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The following is a very general and very basic list and explanation of different types of Littles! ADULT BABY ~ An Adult Baby is a little with the youngest age regression. Think diapers, pacis and sippy bottles/cups, cribs and tons of stuffies! BABYGIRL ~ A Babygirl doesn't necessarily identity with a certain age. They are emotionally sensitive and child-like in life. Tend to be submissive. BRATS ~ A brat can be either submissive or a non-submissive. Some like to disobey to be tamed or just enjoy mild to extreme punishment. Whereas some just do not wish to submit or to be punished, just want their way. A brat can be in any age range! LITTLES ~ Little is just a broad term for a wide age range! A term for someone who isn't sure what their little age is, or just has a fluctuating age range! MIDDLES ~ A middle is a general term of an older little. A bit older on the age scale, anywhere from 7 to the double digits. Generally more independent and enjoy cartoons, colouring and tons and tons of stuffies! NYMPHETS ~ A middle who is generally bratty, promiscuous and sexually forward. PETS ~ This is a more broad range, including; kittens, bunnies, wolves, puppies, foxes and many, many more. Much like a kitten they can be any age range and enjoy being played with, pet and taken care of! Again, think collars, cute ears, tags, toys and tails! KITTENS ~ A kitten is a more popular pet in DDLG. Enjoy being pet, played with and taken care of. A Kitten can be any age as well. Think cute little kitten ears, collars, tags, toys and tails! IMPS~ An imp is similar to a pet, many of them enjoy being collared, played with and taken care of. What defines an imp is their mischievous ways (similar to a brat). SWITCHES ~ A switch is someone who identifies as both a Little and a Caregiver. How often one goes into Caregiver or Little mode is dependent on the individual. DOMINANT LITTLES ~ A dominant little is a little that “calls the shots” in a DD/LG relationship, they still like to be taken care of and need the same amount of nurturing and love as any other little. SUBMISSIVES~ A submissive is a broad term that can encompass and be embodied by any little at any age. They enjoy being dominated and being taken care of. Keep in mind these are all very general and very basic archetypes of different types of littles. You can be more than one type of little or maybe none of these of all! What defines you being a little is not the terminology, just the fact that you are a little. If you don't feel as though you fit into any of these terms, do not fret! If there are any missing Little Types, please feel free to message me and I will add it on! If there is anything more I should add to any definitions, message me!

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Let me preface this all by saying, most of this post is from personal experience. I am a middle but I believe Little's as well as Caregivers caring for Little's of any age can learn from this and the general outline. This is just a starting point. Rules Every set of rules is going to be different, simply because every Little and CG is different. There are a few important things to keep in mind when making your own set of rules. #1 Rules are not meant to control and restrict. #2 Rules are meant to guide and enrich. #3 Rules can and should be modified as seen necessary. We know everyone is different which means what I need to help myself grow and enrich is going to be different from anyone else. This is why communication during the making of rules is so important. The following are rules that I personally use, below each rule is a short reason for why this rule is used. Most rules are meant to help me personally cope and be the best that I can be, with the help and encouragement of my CG. We both sat down and made these rules together. No television until I have read for at least 30 minutes. Reading is something I LOVE DOING. But when you are facing depression, it is difficult to keep doing the things that you love. Daily Chores must be completed before going out This one is a lenient one, if I am working that morning, obviously this isn't feasible. Wake up by 9am on Weekdays & 10am on Weekends. To us, waking up early means a longer, more fruitful and productive day Must be showered & dressed by 11am Once again depression factors into this rule. If I had my way I would be in my pajamas, in bed all day most days. May only be on the computer or phone for 30mins after bedtime (reading is okay) This is also a lenient rule we have, due to my position on this site. It is a rule because I do struggle with sleeping, taking away screens helps calm me down before a night of rest. Must eat something before 5pm Was originally "eat before 3pm" I am sorry to say that proved difficult to implement so it was modified to make it easier for me to accomplish. No coffee after 8pm Too much caffeine = bad night of sleep for me. Another modified rule, originally "No coffee after 5pm" psh yeah right No energy drinks without permission As you can probably tell, I have a caffeine problem. Honestly got so tired of waiting for the okay, that I have not had an energy drink in ages. Monitored drinking (alcohol) & smoking Both of these are mentally and physically related. For my health across the board. Negative self thoughts & feelings should be directed to my CG. I understand that many have rules stating "no negative talk/thoughts" and ideally this would be good enough. Realistically, one cannot hope to completely stop such thoughts and ignoring them is not effective. So my CG prefers that I talk to him about these things, so he can converse with me, soothe my feelings, help me think positively and help me change these things I dislike. No online shopping without permission hehe No art projects requiring paint and/or glue without permission/supervision hehehheehehehehehe No phone or computer out during meals Just a common courtesy thing. Note that a few rules were amended. This is because rules are not meant to be broken however, those rules were broken an incredible amount of times. Rather than continue senseless punishment, amendment of those rules was made to help me. Modify rules as much as needed and go over rules every now and again, some rules may be taken out and some may need to be added. If you are having difficulty getting your Little to follow a rule, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. If you are having difficulty following your CG's rule, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. Rewards Rewards are the best thing that comes with having rules! Depending on if you are LDR or close, your form of Rewards or Reward System may differ. Rewarding your Little & your CG is very important, that is right, you should reward your CG for taking care of you! It is not an easy job! Rewards Systems Choremonster & Mothershp ~ Easy to use Reward System, good for LDR and near by. Create daily & weekly tasks for rewards! Doing ‘x’ amount of chores or tasks unlocks ‘x’ reward! Time Bank ~ For doing various chores and tasks your Little can collect “time”. The time can be used to stay up late, play games or watch television instead of doing chores! Chore planner ~ Everyday is a new day with new tasks, have your Little write out goals and things to accomplish that day, reward at the end of the week or monthly! (I personally use this concept, helps me keep track of what needs to be done) Sticker chart ~ You can take a calendar and everyday chores or tasks are completed add a cute sticker!! Then make a reward bank, x amount of stickers gets you x reward! You can cash in the stickers for smaller rewards or bank them for awhile for a super cool reward! Rewards for Littles! Special rabb.it movei night ~ Your Little had such a good week, let her/him pick out a movie for the two of you to watch together! Amazon Wish List ~ Have your little make their very own wishlist, books, stuffies, movies, clothes, collars and so much more! Makes getting the perfect gift so much easier! Special game night ~ If you have the same gaming console or maybe a fun game on your phone a night spent gaming together will be a good reward! Send a Little Care Package ~ New stuffie sprayed with your perfume/cologne, coloring books/pencils, stickers, glitter, bath bombs, ALL ABOUT LITTLE DAY ~ this is a HUGE reward. Plan a day the two of you have off and let your Little GO WILD. A few hours at the beach/zoo/toy store/build a bear, maybe a movie night out, or a movie night in the cool blanket fort you guys made! Maybe a tea party! The possibilities are endless and you are both sure to have TONS OF FUN! Rewards for Cgs! Send a CG Care Package ~ A bunch of drawings and colourings you made, pictures of you and your favorite stuffies, a stuffie sprayed with your perfume/cologne so they have something to cuddle! Gaming Console Gift Cards! (Xbox, PlayStation, Steam, etc) Buy your CG a subscription to something like Hulu, Netflix or Spotify, something you know they would enjoy! Amazon Wish List ~ Have your Cg make their very own wishlist, books, video games, movies, clothes and so much more! Makes getting the perfect gift so much easier! Make/Send your CG a homemade craft! CG’s Movie Night ~ Let you CG pick out their favorite movie and enjoy it together! Special Snacks ~ Make your CG their favourite snack to enjoy when they get home! Brownies! Cheesecake! Rice Krispie Treats! ALL ABOUT CG DAY!! ~ this is your CG’s very own special day! Let your CG drag you all around town doing the things they want to do! Make you CG food! Tuck them in for a nap! Buy them the candy from the store! Punishments The worst part of having rules and the most difficult part of being a CG. Once again, communicating during the creation of Punishments is vital. Inform your Little why are you punishing them before starting any punishment. Lack of communication can cause serious psychological damage. Make sure you have a safety word if any punishment is going too far or getting uncomfortable. Abide by the safety word. Note that not every broken rule is worthy of a punishment. Some broken rules simply need a stern, loving and guided conversation. You wouldn't punish someone for not eating, not taking medication or things of that nature. In certain cases like those, punishment may just make your Little afraid to talk you about things like that. Examples of positive reinforcement. Drinking coffee after the allowed time = No coffee tomorrow. Using phone or computer during meal = No more phone or computer for the night Not doing daily reading before television = No television for the night and/or next day Doing "x" without permission = Loss of doing "x" for the week or month Talking back (excessively) = Writing lines Not doing daily chores (with the exception of certain unavoidable circumstances) = More chores tomorrow Loss of an earned reward for excessive bad behaviour Examples of negative reinforcement Cut off communication Not communicating with your significant other for no apparent reason is psychologically damaging. Even if you are beside yourself, unsure what to do, generally angry. You owe it to your significant other to send, at the very least "I am upset and would like to talk about this tomorrow" Degradation, belittlement & name calling Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Slapping, hitting, punching, spanking anything considered physical abuse Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Taking away anything that violates consent. Such as; taking away bathroom rights, eating or socializing. Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Manipulation. Such as; taking away collars or physical affection. Sentences that start with "You don't deserve ‘me’ ‘my love’ ‘any love’ etc….” These are psychologically damaging, cruel and not okay unless specifically given the okay for punishment. If you are having difficulty getting your Little to follow through with a punishment, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. If you are having difficulty following through with a punishment, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults.

This started as a resource for the single pringle littles! It quickly evolved into some monsterous taking care of yourself master post. Regardless I think anyone can get something from this post! Relaxation No frill, no fluff, just good old fashioned relaxing. Meditation, for how to and techniques check out this site! Bubble baths, doesn't even have to be bubbly, just relax in some warm water! Light candles and play some music. (You can ball out and get some relaxation orientated bath salts and bubble bath too!) Lush bath bombs are all the rage right now. You can make your own bath fizzies, great for personal use or a gift! Make alone or with friends/family! Take a walk! Lavender everything! Lavender essential oil, candles, bedding spray, candles, air fresheners. The most soothing scent known to mankind, just inhale and relax. Get away from screens! Set a task for yourself that isn't screen orientated, dust off those old cooking books, do some light cleaning, take the pooch out for a walk and take some time away from the digital world. CLEAN CLEAN CLEAN!!!!!!! Cleaning can be so therapeutic for you. A clean home is a happy home. You will feel the benefits of a clean home/room immediately. Colour! Colouring books can be super cheap and super easy to do, fantastic for focusing on something and calming down, you can get more expensive and better detailed books that are relaxation orientated. Relaxing Online! Watch a guy make bread ~ Okay, I know how silly this seems but oh my gosh, it is SO soothing! Sand Art ~ Create art with sand, super duper soothing and relaxing. Available on iPhone and Android! Calm ~ A free program for daily peace and mindfulness Flow ~ Super calming game, like super chill Mental Health! Many of us suffer from a variety of mental disorders, even if you don't surely you have felt some pressures, anxiety and sadness. The following is bunch of random happy, healthy sites and apps to help you cope! Apps! Moodtrack Diary ~ For Android Phones free, offers in app purchases. Does what it says, really nice way of tracking your moods and seeing what triggers certain moods. Coach.me ~ For both iPhone and Android, free, offers in app purchases. Make a goal and record your progress towards it! Super easy to use! Booster Buddy ~ For both iPhone and Android, free! Super cute app, complete with furry friends to help you! Tracks daily moods, helps keep track of medication and appointments, even has self care routines! Websites! myNoise ~ Customized sounds for peace and tranquility, iPhone users can even get the app for it! BlahTherapy ~ Vent to or listen to vents from strangers! You can pay to talk to a therapist as well! Strangers are free! Things you can do every day! Don't forget your medication, it can often be a downer on us but medication is so important, make sure you are taking yours properly Write it out, I am such an advocate for journals. Mood journals, goal journals, health journals, JOURNAL IT ALL!!!! Writing is amazing for putting things into perspective. Even if you don't daily journal, it can be so helpful for you! It is also super fun to look back on old journals and look at how far you have grown as a person. Don't beat yourself up. Regardless of what mental disorder you are struggling with, you are guaranteed some bad days. Everyone is guaranteed some bad days. Don't let them get you down and stop you from growing, learn from your mistakes and make the most of it. Make a comfort box! Take an old box and fill it with comfort items (soft blankets, glitter jars, herbal tea, puzzles, stress balls, stickers, essential oils, notes with positive quotes, stuffies, candy, colouring books, soft sweater, pictures of loved ones and pets), get out the box whenever you are feeling overwhelmed and use it to get comfortable! Happy Light! These are super cool and super great, they help a lot in the winter to keep your energy up and revitalize you. Also great if you are up late studying/working. Exercise! Exercising is so important, not just for physical health but mental health as well. Studies have shown that exercising is beneficial for anxiety, stress, depression, improving sleeping patterns, memory and so much more! Whether it is a walk around the block or some intensive weight lifting, it all helps!! Yoga ~ Yoga with Adriene, my personal recommendation for online yoga. Free YouTube videos!! This woman is incredible, so positive and happy. Whether you are a beginner or yoga master, you will love her. Regardless of shape, size or current exercise regiment, you can do yoga! Benefits and more about yoga. SWORKIT ~ an app for iPhone or Androids, free (some costs to upgrade, in my experience not necessary). Shows you how to do individual moves, good for cardio, weight lifting and yoga! Daily reminders and so easy to use! MapMyWalk ~ an app for iPhone or Androids, free. Maps your walk! Shows you how far you have walked, time per walk and split miles! You can add friends and compare or challenge each other! Fantastic regardless of your intensity or frequency. Food! No matter what, it is important to feed yourself! The following are some yummy links you can make alone or with any friends or family members! No More Ramen ~ Cheap, easy recipes. Categorized and includes; Vegan, Vegetarian and Gluten Free. Really amazing blog with tons of options!! ` Really Nice Recipes Ever Hour ~ seriously, every hour something new and delicious, easy to follow recipes Molten Lava Cakes ~ I am secretly obsessed with these, so yummy and rich! Strawberry or Blueberry Frozen Fruit Popsicles ~ takes some time to make but so delicious and refreshing! Three Ingredient Brownies! ~ Nutella Brownies, can you say YUMMMO Cookie Dough Yogurt ~ takes less than five minutes to make your normal yogurt yummy For Vegans!! Blueberry Muffins ~ a classic muffin with a healthy, vegan twist Strawberry Cheesecake Bites ~ they look so CUTE and yummy! Can replace with any berry! Peanut Butter Cups ~ SUPER SUPER SIMPLE! takes about 15mins and only two ingredients! Chocolate Chip Banana Bread ~ super yummy! TREAT YO SELF Cheap easy ways to TREAT YO SELF!! Self manicure/pedicure. Almost everyone has some nail polish lying around and if you don't, your local pharmacy is sure to have some for cheap! Martha Stewart's Bath Fizzies, super easy, with a video to follow along with! I had molds and essential oils lying around so it was pretty cheap for me to make these but if you splurge once on the more expensive stuff, you can make them over and over again for super cheap! Did I mention they are superb gifts?! Netflix & Chill with yourself! Take a day off to unwind and binge watch your guilty pleasures! Dark Chocolate! Dark Chocolate is full of Antioxidants and full of nutrients! Get rid of some junk! Yeah it seems less fun than some of the other ideas but you will be thanking yourself when you donate all those never worn clothes and make room for some new ones Epsom Salts, super cheap and super soothing If you have a nearby Target, get yourself a 99 cent face mask and relax! Take a nap! Make some comfort food! Browse through Amazon, there are some amazing deals on there and at the very least you can make a cart for the future Drink water!!! STAY HYDRATED! If you want to get fancy with it, add some cucumbers, lemon, watermelon or any other fruit you have on hand! I will more than likely be adding things to this post over time, I hope you guys enjoy!!!

The following is a rather objective piece, gathered from many forum posts of people who do not know what to do or know what their relationship has become. Nature of DD/LG The nature of DD/LG is to guide and enrich both the lives of the Dominant and the Little. This is not a one sided relationship. This is not a relationship that is meant to be used to control or manipulate someone. Many posts on here allude to a relationship that is more fitting of a Master & Slave Dynamic. This is fine, as long as the consent is there. While manipulation and abuse is often seen as a man abusing or manipulating a woman, we must accept that abuse and manipulation can happen to anyone from anyone. While a majority of Doms would love for their Little to rely on them for every mundane task, this is not feasible nor is it healthy. I very often see insulting and ridiculous comments such as: “Littles should not do x.” “You are a Little, you cannot do x.” Littles are adults, they are fully capable and functioning human beings. As a Dom, once again, your task it to help nurture and enrich your Little. Don’t encourage them to become mentally and emotionally reliant on you, this is counterproductive and at times abusive. Help them become the productive members of society you know they can be. As a Little it is also up to you to gain independence. Being a Caregiver is a very difficult and draining job. You cannot expect someone to make your every decision for you. This is equally draining and abusing what a Caregiver is. If there is some part of normal life you struggle with (making phone calls, socializing, doing school work) talk to your Caregiver about how they can HELP you with these things. Note that being a helpless damsel in distress is fun for play time and Little Space but not something that should be encouraged for daily life. Consent Consent is the most important aspect of any relationship. Consent is when both parties agree upon something, this relates to rules, punishments, daily interactions and sexy time. Just because you have consented to something it the past does not mean you have to consent now. Just because someone consented to something before does not mean they are obligated to consent now. Feelings and situations can and will change. If you find yourself uncomfortable with something you once consented to, use your Safe Word. This is a wonderful and informative video on consent, please give it a watch (NSFW) Click here. Safe words A safe word is something that needs to be created in the beginning of a relationship. Think of a safe word as your Life Raft. This word/term means it is time to pause the dynamic. This shuts down whatever play is happening and allows the two of you to discuss what is going on. If you are uncomfortable or nervous with where a situation is heading, use your Safe Word. A Safe Word must at all times be honored. If someone uses a Safe Word, it is your job to discuss that with them. Do not blame yourself or the other person, do not get angry, listen to them and respect their decision. Positive reinforcement vs control Punishment should fit the crime. Punishment must be agreed upon by both parties beforehand. Punishment should fit the crime. Punishment must be agreed upon by both parties beforehand. Punishment should fit the crime. Punishment must be agreed upon by both parties beforehand. I really hope that has sank into any one reading this. It is that important. Harsh rules or punishments that were not previously agreed upon. Different strokes for different folks, many may like the following punishments and that is okay as long as both parties agreed to it. Examples of controlling and abusive punishments Taking away the right to bathe or shower Taking away the right to eat Taking away communication (with partner or anyone else, this includes friends or family members) Taking away lights Taking away clothing Taking away the right to use the bathroom Taking away social interaction (ie going online, going to a friends house, visiting family members) If it takes away a basic human necessity, it is abusive. No one can foresee the future. There most likely will come a time when you see a new rule or punishment should be implemented. That is okay! But first you must talk to your partner about it. You cannot decided to enforce a new rule without your partner knowing, people can’t read minds, they can’t possibly know what they did wrong and cannot be expected to accept a punishment added for no conceivable reason. Manipulation Tactics: Threatening self harm. This is a popular trend in all forms of relationships, it a powerful and usually successful. Using a threat of self harm is not okay. It is abuse and it is a tactic for controlling someone. You should be able to talk to your partner if you are feeling upset, hurt or depressed but bringing it up as a way to keep someone around is NOT okay. “If you do x I am going to do x to myself” “If you ever leave me I am going to x” Verbal abuse. When you tell someone something enough, they will start to believe it. Never underestimate the power of your words and the effect they can and will have on others. This can work in a good or bad way. “You are ugly”, “No one will love you”, “You are stupid”, “I wish I never met you” Vs “You are beautiful”,”I love you”, “You are intelligent”, “I am happy you are in my life” Making you feel guilty over commonplace and simple, small things. Guilt is a powerful emotion and can have a person doing things they wouldn’t ordinarily do to please someone. If you find yourself no longer able to do normal things like see your friends, visit family, go out, enjoy healthy hobbies you previously had, etc without feeling overwhelming guilt from your partner, this is not okay. Gas Lighting. Gas Lighting is very common in any type of relationship. It is a gradual process with devastating effects. It essentially causes a person to question their feelings, emotions and sanity. For a more in depth look at Gas Lighting please read this article. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/power-in-relationships/200905/are-you-being-gaslighted Getting angry about small things, or things beyond your control. If you are in an abusive relationship, close proximity or LDR help is out there. National Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-422-4453 National Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324 Center for the Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-548-2722 Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111 Women’s Aid National Domestic Violence Helpline: (UK Only) 0345 023 468 Sexual Abuse Centre: (UK Only) 0117 935 1707 Sexual Assault Support (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001 Relationships Australia: 1300-364-277 Rape Abuse & Incest National Network or 800-656-HOPE (4673) Abuse Not: 0808 8005015 (UK) Women’s Aid National (UK) Domestic Violence Helpline 0345 023 468 (UK)

The following is a bit about Long Distance Relationships or LDR's! A big thanks to Admin MellyBoo19912015 for tolerating and answering my questions to help make this resource possible! How to maintain a healthy LDR Any relationship takes a lot of work, communication and trust. LDR's, arguably, take even more. The following are some ways to keep your LDR healthy and long lasting! Contact ~ If you live in different time zones, this can especially prove tricky. The first thing you want to do is establish your time difference and schedules. When can you actually talk? Is messaging each other thru school, work or sleep okay? Thankfully, there are so many lovely and FREE apps and websites to help you and your significant other stay in contact. (see below). Trust ~ Establishing and keeping trust is so important. Stay honest with your partner and communicate. Even if you are afraid of the consequences, talk to your partner. A lot of people worry that infidelity in a LDR is common. Rest assured this is not the case, affairs are generally caused by people and personalities. Distance has no effect. Respect Your Partner & Their Needs ~ Everyone is different and we all have our own hectic personal lives to maintain. Communicate with your partner what you need and want and respect their needs as well. If you have a partner who requires a lot of contact, keep a steady flow of communication with them. If you are going to have a busy day, let your partner know, don't leave them worrying. Expectations Vs. Reality One of the greatest challenges of a LDR is a feeling of being disconnected from each other, missing out on the little things that happen. Below there are some apps and sites you can try to keep connected. Another idea is keeping a journal of your day and sharing it with your partner. Let them in on those tiny little things that happened to you and let them share your day with you. When you first enter a LDR there are some things you need to establish right away. Will you ever meet irl? Are yearly visits possible? How will you make and enforce rules? What are you hoping to get out of the relationship? Be clear on what the relationship is. Are you exclusive? Are you monogamous? is it okay to go on dates with other people? What is your level of commitment? Don't be afraid to talk about these things and keep talking about them if they are important to you. Remember that because of the distance date nights are not going to be conventional, you have to be creative! You can try a movie night together with rabbit, Skype or just messaging each other. Play real time games together. Make the same food and Skype to have a dinner date! FaceTime or Skype each other while you go on walks! Even if you don't have the time to do it together, you can still watch movies or read books and discuss it with each other later on! Games & Apps Avocado ~ Available on Apple, GooglePlay or desktop, free. Your all inclusive LDR app. Allows you to send messages, pictures, doodles and videos. Make and share lists & reminders! Works with Google Calendars to share each others calendars! Has private photo sharing abilities to keep albums. You can even send your partner hugs & kisses to let them know you are thinking about them! Choremonster & Mothershp ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Mothershp is the login for the user setting the chores and rewards, Choremonster is for the user doing the chores and earning rewards! Super easy way for a Long Distance CG to set chores & rewards for their Little! Couple ~ Available on Apple, GooglePlay or desktop, free with in-app purchases. Your all inclusive LDR app. Has options for sending messages, videos, voice recordings, doodles and locations! You can Live Sketch with each other, keep track of your anniversary, birthdays and make lists! It even keeps tracks of your shared photos to keep the memories! Draw Something ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay, free. Social game where you can Draw or Guess what was drawn! Flockdraw ~ Primarily for desktop, available in Apple market, free. Allows multiple users to draw, sketch and doodle together in real time, with direct messaging. Rabbit ~ Primarily a desktop site, available on Apple or GooglePlay, free. Allows you to watch television, movies or listen to music together. Includes video chatting, mic chatting and direct messaging. Great for date night, movie night or just a group of friends binge watching their favorite show! Skype ~ Primarily a desktop app, also available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Allows people to video chat all around the world for free! Great for bedtime stories or a weekly date! Snapchat ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Most of us already use this app to interact with friends! It can be used to update each other on our days, meals or outfit choices. Can also be used as a messaging app, though it does not store messages. SNOW ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market, free. Essentially the exact same app as Snapchat but with way more and cuter filters! QuizUp ~ Available on Apple or GooglePlay market and desktop, free. Real time quiz games with fun topics including; Disney Movies, Disney Princesses, Cartoon Network, Name That Animal and so much more! Great for an easy Game night! Snail mail! A totally underrated way to keep in touch. Mail each other post cards, love letters and even gifts for each other now and then! Finally, if you have ideas, tips or tricks to help with LDR, please message me so I can add them! *glitter* *glitter* http://data.whicdn.com/images/174718551/large.jpg

Us mods and admin do our very best to try and make this forum a safe and fun environment for all of our lovely members. However there is only so much we can do! That is why I am making this, to tell you all what you can do to help us make this forum the best it can be! SCREENSHOTS, SCREENSHOTS, SCREENSHOTS! If a member of this site is making you uncomfortable, or showing even slight predator behavior SCREENSHOT. You may not think it is much but chances are, you are not the first person to have felt that way! The same goes with an underage member. If someone tells you that they are underage, it is your responsibility to speak up, the easiest way to prove it is by SCREENSHOTS! Now if a member tells you they are underage verbally (via skype, facetime, etc) MAKE THE REPORT ANYWAYS! We will keep a look out and try our best to get the proof we need! Too often we have members speak up about underage users or predatory behavior second hand, another member told them about it. If someone tells you about such things, the best advice you can give them is to SCREENSHOT AND REPORT! If you are ever doubting if something is "report worthy" REPORT ANYWAYS! Or send one of us lovely admin or mods a message! Even the slightest thing can mean more than you know! And don't forget, SCREENSHOT SCREENSHOT SCREEN SHOT! http://pa1.narvii.com/5866/0cb793ff5596895aac0708fdefccc46dd7cc0f92_hq.gif

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What is Ghosting or Slow Fade? Ghosting or Slow Fade is a very common occurrence with online dating. If you haven't personally dealt with this, I am sure you have heard of it from someone. "We were talking for days/weeks/months EVERY DAY, ALL DAY, then all of a sudden they vanished!" Some go as far as to delete the account where they met the person, delete the messaging app, block the number, etc. In one case a person deleted all of their social media, with no explanation. It isn't always a sudden ending, sometimes it is a "slow fade". The person slowly shows less and less interest, responds less, eventually just stops altogether. Understand that Ghosting has been going on for a very long time, long before the technology era. With the boom of dating sites, apps and overall internet-born relationships, it has become more popular and easier than ever. Why would someone do this? There are endless reasons why someone would resort to this. They may not know how to "let someone down easy". Vanishing may seem easier than talking it out. Found someone else. Once again, vanishing may seem easier than doing the right thing and talking it out. Commitment Phobia, when things get too serious, they back out to keep from repeating a previous heartache. Personal life problems. Recent life/job stresses, loss in the family, it goes on and on. If you have been Ghosted Know that it is NOT your fault. There is nothing you could have done to deserve this. Whatever the reason behind it, it is the other persons fault, not yours. If someone Ghosts you and later tries to get back with you, move on, let it go. Chances are they will do it again, don't let yourself go back through it. If you have ever Ghosted Please understand the pain and psychological damage you may have caused. The wondering of "what did I do wrong?" Regardless of why you wish to quit speaking to someone, the very least you can do is give them even the most simple of explanation, rather than leave them wondering if you will return and why you left. Without actually ending the relationship, you are letting the person hold on to a shred of hope that maybe, just maybe it isn't really over http://i.huffpost.com/gen/2226158/thumbs/o-GHOST-570.jpg?6

The following are some easy & brief ways to add more information to your About Me, Profile and Personals!! Big thanks to users Praetorian & 8-bit chan~ for answering my questions and helping me! General Tips for Profiles, About Me & Personals Figure out what your audience is, are you looking for friends, significant others or both? Cater to your audience, what do you want/need them to know? Musical interests: favorite bands, songs, albums, or genres. Do you play an instrument, sing or dance? TV/Movies: what shows, movies, actors, genres or directors do you like? Literature: favorite authors, books, animes or series. Video games: types of video games, game series or game counsels. Do you play for fun, professionally or maybe design games? Hobbies: what cool things do you like to do for fun? Crafts, fishing, hiking, etc. Art: art lover, art creator, crafty, writer, photographer? Share some of your best work! Collections: from coins to stamps! Maybe add a picture or two of your collection to your gallery! Dietary: are you vegan, vegetarian or gluten free? Do you cook/bake? Share some of your best recipes or pictures of your creations! Test results: Bdsm test, Meyer-Briggs, Hogwarts House, etc. Kinks: what are your kinks, turn ons, turn offs and limits? Favorites: seasons, colours, animals, weather, etc Link your tumblr if you have one! Use a background, gifs/pictures and fun fonts to dress up your page or personal! Personal Specific Figure out what your audience is, are you looking for friends, significant others or both? Cater to your audience, what do you want/need them to know? LDR or nearby? Web cam necessary? *insert texting/messaging app* necessary? Do you drink/smoke? Would you like your partner(s) to drink/smoke? Is drinking/smoking a deal breaker? Ideal date: are you more of a picnic, stay at home or go out on the town kind of person? What is your schedule like: going to school, average work hours/week, volunteer? Are you a self motivated, driven person? Would you like your partner(s) to be self motivated and driven? Are you monogamous, polyamorous, open to either? Introverted or extroverted, does it vary? Your body type/Ideal body type Pets: what type of pets do you have? Any allergies? Be clear on what you do or do not want. (Saves time and energy on both ends) You do not have to include all of these but hopefully they can give you some inspiration if you are looking to add more information about yourself!

One of the most common perils of dating, both online and in person is moving too fast. This is after all, an age of instant gratification, we want what we want and we want it now! I am just going to go over online relationships in this post. To make this post I asked friends and members online some questions. This is a group effort, I just typed it up. Building Blocks & Foundation Take the DD/LG aspect out of the relationship and you are left with same core and building blocks of any relationship. When asked "what are the cores of a healthy relationship? This is what people told me: Attraction Attraction is more than seeing a beautiful person. While physical attraction is important, do not forget emotional and mental attraction. Does the person stimulate your mind? Make you laugh? Make you feel better when you are upset? Attention​ The amount of attention needed varies by person. Often on the forum a post along of the lines of "Daddy isn't giving me enough attention" will pop up. This is why the beginning of a relationship is so important. This is when you learn if the person can and/or will give you the attention you desire. If you feel you are not getting the attention you crave, communicate that, if your needs are still not met, move on. Communication Communication is important in every step of a relationship. Communicate with potentials what you need, crave and desire. This can make finding the "right one" so much easier. Once you are in a relationship, never stop communicating. Nothing can be solved if the other person doesn't even know there is an issue. Trust Trust is not a given, it is earned. Trust can only be built with time, communication and positive actions. How much time it may take varies person to person. If someone violates your trust early on, you need to move on. Time "Only time will tell." Too often we will see a relationship begin and end within a span of just a few hours. Why does this happen? Usually too much too fast. In the excitement of some new prospective love, we forget ourselves entirely and forget to pace ourselves to slowly let someone in. Time is the most important aspect of a new relationship. When you rush into a new relationship you are not giving yourself enough time to get to know someone, truly know someone. Know their needs, wants and desires. There is no magic time frame of when a relationship should start but you will know when it is time. If you are being pressured to start a relationship or don anything that you are not comfortable with, communicate those feelings. If the pressure is still there, leave. Big thanks to those who tolerated and answered my never ending questions http://i.imgur.com/8XE5ny3.jpg

First and foremost, I would like to give a huge shout out and hug to member cuddlebug. Thank you so much for your help and patience, it was a great experience to learn and work with you. Here is some information to help others here in the community better understand our transgender members. By no means is this fully inclusive of everything there is to know however, it should provide a good starting point to helping understand the matter. What does transgender mean? Let's start with the basics. Transgender is a term for someone who identifies as a different gender than assigned at birth. Generally speaking there are three different ways to look at it A (transgender) woman who was thought to be a man at birth but identifies and lives as a woman. Male to female or MTF. A (transgender) man who was thought to be a woman at birth but identifies and lives as a man. Female to male or FTM. The third category is more of a gender spectrum than an actual gender; non-binary, gender queer or gender fluid. Note: not all gender fluid, non-binary or gender queer people are trans, many do not identify as one gender or just float on the gender spectrum. Misconceptions Understand that trans people are not different than anyone else. This is very important. Forget what the media has "taught you" about the trans community. It is likely that you have walked by, interacted with or conversed with someone who is trans while at work, on the subway or in the bathroom without even realizing. Despite media's too typical picture of a drag queen or some caricature of a woman with too much make-up, trans people are just looking to live their lives. Not everyone undergoes surgery or hormones. It is a personal decision. Emphasis on personal, it is totally inappropriate to ask someone if they have had surgery, if they are going to and what they have between their legs. If someone chooses to tell you that, it is their personal decision. Being trans does not mean nor make someone mentally ill, this is a silly, outdated and quite ignorant belief. While some in the community are mentally ill or have mental disorders, that is simply because mental illnesses and disorders have no boundaries and can affect anyone. Sex, Sexuality & Gender Sex ~ A person's sex refers to a person's anatomy. Hormones, organs and chromosomes fall under this category. Sexuality ~ Sexuality or Sexual Orientation is who you are attracted to. Gender ~ A person's gender is more related to behavior and the way one views their outward physical appearance. Gender and Sexuality are completely different entities. Just because someone lives and identifies as different gender from birth, does not define their sexuality. Gender does not define Sexuality. Pronouns If you meet someone who is trans, regardless of where on the spectrum of change they may be, be respectful of both their name and preferred pronoun. If you are unsure of what name or pronoun to use, ask them, off to the side. Bare in mind that the English language does not reflect the gender spectrum. Our understanding of language has been on a model that only recognizes Male or Female pronouns. Please be aware that if you know someone who is transitioning, this is a huge adjustment period for everyone. Please be kind, understanding, and most importantly patient and keep an open mind and heart. They can use and deserve all the support in the world. More Resources Trans Lifeline ~ Primairly for crisis but for anyone struggling, hotline for America and Canada The Treovor Project ~ Offers both hotline and online chat for anyone in crisis More ways to be an ally ~ Ways to be ally

The word polyamory comes from the Greek word meaning “many” and the Latin word meaning “love.” Polyamory literally translates to many loves, and just like we have many forms of love in our lives, we have many forms of love in our romantic interactions as well. Polyamory is a huge blanket term that can apply to many different situations and set-up, but the most important thing to remember is that there is no guidebook or how-to guide on having multiple relationships. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Polyamory looks and feels differently to everyone who practices it. The most important things to remember are to do what works for you, and make sure that everyone involved is doing what works for them, and is aware of what’s going on. There are no secrets in polyamory. Sure, there are things that stay between specific people, but in a large group of many partners, you won’t be very successful hiding big things. So don’t bother trying. The best way to make polyamory work is complete transparency and honest communication. I always tell the people I mentor in polyamory that you have to communicate, especially when you don’t want to. It’s the times when we are most uncomfortable about speaking up that we must speak up the most. Polyamory isn’t about being strong enough to not be jealous, because jealousy exists. It happens. It always will, it’s a natural human emotion. Polyamory is about being willing to sit with that jealousy and figure out the root instead of dismissing it as an emotion that means something is wrong. Polyamory doesn’t take strong people, it takes people who are willing to do things that they are afraid of or make them uncomfortable, and people who are willing to consider how their choices and decisions affect the whole of everyone involved and not just themselves. When you begin a poly relationship, you aren’t dating one person. You’re dating your partner, and your partner’s partners, and their best friends, and anyone they’re playing with, or sleeping with. You are being initiated into a family of people who all love and care about the same person you do. Even if right now, it’s only you and this person, that’s a really good way to look at entering into a poly relationship. A lot of commonly asked questions about poly include something along the lines of “But how do you not get jealous? I would get so jealous.” The answer is simple; we do still get jealous. Jealousy happens. And complications arise. And sometimes our partners don’t like our other partners, sometimes we’re being taken advantage of and only someone else who loves us can see it, sometimes feelings get hurt. I always say to new people entering into polyamory that feel guilty or selfish for making this choice that it’s very rare to wake up one morning, completely unattached, single, and unable to hurt anyone and say “You know what? I think I’m going to love multiple people for the rest of my life.” It would be nice if it happened that way, but life isn’t always fair. The road to polyamory is often messy, paved with broken hearts, and a learning experience as you go. You will make mistakes, so be gentle with yourself. You will fall down, screw up, so be willing to forgive and apologize. You will hurt people. Don’t expect that you won’t. There will be people who will never understand why you did what you did, and that’s okay. We are human, and we make mistakes. Grow and learn from them, and let them forge the path ahead to a better horizon. I have learned from all of my past failings, and even though it probably doesn’t comfort those I hurt, they taught me many lessons on how to behave and act better in the future. I am more than open to receiving PMs about polyamory, so please feel free to do so! I like talking about it, and I’ve mentored a lot of people and couples on the subject. In fact, I’m talking to a couple of members about this now! Some suggested reading for those interested in Polyamory would be The Ethical Slut and More than Two. I also suggest checking out morethantwo.com which works along with the book to provide answers, and helpful suggestions for people who are begining in polyamory and have a very monogamous mindset. Common Terms for Polyamory: Polycule/Poly Family: A unit of people all involved in some way with one another. The framework of a polyamorous relationship; all relationships in one word. Triad: Three people all involved in some form of a relationship with each of the other two people involved, making a triangle. House: This doesn’t always have to mean an actual house of people living together, but it could! This is another term for a family, or polycule. Unicorn/Third: This is a concept that is more like slang used in the BDSM community, but also relates to polyamory. A unicorn is usually a bisexual female who is willing to be a third in a pre-existing open relationship between a man and a woman. A unicorn can also have a differing gender or sexuality, but this is the most commonly used definition. Dyad: A relationship involving exactly two people. Compersion: Experiencing intense joy watching your partner experience joy, usually in regards to loving someone other than yourself, or in regards to a relationship that does not directly involve you. Compersion is one of the greatest parts of polyamory; watching someone you love experience love the way you think they deserve. Metamour: This term relates to a person who is seeing the same partner that you are, but you are not romantically involved with. My fiance’s partners, apart from our girlfriend, are my metamours because I’m not in a relationship with any of them. Ambigusweetie: (This is one of my favorites) This term relates to a person who you have not defined a relationship with. They aren’t a partner, they aren’t just a friend, they aren’t a metamour. They are someone you care about, and are still working things out with. Bipoly: Someone who is bisexual and polyamorous. Comet: (Another one I love a lot.) This is an occasional lover who passes through your life regularly, without expectation of being defined or put a label on. New Relationship Energy (NRE): This refers to the excitement, energy, and general feeling that comes from embarking upon a new relationship. Also often referred to as the “honeymoon stage”, a lot of couples experience this almost obsessive attraction to each other during the first few weeks or months of courtship. NRE can be hard on other, pre-existing partners because their partner may spend a lot of time talking to, about, or being with the subject of their NRE, but having the term in place actually helps remind and alleviate that feeling. Old Relationship Energy (ORE): Less talked about, but just as good as NRE, ORE refers to the feeling of safety, stability, and comfort that comes from a well-established, long-standing relationship. Panamory: This refers to anyone who identifies as pansexual and polyamorous. Polysaturated: I’m not putting this as a type of polyamory, because it’s mostly a joke term. Essentially, someone is polysaturated when they are no longer accepting new partners or relationships because of time constraints and having too many current partners. Swolly: Someone who is both polyamorous, and a swinger sexually (someone who has multiple sexual relationships at once, and engages in recreational sex with multiple partners consensually.) Wibble: The opposite of compersion, a momentary feeling of insecurity, fear, or jealousy over a partner paying more attention to another, newer partner. (This is a primarily UK term, and instead of compersion, frubble is used!) Types of Polyamory: Hierarchical Polyamory: This form of polyamory involves the use of the terms primary and secondary in regards to partners. A primary partner is someone who, for financial, emotional, or other reasons, has the highest degree of involvement or entanglement in your relationship. Usually, this term is used in order to make a new couple feel comfortable as they venture out into polyamory, or because two people share a child, a home, a bank account, are married, ect. Not all married/having children/sharing a home couples use these terms, but it does help when introducing new partners to the dynamic for them to understand. Every other partner would then be a secondary partner to the primary. There can also be more than one primary partner in your relationship. Closed Polyamory: This type of polyamory refers to a relationship that is no longer accepting new partners, in which the people practicing cannot have romantic or sexual relationships outside of the poly circle. This is often modified between partners, and closed polyamory means many different things now, but is usually used to indicate that the person is not seeking a new partner. Cluster Marriage: A polyamorous relationship where several married couples live together and usually exchange partners in a sexual or romantic sense. One Penis Policy/One Vagina Policy: A type of polyamory where a man can have sex with as many women as he wants, but his partners may only have sex with him. Vice versa, a woman can have sex with as many men as she wants, but her partners can only have sex with her. Open Network: This is a form of polyamory where all partners are open to new relationships and connections, and the polycule is willing to accept new partners into the fold. Open Relationship: A relationship where the members are not sexually monogamous, or a relationship that permits sexual interactions outside of the polycule. This term is often confused or used interchangeably with polyamory, however it is not always the case. You can be polyamorous and not be in an open relationship, and you can be in an open relationship, and not be polyamorous. The two are not mutually exclusive. Puppy-Pile Poly: A kind of fun term for a polyamorous relationship where everyone involved in engaged in some form of a sexual/romantic relationship with everyone else, resulting in a ‘puppy-pile’. These relationships usually involve a lot of cuddle and bed sharing! Relationship Anarchy: This type of polyamory refers to people who do not see their relationships as working with each other, but as separate entities in and of themselves, and therefore are free to have as many or as little relationships as they want. This can be problematic, especially for beginners, and must be consensually agreed upon by all people involved in order to work effectively. Solo Poly: This type of polyamory is for people who do not want to be engaged in any polyamorous couples, or families and would rather operate on their own as a free agent.

Melly's Lovely Wonderful Asexual Resource to Asexuality! By Member Melly19912015 First off, I'm going to tell you that I'm Asexual and in a DD/lg relationship. I therefore have some experience in this area. I'm not an expert, just someone who has navigated the waters of DD/lg to a point. Now, let me explain what Asexuality is. www.whatisasexuality.com/intro tells us that Asexuality is a sexual orientation where a person has a lack of sexual attraction towards any gender. Also, it states that about one percent of the population is estimated to be Asexual. Asexuality is not being celibate, a choice, nor a fear of sex. In short, it's how we are made. Just like someone that may be heterosexual or homosexual didn't choose to be how they are, neither did we. Okay, so now you know we can't connect on a sexual level. Guess what? It's not the end of the world! To us, emotional intimacy is mainly where it's at. We like connecting with our partner. We like talking, and getting to know things about each other. Just because we don't enjoy one type of intimacy, doesn't mean everything is out of bounds. Heck, some of us even like kissing too! So what can you do? Well, that's pretty simple. Talk to us, listen to us, and learn our likes and dislikes! Just treat us like regular people. We aren't aliens from another planet! So, how does this fit into DD/lg? To put it plainly, it fits very well if you're willing to be flexible and work with it. Sex doesn't have to be a part of a relationship for it to be healthy. We can still build forts, snuggle stuffies, play games, and be a little or a caregiver! One thing you'll want to think about if you're Asexual is if you want to be in a relationship with another Asexual, or someone who experiences sexual attraction. Don't forget that the DD/lg or CG/l dynamic can totally be platonic too! You can just be friends. You don’t need to be in a romantic relationship to be involved in DD/lg or CG/l. If you do decide to be with someone romantically who experiences sexual attraction, sit down and talk with them before you start. Make sure they know that sex isn't your thing. Talk about how things will work. However, never feel like you have to have sex with anyone. If your partner pressures you, whether they're your little or your caregiver, it is NOT okay. If sex is a hard limit for you, then your partner shouldn't be pushing you to do it. Some Asexuals do want to have sex, and that's ok to for whatever reason they want to. Heck you just might be curious to see what all the fuss about the deed is. It DOES NOT make you any less an Asexual person. Many asexuals masturbate and that's ok too. Asexuals may masturbate for a variety of reasons just like sexual people. If you’re interested in Asexuality and understanding it there are a variety of places to get advice and read about it: http://www.asexuality.org/home/ They are a great place to start and even have a forum! http://www.whatisasexuality.com This is a nice little place with some lovely resources. http://www.asexualaw....com/index.html This is about asexual awareness week but also has some great resources. Well worth the read. Now some people struggle with being different from the "norm". Please know you're not alone. There are some sites that can help and have people willing to listen and try and help. http://www.thetrevorproject.org/ The Trevor project is for 13-24 year olds and are there to help people who need it. They are an American hotline but do occasionally have online chat. http://www.7cups.com/ 7 cups of tea offer online real time support for those who need it world wide. If you can't get on a phone then this is a good place to try. https://community.pflag.org/ P flag help relatives, friends etc of people in the LGBTQA lifestyle http://orig00.deviantart.net/d870/f/2012/122/b/9/asexual_heart_gif_by_dew_13-d4ycx04.gif

This is very true this site really is a big part of me and it makes me smile a lots of great people I would go to battle with

Big thanks to member Bam Bam for his help with this! When should you report? If a member tells you that they are underage, whether in a private or public manner. REPORT! If a member tells you that they have been previously banned, whether in a private or public manner. REPORT! If you see an inappropriate topic or post. REPORT! If you see an inappropriate picture in a gallery. REPORT! If a member shows Predatory Behaviour. (Examples: excessive use of pet names when you do not know the person, out of context/unwarranted sexual talk, asking for camming/nudes especially if you do not know the person or you have already said no, etc) REPORT! If a member is catfishing (using pictures of someone else and claiming to be them) REPORT! Above are the most common reasons for reporting. If a member violates any rule, please report. Please understand, even if a member just makes you uncomfortable, you have the right to report them. More than likely you are not the only person to feel that way. Please remember to SCREENSHOT any content (i.e. messages & images) that relate to the report. We do need proof to act upon a report, however if you do not have any proof, REPORT ANYWAYS! We will keep our eyes on the look out to get the proof we need. Why should you report? Reporting is the easiest and most effective way to solve any problems that you may have. While you are more than welcome to message a Mod or Admin, making a report ensures that the issue will be solved in a timely fashion. Reporting is also a more effective than mini-modding or involving more members into something that can easily be fixed with the click of a button. Please note that all reports are 100% Confidential. Also note, simply stating your report and/or grievance publicly (via chat or on a thread), does nothing positive and encourages unnecessary drama. How to report. There are five different ways to report! Reporting a Member Go to their profile and on the bottom right hand corner of the page you will see "Report", as shown below. Reporting Through the Forum Messenger Go to the message you would like to report and at the bottom of the message, click "Report", as shown below. Reporting on a Thread or Post Below the post or thread in question, click "Report", as shown below. Reporting Images in the Gallery Once the image in question is the main image on your screen, click "Report", as shown below. Reporting in the Chat Room Underneath "Online Chat Users", click the red warning option, as shown below. Once you have hit the report button, the next thing you will see is this: Simply fill it out and you are done! http://blogs.lib.luc.edu/wla/files/2015/01/constantvigilance.gif

This FAQ will be growing as we have more information to share! This is a school for Littles and Middles, first and foremost. Everything is optional. There is no penalty for not doing the homework and assignments this is for FUN. There are no live classes. There are too many time zones to figure out to make that a feasible thing. @PennyGoodfellow may upload videos in the future, however. Most homework will be posted on Sundays, and then you have the full week to turn anything in. Those who do the homework consistently will be awarded badges! Switches ARE allowed - this space is geared towards Littles/Middles due to the nature of the homework/assignments. Bigs/CGs might find it boring or too small. Switches who would enjoy this type of space are more than welcome though!

Here's our morning Circle Time Song! Feel free to listen to this each day you come to school!

I've been loving these and wondered if there can be a section for that in this group? My first thought is recess? A lot of these lists tend to be bedtime related but I imagine themes that are school, going on a trip, colors, or something.

It is 2016, technology is ever changing! ARE YOU BEING SAFE?! Let's go over a few very general things you can keep in mind to STAY SAFE! Basic information: Did you know if you give out your phone number, a reverse search can be done and someone could find your name and billing address? Well it can be done! So be very wary of who you give your number too! Say you are talking to someone for a reallllllllyyyyyyyy long time and they are pressuring you for things such as your name, number, address etc. YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO SHARE THAT INFORMATION. If they continue to pressure you, forget them! Tell them it makes you uncomfortable and you will not divulge your personal info! We often share pictures of ourselves with friends, potential lovers, etc. Be careful what pictures you share! A reverse image search can easily find your facebook, twitter, tumblr etc! For some people this may not be an issue, for others it could really interefere with a personal or professional life, so think before you share! On the forum: You are not obligated to accept every friend request you get, hence the deny option! If you have your kik, fetlife or skype on your profile, anyone added can see that! So think before you add! Do you want that person to have access to that information? If someone continues to attempt to add you have their request was denied, please report them, chances are you are not the first person they have done this to. Other: Most of us have a tumblr, facebook, twitter, fetlife, kik, skype or instagram (if not all). We all love showing off these sites, which are a reflection of us. Before you share, go through and make sure you don't any senstive information that you have forgotten about. Location, name or pictures with friends. BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY! Check what usernames you are giving! We often use the same username for things, could searching your kink username lead to your personal usernames? EMAILS! Seems outdated but some prefer it! Be careful who you give your email too! It could lead to your facebook or other personal social/professional sites that you use! http://blogs.lib.luc.edu/wla/files/2015/01/constantvigilance.gif

Hello all as promised here are the rules!!! Check back throughout the week as I will be tweaking and adding but this gives us a functioning set!!! Thpugh I know yall are good folks and dont even need them! Naughty Novel Club Rules 1. Obey all forum rules. 2. Don't make things uncomfortable. While I know we are reading smut I think we all know when to tread careful and which details to leave out. Just read your audience and move on if someone is uncomfy. 3. Along the same lines is : being here isnt consent to anything. So please dont ask personal questions. For instance if someone in the book is being tied up it is inappropriate to say "Oh do you like being tied up?". This isnt a sex club it is book club. 4. Be welcoming and friendly! We want folks to like it here. 5. Only talk about NNC with other members!!! Anyone is welcome though so invite who you like! 6. No book shaming. 7. Respect spoilers!!!!! Don't ruin it for others. 8. While we dont judge please do not advertise stealing books and I will not be posting or allowing pirating links. 9. Have fun and participate!!!

Thank you, I needed to see this. I hope to find people here I can consider family. That’d be nice, to have family that knows and accepts my little side. Thank you and all the other admins and creators for giving us all the opportunity to have a safe place to express ourselves and learn and grow together. Thank you.