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Here are this month's submissions for the coloring contest. Y'all know what to do. Good luck everyone. Voting will close Saturday the 2nd SweetLittleDreamer SquirtleSquad Prince MissAnna littlegala LittleAmbi Little Nyx Lil_K47 Daddy Bear 77 BabyPoppy

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To all my beautiful friends and community family members on here Thank you all for standing behind me as I slowly find my way back to who I used to be Thank you for cheering me on and checking in on me If I could hug you all I would! Thank you for never giving up on me All of you have a special place in my heart ❤️ Thank you Always in your corner Miss Anna

I am going to start with the thought that rings in my mind the most when reading your post : Do the labels of what you’re wishing to build (relationship or dynamic) really matter if one party is being left feeling the way you currently feel ? Not being valued , not feeling worthy , as though you’re a convenience rather than a partner. In my humble opinion before I even get into anything - it doesn’t matter. Neither of these labels matter if you feel the way you do and it will cause you damage in the long run and is not worth the blips of happiness you might catch in your net in between feeling unvalued and unworthy. No label matters if both parties aren’t putting equal energy into each other to begin with. I think you should sit with that a little bit - are you grasping at labels to try and create something to grab onto instead of letting it fade ? Even the most shallow interactions between people have equal rewards (to the parties involved - outsiders may disagree) such as sugar babies and sugar daddies , as the simplest example. Do you think a sugar daddy would continue to provide his sugar if he’s not getting any sugar in return ? Maybe if the guy is massively desperate for emotional or physical intimacy … but eventually that will dwindle as well. Along with the funds. I also consider if this was flipped. What if you were a female and a little that was making a post like this - being vulnerable and opening up about how you feel so unappreciated. Everyone would be up in arms and I’m sure much more people would reply how the Caregiver is an asshole and you should move on. Guess what I’m gunna say ? This chick is an asshole - and you should move on and invest time into yourself , whatever that looks like. Just from this post alone , I have no doubts that you have expressed your wants and desires - as well as possible outcomes for whatever ends up being your label. And I’m gunna be an asshole and say - does this chick even know the true definitions ? I’ll lay out Websters - my all time favorite book besides the one that shall not be named. Understandably , dynamic is going to be interpreted differently even though there is a literal definition. In my world - a dynamic is an exchange between two people. An equal exchange of forces and power where both sides benefit. A dynamic happens WITHIN a relationship. The two are intertwined in my world but I understand that there are people that separate them - but as @shadowrider stated … that only lasts so long before the dynamic shifts - one person demands more and it either fizzles out - blows up - or turns into a relationship. One cannot survive long without the other - they’re symbiotic labels in the end and one will shrivel up and die if the other is not treated with care. There is a reason people will call relations between two people “one sided” at times. One person is in it for the dynamics (exchanges between two people) and the other is in it for the possible relationship. My question is - do you put up with the behavior from this person that leads you feeling unworthy and undervalued so you have a person , a “friend” or the idea that you might be able to obtain a relationship ? If that is the case - this person is not a friend and not someone I would suggest you keep entertaining. From an outsider looking in - especially you being so obviously heartfelt and loving … this person isn’t a friend. If you’ve discussed how you felt with them and their answer was cold and “we have a dynamic not a relationship” … run for the hills. This is the type of person that will bang your door down when they need something but when YOU are bleeding out - they’ll shrug , say you’re not their problem and walk away. If you’re not in a “relationship” then why would they care to be there anyways ? Having this type of mindset in the DDLG world , to ME specifically is a huge red flag. I am probably the biggest and loudest advocate for men that the site has - and this type of shit makes me angry. Genuine men who want to care for someone being treated like this can break them down and destroy their hope of finding a little - or turn them into straight up monsters. Of course I only have the context that you provided … but to me it sounds like you’re being played like a fiddle. If someone ever said this to me when I'm pouring myself into building something , regardless of the label … please let the door hit your ass when I walk you out of my space and heart. No amount of “dynamic” activities (Ddlg activities that partners share) would ever fix the unworthy feeling it would create. In fact , it would make me feel more used to continue those activities KNOWING the other person has no interest in anything other than emotionless activities. I will be back later with more thoughts - but I’m literally shoving the last of my lunch in my face and now my phone is covered in honey mustard 😅 Those are my short lunchtime thoughts for now.

welcome to my life experience! semi wise words from an older gal. i've probably been there, done that, own the T-shirt and could probably write the book! 😉 hey Ya'll!! So, its not very often you'll see me make a serious post. I tend to keep my posts light hearted, often poking fun at myself or randomly posting funnies to other folks pages. I'm a big believer in laughter is the best medicine! and if I can make one person a day smile and or laugh at something I've said or done, then I feel I'm contributing to a greater whole of good karma! I tend to be a constant jokester, I'm very quirky , and often awkward ! So I don't claim to be eloquent writer or have a lot of great advice to impart, but you'll often see me offering some kind words of encouragement to anyone I think I needs them. What I can offer are a few observations, and some insights from someone who has a lot of life experience in general. in just the short month that I've been a part of this community, I've already seen a lot of young ladies and gentlemen fly through here. a number of people have made some insightful posts recently about about slowing things down and truly taking your time in getting to know someone. So this is more of a supplement to those posts, and me throwing my two cents in. To give you a little backstory of where I'm trying to go with this: before I joined this community, years ago I was very active in the swinging community. and no, this is not an invitation nor a ploy to get you to invite me into your relationship! As people grow and mature, their needs, wants and desires change and grow with them. And for me, that is very much what happened. Although I made some wonderful friends, I got to a point where I no longer wanted to be a back up singer in somebody else's love song. I wanted to find someone of my own to write a duet with. so I began to read more and explore different things. From the age of 24 to about 37, I was in and out of the swinging scene. I moved to where I live now probably around 12 years ago and although I am no longer actively participating in swinging events, I have still managed to maintain the friendships with the couples that I met that very first year that I lived here! I have learned a lot during my time in the Kink community simply by trial and error and by learning from my own mistakes and the mistakes that I see others making. The group that I spent the most time with, we were a large group of friends who got together every weekend and at the end of the night if clothes started coming off, well then, more fun for everyone! 😉 over the years people came in and out of our group, and you could always tell who the couples were that were not going to make it. likewise you could point out the single folks who were there constantly stirring the pot counterclockwise and causing all the drama! Fortunately those folks never seemed to stay around long. here Ive noticed a lot of young ladies and gentlemen making posts saying you know, they're lonely , depressed, overwhelmed , whatever..., and then they disappear never to be seen or heard from again. So I guess really what I'm trying to say is, if you are just flying through here checking your personal and not stopping to explore the site and to stopping to making friends, you are truly doing yourself a disservice! your missing out on building some great lifelong friendships /relationships! This truly is a community full of people who care and who have been where you have been at some point in their life. And if you stop and take the time to smell the roses, so to say, you'll find that the people here will offer you great advice, they will offer you comfort, they will share in your joy and triumphs and be a shoulder for you to lean and cry on during your trials. We will be here for all of your ups and downs should you take the time to get to know us! if you have to take a step back for a little while to reevaluate what you're doing, I totally get that, but please find your way back! Important things I think every little and daddy should remember: #1 you are nobody's play thing! #2 you are nobody's ATM! #3 you are a person worth knowing! if anyone is not treating you as such they are not worth your time or effort! # 4 be truthful with yourself and with others You're gonna talk to a lot of people here and you're not gonna click with everyone at least not romantically. for me, even if I don't click with someone romantically as long as they haven't been pushy or a jerk or tried to take advantage of my giving nature , then I can be adult enough to simply remain friends. #5 make lemonade!- I say it often and I truly mean it! I said it just today actually . when life throws lemons at you , make lemonade! And pass it out! You can always find something positive in your day whether it's something tiny, just that one thing is still enough to keep the momentum going, you just have to do some searching sometimes to find the light! (and ya know, if anything, you can always use those lemons to beam anybody in the head that annoys you!! 😉🤣🤣) If you took the time to actually read through this whole post then I hope you found something useful in here, something thought provoking to make you take another look at what you're truly doing here! peace, love, and happy thoughts, ~K

@Aikko @SquirtleSquad @Little Nyx @littlegala @Looksee @MissNMTX @Flower_Dragon @Zina @Sicarie @Daddy Bear 77 @kryssi01 If I have missed anyone please let me know!!! So I am finally puting into effect a very cool thing. So I personally will be making all NNC members their own "reading profile" What this means is I will make a special graphic for each person that highlights who they are as readers and is a fun individual thing. Below I am listing the things I need to know. Please feel free to DM me these things or if you are more comfy you can post it here. These may take me a little while so please be patient and I am a one man show. Things I need to know: 1. Favorite colors and any other decorative styles you like 2. Nickname if you like (it will already include your screen name) 3. Favorite book 4. Favorite quote 5. Genres you read 6. Favorite author 7. Favorite troupe 8. Biggest dislike in a book when you read it 9. Character you would spend a day with 10. Physical or Kindle or audio books? 11. I will need a picture you want incorporated in. Doesnt gave to be your face at all. 12. One random fun fact about you Thanks guys and I look forward to this fun little thing!!!

as someone that does digital art, coloring digitally is just as valid as pen and paper methods. all art done by ones own hand takes time and effort, no matter the medium. so don't downplay yourself just because you used and app! the turtle looks nice btw! so colorful! 😁 i like that there's a bit of texture in some parts~

Hope it’s not too late! Here’s my entry

Hello, Hi, Friendly neighbourhood Soul here!! Life lately has felt like an emotional rollercoaster, full throttle, no seatbelt, and definitely no “pause” button. Coming off a high dosage of Sertraline (Zoloft, for my American friends) cold turkey wasn’t exactly the brightest idea, but it was something I felt I had to do to confront the tidal wave of emotions surrounding my mum’s illness. Her passing ( can you believe it’s been 3 months) hit me like a truck!!! grief is no joke. It can chew you up and spit you out without warning. I won’t sugarcoat it: I became irritable, miserable, and felt completely lost. But in the middle of that storm, I remembered the one thing I was asked, don’t push people away. So I didn’t. Instead, I leaned on my people, those close friends, whether online or offline, who didn’t flinch at my ugly days and didn’t back off when I had nothing left to give. Piece by piece, they helped put me back together. Not fixed, but functioning. Not over it, but getting through it. Does it still hurt? Absolutely. Grief doesn’t just pack up and leave quietly. But having friends, real friends, has made all the difference. So here’s to you. To the ones who stood by me when I was at my worst! You're the tough ones. The strong ones. The real champs. If you’re reading this and ever find yourself in the dark, please don’t hesitate to reach out. If I can help in any way, I will!! because that’s what friends do. We stick together. Thick and thin. Highs and lows. Always. Much love, 💛 Soul

I wish I had some optimistic and encouraging words. Sadly, grief is permanent as it's continued love. Flip sides of the very same coin. Loss and grief stay, but so does the love and the memories. In some strange way, they might be even more alive now. I've lost a lot of loved ones over the years, but they are alive to me in music, food, so many things.

I feel like I've been on this forum long enough that I can say age really is just a number. It has nothing to do with maturity or embodiment of the dynamic. If course, we all have preferences, but honestly those really are just preferences that don't have much to do with anything. It's really just about who click with. Conversation, laughter, care...none of that has anything to do with age.

That's a really good question, and honestly I believe the age gap would be based on what the person's preference is. There are a lot of doms that prefer littles younger than them, there are some that don't mind the age differences. There are some littles who want a Dom around their age or maybe older. It just depends on what makes you happy and what you are comfortable with. Me personally I'm happy with my partners age, but yes I've had littles who were a lot younger than me. Its all about balance and honestly it's all about what you again are comfortable with. Remember you can be happy with someone who is the same age as you, older than you or younger than you are. So many Dom's and Littles get caught up on ages that they miss out on meeting some wonderful people.

I will always stand up for men - and I will also always be the devils advocate. As angry or mean as I might sound or seem to some - I am very anti “stand up for all littles.” I’ve seen first hand , too many men , in your exact position and littles are made out to be saints. Yes , some littles are coerced and taken advantage of. But the amount of the ~actual~ number of this happening is much lower than people realize. When littles cry wolf they’re almost always trusted to be honest and transparent. Men / caregivers are made out to be monsters and a small minority are deemed “good” … until another little cries wolf. I could go on about that topic for a very extended amount of time - but it leads me back to yourself. Just because other men have been bad , just because some littles have been treated badly - does that mean you have to have the same story for yourself ? I don’t think so. I believe with your behavior on the forum , especially your heartfelt posts on this situation - you’ve got a really good chance at finding someone who wants the exact same thing as you and will not make you feel undervalued. This can be genderless but for the sake of this situation I’ll be blunt and precise : Don't dwindle yourself , your wants , your happiness or your desires for any woman. Friendship is a ploy , one of my favorite sayings about women and monkeys fo hand in hand … “Women are like monkeys.. they won’t let go of the first branch until they know the second branch can hold their weight.” Have you ever consider you might be the second branch in this situation ? Don’t let yourself be a branch - be the whole tree my friend. 🫶🏼

I won't say a lot since others have laid a good foundation and I know DM will be back to frame it all out. I will say this is why I refuse to do platonic or babysitting. Feelings always get involved because we are humans and thats what we do. And to try and give someone the care they deserve in a relationship/dynamic without feelings is impossible and unrealistic. Why would I ask if you slept ok or if you remembered to eat if I didn't care ? I wouldn't. Why would I spend my time chatting with someone and learning about them if I didn't care on some level ? I wouldn't. Sounds like they want a (and I hate this term) situationship. Be here when I want you and for what I want and thats it. But even then, why would I want someone checking on me and doing things for me if I knew they didn't care one way or the other about me ? That to me is ridiculous. Sometimes you have to put yourself first and do what is right for you.

I PROMISE I WILL BE BACK ! It’s hard to write my novels during work hours 😭

For my Daddy and I the relationship comes first and foremost with the DDlg dynamic inside that bigger bubble. There may be times of stress or crisis that necessitate we set the DDlg dynamic to one side temporarily but neither of us can foresee something that would lead us to set our relationship aside. For instance, when my Daddy had surgery He needed additional physical care and support so that's what I provided to Him. It doesn't mean a gentle Daddy cuddle was off the table but it did mean He needed a supportive adult partner which is what He had because of the relationship. Honestly if He told me, "we don't have a relationship. We have a dynamic.", I'd be out. Without that emotional connection I personally don't understand or see the point.

This is so true, it is a relationship that you build with someone, regardless if they say it's just a dynamic. Feelings will always come into play when entering a dynamic or relationship whichever way you want to call it. I'm so sorry you dont feel valued or even worthy. Remember we are here for you, you have a giant community behind you that will support you. Please remember you truly do matter, you are worthy of love and you are valued.

Here is my entry as well. Hopefully also not late. It's from an app but it still took a while to do but it definitely doesn't deserve full credit as the people that used real paper and coloring implements. I just wanted to participate.

@Cranius Thank you ! I’m glad parts of my post could resonate with you and the fact that you appreciated it at all ! I think little boys are extremely undervalued and unappreciated. I’m glad you’re here and that you’ve taken the time to explore who you are and what you want - you really do seem like an insightful , thoughtful , caring and intelligent little boy. A little rockstar actually 🐒🫧 I hope you continue to post and share your thoughts and experiences as I’ve enjoyed reading your posts during your time with us as well. 🫶🏼

Those are all great points @DaddysMonkey, some of which I didn't even see or consider. One of my first posts on these forums was about my shame for wanting an MDLB lifestyle for about eight years. It actually started as a fetish for me, and then I experienced parts of the fetish, and realized it was a lifestyle choice for me. I at least have the desire to pursue that lifestyle now and didn't before. Fortunately, having recognized that, I can be open and honest about that. I made the mistake of fetishizing the lifestyle, without understanding that the lifestyle piece existed, and that fetish =/= lifestyle. Related: I also mistook bottoming for submission, i.e. receiving pleasurable acts =/= lifestyle submission. I'm sure many young men conflate these topics. The social pressure and shame you mentioned, from the male perspective, rings very true in my own story. Those social forces are so strong that it took the destruction of the typical American dream for me to pursue MDLB seriously. To contextualize the potency of those social forces and expectations, for me that meant: Being laid off Losing a monogamous partner of 2.5 years Experiencing a robbery, car accident, house repairs and market losses which combined to well over $20,000 in monetary losses-- which contributed to "cracking" my need to show or display strength, and begin exploration of MDLB. So, those social forces persisted to such an extent that only I was only emotionally ready to pursue an MDLB lifestyle after I'd lost and re-engineered most of my personal and professional life. And I'm still in the process of doing that, this is all still new to me, but those social expectations precluded all of that exploration. I would imagine that many prospective little boys silently feel that same shame, even if they never reply or react to this post. The other reasons you mentioned from the mommy perspective are likely equally as potent, although I've no experience with them. Your point about femininity in little boys was insightful and thought provoking. I had not yet considered femininity as an axis of desirability from the mommy perspective. I can say that the occasional sissification is a fetish for me, having experienced that, but that I believe I am more traditional in the lifestyle of being a little boy. I say "believe" because I haven't had a mommy yet, and to some degree, everything I am saying about an MDLB dynamic is based on a combination of my romantic relationships, bedroom experience, and knowledge of myself as a person, without any lived experience. Succinctly put, my first experience as a sissy was one of the impetuses to pursue MDLB, but I'm pursing it from a more traditional perspective, and I'm pursuing MDLB as a lifestyle rather than a fetish (although those sexual components are part of my little identity). That journey, coupled with conquering shame, took almost a decade. I commend you for brilliantly articulating many of these often insidious and nebulous factors. I learned a lot and got valuable perspectives. Thank you!

Remember, even as a sub, you have all the power. You can and should say NO to anything that makes you uncomfortable.

Today after we went grocery shopping we all went down to the river. I got some really cool photos of my G.G. Labubu and when we were goofing around in the water we realized there was baby salmon and trout swimming around us !!! In true Monkey fashion I was absolutely mesmerized and had to try to catch one of the biggest fish I could see. Dad says the one I almost caught was a Trout ! :3 I moved really really slow and got him used to me and I touched him twice and he didn’t even move ! Then when I almost caught him he slipped right of my hand and swam super fast straight ahead of me but he didn’t swim alllll the way away hehehehe. It’s like he knew I was just playing with him. Heres some videos of my almost catching a fish with my bare hands as well as some of my Labubu River photos 🥰

I'm not a CG, but I wanted to throw this out here-- us littles really do appreciate all that you do for us! You are kind, generous, open-hearted. You allow us to relax and be ourselves. You allow us spaces to laugh, cry, hug, and play. You carry the weight of the world on your shoulders so that we don't have to bear it alone. I know I speak for all littles when I say: we love you daddy/mommy! And we're here to take care of you, too. We will bring you laughter, joy, love, silliness, and childlike wisdom. We will give back to you! Thanks for giving so much to us!

Thank you @Cranius your kind words means a lot to me. I am still learning who I am, but that's the beautiful thing about life. You are never too old to try something new @-Soul- is constantly helping me learn that I am okay just being me because I do talk an insanely amount, I get super hyper and I get extremely excited over small things. Seriously he has Harry Potter gummies and I freaked out for hours. Not that I'm obsessed with Harry Potter, who me? No never okay maybe a little bit like this much 🤏 lol Wait calm down Anna, but again thank you for your kind words

Thank you daddy @-Soul- is right @Cranius you aren't too much nor should you be ashamed of being a little. I struggle daily thinking I am an imposter for being a middle when I was a Mommy Dom for 20 plus years. Its a feeling I deal with daily and the guilt, sometimes weighs me down, because I'm always thinking I'm not good enough. Or that I will never measure up to being a true little or middle. I have to thank Soul, my daddy for helping me and keeping me level headed, as well as reminding me I'm not too much. I talk a lot and ramble too, plus I get sidetracked like a squirrel on a fence riding a gummy bear looking for his lost acorns. Our door is always open if you need a friend, please don't be so hard on yourself. You have a whole community behind you now, you're not alone anymore. Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved

Hello! Hi! Friendly neighbourhood Soul here! I can’t give a little perspective being a CG myself but I wanted to say thank you so much for sharing your story so openly, it takes real courage to put all of that out there, and I just want to say, it absolutely matters. What you said about shame really hit home. You're definitely not alone in that in fact so many folks (especially male littles) wrestle with the same inner dialogue you described. Society does a fantastic job at telling boys to "man up," and not a great job at leaving space for softness, care, and vulnerability. So it’s no surprise that MDLB dynamics can feel like swimming upstream. But here's the beautiful part!! you're swimming anyway. You're here. You’re talking about it. You’re beginning to explore and embrace a part of yourself that’s always been there and that’s incredibly brave. You’re not "too late," you’re right on time for your journey. You also nailed something I really appreciate, the idea that MDLB challenges traditional expectations in a way that can feel unsettling at first. That discomfort? It’s not a flaw. It’s the growing pains of unlearning stuff we were never supposed to carry alone in the first place. I promise you, you do have something to offer in a dynamic, not just to a Mommy Dom, but to yourself. Littles bring so much joy, creativity, emotional depth, and honesty into this world. The idea that you’re “too much” or “not enough” is a lie shame tells to keep us from connection. Something I am constantly reminding my @MissAnna! So thank you again. For being here. For writing this. For helping other little boys who might be scrolling quietly and thinking, “Maybe it’s not just me.” You’re already making this space a little more welcoming, just by being you. Looking forward to seeing more of you around! – Soul

Honestly, so long as all parties are over 18 the age gap isn't really important. I've seen folks 2 years apart fail and couples 30 years apart work. I think what is far more important is maturity and common goals. My Wife and I are 2 years apart and have been married 19 years and my Boyfriend and I are 21 years apart and have been together almost 7 years. Does a larger age gap present different challenges than a smaller age gap, sure. Are those challenges harder, I'd say no, just different.

Hello! Hi! Friendly neighbourhood Soul here.. I just wanted to say, thank you for taking the time to share this. It’s not always easy putting something real and reflective out into the world, especially when your usual vibe leans more toward lighthearted mischief (many people here can relate!). Your post is the kind of grounded wisdom that reminds folks there's a lot more to this lifestyle (and this community) than just flashy profiles and fleeting conversations. The insight you shared about growth, connection, and slowing down is something I think a lot of people need to hear, especially those who are new here or feeling lost in the shuffle. I really respect the way you framed your experience, not as a “let me teach you” moment, but as “here’s what I’ve seen, and maybe it’ll help you too.” That’s how real connection starts. Also… “no longer wanting to be a backup singer in someone else’s love song”? That line is perfection and one I will use when advising people going forward. Thanks again for showing up as one of the pillars of this community, with your quirky, wise, encouraging self. The community is stronger for it. Peace, laughter, and the occasional well-aimed lemon, —Soul

i'm really sorry you've had a rough week, I'm not gonna try to offer up any more advice because I think Miss Anna and Mr Soul said everything really well! You most definitely do deserve to feel valued and if you're not getting that out of your relationship/dynamic whatever you wanna call it then perhaps you are doing the right thing by taking a step back and reevaluating. Know that we're all here to listen to what you have to say, and your thoughts are valued here! we will offer all the emotional support that we can! Big hugs, and hoping the coming weeks will start the healing process for you.

If you are looking for little books with smut and romance, then i suggest Laylah Roberts and Kate Oliver. They are too of my favs. i if

So as some of you may or may not know, I do photography, my specialty is Night/experimental photography, if you have any questions I’ll be more than happy to answer, I just wanted to share some of my works

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🐒💨 Heeeelloo. …It’s been a while again , let’s just get into yeah ? A subject I often see up for debate , or a common question that is asked within this lifestyle : “Why is Md/Lb not as prevalent or seen as often as Dd/Lg ?” Due to the nature of this topic being centered on gendered language to begin with ( Mommy Doms / Little Boys ) , that is what I will be using in this discussion. A large part for this is because it stems from straight males seeking straight females for these types of relationships ( or vice versa ) that are the topic of this discussion. Do note , that this implies to anyone who falls under this category if that is how you identify. My goal is to have this be an open discussion , for everyone to be able to offer insight , ask questions , and provide answers / opinions. I shall begin with a few of my thoughts as to why Md/Lb is not as prevalent / these community members might have a hard time finding long term love in this lifestyle. - It seems as though a higher percentage of men prefer to hide this about themselves out of shame / it being a fetish / quick sexual fix rather than a long term lifestyle for them. It makes me think of very professional business men who in secret , hire a Dominatrix to humiliate them. Because this fetish and/or kink is so secretive for them , they are harder to discover. I would imagine this also goes for a high portion of men who are little boys. It’s likely that the little boys are shameful and keep it to themselves rather than seek out partners. Many men feel the pressure and need to be mature , provide , protect and not act childish , especially not around their family or partner. * On the other side of that perspective , I put myself in the shoes of someone who might consider themselves a Mommy as a female. There is a lot of pressure on women in society to look young into their old age , and women will shame each other for having partners who are childish and immature. That pressure could in theory deter a lot of women from wanting to be a Mommy. It could make them feel old , or look old in comparison to a younger male counterpart. ( That is , if their partner actually is younger than them. Littles don’t have to be younger than their partner. ) The pressure and judgment of their family and friends seeing that childish parts of the person they choose to be with the could arise. - In typical society , Daddy issues in females are seen as fixable and “hot” to males , while Mommy issues in males are often seen as weak or it is seen as a red flag for dating. A lot of males that aren’t even in this lifestyle will often stereotype women with “Daddy issues” as freaks , and “hot”. They see it as something that is fixable and that they can guide in order to make themselves the leader in the partnership. A lot of females who are not in this lifestyle will see males with Mommy issues ( whether that be too attached or too detached to their mother ) as childish , or that they will forever be in competition with the males mother , or that they will have to step up and act like a parent to their male counterpart because of their rebellion against female role models. Because of the typically negative stereotypes tied to “Mommy’s boys” , vanilla women will be less likely to be interested in trying this lifestyle and would more likely be turned off by the idea. Whereas vanilla males would be more likely to be interested in trying the lifestyle as they might think it’s “hot to try”. - To continue the theme of societal / gender pressures and preferences , little boys may feel the need to be feminine because of the typical Dd/Lg pressures ( or their own preference ) when a Mommy might just want a masculine little boy. Extremely feminine little boys or what I have seen people label themselves as “sissyboys” littles , is something I have seen grow more and more in my many years in this lifestyle. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with your adult choices , this does not mean that people will accept it or bend their preferences to be with someone. Outside of this forum , I have seen people who label themselves as those sissyboys who are extremely fetishist / sexual about their actions in seeking Mommies when the Mommies have wanted masculine , “typical” little boys. While being a feminine little boy does not mean you fetishize your experience , there is a large portion I have witnessed who do exactly that. In turn , Mommies go into hiding and are very selective with who they conversation with , leaving the “typical” little boys scraping at the air trying to find a sign of life from Mommies. I also take into consideration the curiosity , or pressure little boys might feel to be more feminine as this lifestyle is dominated by Dd/Lg. 99% of websites for this lifestyle are vomiting pink and glitter everywhere , don’t often have sections or areas for little boys , and if they do it typically is not their own secured area but rather has all genders included. Is including all genders in a little are terrible ? No , but it also does not leave room for little boys to be seen on their own when the percentage of them who are put in the open is so small to begin with. - Again , in continuance to a theme above.. the people who label themselves as little boys / Mommies but are actually fetishists and not lifestyle community members come into play…. A whole new can of worms is opened. I personally see people in the Cg/L lifestyle (No matter the gender ) in two categories : Fetishists and Lifestylers. In the case of lifestyler little boys / Mommies , they become wholly overshadowed by fetishist little boys / Mommies. Neither is better than the other , but one overshadowing the other would definitely make seeking a partner more difficult in my opinion. I would hope we can all be transparent here and can say we’ve all seen someone jump onto the forum and within hours or days , they are posting poorly written or worded reachings for an immediate partner do do sexual things with them , ( In my experience it’s typically humiliation on the little boys part ) and posting to community members pages asking them to be their mommy , or Mommies immediately blasting men’s pages with messages of “Will you be my baby boy ? “ , when the male is clearly a Daddy … showing the person doesn’t even take the time to read peoples profiles before leeching for little boys to prey on. ( Or is just a scam. ) - ^ Which leads to little boys being scammed and / or hurt. With the lack of representation in the lifestyle , perceived lack of Mommies , and yearning to find a partner that they don’t have to hide this part of themselves with.. sadly a lot of little boys can come off as desperate or just are desperate. Following that yearning and desperation is poor judgement and decision making. Whether it is pure naïveté , desperation so deep they lack care for one’s self or others perception of their actions , or playing enough mental gymnastics to convince themselves a scammer is a real Mommy , hurt happens. Can this happen to anyone ? Sure , it’s these are just things that are high on my radar when thinking about this particular niche in this lifestyle. - Mommy’s who are lifestylers and not fetishists seem to be less vocal about their being involved in the community. It makes me sad , but it’s very apparent that most of the Mommy’s that end up on sites like this one are either scammers or fetishists. Again , there is nothing wrong with this being a fetishist rather than a lifestyler , but that leaves out a lot of little boys who want a long term Mommy for a partner and not just for sexual pleasure. It’s not to say that there aren’t little boys who are fetishists as well because there definitely are. I just more often see Mommy’s who are scam artists Or are out to humiliate or hurt people when that isn’t their kink. - Female Mommies seem to have a higher percentage of lesbians looking for little girls / other presenting gender rather than straight Mommies looking for little boys. I am not sure why this is , it is something I have noticed nonetheless. This would obviously lessen the dating pool for straight male little boys looking for straight female Mommies. For the time being , these are the talking points that seem most relevant to the topic that I felt would bring some good thought and discussion. I am holding this post brings more questions and knowledge to the topic for transparency , teaching , and understanding.

Mr Soul, so very sorry for your recent loss. glad you are starting to feel more yourself again. this November will mark year 25 without my mom. I wish i could say the hurting and grief get easier with time. for me, i don't feel they have become easier, just less raw, and easier to push to the back of my mind. and easier to focus on the good memories (even if there are days they do still make me cry, probably more of a girl thing ) Seams you have a wonderful support family here! always cherish that! wishing you all the best, ~K P.S-happy anniversary!

You are deeply loved and needed on here, you will not nor will you ever be alone 💕 You help more people than you realize or know My philosophy that I will always say: you don't leave those around you when life gets hard, even if they push you away or walk away, you stay. Because that's when they need you the most, they need that reminder that someone actually cares about them.

Mr. Soul, don’t underestimate or forget your own strength, I know you say those that stayed were the strong ones, but Mr. Soul one of the strongest things people can do is make the choice to lean on their support system and not push them away. And as someone who so often chooses to shut down & shut out, I can say that with 100% confidence and knowledge in the truth of it.

I’ve enjoyed the Lone Star Littles series of books. They have some naughty scenes but they are mostly about a bunch of Littles and Bigs living in their own gated town.

@PrincessM_13 Thank you for sharing and seeking guidance — it’s completely natural to feel both nervous and excited, especially when it’s your first relationship and things are moving into the next level. Assuming while your Dom is anxious to collar you, you don't seem to be on the same page or fully ready for it. If that's the case, his proposal to collar you is already a huge red flag. I'm sure other would have more suggestions, the way I see it, regardless of the kind of relationship you're in, both parties must be on the same page and ready for the transition into the next level, or you're risking the relationship to possibly become abusive or forced. The shift for a Dom to collar the sub to be the natural next step must come gradually, with full emotional foundation and full willingness of the sub. Although your partner seeking your input shows your Dom values your voice and comfort, to ensure your own happiness you I suggest you ensure the following: 1. Seek full clarification as to what collaring mean to your Dom and how it would change the relationship for you 2. Take your time, listen to your heart and see if you're ready for the change or challenge 3. Make the process gradual with an option to revert back in case things don't go exactly as you expected Best of luck!

All day I've been laughing about this cartoonishly terrible episode where I almost trucked a retiree in Aldi with my shopping cart. It was this darkly comedic mix of bad timing, bad decision making, and bad luck. I was just being a kid, popping a wheelie on one of the grocery carts, and kind of playing astronaut, Buzz Lightyear, whatever you want to call it. I wasn't really thinking about it, wasn't really paying attention, and started gaining steam down one of the main aisles. I know the grocery store is not the place for this, and I know it sounds awful to have been laughing about this, but it was just the craziest thing. It all happened in about 30 seconds, from my decision to speed through the store to ending. I'm moving pretty good, I can feel the air on my face. I'm feeling like a puppy. Oranges and produce are darting past me. Life is good. Then, this stereotypically sweet and frail old lady comes shuffling around the corner with her grocery cart. I just cannot get over her face, it was a mix of horror, resignation, and amazement. I mean she clutched her hand to her neck, and I was like 50% sure that she was reaching for a Life Alert bracelet. And just to give you some context, this lady was the kind of lady they'll put on the Life Alert commercials. I mean, I hit the brakes so hard it was like a Tom and Jerry cartoon: you can see the sparks coming off the wheels just about. After the cart came to a stop, I just put my hand on her shoulder, and gave her a gentle squeeze. I didn't even verbally apologize. We were past that: I needed a mind link. I wanted to acknowledge that I just sent her soul out of her body and sent it back in again. I felt so much sympathy for the fright and confusion I caused her, I kind of just gently helped her reach another item on the shelf and guided her car toward the checkout aisle, and she kind of just kept shuffling like it didn't even happen. In that moment, I was trying not to laugh, because I knew if I had been in her shoes and somebody hit and killed me with a grocery cart, I would have told Death: "Send me back! I'm not dying that way, not to a grown up Buzz Lightyear in the grocery store! Come on, you got to do better than that!" If somebody had taken a picture of me popping a wheelie, and her face in that moment, it would have swept the nation. I can see it on YouTube: Retiree almost gets flattened by adult LARPing Buzz Lightyear. It would have millions of views. You'd have elderly reforms within a week. Entire elder law cases would be settled. I mean, I feel terrible about the whole thing on some level. I almost feel like I broke some kind of international law. I'm kind of paranoid about turning 50 or 60 or 70 now, I feel like this is a big demerit on my life records and I'm waiting for that 28-year-old kid in the future to come and flatten me out. I guess those childish rules still apply for good reason: don't run with scissors, look both ways before you cross the street, and don't pop a wheelie on your grocery cart: it's a setup for bad karma. EDIT: This is the strongest piece of evidence I have for my apparent lack of self-regulation and imminent need for constant supervision (half-joking)!

Oh my goodness I'm giggling so much at my desk right now. It happens to the best of us, but it doesn't mean you have to feel guilty just be a little bit more careful. In stores I will dance to the music and literally embarrass all my friends around me. So take it from me you have nothing to be guilty over, just be a little more cautious okay?

For me it came from listening first to others, then deeper to myself. I felt most like me when I was creating a space for someone a space safe enough to be playful yet vulnerable. This ain’t just a kink, but my life. Protecting that space, nurturing it, guiding it.. that felt right in my bones. This is just me.

I don't know how to answer that one, for me I had always been a Dom and then well life happened. I can't say I'm a switch, though I am 100% a submissive, so I'm not sure where I fit in anymore, to be honest. Being big or little is all about finding peace within yourself. And the answer you are looking for is do you enjoy having the control in a relationship or do you enjoy someone else having the control? Daddy @-Soul- would be more helpful than me when explaining this. He has a way of explaining things for everyone to understand.

I need to hang out with Monkey, they having all the funs

@-Soul- has a beautiful way of talking and being able to pull people in towards him I just ramble a lot, but I do love helping others know they aren't alone. I'm a huge advocate for mental health. Yes it's been a journey going from a Mommy Dom to a middle, I have learned a lot about myself and who I truly am. You are still young and the possibilities are endless remember that I'm so sorry for your loss, remember to take time to grieve for yourself okay? Plus if you go to the personal ads you will find so many wonderful CGs as well as littles who just want someone to connect with. We are all here to connect with people who understand us, society always tries to demand we fit into a cookie cutter shape mold. But society isn't always right, and I have never been a fan of a cookie cutter shape mold. I prefer my cookies to be unique and different shaped like me.

Coming from the same generation may mean you like the same things or have had similar experiences but it doesn't guarantee it. For example, my Wife and I are only a year and half apart but the TV and music we watched and listened to was very different. My Daddy who is younger by 21 years actually listened to more similar music because that's what His dad listened to while He was young. My Wife and Daddy although years apart share more in common in terms of their socializing experiences growing up as both were more introverted while I was out at raves and parties. Neither of them are or ever were interested in politics so they didn't pay attention to it growing up whereas I was always deep into politics. My Daddy grew up in the 2000's and is a transman while I grew up in the 80's and 90's as a genderfluid person so those experiences were dramatically different. Honestly, like any two people we have things in common and things that aren't. As for growing older together, well, being with someone of a similar age doesn't guarantee you'll grow old together. Relationships can fall apart at any age and accidents or health issues also aren't restricted to just people with an age gap. My Wife and I though lless than 2 years apart may grow old together or one of us could get hit by a car tomorrow or be diagnosed with cancer. For the three of us we choose to live our lives versus worry about "what ifs" that we can't control. My Daddy may end up burying my Wife and I or He may not. We may bury Him first, we have no way of knowing what will happen. What the three of us do know is this, we've celebrated together, mourned my father's death together, laughed, fought, cried, held each other, joked, cleaned and just in generally loved and lived together. What ever time we have together is made better by being with one another than focusing on a number that doesn't control our present and doesn't predict our future. Age gap relationships are not for everyone and they do have unique challenges but as much as that's true, my Wife, my Daddy and I have spent the past 7 years loving each other and not focusing on a number and we wouldn't have it any other way.

Thank you for being by me Dreamer And only this once can you say a bad word little one I am a TFPSW 😉 Let's be real I would look awesome riding a gummy worm 😂

ok this totally makes me wanna start ninja huggin everyone, but im totally not that graceful! 😉🤣 glad your starting to feel more like your old self, just remember, this 2.0 version of you is even better and more wise! 🥰