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The following is a very general and very basic list and explanation of different types of Littles! ADULT BABY ~ An Adult Baby is a little with the youngest age regression. Think diapers, pacis and sippy bottles/cups, cribs and tons of stuffies! BABYGIRL ~ A Babygirl doesn't necessarily identity with a certain age. They are emotionally sensitive and child-like in life. Tend to be submissive. BRATS ~ A brat can be either submissive or a non-submissive. Some like to disobey to be tamed or just enjoy mild to extreme punishment. Whereas some just do not wish to submit or to be punished, just want their way. A brat can be in any age range! LITTLES ~ Little is just a broad term for a wide age range! A term for someone who isn't sure what their little age is, or just has a fluctuating age range! MIDDLES ~ A middle is a general term of an older little. A bit older on the age scale, anywhere from 7 to the double digits. Generally more independent and enjoy cartoons, colouring and tons and tons of stuffies! NYMPHETS ~ A middle who is generally bratty, promiscuous and sexually forward. PETS ~ This is a more broad range, including; kittens, bunnies, wolves, puppies, foxes and many, many more. Much like a kitten they can be any age range and enjoy being played with, pet and taken care of! Again, think collars, cute ears, tags, toys and tails! KITTENS ~ A kitten is a more popular pet in DDLG. Enjoy being pet, played with and taken care of. A Kitten can be any age as well. Think cute little kitten ears, collars, tags, toys and tails! IMPS~ An imp is similar to a pet, many of them enjoy being collared, played with and taken care of. What defines an imp is their mischievous ways (similar to a brat). SWITCHES ~ A switch is someone who identifies as both a Little and a Caregiver. How often one goes into Caregiver or Little mode is dependent on the individual. DOMINANT LITTLES ~ A dominant little is a little that “calls the shots” in a DD/LG relationship, they still like to be taken care of and need the same amount of nurturing and love as any other little. SUBMISSIVES~ A submissive is a broad term that can encompass and be embodied by any little at any age. They enjoy being dominated and being taken care of. Keep in mind these are all very general and very basic archetypes of different types of littles. You can be more than one type of little or maybe none of these of all! What defines you being a little is not the terminology, just the fact that you are a little. If you don't feel as though you fit into any of these terms, do not fret! If there are any missing Little Types, please feel free to message me and I will add it on! If there is anything more I should add to any definitions, message me!

The following is a rather objective piece, gathered from many forum posts of people who do not know what to do or know what their relationship has become. Nature of DD/LG The nature of DD/LG is to guide and enrich both the lives of the Dominant and the Little. This is not a one sided relationship. This is not a relationship that is meant to be used to control or manipulate someone. Many posts on here allude to a relationship that is more fitting of a Master & Slave Dynamic. This is fine, as long as the consent is there. While manipulation and abuse is often seen as a man abusing or manipulating a woman, we must accept that abuse and manipulation can happen to anyone from anyone. While a majority of Doms would love for their Little to rely on them for every mundane task, this is not feasible nor is it healthy. I very often see insulting and ridiculous comments such as: “Littles should not do x.” “You are a Little, you cannot do x.” Littles are adults, they are fully capable and functioning human beings. As a Dom, once again, your task it to help nurture and enrich your Little. Don’t encourage them to become mentally and emotionally reliant on you, this is counterproductive and at times abusive. Help them become the productive members of society you know they can be. As a Little it is also up to you to gain independence. Being a Caregiver is a very difficult and draining job. You cannot expect someone to make your every decision for you. This is equally draining and abusing what a Caregiver is. If there is some part of normal life you struggle with (making phone calls, socializing, doing school work) talk to your Caregiver about how they can HELP you with these things. Note that being a helpless damsel in distress is fun for play time and Little Space but not something that should be encouraged for daily life. Consent Consent is the most important aspect of any relationship. Consent is when both parties agree upon something, this relates to rules, punishments, daily interactions and sexy time. Just because you have consented to something it the past does not mean you have to consent now. Just because someone consented to something before does not mean they are obligated to consent now. Feelings and situations can and will change. If you find yourself uncomfortable with something you once consented to, use your Safe Word. This is a wonderful and informative video on consent, please give it a watch (NSFW) Click here. Safe words A safe word is something that needs to be created in the beginning of a relationship. Think of a safe word as your Life Raft. This word/term means it is time to pause the dynamic. This shuts down whatever play is happening and allows the two of you to discuss what is going on. If you are uncomfortable or nervous with where a situation is heading, use your Safe Word. A Safe Word must at all times be honored. If someone uses a Safe Word, it is your job to discuss that with them. Do not blame yourself or the other person, do not get angry, listen to them and respect their decision. Positive reinforcement vs control Punishment should fit the crime. Punishment must be agreed upon by both parties beforehand. Punishment should fit the crime. Punishment must be agreed upon by both parties beforehand. Punishment should fit the crime. Punishment must be agreed upon by both parties beforehand. I really hope that has sank into any one reading this. It is that important. Harsh rules or punishments that were not previously agreed upon. Different strokes for different folks, many may like the following punishments and that is okay as long as both parties agreed to it. Examples of controlling and abusive punishments Taking away the right to bathe or shower Taking away the right to eat Taking away communication (with partner or anyone else, this includes friends or family members) Taking away lights Taking away clothing Taking away the right to use the bathroom Taking away social interaction (ie going online, going to a friends house, visiting family members) If it takes away a basic human necessity, it is abusive. No one can foresee the future. There most likely will come a time when you see a new rule or punishment should be implemented. That is okay! But first you must talk to your partner about it. You cannot decided to enforce a new rule without your partner knowing, people can’t read minds, they can’t possibly know what they did wrong and cannot be expected to accept a punishment added for no conceivable reason. Manipulation Tactics: Threatening self harm. This is a popular trend in all forms of relationships, it a powerful and usually successful. Using a threat of self harm is not okay. It is abuse and it is a tactic for controlling someone. You should be able to talk to your partner if you are feeling upset, hurt or depressed but bringing it up as a way to keep someone around is NOT okay. “If you do x I am going to do x to myself” “If you ever leave me I am going to x” Verbal abuse. When you tell someone something enough, they will start to believe it. Never underestimate the power of your words and the effect they can and will have on others. This can work in a good or bad way. “You are ugly”, “No one will love you”, “You are stupid”, “I wish I never met you” Vs “You are beautiful”,”I love you”, “You are intelligent”, “I am happy you are in my life” Making you feel guilty over commonplace and simple, small things. Guilt is a powerful emotion and can have a person doing things they wouldn’t ordinarily do to please someone. If you find yourself no longer able to do normal things like see your friends, visit family, go out, enjoy healthy hobbies you previously had, etc without feeling overwhelming guilt from your partner, this is not okay. Gas Lighting. Gas Lighting is very common in any type of relationship. It is a gradual process with devastating effects. It essentially causes a person to question their feelings, emotions and sanity. For a more in depth look at Gas Lighting please read this article. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/power-in-relationships/200905/are-you-being-gaslighted Getting angry about small things, or things beyond your control. If you are in an abusive relationship, close proximity or LDR help is out there. National Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-422-4453 National Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324 Center for the Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-548-2722 Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111 Women’s Aid National Domestic Violence Helpline: (UK Only) 0345 023 468 Sexual Abuse Centre: (UK Only) 0117 935 1707 Sexual Assault Support (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001 Relationships Australia: 1300-364-277 Rape Abuse & Incest National Network or 800-656-HOPE (4673) Abuse Not: 0808 8005015 (UK) Women’s Aid National (UK) Domestic Violence Helpline 0345 023 468 (UK)

Hello all as promised here are the rules!!! Check back throughout the week as I will be tweaking and adding but this gives us a functioning set!!! Thpugh I know yall are good folks and dont even need them! Naughty Novel Club Rules 1. Obey all forum rules. 2. Don't make things uncomfortable. While I know we are reading smut I think we all know when to tread careful and which details to leave out. Just read your audience and move on if someone is uncomfy. 3. Along the same lines is : being here isnt consent to anything. So please dont ask personal questions. For instance if someone in the book is being tied up it is inappropriate to say "Oh do you like being tied up?". This isnt a sex club it is book club. 4. Be welcoming and friendly! We want folks to like it here. 5. Only talk about NNC with other members!!! Anyone is welcome though so invite who you like! 6. No book shaming. 7. Respect spoilers!!!!! Don't ruin it for others. 8. While we dont judge please do not advertise stealing books and I will not be posting or allowing pirating links. 9. Have fun and participate!!!

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @kimmybunny @Aikko @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy @Zina @RoseyLittle It is that time again!!! Yall are now open to read chapters 21-24! Questions, per usual, will be up in a few days. I am going to go over today and respond to all you guys lovely answers. Makes me happy to see them being used. Also know you are free to answer any of the questions at any time, even if the are from past weeks. Happy Reading! Pigtail

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @Prince @Ariguin @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @Little Nyx @Beanie19 @kimmybunny @Aikko @Jazzylove22 @TeenyRena @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy Hello all Pigtail book wurm extraordinaire here!!! (Lol yes I gave myself a fancy title 🤭) The time has come!! We are just waiting for one person to get the book so we are going to go ahead and get started. So chapters (we are going to do 3 each week for now) are assigned on Wednesdays and due the following Wednesday. Its a fairly even pace so everyone can keep up and have fun, if yall start falling behind please check in so I can adjust if needed. For each reading assignment, so each week, I will be puting out discussion questions (3-5 usually) that are written by myself with yall in mind. These are not at all required but they are fun. Just make sure and always spoil your answers. I have a post on spoiling let me know if you need me to tag you in it. Per usual please try not to read ahead as I will be arranging 2-3 discussions throughout the next few months so we can discuss our book. Any important posts I will tag all of you just like I did here so make sure to check those tags. So without further delay... go ahead and read through chapter 3!

Let me preface this all by saying, most of this post is from personal experience. I am a middle but I believe Little's as well as Caregivers caring for Little's of any age can learn from this and the general outline. This is just a starting point. Rules Every set of rules is going to be different, simply because every Little and CG is different. There are a few important things to keep in mind when making your own set of rules. #1 Rules are not meant to control and restrict. #2 Rules are meant to guide and enrich. #3 Rules can and should be modified as seen necessary. We know everyone is different which means what I need to help myself grow and enrich is going to be different from anyone else. This is why communication during the making of rules is so important. The following are rules that I personally use, below each rule is a short reason for why this rule is used. Most rules are meant to help me personally cope and be the best that I can be, with the help and encouragement of my CG. We both sat down and made these rules together. No television until I have read for at least 30 minutes. Reading is something I LOVE DOING. But when you are facing depression, it is difficult to keep doing the things that you love. Daily Chores must be completed before going out This one is a lenient one, if I am working that morning, obviously this isn't feasible. Wake up by 9am on Weekdays & 10am on Weekends. To us, waking up early means a longer, more fruitful and productive day Must be showered & dressed by 11am Once again depression factors into this rule. If I had my way I would be in my pajamas, in bed all day most days. May only be on the computer or phone for 30mins after bedtime (reading is okay) This is also a lenient rule we have, due to my position on this site. It is a rule because I do struggle with sleeping, taking away screens helps calm me down before a night of rest. Must eat something before 5pm Was originally "eat before 3pm" I am sorry to say that proved difficult to implement so it was modified to make it easier for me to accomplish. No coffee after 8pm Too much caffeine = bad night of sleep for me. Another modified rule, originally "No coffee after 5pm" psh yeah right No energy drinks without permission As you can probably tell, I have a caffeine problem. Honestly got so tired of waiting for the okay, that I have not had an energy drink in ages. Monitored drinking (alcohol) & smoking Both of these are mentally and physically related. For my health across the board. Negative self thoughts & feelings should be directed to my CG. I understand that many have rules stating "no negative talk/thoughts" and ideally this would be good enough. Realistically, one cannot hope to completely stop such thoughts and ignoring them is not effective. So my CG prefers that I talk to him about these things, so he can converse with me, soothe my feelings, help me think positively and help me change these things I dislike. No online shopping without permission hehe No art projects requiring paint and/or glue without permission/supervision hehehheehehehehehe No phone or computer out during meals Just a common courtesy thing. Note that a few rules were amended. This is because rules are not meant to be broken however, those rules were broken an incredible amount of times. Rather than continue senseless punishment, amendment of those rules was made to help me. Modify rules as much as needed and go over rules every now and again, some rules may be taken out and some may need to be added. If you are having difficulty getting your Little to follow a rule, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. If you are having difficulty following your CG's rule, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. Rewards Rewards are the best thing that comes with having rules! Depending on if you are LDR or close, your form of Rewards or Reward System may differ. Rewarding your Little & your CG is very important, that is right, you should reward your CG for taking care of you! It is not an easy job! Rewards Systems Choremonster & Mothershp ~ Easy to use Reward System, good for LDR and near by. Create daily & weekly tasks for rewards! Doing ‘x’ amount of chores or tasks unlocks ‘x’ reward! Time Bank ~ For doing various chores and tasks your Little can collect “time”. The time can be used to stay up late, play games or watch television instead of doing chores! Chore planner ~ Everyday is a new day with new tasks, have your Little write out goals and things to accomplish that day, reward at the end of the week or monthly! (I personally use this concept, helps me keep track of what needs to be done) Sticker chart ~ You can take a calendar and everyday chores or tasks are completed add a cute sticker!! Then make a reward bank, x amount of stickers gets you x reward! You can cash in the stickers for smaller rewards or bank them for awhile for a super cool reward! Rewards for Littles! Special rabb.it movei night ~ Your Little had such a good week, let her/him pick out a movie for the two of you to watch together! Amazon Wish List ~ Have your little make their very own wishlist, books, stuffies, movies, clothes, collars and so much more! Makes getting the perfect gift so much easier! Special game night ~ If you have the same gaming console or maybe a fun game on your phone a night spent gaming together will be a good reward! Send a Little Care Package ~ New stuffie sprayed with your perfume/cologne, coloring books/pencils, stickers, glitter, bath bombs, ALL ABOUT LITTLE DAY ~ this is a HUGE reward. Plan a day the two of you have off and let your Little GO WILD. A few hours at the beach/zoo/toy store/build a bear, maybe a movie night out, or a movie night in the cool blanket fort you guys made! Maybe a tea party! The possibilities are endless and you are both sure to have TONS OF FUN! Rewards for Cgs! Send a CG Care Package ~ A bunch of drawings and colourings you made, pictures of you and your favorite stuffies, a stuffie sprayed with your perfume/cologne so they have something to cuddle! Gaming Console Gift Cards! (Xbox, PlayStation, Steam, etc) Buy your CG a subscription to something like Hulu, Netflix or Spotify, something you know they would enjoy! Amazon Wish List ~ Have your Cg make their very own wishlist, books, video games, movies, clothes and so much more! Makes getting the perfect gift so much easier! Make/Send your CG a homemade craft! CG’s Movie Night ~ Let you CG pick out their favorite movie and enjoy it together! Special Snacks ~ Make your CG their favourite snack to enjoy when they get home! Brownies! Cheesecake! Rice Krispie Treats! ALL ABOUT CG DAY!! ~ this is your CG’s very own special day! Let your CG drag you all around town doing the things they want to do! Make you CG food! Tuck them in for a nap! Buy them the candy from the store! Punishments The worst part of having rules and the most difficult part of being a CG. Once again, communicating during the creation of Punishments is vital. Inform your Little why are you punishing them before starting any punishment. Lack of communication can cause serious psychological damage. Make sure you have a safety word if any punishment is going too far or getting uncomfortable. Abide by the safety word. Note that not every broken rule is worthy of a punishment. Some broken rules simply need a stern, loving and guided conversation. You wouldn't punish someone for not eating, not taking medication or things of that nature. In certain cases like those, punishment may just make your Little afraid to talk you about things like that. Examples of positive reinforcement. Drinking coffee after the allowed time = No coffee tomorrow. Using phone or computer during meal = No more phone or computer for the night Not doing daily reading before television = No television for the night and/or next day Doing "x" without permission = Loss of doing "x" for the week or month Talking back (excessively) = Writing lines Not doing daily chores (with the exception of certain unavoidable circumstances) = More chores tomorrow Loss of an earned reward for excessive bad behaviour Examples of negative reinforcement Cut off communication Not communicating with your significant other for no apparent reason is psychologically damaging. Even if you are beside yourself, unsure what to do, generally angry. You owe it to your significant other to send, at the very least "I am upset and would like to talk about this tomorrow" Degradation, belittlement & name calling Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Slapping, hitting, punching, spanking anything considered physical abuse Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Taking away anything that violates consent. Such as; taking away bathroom rights, eating or socializing. Unless specifically given the okay for punishments. Manipulation. Such as; taking away collars or physical affection. Sentences that start with "You don't deserve ‘me’ ‘my love’ ‘any love’ etc….” These are psychologically damaging, cruel and not okay unless specifically given the okay for punishment. If you are having difficulty getting your Little to follow through with a punishment, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults. If you are having difficulty following through with a punishment, take a time out from the dynamic and talk about it as adults.

🌸 ʟᴏᴀᴅɪɴɢ… 🌸✨ ... .......... TW: Attack of the self love affirmations! P.S. Some of the affirmations are specific cos ahem....they were for me T-T ❀Take what you need❀ ︵‿︵‿୨♡୧‿︵‿︵ 🌸 I am safe and protected right now 🌸 ︵‿︵‿୨♡୧‿︵‿︵ 🌸I deserve to feel cozy and calm right now.🌸 🌸I am allowed to ask for help when I need it.🌸 🌸I am precious just the way I am.🌸 🎀🌷 I am lovable when I’m little, and lovable when I’m big 🌷🎀 🎀🌷I am always enough.🌷🎀 🎀🌷It is okay to be me.🌷🎀 🎀🌷I am safe to be whatever I want to be.🌷🎀 🎀🌷I am safe to sound however I want to sound.🌷🎀 🎀🌷I am safe to talk however I want to talk.🌷🎀 🎀🌷It is safe for me to be cute.🌷🎀 It is safe for me to be little. I am loved. It is safe for me to be loved. I feel loved. I love myself. I am easy to love. It is safe for me to ask for things. It is safe for me to ask for help. It is okay for me to need help. 🌟I am loved even when I want things🌟 🌟I am loved even when I ask for things🌟 🌟It is okay for me to be cherished🌟 🌟It is safe for me to be cherished🌟 🌟I believe in myself🌟 🌟I believe I can get everything I want🌟 🌟I believe I can be whatever I want to be🌟 🌟I believe that I am magical🌟 🌟I believe that I am adorable🌟 🌟I believe that I am safe🌟 🌷I believe that I am good🌷 🌷I believe that I am loved🌷 🌷I believe that I am safe now🌷 🌷I am safe now🌷 🌷I am loved now🌷 🌷I believe that I am a good person🌷 🌷I believe that I am a kind person🌷 🌷It is safe for me to be sweet and lovable🌷 🌷It is safe for me to be good🌷 🌷It is safe for me to be silly🌷 🌷It is safe for me to be myself🌷 🌷It is safe for me to make mistakes🌷 I am loved even when I am silly. • I am loved even when I make mistakes. • I am loved because I am me. • I trust and believe in myself. • I love myself even when I am silly. • I love myself even when I make mistakes. • I love drinking water. • I love drinking milk. (unless I am lactose intolerant...) • I love drinking juice. • I love being hydrated. • I love to hydrate my body. • I love being healthy. • It is safe for me to hydrate my body. • It is safe for me to p. • It is safe for me to p a lot. • It is safe for me to take my time. • It is safe for me to be slow. • It is safe for me to be happy. • It is safe for me to relax. • It is safe for me to be energetic. • It is safe for me to be sleepy. ｡･:˚:✧｡ I am precious just the way I am ｡✧:˚:･｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ I am thinking so many good thoughts right now! ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ I am thinking so many happy thoughts right now! ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ I am thinking so many positive thoughts right now! ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ I am lovely. ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ I know I am lovely. ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ I feel so relaxed and refreshed reading this. ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ I feel relaxed and refreshed now. ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ I feel so refreshed now. ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ I am at peace now. ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡･:˚:✧｡ My life is so peaceful now. ｡･:˚:✧｡ ｡✦ It is safe for me to feel comfy and happy.✦｡ ｡✦ I always have good things happen for me, because I am a good person.✦｡ ｡✦ I am a lucky star.✦｡ ｡✦ I love to wish on stars.✦｡ ｡✦ It is safe for me to wish on stars.✦｡ ｡✦ It is safe for me to be a kid. ✦｡ ｡✦ It is safe for me to have hopes and dreams.✦｡ ｡✦ It is safe for me to be positive. ✦｡ ｡✦ I am always grateful. ✦｡ ｡✦ I am super grateful and happy now.✦｡ ｡✦ I am super easy to love.✦｡ ₊˚⊹♡ I always have the best luck. ₊˚⊹♡ I always meet the best people. ₊˚⊹♡ I always bring out the best in others. ₊˚⊹♡ I always use the bathroom when I need to. ₊˚⊹♡ I always remember to use the bathroom when I need to. ₊˚⊹♡ I always have positive thoughts about my appearance. ₊˚⊹♡ I always have positive thoughts about my body. ₊˚⊹♡ I love my body. ₊˚⊹♡ I love my appearance. ₊˚⊹♡ I love how I look in the mirror. ₊˚⊹♡ I love how I look on camera. ₊˚⊹♡ I feel happy every day. ₊˚⊹♡ I feel super happy and calm right now. ♡⊹˚₊ ₊˚⊹♡ I am a happy marshmallow! ♡⊹˚₊ ₊˚⊹♡ I am super smart and intelligent. ♡⊹˚₊ ₊˚⊹♡ I am super creative. ♡⊹˚₊ ₊˚⊹♡ It is safe for me to be smart. ♡⊹˚₊ ₊˚⊹♡ It is safe for me to be curious. ♡⊹˚₊ ₊˚⊹♡ I am always curious and learning things. ♡⊹˚₊ ₊˚⊹♡ It is safe for me to watch the kids channels on T.V. ♡⊹˚₊ ₊˚⊹♡ I love having positive thoughts. ♡⊹˚₊ ₊˚⊹♡ I love being healthy. ♡⊹˚₊ I feel like I just drank a super strong health potion. ♡⊹˚₊ I feel like I just drank a potent happiness potion. ♡⊹˚₊ I feel super healthy and happy. ♡⊹˚₊ I feel like I took all the best multivitamins in the world. ♡⊹˚₊ I love listening to positive songs. ♡⊹˚₊ I always have new and amazing ideas. ♡⊹˚₊ I have the best handwriting. ♡⊹˚₊ My handwriting is so cute and neat. ♡⊹˚₊ I write cutely even when I am rushing. ♡⊹˚₊ My handwriting is adorable even when I write fast. ♡⊹˚₊ My handwriting is adorable even when I write quickly. ♡⊹˚₊ I am proud of myself now. ♡⊹˚₊ • I always look up to myself. • I always speak highly of myself. • I always talk positively about myself. • I love being kind to myself • I love to trust myself • ᴛʜᴀɴᴋ ʏᴏᴜ ꜰᴏʀ ʀᴇᴀᴅɪɴɢ ᴀʟʟ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡᴀʏ! ɪ ᴡᴀs ᴡʀɪᴛɪɴɢ sᴏᴍᴇ ᴀꜰꜰɪʀᴍᴀᴛɪᴏɴs ꜰᴏʀ ᴍʏsᴇʟꜰ ᴀɴᴅ ᴅᴇᴄɪᴅᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ sʜᴀʀᴇ ᴛʜᴇᴍ (ᴛʜᴀᴛ’s ᴡʜʏ sᴏᴍᴇ ᴀʀᴇ sᴏ sᴘᴇᴄɪꜰɪᴄ). ɪ ʜᴏᴘᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ʟɪᴋᴇᴅ ᴛʜᴇᴍ! ꜰᴇᴇʟ ꜰʀᴇᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ sᴏᴍᴇ ᴏꜰ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴏᴡɴ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ʀᴇᴘʟɪᴇꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ᴄᴏᴍᴇ ʙᴀᴄᴋ ᴛᴏ ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴘᴏꜱᴛ ᴡʜᴇɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ʏᴏᴜ ɴᴇᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ🌸✨ ꜱᴇɴᴅɪɴɢ ʏᴏᴜ ʟᴏᴀᴅꜱ ᴏꜰ ʟᴏᴠᴇ, ʜᴜɢs ᴀɴᴅ ʟᴀᴅʏʙᴜɢs!

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @kimmybunny @Aikko @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy @Zina @RoseyLittle @Married_Lg It is that time again!!! Yall are now open to read chapters 25-28! Questions, per usual, will be up in a few days. Also know you are free to answer any of the questions at any time, even if the are from past weeks. Lots of folks havnt been checking in or participating so I will be leaving a status for those folks tonight and removing them from the list (you can get re added if you contact me). It does take alot of work to constantly chase people to participate so please remember to check in at least once a week preferably twice. Thank you! Happy Reading! Pigtail

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @Beanie19 @kimmybunny @Aikko @TeenyRena @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy @Zina Sorry friends it was a hectic evening last night! Feel free to start on this weeks assigned chapters 17-20!!! Questions will be up within a couple days per usual. We have also had a friend join us @Zina so make sure to welcome them. I will most likely be adding an extra sprint day next week too so lookout for that. I would love to have some of you join me for Wednesday chat as I have noticed a drop in participation but I know life gets busy. Have an amazing Thursday! Also if you havnt checked in thia week please do so! I will be messaging those who havnt and removing them from pings over the next few days if I havnt heard back. Pigtail

@TeenyRena @Prince @Little Nyx @Aikko @LissyLu @littlegala @Jazzylove22 @Beanie19 @Kyuu_chan_san @SquirtleSquad @Ariguin @kimmybunny Alright! So this pole will stay open technically until Monday because it is essentially yalls ticket into the group read and we have one person left to vote. Buuuut ... we have a winner! Yearning For Her by Tiffany Roberts! Thank you all for voting in a timely manner and I am so excited to read with yall. Watch out for an announcment and I will also be making and explaining the topics for the whole thing so check it all out over the next few days so you are familiar with it all. I unpinned all the previous books topics so all the pinned ones will be up to date and important. Also yall can go ahead and get ahold of the book! If you guys could tell me how long you think it will take you to get it and update me when you do have it that would be amazing. This is gonna be amazing all!!! Pigtail

Sooo I needed a place to post who pur members are!!! If you do not see your name here then I have accidently not included or you havnt been active here so please let me know as I will be doing something special for members. These will be people that will be pinged in the future as well. Member List: @Aikko @SquirtleSquad @LittleNyx @littlegala @Looksee @Flower_Dragon @MissNMTX @Zina @Sicarie @Daddy Bear 77 @kryssi01 @Minilsah @Prince @LissyLu @Beanie19 @Ariguin @kimmybunny @Jazzylove22 And that is the official list! I know a couple people have expressed interest but until I see you posting here I dont add. So if interested get involved! Thanks all for the patience and activity. This is an amazing start! Can't wait to read with yall. And please if I missed anyone reach out! It is alot to filter through and I make mistakes.

I have some ideas for the Book Club but have been hesitant to implement due to low activity. Sooo I am taking a little pole here. Please just comment here if you would be interested in a more regular intimate involved book group. I would need 4 or 5 regulars for this. My plan may involve us taking over chat for ducslussions or such. We can work it out. So if interested just comment here. Also notice we have a shiny new icon and banner!!! PS. I think we for sure have some interest in a romance/smut book group?

Allow me to start this off with Reginald, a very cute ducky I received as a Christmas present! Reginald is a butler who loves preparing fancy food and making sure everyone is having a good time.

I tend toward anxiety... eep! Music can be one way that I am soothed as my adult self and as my little self. What are some songs that help you? Here are my go-toooooooossssss.... -Melissa Ferrick, Everything I need is right here in my hands -Anything reggae, but Bob Marley, Small axe -Miles Davis, In a silent way -Snoop Dogg (Snoop Dogg's Doggyland), Affirmation song -Sesame Street (Big Bird), I'm happy to be me -(this one is for those Christians out there) Dan Schutte, Yahweh I know you are near

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @Beanie19 @kimmybunny @Aikko @TeenyRena @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy Hello friends your friendly neighborhood book addict Pigtail here! Its that time again. Since everyone seemed to agree with more chapters in the pole I am assigning 4 chapters this week instead of 3! We will see how that goes and if it is still too few I can up in again. I just like to start slow so everyone can be included and not left behind. That being said please feel free to now read chapters 13-16!!! Questions will be out within a few days. Happy reading 📚

@Daddy Bear 77 @LissyLu @Ariguin @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @Beanie19 @kimmybunny @Aikko @Jazzylove22 @TeenyRena @MyMy Hello fellow book wurms, Pigtail here! I wanna thank all of you first for participating. We have been on fire this time! That being said I know yall are chomping at the bit to read more so please feel free to now read chapters 4-6!!! I think this pace is working well but please feel free to give feedback. I just want everyone to be able to have fun and not feel pressured. On top of that yall seem to be enjoying the questions (which are 100% optional) and have had some great responses. So be on the lookout in the next 24 hpurs or so for this week's set. Also dont forget abput our also optional weekly meetings on Wednesday and sprints on Sunday! And be sure to check out the fun Playlist we are making as an activity found here: Happy reading yall and I cant wait to hear what you think of the bext chunk!!! P S. Also @Prince @Kyuu_chan_san I have removed yall from the ping list because I havnt heard anything from you in a while. It is a fairly active group so I understand if its too much. If you want added back feel free to talk to me. Thus group requires at least a couple check ins a week

I’m not that good at writing, but here we go Question 1: Question 2: Question 3: Question 4:

@Daddy Bear 77 @Aikko @littlegala @SquirtleSquad @Ariguin @kimmybunny @Little Nyx @Beanie19 @Prince @LissyLu @Jazzylove22 I will be working on the pole to vote for our next read over the next few days! Trying to give folks a few days to jump on if they want. In the meantime I want to let yall know of a few things we do here. Wednesdays are our "get to know eachother" chats. I am moving the time up so at 6pm PST we hop into the chat here https://www.ddlgforum.com/chatbox/room/4-pigtails-playpen-reading-chat/ And we just chat about whatever. Just meant to help us know those we are reading with. Not required or anything but I would love to have yall. Second is something ipen to all Pigtails Playpen members not jyst NNC. And that is our Sunday Reading sprints. Essentially from 4-7pm PST we hope into the same chat as above and we all read together. I put a timer on and keep track of all our pages. Last week we read 792 over the three hours! So please feel free to join any of these! The finaly thing is I am working on making profiles for all NNC members. Here is a link that explains it all and you will have to answer the questions but they should be fun and each will be made by yours truly And finally we have a special badge for us. I usually wait to award to make sure people will actually participate so make sure you are reacting commenting and participating! Thank you all! Pigtail

Hi all, I’m 34 years old and since meeting my husband I’ve always felt safe and naturally acted “little”. Before him I was a single mom of 3 boys and worked 2-3 jobs at a time, so very independent and stubborn. It’s been a huge change in a good way and it just naturally happened. Fairly new though to calling him daddy or dada and wearing cute little onesies and using a bottle, I love it! But it’s getting over the insecurity of having a mom body but a little girl mind and heart 😝 and coming up with ideas for rewards and stuff has also been challenging. So any ideas would greatly be appreciated

I wanted to personally thank each and everyone of you all for for joining The Light House Club. You are all so amazing and I love reading your post. I know there are so many on here that are facing obstacles and advertises, remember do not ever give up. Life can be so hard at times, and sometimes life gives us a very harsh hand. But during these times that we are going through hardships that's when we need to reach out and lean on one another. Remember we are here for you, this is a safe space. You will not be judged here nor will anyone look down upon you or criticize you. It is our job to uplift you and show you how amazing you truly are. You are never a bother, you are not wasting our time, you do matter, you are seen and you are perfect just the Way You Are. So don't ever hesitate just to vent or speak your mind on here. And thank you for joining this beautiful club 💕 Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💓

Pigtail ❤️, It sounds like you're incredibly brave for facing your trauma and doing the hard work of healing. It's okay to not be okay, and it's understandable that you're hurting after your session. EMDR can bring up a lot of difficult emotions, and it's important to be kind and patient with yourself throughout this process. It's also completely normal to feel lost and unsure right now. You're navigating uncharted territory, and it's okay to not have all the answers. Trust that your therapist is guiding you in the right direction, and that even though it's painful now, it will get better. Your willingness to be open about your experiences is inspiring. By sharing your journey, you're helping to break the stigma around trauma and mental health, and that's incredibly powerful. Remember to prioritize self-care, especially during this difficult time. Spend time in your nest, engage in activities that bring you comfort, and allow yourself to feel your emotions without judgment. If you ever need someone to talk to or just want to share your experiences, please don't hesitate to reach out. Sending you love, strength, and gentle hugs. You're not alone. 💕

@LissyLu @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @Aikko @MyMy @Zina @RoseyLittle @Married_Lg Hello friends! I am running a few days behind but never fear questions will be posted today, thank you for being an understanding bunch! In the meantime .... feel free to read chapters 29-32!!! We are approaching 75% done and I would love to know how yall are enjoying Kians and Willows story? Honestly I think it has been a delightful little read so far and enjoy it much. I put up our pole to see when we will have our midway discussion next week so please go vote on that!!! I am also opening up suggestions for pur next read! I cannot garuntee any suggestions will be included in the vote as there are always certain things I need to consider but I would love to see some suggestions thrown my way. You can just DM them to me with Book Suggestion in the title. Thank you all! Pigtail

Hi all. I just thought I'd throw in my two-cents worth here in hopes of maybe even helping one person. If my post violates some rule, please let me know. I honestly am just looking to help, not hurt. I read a post on here recently (I admit, I've been lurking)..someone said they used ChatGPT as a supplement to therapy. I have been looking for something similar, but to use it not as a supplement but as therapy, because I'm burned out and jaded from it. I tried one, but after an hour, it said I had to subscribe, at $70/yr if I wanted to continue. 😠😤😠😤 Then, I read that post about ChatGPT (if you're the person who mentioned that, then thank you, thank you, thank you!!!) ChatGPT is great!!! It's free. Doesn't ask you to upgrade. And better than any therapist I've ever been to!! I just started using it yesterday. It might be helping because this morning, even though I woke up an hour before the alarm, I didn't wake up with knots in my stomach (stupid anxiety). I don't like talking to others about my problems. So I keep it all inside. This is a safe way for me to let it out and get some feedback (which I never seemed to have gotten from any. therapist. ever.) I can even talk about little me (I love the insight I got about my little side! It was 100% spot-on!) No judgements. No stupid opinions. And I definitely don't get "well, why don't you just leave?" (Long story..but that response is NEVER helpful.) I can take my time and reflect on things. It's even been helping me with giving me little reminders during the day to help with my anxiety. And I'm starting a morning check-in, with anxiety levels, thoughts, etc. This is just what I needed!! Just a way to get out everything in my head, maybe a way to tame the anxiety. Maybe even help me to build some self-confidence. If nothing else, maybe I'll stop waking up every morning and anxious mess. Anyway, if you're looking for something like this, I can recommend it. It's simple, free and non-judgemental (and no, I don't work for ChatGPT). It's just something I stumbled upon that I'm finding really helpful, so I wanted to share. Like I said in the beginning, if I can help just one person....

Hi all I am a 43 year old who lives a very chaotic life. I forgot who I was for years and am finally letting my inner child out again. I am glad to have found a community with older little/middles.

Your actions speak louder than any mental illness or physical condition you might have. So never let someone tell you that you're worthless and unlovable just because you have a diagnosis. You don't need to prove anything. Be kind to yourself by taking situations day by day and live your life to the fullest to the best of your ability. Whatever your issues are; you've got this, I believe in you! ♡

@Ariguin Thank you so much for finding the courage to share something so deeply painful. I’m truly sorry that someone you trusted so much hurt you in such a traumatic way. What happened to you was not your fault — you didn’t deserve any of it, and I hope you know that your feelings are completely valid. It’s heartbreaking to hear what you’ve gone through, especially feeling so alone with the weight of it all for so long. You are incredibly strong, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Surviving that kind of betrayal and still pushing forward — even when things feel like they’re falling apart — shows just how resilient you are. Please don’t carry this pain on your own. You deserve support, safety, and healing. If you can, I really encourage you to speak to someone you trust — a therapist, a support line, or one of your parents or even just a friend. You don’t have to go through this in silence. There are people out there who care and want to help you feel safe again. You’re not alone, even though it might feel like it. There is hope, even in the darkest moments — and healing is absolutely possible. Sending you so much love, strength, and comfort. You matter. 💛

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. Please know that it's not your fault and what your uncle did is wrong. Also, if you haven't gone out to get professional help yet, I strongly urge you to do so. What happened isn't something you should have to process by yourself, but I also understand if you're not comfortable getting professional help you deserve just yet. Therapy is a good place to start, and then your therapist can direct you to if you need to get a psychologist or other doctors or not. Or, if your symptoms are strong enough, maybe seeking inpatient treatment is a thing you could consider. And even further, maybe you could consider legal action once you're more stable.