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The short answer ; be up front when getting to know a potential little for dating. Just flat out say , “Having a sexual relationship is a non negotiable for me , I don’t want to get your hopes up in the chance we do get along and click. If this is something that won’t work for you , it’s best to nip any feelings in the bud so neither of us get hurt.” My monkey brain answer : I hate that wanting a sexual relationship is seen as being a creep. Guess I’m a creep then too 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think it’s more the way someone goes about it that makes them a creep or not - rather than the actual desire to have a sexual relationship. As well as how quickly you’re expecting that relationship to happen after starting to get to know someone. Wanting sex after a week and only talking about sex ? Yeah , kinda creepy. Mentioning that you do want a sexual relationship within the DDLG dynamic as casual topic conversation , discussing future possibilities , not so creepy. I am not a fan of the whole idea that wanting sex in this lifestyle makes you a creep - whatever your role or gender is. I dunno… it’s always the actions that prove that in my opinion.

Here's a few I did this week.. the treehouse is my entry for this month.

Good luck everyone ☺️ here’s my entry for this month. pencil colouring . 😻😸🐚🌞

It's certainly something that is out there but probably on the rarer side to be honest. Most people want to find a partner that will help contribute to the relationship and/or household so finding a partner who wants someone who makes zero decisions is likely to be a challenge. My own two cents, what you're describing is a risky dynamic. What happens if your partner becomes ill, has to go away for work for an extended period of time or passes away unexpectedly. How do you care for yourself if you havent had to make any decisions? The unexpected can happen sadly and at tye end of the day we are all adults, or we wouldn't be here, so making sure you still have the life skills you need an ability to care for yourself is also a very important consideration.

Sooo I needed a place to post who pur members are!!! If you do not see your name here then I have accidently not included or you havnt been active here so please let me know as I will be doing something special for members. These will be people that will be pinged in the future as well. Member List: @Aikko @SquirtleSquad @LittleNyx @littlegala @Looksee @Flower_Dragon @MissNMTX @Zina @Sicarie @Minilsah And that is the official list! I know a couple people have expressed interest but until I see you posting here I dont add. So if interested get involved! Thanks all for the patience and activity. This is an amazing start! Can't wait to read with yall. And please if I missed anyone reach out! It is alot to filter through and I make mistakes.

Good evening, good morning—wherever you are in this wild, aching, beautiful world. How are you, really? Not the smile you wear for others—but the quiet truth under your skin. Have you been breathing okay? Sleeping? Eating enough to feel like you're still here? I’m writing this with a full heart and a trembling one. Because being someone with BPD and an INFJ mind is like walking through fire barefoot, while holding a candle for others. You feel everything—too much, too fast, too deeply—and then blame yourself for bleeding. I grew up in a house where love was conditional, if it existed at all. I was the wrong shape, the wrong gender, the wrong weight, the wrong kind of sensitive. I learned to shrink before I learned to speak. I learned to perform before I learned to rest. And when the world mirrored that pain back at me, I believed it. I let it define me. But here's what I'm slowly unlearning: I am not the words that broke me. I am not the silence that followed. I am not unworthy just because someone else couldn’t love me well. If you're like me—wired for empathy, haunted by abandonment, walking around with scars nobody sees—I want you to know this: You’re not too much. You’re not a burden. You’re not broken beyond repair. Sometimes the most tender souls were never taught how to hold themselves. But we can learn. We are learning. It’s okay to start over. It’s okay to take a break. It’s okay to say “This hurts” and not have a solution. You deserve soft love. You deserve safe love. You deserve to be chosen without needing to prove your worth first. And even when you can’t believe any of that, I’ll believe it for you. To anyone who needs to hear this today: You are not alone in the storm. You are not the chaos inside your chest. You are more than survival. You are art. You are wildflowers breaking through concrete. You are the story still being written. My inbox is always open if you need a friend or a reminder that you matter. Because you do. So much more than you know. With love, Someone still learning how to love herself too 🌿🖤

Hi! I'm Manda, I'm new here~ I've been looking for a community that might vibe with the type of art Ive been making lately. Lmk your thoughts? Here's a 10 minute sketch from google images, a piece I spent a couple hours on recently, and a 10 hr piece!

@Little Nyx @Flower_Dragon @littlegala @SquirtleSquad @Looksee @MissNMTX @Zina If you are not on this list it means you havnt participated here in book club (or my tired brain missed it) please know this is an active club so you will need to interact here occasionally to maintain membership. Once a month or so just so i know who is active. Please put our Wednesday chat on ypur calendars!!! 7pm PST. Secondly please be on the lookout for a set of guidlines/rules for here too! I will be posting some, since we have bigs and littles and we are reading smut I thought it would be nice to have. I dont think anyone would step put but this way we are all on the same page. Thirdly please be on the lookout for a pole to choose our first book!!! I am hoping we can start next week since I am back.

Your actions speak louder than any mental illness or physical condition you might have. So never let someone tell you that you're worthless and unlovable just because you have a diagnosis. You don't need to prove anything. Be kind to yourself by taking situations day by day and live your life to the fullest to the best of your ability. Whatever your issues are; you've got this, I believe in you! ♡

As a little, please please don’t just assume or “take for granted” that because we don’t have anything in our profiles or posts that we might be non sexual that it must mean we are totally down to be sexual or talk about it straight away! Most littles don’t mention their preference for a reason! Well I can’t speak for all littles I feel it would be very rare to come across a little that wants to approach that conversation without talking first, and building some level of trust and having time to decide if there is potential or not. DDlg is so much more than just the sexual element, it’s about trust, care, nurturing, guidance, love, support, connection and so much more. Often times those elements are more important to a little than the sexual element (again I don’t speak for all littles). If its an important element for you I recommend posting a personal or putting an about me on your profile and clearly stating it in that, then littles that it doesn’t bother will be able to reach out to you.. however, I still don’t recommend jumping straight into that line of conversation when/if littles do reach out, just because the idea doesn’t bother them, doesn’t mean all those above mentioned elements stop mattering to them & they are ok talking about it straight away, I am a firm believe of before asking them about their preference, it’s a good idea to ask if they are okay with talking about the sexual side first.

My June submission.

Hi guys! So a reading sprint is qhere we all read a certain length of time and then we add up how many pages we each read. It's a fun way to encourage us. Would anyone be interested in doing this on Sunday. We would just do it in the live chat. This way we cpuld try to finish our current books so we can start on whatever we vote in. And I will 100% be at this one. So sorry again for my absence Wednesday, have alot I am catching up on from being sick.

Sure, sure. I've been meaning to finish my book anyway. Should be a good time.

That works for me! I really appreciate you doing all this, especially when you’re still recovering *hugs*

Yay!!! Amazing! I was thinking of making it from like 3pm-7pm PST? And then people can pop in and out as they like?

That sounds like so much fun Pigtail! I’d like to join in on this 🙂

Hello all as promised here are the rules!!! Check back throughout the week as I will be tweaking and adding but this gives us a functioning set!!! Thpugh I know yall are good folks and dont even need them! Naughty Novel Club Rules 1. Obey all forum rules. 2. Don't make things uncomfortable. While I know we are reading smut I think we all know when to tread careful and which details to leave out. Just read your audience and move on if someone is uncomfy. 3. Along the same lines is : being here isnt consent to anything. So please dont ask personal questions. For instance if someone in the book is being tied up it is inappropriate to say "Oh do you like being tied up?". This isnt a sex club it is book club. 4. Be welcoming and friendly! We want folks to like it here. 5. Only talk about NNC with other members!!! Anyone is welcome though so invite who you like! 6. No book shaming. 7. Respect spoilers!!!!! Don't ruin it for others. 8. While we dont judge please do not advertise stealing books and I will not be posting or allowing pirating links. 9. Have fun and participate!!!

My heart absolutely breaks reading what you've bravely shared. What you experienced is horrific, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling this way. You are not alone, and this is not your fault. The betrayal of trust, especially from a family member, is incredibly damaging. It's a profound violation, and the fact that it happened while you were on holiday, a time meant for connection and relaxation, makes it even more cruel. It is never okay for someone to touch you inappropriately or force you into a situation where you are uncomfortable or harmed. What happened to you was a crime, and your feelings of hurt, betrayal, fear, and feeling unsafe are completely valid responses to such a traumatic event. It's also incredibly common for survivors of such abuse to experience nightmares, difficulty sleeping, increased anxiety, and the feeling of spiraling downwards. These are not signs of weakness; they are your body and mind reacting to a deeply painful and terrifying experience. The fact that you've managed to force yourself past self-harm in the past shows immense strength, and you're drawing on that strength now even as you struggle. The fear you describe, the shaking, the feeling of being unsafe no matter where you go – these are all symptoms of trauma, and they are real. It's not something you can just "move past" on your own, and it's not something that time alone will heal. The fact that you haven't told anyone speaks volumes about the shame and fear that abusers inflict. But please know that you deserve support, healing, and justice. You are not broken, you are not weak, and you are worthy of every bit of kindness and healing in the world. While I cannot solve this for you, I want you to know that: I believe you. What happened to you was wrong. You deserve to feel safe. You deserve to heal. It's okay to feel terrified. It's okay to not know what to do. The first step, even if it feels tiny, is acknowledging what happened and reaching out, just like you've done here. If you are open to it, I strongly encourage you to seek professional help. A therapist specializing in trauma (like CPTSD, which often comes from such experiences) can provide a safe, confidential space for you to process what happened, develop coping strategies, and begin to heal. They can also help you navigate the anxiety and sleep disturbances you're experiencing. You don't have to carry this burden alone. This community is here for you, and while we can't replace professional support, we can offer a compassionate ear and a reminder that you are seen, you are valued, and you are not alone. Please keep reaching out, even if it's just to vent more.

"You're not alone" is the biggest understatement of all time. I have never, not ever, met a single female who was not sexually victimized in some way at some point in her life. There are too many of us! https://www.sakitta.org/survivors/ https://rainn.org/resources National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800.656.HOPE (4673) EMDR therapy.... 💯 life changer EFT Tapping for panic attacks Please don't go without help. You need the tools to heal. And remember: You survived. You are a badass. You are safe! Take care of you 🖤🖤🖤

I would say that trying to make that a priority is probably the wrong thing to do, and makes you look like you're after one thing above all else. From my experience, most would want to know if you have a caring, nurturing side before you even attempt to discuss such things. You could try getting to know someone and asking what they want from a relationship. If you're posting an ad in personals, make it clear you want an intimate relationship as part of the dynamic.

I was going to tell a sodium joke, then I thought, “Na.”

Here is mine drawing for this month

That is a fair to handle things, I think.

I have a DND group from 5-9 every other Sunday so I'll miss this week unfortunately.

Add me to the list please

Thank you both! That time fits well for me on the East coast.

Yep yep as of now same time and place.

Of it is Lights Out then the next one will be the contemporary romance. I plan on trying to alternate so it's fair to all.

Yay!!! Can't wait it is officially on my calendar.

Yes. Every Wednesday at 7pm PST (you'll need to adjust the time for your time zone). @PigtailPrincess has offered to adjust the timing if necessary, but that's what it's set for, now. She has a private chat room named Pigtails Playpen Reading Chat set for the group that can be accessed from the drop down menu.

I’ve been running like crazy since starting my new job last month. Crazy intense training and certifications. I seem to have found myself a good rhythm and am ready to do more social stuff and get on here more!! Excited to start reading and chat next week with folks 🙂

Whiooooooo boy. I’ve read Run Posy Run and I’m going to say it is FREAKING EPIC. I regularly reread this one at LEAST 2-3 times a year. So I’d be down for that again. edit: okay just read all the descriptions and man they all sound epic! 😁

So sorry guys!!! I was wrapped up in getting us all set to read together!! I will for sure make next week. I am also hosting a Reading Sprint on Sunday. I am hosting it hoping some of us can finish what we are currently reading tpgether so we can be ready to read whatever we pick next week

Ohhh thank you I knew I was forgetting someone! Yesss I am collecting good options from my reading friends/sources.

Hi all I have been involved but what time is the chat in uk time? Sorry I’m not sure what pst etc is

@Flower_Dragon That was amazing! Thank you for sharing! I can't bounce around like I used to, but it was fun singing along and now I have a huge smile on my face!

I will try to make it if I can to the chat. Got a busy day tomorrow. Looking forward to see the pole and what are options will be.

I was reflect yesterday on my relationship with my Daddy/Boyfriend and how Cgl is part of not just our relationship but also our lives in general. It made me reflect further on how difficult it can be for Caregivers in this space. Caregivers face challenges from often trying to deal with trauma their littles may have been through. Providing reassurance when their little feels they are too demanding or too broken to be loved. Facing misperceptions and accusations when so often all a good Caregiver wants is to love their little. Dealing with being used or ghosted. Often not getting the same support that every human being needs. A lot of Caregivers face stresses that don't get talked about or littles assume Caregivers are or must always be strong. So to all you Caregivers out there let me share with you what I see as so wonderful in all of you, yes my Daddy especially, that either take on thst role or are naturally Care givers at heart. You are a light in the darkness. You are a rock in a sea of emotional turmoil and a safety bar on a rollercoaster of confusion. You provide a safe haven for littles to rest if even only for fleeting moments. You provide assurances that letting go is safe. You provide a mental meadow where carefree happiness and giddiness aren't just ok but are celebrated. You are a gift that your little celebrates even if at times we don't know how to express it. You are strong by showing honesty and vulnerability is not wrong. You guide, you protect and you love deeply and without judgment. You are treasured. You are loved. You are a Caregiver. To littles with Caregivers, remember that when we offer vulnerability our Caregivers accept that gift like a fragile bubble and they guard it fiercely and with joy. To the Caregivers, if you have a little hold them close tonight in a hug that feels like it should never end. If you don't have a little they are out there looking for you. Not everyone is a Caregiver and should be one. To those who are know how much you are treasured not just as a Caregiver but also as a person. To all, never settle. Find the Caregiver or little who deserves your heart who will protect yours as fiercely as you will protect theirs.

Every dynamic is different not a single 2 the same. Every dynamic is just as valid as the next. if you want to be in a 24/7 dynamic that is absolutely something you can seek to find. There are 24/7 dynamics out there, and other people wanting them to. Its just about finding the right person for you and having that conversation with them well keeping an open mind, because the version of a 24/7 dynamic you have in mind may (and most likely will) differ slightly to everyone else’s, so compromise is key. In any good DDlg relationship both people are getting there needs meet in some way.

Thankies!

So I'm supposed to be taking a break from everything/everyone right now to heal, but I stopped by to visit coz I miss my friends. (I chose this path with my mental health team. It is something I need to do for me.) I saw this post and would like to share my heart as a little and as a woman. My personal view point, no one else's views. It is so much fun early in a relationship to be seen as both a little and a woman. To feel those feelings of comfort, care, and sexual appeal that a potential Daddy brings out. In littlespace I am much less restrained in what I say and much more innocent. My thinking is really young and so is my ability to make decisions. I am extremely submissive and will do whatever is asked of me to the point of self-injury. Ecerythinh sounds appealing until I return to big space, which may not be for hours to days later. Then I may realize that even if I am comfortable with a Daddy in littlespace, my big space self does not feel safe jumping in that fast. I am a successful adult. A single mother, a teacher, a leader in my school, a graduate student, a leader at my church and in my community. Do I need help with balance and daily life? Absolutely 💯! I'm a hot mess and I love being cared for and nurtured, but as there are many different kinds of Daddies, there are also many different kinds of littles. As a little, I need to be able to trust my Daddy as a Daddy, Caregiver, friend, and as a sexual partner in both littlespace and big space. If that doesn't work for me, I need to walk away. Unfortunately, my ability to maintain any relationship, even friendship is currently not working, so I am taking a break to heal and fix it. Again, I state, this is my thoughts, my options, my view point as a little and as a woman. Please know I do not speak for anyone else, only myself. If I am way off-base, please remove my post, as I'm not returning for awhile. My advice is go slowly. Be sure you connect well in different head spaces. Since we are all adults, we do all have grown-up responsibilities. Sometimes we do just want/need a relationship for the Caregiving aspects, but if it is to be long term, go slow and build trust, build friendship, build safety, build relationship. Poppy

Most Littles and women will probably be turned off by that. There are littles and women out there that probably won’t have a problem with that, but I think 90% of those here would find that unappealing. I don’t want to speak for people here, but I believe most are more interested in establishing friendships, relationships, trust and feelings before being intimate. There are also many here that have no interest in sex. Being honest, I can’t imagine saying that to a woman. You need to be skilled enough in the course of chatting with a woman to establish her sexual experience and desires. It’s very easy to quickly determine what someone is looking for. Asking the right questions and listening is very important. You should be able to determine within a day or two if that person lines up with your desires. Are you on Fet Life?

I wondered why the baseball was getting closer and closer, then it hit me.

I like that one

@Ariguin Thank you so much for finding the courage to share something so deeply painful. I’m truly sorry that someone you trusted so much hurt you in such a traumatic way. What happened to you was not your fault — you didn’t deserve any of it, and I hope you know that your feelings are completely valid. It’s heartbreaking to hear what you’ve gone through, especially feeling so alone with the weight of it all for so long. You are incredibly strong, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Surviving that kind of betrayal and still pushing forward — even when things feel like they’re falling apart — shows just how resilient you are. Please don’t carry this pain on your own. You deserve support, safety, and healing. If you can, I really encourage you to speak to someone you trust — a therapist, a support line, or one of your parents or even just a friend. You don’t have to go through this in silence. There are people out there who care and want to help you feel safe again. You’re not alone, even though it might feel like it. There is hope, even in the darkest moments — and healing is absolutely possible. Sending you so much love, strength, and comfort. You matter. 💛

Love that and appreciate it very much, having been in the lifestyle for a very long time. I recently had to step away because I was emotionally and physically drained because of a relationship I had been in with my little/sub and I am having a hard time stepping back into one. The dynamic is extremely intense for both the Daddy and the little. The bond that is shared is like no other as I feel there is a misconception that the little is the one that is most vulnerable, I feel the Daddy is just as vulnerable as they have been given the gift of their little's trust, submission, love, and vulnerability. From a Daddy's perspective their is nothing greater, nothing scarier (at times), to be holding their littles, trust, safety, love, intimacy, and vulnerability in their heart, mind, and hands. Just a thought, don't know if others feel the same. Had to express that.