they can handle heavier topics, before diving right in. Professionals or not, healthcare providers are still human and might require time to mentally prepare. I occasionally will wear a binky out in public. It typically blends in with my Harajuku inspired fashion sense. On one occasion, a therapist questioned me if I used it. I made the mistake of trusting their judgment and telling the truth. This was an older lady mid 50s early 60s. Let's just say I stopped using that particular service provider. Not just the therapist, but the entire company she worked for. On another occasion, a nutritionist couldn't remember my age as she was typing into her computer. I get rambly at my appointments, so not only did I mention my birth age, but also mentioned that I involuntarily age regress. I definitely caught her off guard, but she handled it well and the conversation moved on. Out of these two professionals, the nutritionist handled it way better than the therapist. Yes, context was a little different for each, but I also will be going back to the nutritionist. The therapist's age and location (red) are probably why she handle it (or didn’t) the way she did. The nutritionist is a bit closer to my age and my current location (blue) probably helps as well.

Hiya everyone, been a while since i've posted anything on here! ^^' How is everyone?? >A< ❤️ Idk if i have any particular aim with this post either, i just kinda wanted to share some of my current little feelings~ It's been a year and a half since i discovered little space, and over 6 months since joining this forum! I feel like i've learned so much about not only the DDLG community but being little since joining and it's been such a valuable experience! I've met awesome people through here, and i think getting to know people through a forum like this helped my confidence in reaching out to people more ^w^ Admittedly i haven't really been on here as much, and there's a reason~ I discovered being ABDL during the tail end of last year (is this a taboo subject to bring up here? idk i get that feeling), and i shifted my priority to meeting more people in that space/community. I love the ddlg dynamic, but ngl as an AroAce little that has no interest in dating, i feel like a community tailored specifically to a relationship dynamic isn't for me ahah~ (I'm not planning to leave or anything tho!). I think that's why ABDL has been much more "me" you know! I don't feel pressured to be in any kind of relationship, i can just be my lil self however i want to! Also as the title suggests, i've also become more aware and firm on my "little" status! I find that "full time middle, occasional little" is the description that fits me the most! At a certain point, i kinda felt like i was forcing myself to be in a baby mindspace. tho i certainly some times feel very much baby/little, but that really isn't the case always. That's why i've really learned to embrace the middle in me! And it's been the perfect fit honestly! And who says middles can't like diapers and baby things??<3 hehe~ Besides, i've always felt like i stopped maturing after i turned 12 so it just fits you know xD I feel liek middle space as made me much more confident in myself, tho self confidence is still a big struggle for me, but i'm getting there! So yeah just a lil updatey thingy i guess ahaha there really was no point to this~ >w< Maybe i'll say that if you're a little struggling with your little identity, don't worry! You'll find it! For me it was finding the right people that matched my interests, little things and little feelings ! it was be hard, and i felt discouraged a lot along the way, but just persevere! loneliness is tough but you'll make it<3 And if you feel like you struggle being little just do what feels right to you! I know it's easy getting caught up in the "aesthetic" and the "image" of what being little is about, but to me it's not about looks or aesthetics. It's a feeling! And a strong feeling too. Do what makes you feel like your best little self and don't feel pressured to follow exactly what someone else is doing. because what works for some might not work for you! embrace being little just the way you want to ^w^ See you guys around and have a wonderful day! 🥰☀️🌻

I can second Pigtail's response. Although I am a member of Cushies Castle I will also post openly about ABDL subjects and haven't ever gotten any negative feedback. Sometimes though it's also just nice to have a place to post whete you don't have to take extra time to explain things the way you might in a more open area of the forums.

What's the difference between a dirty bus stop and a large breasted crab? One's a crusty bus station and the other's a busty crustacean..~

Just wanted to say ABDL is 100% accepted here!!! Just like any delicate part of a kink we ask that you don't go too detailed unless you are in the secret club for all our diaper loving friends.

What did the husband say to say to his wife after accidentally sticking his arms through the legs of his Jeans .. Honey I just shirt my pants

I went on a couple of dates with a pirate,at first I was skeptical but then I spent a night with her . That’s when I got hooked

The way you describe Tony I have the image of Linguini in my head and he and Tony do not belong in a kitchen. I will give them both a pass based on passion for what they do alone. Let's hope Tony finds his Little Chef soon so your meal prep is easier and more consistent. To touch on your rheumatology question I propose all medical fields should be able to attend school for free as long as they graduate. If they fail out or drop out then they should pay some type of pro rated restitution based off how long they lasted. They did take a spot someone else could have used to become a doctor/nurse/dentist/therapist or whatever so it seems fair. It also cuts down on those who aren't 100% serious and focused. This would then lead to less expensive medical care for all because no student loans to pay back. My deep thought for the day is I wish people would stop acting like arsehats to one another. You say you don't like when people do XYZ ? Then don't do it to others. If you ghost someone you can't say ghosters suck. If you talk behind someone's back don't be surprised when people talk behind yours. Life is simple, respect yourself and others equally until they show they do not deserve your respect. Then simply walk away calmly and let them see what they're gonna be missing.

Okies I will start with a silly followed by less silly. I am making quesadillas and I am convinced there is one guy in the factory (I have a whole back story in my head. His name is Tony and he is a 1st generation Italian saving for college) that is TERRIBLE at making them the same size. There is legit a 1 inch difference. Tony bless you but please save fast so my tortillas make sense again.

What did the mitochondria say to the nucleus? Looks like we're cell-mates..~

We all know each individual is their own person and you can't shoehorn everyone into a small box/label. But it was brought up that having a list of different types of DD/MD/Cg might be useful. Though the term Daddy is used below Mommy or Caregiver/Babysitter is freely interchangeable. I just did not want to edit their contributions since we can insert the correct term as we read. Thanks to @คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ and @Dangerously_Well for their work on this. Soft Daddy - Bends to the whimsy of their partner's demands. Situationally submissive. (Hard) Daddy Dom - Takes the lead in the relationship. Understands BDSM, follows SSC, and provides aftercare. Kink Daddy - Interested in kinks. Platonic Daddy - A non-kinker who's emotionally invested in his relationship. Might be asexual. (Toxic) Daddy Dom - A manchild whose got a fragile ego. Easily confused with (Hard) Daddy Doms by newbies/young men of BDSM. Sugar Daddy - Offers money/gifts in exchange for attention. Based on Personality/Dynamic: The Classic Daddy: A traditional, authoritative figure. Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline, but also provides a strong sense of security and love. Often has a paternalistic or protector role. The Playful Daddy: Focuses on fun, games, and silliness. Encourages their little to embrace their childlike wonder and enjoys engaging in playful activities together. May be less strict with rules but still provides guidance. The Nurturing Daddy: Prioritizes emotional care and support. Focuses on creating a safe and comforting environment for their little. May be particularly attuned to their little's emotional needs and provides lots of cuddles and reassurance. The Gentle Daddy: A kind and patient caregiver. Emphasizes positive reinforcement and gentle guidance. Prefers a softer approach to discipline and focuses on building a strong emotional connection. The Strict Daddy: Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline. Believes in clear boundaries and consequences. Provides a sense of security through firm guidance and may enjoy a more dominant role. The Dom Daddy: A dominant figure who enjoys taking control in the relationship. May enjoy BDSM elements and focuses on power dynamics. May be strict or gentle depending on their personal style. (Note: Dominance is not inherently abusive, but it's crucial that it's consensual and safe.) Based on Focus: The Caregiver: Focuses on providing care and support for their little. May be less focused on sexual aspects of the dynamic and more on nurturing and emotional well-being. The Daddy Dom: Combines the paternalistic role with a dominant sexual presence. Enjoys taking control in both a caregiving and sexual context. The Friend/Companion Daddy: Prioritizes building a strong friendship alongside the D/lg dynamic. Focuses on shared interests and open communication. May be less strict with rules and more focused on mutual enjoyment. Important Considerations: Age Play vs. Age Regression: Some Daddies focus specifically on age play (roleplaying as a parent), while others cater to littles who experience age regression (mentally reverting to a younger age). Personal Preferences: Every Daddy/Caregiver has their unique preferences and style. Communication is key to finding a good match. Consent and Safety: All D/lg relationships should be built on consent, respect, and open communication. Safety is paramount.

Hello to all who are a part of this wonderful community! I wanted to make a topic on forgiveness. On my journey through this site and talking to others, it has come to my attention that many have experienced difficult life circumstances. A lot of members, especially those who are little, discuss having faced abuse in some form during childhood. Others have had to face abuse in romantic relationships or in a DD/lg dynamic. Regardless of the situation, many of us are in a personal journey of coming to grips with what has happened and trying to find healing. One question that I want to pose is this: Should the person who has been abused forgive their abuser? Greater minds than me have grappled with this question. One book on the subject is called "The Sunflower" and describes a scenario of a concentration camp survivor in WW2 who is approached by a German soldier. The soldier asks the survivor (a Jewish person) if they would forgive him (the soldier) for burning down a building and murdering a group of Jews. The survivor ultimately states they do not believe they can offer forgiveness to the soldier as the soldier did not personally wrong them, but burned down the building killing others. The survivor declines to offer forgiveness to the soldier and states it is not their right to forgive the soldier for what the soldier did to others. The survivor states they cannot speak for the dead. But upon reflection, the survivor wonders if they did the right thing. The survivor/author then ends with posing the question of forgiveness to others. The book is insightful as others in history have attempted to answer the question and their thoughts are included in the book. People such as the Dali Lama, Dith Pran and other historical figures give answers to the question. This book and scenario is different than the question I pose, as I am asking if we should forgive others for what has happened to us personally. But this book is definitely worth a read to gain insight into how others view forgiveness. For me in my personal life, in my childhood I have faced adversity, cruelty and abuse. And along my healing journey I have felt different about forgiveness at different times. Forgiveness is much like grief I have found, with different stages that I have gone through. I have gone through a range of rage, depression, indifference, and finally forgiveness. Speaking only for myself, I have found that ultimately the person I want to be is to be stronger and better then those who mistreated and abused me. I find freedom when I let go of my rage, my shame and feelings of unworthiness and begin to embrace love, forgiveness and compassion. I don't want the abusers to have any control over me since they took so much from me. When I share their emotions of anger and hate, I feel that they are poisoning me. So I relinquish all the negative things that have to do with them. To me, this means I have to forgive so I can move past it. I have not gotten to 100% forgiveness and don't know if I will ever reach that. But, I have reached the point I rarely think about my abusers and I no longer feel the negative feelings. In fact, I wish positive things upon all of those who have done me wrong, they no longer suck up my energy, thoughts and time. In this way I can move into a brighter future for myself! What about you?

🤣 Jack Black would make me laugh non stop.

I actually brought it up to my therapist, it was hard at first but I told her about me being a Mommy Dom and then identifying more with a sub/little. It's hard when you broach this subject at first but then you find yourself feeling more at peace because you are being true to yourself. That's what therapy is about healing, and finding who you lost, who you were meant to be and who you always wanted to be. It takes time and it hurts but that's what therapy is, being honest and laying all your troubles on the table.

The artist was the best! She could always draw a crowd!

Does anyone want to buy a broken barometer?? No pressure

Who is the boss of the pea mafia? The podfather

Minecraft! It’s great to play together and build things! 😍

Good morning all you amazing beautiful people on here! So as you all know I went to the doctor a few days ago. Well i didn't get the best news there is out there Infact I got pamphlets and now I am scheduled for a biopsy on May 23rd for my stomach Which I threw those pamphlets in the trash and told them they could just my short booty (more or less 😉) So I can do two things, I can cry and throw a tantrum like my inner child was refused chocolate Or I can say Annie girl it's going to be okay As much as I want to throw a tantrum I physically cannot There is too much going on in the world and to me this is a trivial problem in my life when so many are facing harder problems So what am I going to do? That is the real question? Am I scared? I'm terrified absolutely terrified Have I been through this before? Yes in 2015 did 12 rounds of chemo lost all my hair but got an awesome wig I named Dolly that was purple lol So now the real question, how do I pretend this isn't happening? That is the real question, do I just go on my daily life and shut this out or do I stand-up and face it head on? That's my question. As much as I want to hide from it you can't hide from your problems. They have to be met face on. I am thankful I have friends here I can just pretend just for a little while that life is perfect and beautiful because it really is. So until all my results are back I'm just going to smile and bask in the sunlight Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💕

Always be aware of your surroundings and always be cautious. If something feels off, it probably is. Trust your gut.

oh wow…thanks for this ! i’m new to these dynamics and never thought i’d be tested in a relationship. now i know and can be aware if that happens to me 🧐 i like to think i have high standards but once i place trust in my partner, i don’t believe id be expecting tests like this…very interesting insight into human psychology as well.

What is James Bond’s called in wizarding world? Muggle07

I love stuffies too! I have my panda!!

Three mice are talking at a bar about who's the toughest. The first mouse says, "I'm so tough, people at my house put out Rat Poison and I simply grab it, break it up and use it in my morning coffee! The second mouse says, "Aww...that's nothing. They try to get me with a Cat, but it's a fat lazy cat and I just outrun it." The third Mouse says, "I don't have time for this, I got to go home and exercise..."

If you found the right daddy that treats you well respects your little space and encourages your to be a little treat him right. If he doesnt pressure you to do things you dont like and instead wants what you want then be a good girl for him. Its not easy bejng a real daddy because all we want to do is give and never take. Never tell your daddy you love him if you dont mean it. If you see yourself ghosting your daddy or you can go a day without talking to him then dont tell him you love him. Good daddys are hard to come by. Youre his princess act like one.

What did the duck say when it bought chapstick? Put it on my bill

I have 2 to go until I've colored every one posted this month!

@lillizzie24 thank you and my mind can be very unfriendly at times But that's okay because I have beautiful friends to talk to and I have @-Soul- to keep me on my toes lol I would love to chat anytime I look forward to watching minions this Friday 🎉

Thank you! Pooh Bear is new! Still kinda trying to find a space on my bed for him!

Why couldn't the sailors play with their game of cards? Because the Captain was standing on the Deck.

My fav thing about little space is, no worries, no cares, just pure blissful happiness. Hugging the stuffies and watching the pretty colors on the tv.

If you have a history of trauma, how has D/lg affected your healing journey? Its allowed me the ability to safely give up control and be the child that I missed out on being. Its also allowed me to grow sexually in a safe consental way. What precautions do you take to ensure your safety and well-being within the dynamic? Communication! Between my partner and I. As well as therapy. making sure my partner is aware of my past, known triggers and boundaries. Are there specific aspects of D/lg that you find particularly helpful or triggering? triggers - raised voices, humiliation words, I can't do impact play at all. Helpful- routines, clear expectations, Communication, consistency in consent. What advice would you offer to someone with trauma who is considering exploring D/lg? Be honest and open with your needs and triggers